Marriage is a BIG decision. Here are 10 questions to ask yourself before getting married.
1. Why am I getting married?
This question seems fairly simple, but the possible answers can stir up some much needed truth. Marriage isn’t something that should be taken lightly, and your reasoning for getting married shouldn’t be either. Make sure this decision is something you’ve prayed over and thoroughly discussed.
2. Can I easily live without this person?
Can you see yourself without this person? If the answer is yes, then you may want to re-think your future with them. If the thought of your spouse with someone else doesn’t bother you, marrying them may not be the best idea. If you’re supposed to be with this person, God will instill a relentless love in your heart for them.
3. Am I better off with, or without this person?
Do they make you a better person, or do they bring out the worst in you? The last thing you want to do is marry someone who doesn’t bring out the best in you. Ask yourself whether you are better of with or without them.
4. Am I willing to put someone before myself?
Can you see yourself with this person fifty years down the road? If the answer is no, then I would re-think your decision to marry them. Marriage is a lifetime commitment that requires a daily pledge to love one another, regardless of how long you’ve been together. If you can’t put the needs of your future spouse before yourself, it may be time to end the relationship before it goes any further.
5. Do I find myself already questioning the marriage?
Have insecurities already begun popping in your head? Don’t worry. This is pretty common for anyone who is thinking about getting married. The red-flag is when these insecurities turn in to a lack of peace. If you don’t have a peace about getting married, then don’t do it.
6. Is he or she ready to be married?
Is your boyfriend or girlfriend ready to be married? Don’t jump the gun if you aren’t sure they are mentally and spiritually ready for commitment. This is where the dating process comes in! Take time to learn about one another before jumping into marriage.
7. Am I ready to be married?
Ask yourself this question with honesty and transparency. Are you spiritually and mentally ready to be married? Have you prayed over your future together? Are you at peace with the decision placed in your heart?
8. Will this person support my dreams?
The last thing you want to do is marry someone who doesn’t support your goals and dreams. Make sure that who ever you marry will be there to encourage you through thick and thin, no matter how crazy your ambitions are.
9. Do we share similar beliefs and passions?
If you have nothing in common, this might make your future marriage a bit harder to handle. Mind you, not everyone is going to have the same passions as you, but I would encourage you to marry someone who you can at least find similar beliefs in. There is nothing more encouraging than being in marriage with someone who understands your life passions and beliefs. The last thing you want to do is be in a marriage with someone who doesn’t have the same background of faith as you. Find someone you can share your love for God with.
10. Do I deserve better?
This one might be a little harsh, but marriage is one of the few times in life you can be as picky as you’d like. Consult yourself, your friends, and your family. Pray and seek God’s wisdom as to whether or not this person is right for you. Don’t settle for mediocre when God has something marvelous for you.