Will The Real Men Please Stand Up

Will The Real Men Please Stand Up

Today’s culture gives many opinions when it comes to the topic of being a “real man” in today’s world. Our society likes to tell men how “real men” are to dress, act, work, walk, talk, love, and present themselves to the public. As The Church, I believe it is our duty to teach the world what a “real man” is to look like, but I believe even The Church of today has found itself spewing out opinions instead of Biblical truth.

Over the last few years I have come across a countless number or sermons where Pastors are explaining to their congregations what a “real man” is to look like. The funny thing is that every one of the messages I listened to described the perfect man in a different way.

Without going into detail of who said what, here are some quotes from different pastors around the USA.

1. “We don’t need anymore skinny-jean, cardigan wearing pastors. We need real men.”

2. “We need more men to start lifting weights and BEING MEN!” 

3. “I could care less if you work-out , just make sure you are providing for your wife financially. That’s what being a real man is all about!”

4. “We can’t claim to be men if we aren’t strong enough to protect our wives.” 

Most of the quotes contradict each other in a big way, and I believe the reason we have so many boys in today’s world is because not even the Church is giving a clear example of what it means to be a man. Don’t get me wrong, I believe all these pastors have pure motives in their descriptions of a “real man”, but I think much of it comes out of opinion rather than biblical truth. (except maybe the financial one) 

At the end of the day, I think God could care less if you work out, wear skinny-jeans, cardigans, tank-tops, button-ups, or even suits. God is more focused on the way you present your heart than the way you present your outward appearance. Why? Because the way you present your heart will always be reflected in the way you present your appearance, and that’s what truly matters. 

If I were to guess what God is looking for in a man, I would have to say the following…

1. A man who prays. (Luke 5:16)

2. A man who reads his Bible. (Luke 4:16-30)

3. A man who loves one woman as Christ loved The Church. (Ephesians 5:25)

4. A man who isn’t afraid to proclaim his faith a midst opposition. (Joshua 1:9)

5. A man who seeks the lost, provides for the broken, and equips the found. (Matthew 28:19)

Seems pretty straightforward to me. All of these attributes are a reflection of Jesus’ innate character, and I don’t find any of those to be anything other than Biblical truth.

Gentlemen, we need to begin asking ourselves some important questions:

1. Am I a man?

2. Do I reflect an image of Christ?

3. Do I stand firm in my faith a midst trials?

4. Do I find myself inspired to obey the calling of The Great Commission?

5. Do I treat women with respect, purity, and as Christ loved The Church?

Strength isn’t measured by how much a man can lift, but where his faith in Jesus stands a midst a seemingly impossible situation.

- Jarrid Wilson

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  • Raymond June 1, 2014 at 5:44 PM

    “Will the real men please stand up”

    Jarrid I know many men and woman are asking that question right now. Jesus attributes is a real clear cut description of a real man I would agree .He is our perfect example in the scriptures .Who are the men,or where are the men that really exemplify this. I thought this for many years being brought up in a so called Christian home, with many memories that were horror moments as a child.Left wounds in the soul.

    Who do you trust these days? I found one I could trust for sure.Jesus Christ, He’s on the thrown and cares about everything in your life .And yes their are men who are seeking to be men after Gods own heart.The Holy Spirit can guide you to be one or to know one.

  • jackson March 27, 2014 at 12:22 AM

    real man is fear from god. nothing more nothing less.

  • Cyndi March 21, 2014 at 1:23 PM

    You have it exactly right Jarrid. A real man was made in the image of Christ, and lives the life He requires. A real man loves God with all his heart, mind, soul and strength, and humbly serves Him. He loves his neighbors as he does himself, in order to be a reflection of God’s perfection. He loves his wife and would give his life for her. I married a real man. Praise the Lord!!

  • Jamie March 19, 2014 at 7:56 PM

    I don’t believe I remember Jesus ever saying in the bible that in order to be a man you have to know how to handle weapons. I believe that comes down to ones own opinion. What I do remember being said, quite a bit actually, is about being kind, turning the other cheek, forgiveness, and being slow to anger. Saying, “there’s the door” doesn’t sound like anything Jesus would say to anyone he loves. Since he is the absolute picture of what a man should be, shouldn’t men follow that as an example, instead of following human opinions?

  • iamstevenbolt March 18, 2014 at 3:35 PM

    You write some great stuff Jarrid, but this is brilliant and necessary to cut through some of the crap!

  • tommy hall March 12, 2014 at 10:04 AM

    Thank you.

  • Vince March 6, 2014 at 2:01 PM

    I completely disagree. The list you gave is what defines a Christian, one who truly loves God and Christ, not a “man”. A male can perform all 5 of the traits you listed and still be a wimp. I see nothing about frugality, knowing how to handle weapons, being able to protect yourself (let alone your wife/family), practicing self-control, and not being afraid to tell anybody “There’s the Door” including your wife.

    • Noah March 7, 2014 at 6:09 PM

      God created man, Jesus is the perfect example of what a man should look like, a true man follows and looks like Jesus.

    • Daniel March 17, 2014 at 3:10 PM

      Yes indeed, a real man is always ready to dump his wife just like Christ is always ready to dump the church. Oh, hold on. I’m confused…

    • Cannelle April 2, 2014 at 3:09 PM

      I think that everything u just mentionned can be find in what Jarrid wrote. For example: a man who truly love his wife as Jesus loves the Church, is able to protect her. Also, a man who never stop to pray grows closer to the heart of Jesus and so becomes more like Him. Jesus is/does everything u mentionned.
      This is how I understand that and what I believe in. :)

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