You’re Not Who They Say You Are

You’re Not Who They Say You Are

I’m sure we’ve all grown up witnessing the world call each other names, pick on each other , and label each other in immature fashion. And while we feel that we are just “poking fun,” you’d be surprised how many people are vigorously tormented by the labels that are given to them.

1. “You’re stupid.”

2. “You’re fat.”

3. “You’re a ugly.”

4. “You’re useless.”

5. “You’re weak.”

For some of you, your parents were the label dealers. For others, it was your friends and casual acquaintances. Regardless of who said it, it still stings and leaves a mark.

We live in a world that likes to label everything. Just recently I saw a boat named “Red Velvet,” and all I could think of for the rest of the day was cake. I know, a little weird.

The point is, we are fascinated with labels and branding. Whether you are naming your car, boat, dog, fish, band, church, child or business, the labels we choose are most-likely chosen to get across a message that we wish to convey.

Examples: A dog named “Killer,” or a Church called “New Beginnings.”

In the same sense, the labels we have been given or are giving people represent much of who we think they are. Nine times out of ten, our assumptions are completely wrong. Things like “stupid,” or “fat” are being branded onto people without their consent. Why? because people are treating people as if they are perishable goods, and not people.

Our world is so focused on climbing the popularity ladder, we’ve learned to label those around us from day one. It’s what we’ve been taught, and it’s wrong. The sting of a label can create a lifetime of pain.

Since the beginning of time God has known you by name, and you have been labeled, “His child.” Until God himself tells you otherwise, labels are nothing but empty words spoken by empty people. Labels Lie.

“For you are all children of God through faith in Christ Jesus.” —Galatians 3:26 

Don’t let anyone label you anything contrary that what God has deemed you.

- Jarrid Wilson

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31 Comments

  • Angel March 14, 2014 at 12:51 AM

    my family, relatives, friends and church members labels me as a loser… and now im calling myself as a loser too.. :’(

    • Dolly Navina Lakra April 4, 2014 at 7:28 AM

      ” Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day.” ~ 2 Corinthians 4:16
      Sweet Angel Christ Loves, Each Of Us Equally… He Is Our Holy Father. HE Won YOU With His Precious Blood . Mortals Are Flawed They Sometimes Say Bad Things Knowingly Or Unintentionally But Always Remember Our JESUS IS Flawless .
      I Pray HE Heals Your Tender Heart With HIS Ever-Balmy Love . Take Care Of YOU For HIM Because You Are Important To HIM .

  • Lyn March 13, 2014 at 10:54 PM

    People labeled me short because I’m petite. I was emotionally disturbed because of that. But as I grow up (I am now 24), I’ve learned that we cannot please anyone, & the most important thing is I am a child of God. God created me in His image. & I realize that even if I’m short, I have to remember that I was created In God’s image & I should be proud.

  • Shelby March 12, 2014 at 11:29 PM

    I know I am a child of god, but I am also a child of my parents, and when they call me horrible names it sticks. It’s so hard to deal with. This is my biggest struggle; listening and dwelling on the lies of the enemy.

  • KL March 12, 2014 at 7:32 PM

    I, like everyone else, have been given a label/s. These people that have labeled me are the ones who don’t really even know me. Sure, they may know my name, know my group of friends, but they don’t actually know me. Because of these labels I have been given, I only trust a few people, and those people are from my church. We as Christians need to remember that we made in the image of God, and we need to be there for our fellow brothers and sisters.

  • tommy hall March 12, 2014 at 2:10 PM

    What if a gay man entered your church and was a Christian? Would you label him or just avoid him?

    • Jarrid Wilson Author March 12, 2014 at 2:36 PM

      I wouldn’t do either. I’d talk to him just like he was any other person.

    • tommy hall March 12, 2014 at 3:04 PM

      Too bad not all share that same view.

  • Nancy R. March 11, 2014 at 8:30 AM

    Thanks for your timely post. Sometimes my own negative thoughts came from those who would “label” me other than who I really am. A child of God, I am worthy of being part of the Kingdom, if I call on Him and believe. It is a game changer to be His. Life takes on a brighter meaning that is shared by God and me. Daily walks with Him are the most refreshing of all.

  • NitinGupta-LP March 10, 2014 at 11:54 AM

    Yeah, people call me “Iknoweverything” :(

    • Liz March 11, 2014 at 11:14 AM

      Me too!!! >.<

  • Child of the One True King March 9, 2014 at 7:47 PM

    My labels even when I were younger were: Anorexic, nerd, flirt, whore/harlot and at one time gay/lesbian. Just because I couldn’t “get” a guy didn’t mean I liked girls! I think because of that last label caused me to get into some things that have discolored the way I now view modesty, the opposite sex, relationships, and sex itself. I still have my physical purity but my mental and emotional purity are a thing of the past.
    The labels people paste on us are a hard thing to overcome especially when you begin to think them of yourself and even see yourself as such. But as a man thinks in his heart so is he. The thoughts of one’s mind can change the way he/she views himself/herself and how he/she labels others.

  • Cecilia March 9, 2014 at 7:34 PM

    This post reminds me of the song “Hello, my name is” by Matt West. I love the chorus that proudly proclaims:
    “Hello, my name is child of the one true King.
    I’ve been saved, I’ve been changed, I have been set free.
    ‘Amazing Grace’ is the song I sing.
    Hello, my name is child of the one true King!”

    • 'Emeline Fifita March 10, 2014 at 2:45 PM

      thank you for sharing this powerful and true message. May God continue to bless you

  • Brian March 9, 2014 at 5:34 PM

    After becoming a Christian if people make fun of me or others around me, I’ve learned to forgive them in my heart because they will have their day of judgement with God The Almighty!

  • Maria March 9, 2014 at 5:07 PM

    I recently moved away from family members who always mocked me for being a Christian. If I happened to mention in conversation that I was going to church or a church function, the comment from them was always “Of course you are, because the church will fall down if you’re not there!”. They would always disrespect my choice to spend time in prayer, or just go off by myself to read my bible. Their choices in life were not mine. They chose to put me down in front of others, to use foul language when talking about me, to put me down. I sometimes questioned my choices, my faith, myself as a person. It took me a long time to realize that I was not the person I wanted to be when I was around them. I wasn’t a true Christian. I couldn’t stand up for myself around them. I am happier now that I am no longer around them. They don’t even know where I moved to! But I feel better about myself now. I’m still a “work in progress” so to speak, but I realize that I allowed these people to hurt me with their words. If you allow people to say hurtful things to you, then you are as much to blame as they are for saying the hurtful things. You hold the power! Don’t let people use words to hurt you!

    • Amanda March 10, 2014 at 12:17 PM

      Loved reading your courage in this reply! Keep your chin up and keep growing – and healing =) We are ALL a work in progress. peace!

  • Matthew March 9, 2014 at 4:31 PM

    Wow you all were giving nicer Labels than I had when I was young. I was Nerd, Four eyes , girly, wimp, and the worst that curved my life the worst was I was told many times if I was Gay, then I was told I was gay and they kept at it and if I denied it they back me up to a wall until I break or unbuckled from the stress and gave up and lived with it.

    • Rebecca March 9, 2014 at 11:14 PM

      <3 Mathew <3

  • Patty Ann Lin March 9, 2014 at 1:51 PM

    ‘failure’ – that is the constant label that lives in my mind — today it came right to the surface and slapped me right in the face.. ‘all you do is waste time!’ or ‘what were you doing for two hours?!’

    • Allie W. March 12, 2014 at 9:51 PM

      Same here sister! I’m so glad God sees us differently

  • Alexa March 9, 2014 at 1:17 PM

    Just last week I decided to quit my job after my supervisor, who doesn’t like me and has been picking on me and my work for the last few months complained loudly about me in front of everyone in the room. After she found out I’d quit, she asked me to have a conversation in the meeting room just so she could offend me even more! she called me different things (lots and lots of labels) and pretended like she knew me oh so well to say all that. Thinking about that, I am more than happy that I just decided to quit on that day, that I acted on impulse instead of thinking and worrying what might happen. You are right, those things people say are not true, people often think they know you and that they can see through you, but they can’t. It’s just human arrogance. The best you can do is ignore and get away from that sort of people. I’m very happy I read this post because it is very hard not to be affected by those labels and it helped me gain back my confidence.

    • Nancy R. March 11, 2014 at 8:35 AM

      You were fortunate to get away from such a boss. You don’t deserve it. Best of life will be yours just ask Him. Best wishes in the job market. It is rough out there. I am retired from nursing which can have its own set of vicious peers.

  • ShoeQueen61' March 9, 2014 at 1:00 PM

    Thank you… I just called a neighbor stupid!!! Not to his face of course but I do need my breath… but the book of James tells us about out tongue and how it needs to be bridled– I know people used to call me names when I was growing up a lifetime ago; but my parents reinforced my importance not only to them because so many others!!! thank you for the reminder that we are all children of God…

    • ShoeQueen61' March 9, 2014 at 1:02 PM

      That should be “under my breath”

  • Kristin March 9, 2014 at 12:50 PM

    Someone that I loved broke my heart with the sting of an empty godless tongue. I heard “you’re the most unattractive person I’ve ever met” on one occasion. “You dont deserve being spoiled yet” and “I’m the best thing thats ever happened to you” were things that broke my heart everytime I heard them. Luckily I know God and he’s helped me to remove that person from my life and it didnt take long for that to happen. We all deserve praise, love, compassion, trust, faith, a person to build us up, not tear us down and someone who is a believer in the Lord. I pray for he who hurt me and for my future man to come.

  • CL March 9, 2014 at 12:32 PM

    fun, party-girl, hilarious…which could seem good to some but I find those are other people’s expectations to live up to. After experiencing some hardship in my life and not acting like any of these, I found many of the people who thought this was who I was, fell of the radar when I wasn’t these things anymore. That, indeed, was a blessing to find out who “loved” me for what they wanted me to be and not who I am.

  • Anonymous March 9, 2014 at 12:32 PM

    This is why I have an eating disorder. Labels suck..

    • Ellie March 9, 2014 at 3:46 PM

      You were beautifully and wonderfully made!! Pray that God opens your eyes to see what He sees when He looks at you. A beautiful creation that He hand picked every detail of your being! Bless you & may you find refuge and comfort in His presence!

  • Tina Muellner Bunton March 9, 2014 at 12:27 PM

    So much truth in what you say. Your post reminds me of the Matthew West song, “Hello My Name Is”. As the song says, “I am a child of the one true King”!!

  • Kota Wolfe March 9, 2014 at 11:40 AM

    I’ve gotten labeled many things, fat, loser, useless, waste of space, among other things. Those things do indeed leave a sting. Admitfully it is why I’ve stopped trying to make new friends

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