Why You Should Stop Trying To Please People

Why You Should Stop Trying To Please People

Why You Should Stop Trying To Please People

You know those times when you know what the right thing to do is, but you get so worried about what people will think of that you don’t do it? Ya, we’ve all experience something along the lines of this.

I’ve noticed that we sometimes purposely choose not to make the right choice in order to please the people around us. But at the end of the day, what good does that do? Pleasing the people around you will get you nowhere. Why? Because the people around you can’t give you what you truly really need in the first place; only God can do that.

  1. How many people have failed to pursue their dreams because they are too caught up in what people might think?
  2. How many people have stopped just before crossing the finish line because they didn’t want people to be upset that they finished before them?
  3. How many people have yet to follow their God-given calling because the opinions of others have them bound in chains?

Do any of these describe you?

The opinions of others can never compare to the TRUTH of God. And the reasoning behind this post is simple: TO CHALLENGE YOU TO IGNORE THE OPINIONS OF OTHERS, AND PURSUE WHAT GOD HAS CALLED YOU TO DO.

Sure, some people might dislike your decisions. Some people might turn their backs on you. And frankly, some people might never understand the reasoning behind your motives.

“The LORD is with me; I will not be afraid. What can man do to me?” -Psalms 118:6

But at the end of the day, there is not one opinion that is great enough to outweigh the calling God has for your life. That’s a fact. People will leave you….money will leave you….friends will leave you. But guess what? God won’t.

Pursue your God-given calling. Follow your dreams. Allow God to guide you every step of the way. Pleasing people might get you some acceptance, but it won’t get you acceptance into the only place that really matters.

“But the word of the Lord remains forever.” And that word is the Good News that was preached to you.” -1 Peter 1:25 

Don’t be a people pleaser.

—Jarrid Wilson


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  • mark September 3, 2015 at 2:43 AM

    You please them and you end up getting hurt thank for the lesson. From now onwards I will live to please the Almighty

  • Allie May 28, 2015 at 8:58 AM

    I struggle with people pleasing but in those times I remind myself:
    If Jesus couldn’t please everyone how do you expect us to please everyone?

  • Cindy May 3, 2015 at 3:30 PM

    This message hit home for me. Thank you for this! I really needed to read this today.

    • Monica Noluthando Oji May 3, 2015 at 11:08 PM

      Thanks J. Truth for the soul, and it spoke in so much volumes to me….Oh Lord help us.!!!! People pleaser…But why???

  • Stephanie March 15, 2014 at 3:02 PM

    If you want to study about why people pleasing is not a good idea then study the life of Saul. (1 Samuel ch. 9-31) Take a look at what he does and think about why he does what he does. You will learn SO much. I am always challenged by messages like these.

  • CL March 8, 2014 at 11:19 AM

    I’m having a baby and want to do it naturally, at home. Best friend a labour nurse. Mom a by-the-book woman. Both are anxious…I have faith in Him.
    When it’s just me…it’s fine but then they think I’m risking baby. I think I’m risking baby by putting his/her life in a Drs hands when I have the best Dr ever, with me always.
    Should I just tell them I’ll call them when the baby has arrived? I’m nervous…best friend of 24 years might turn her back. I guess that’ll be the test…any insights?

    • Hollie M March 9, 2014 at 7:57 PM

      Dear CL,

      They say that a woman knows her body best and knows what is best for her baby and I didn’t believe that until after complications during labor with my first child. My daughter was stuck against my pelvic bone and I knew she was but when I kept telling the doctors and nurses that she was stuck and that I wasn’t going to be able to push her they wouldn’t listen to me. They told me that before they would be willing to try a C-section that I had to keep pushing a while longer. I argued as long as I could until the contractions forced me to push again and this continued for about another hour. They finally gave in and did the surgery and my daughter was born with a big gash on her head. Her head WAS stuck and it was being forced down on a sharp area of my pelvis and with each push the cut was deepening. Fortunately she didn’t have any long term damage from this and I knew better for my next child but now I am big on telling moms who ask: You know your body and your baby better than anyone else. I would advise to let your dr. (if you have one) know your plan and also put your local hospital on stand by when you go into labor just in case something does go wrong they will already know about you and your wishes and can make the decisions that are both best for the baby and respectful of you. Wishing you all the best with your little one! God Bless :)

  • nicole March 1, 2014 at 3:43 PM

    Great article that is true. I just had a similar conversation with my mom about how my dad was upset that I didn’t do what he wanted regarding my career. Even if I had done what he wanted he would have been mad that someone else didn’t follow his lead. My philosophy: if I’m going to fail, at least I know I tried and believed in my dream. I know the opportunities that God has blessed me with and they all align with my dream/calling. At the end of the day, it’s all about God. Someone or something will always let you down or feel incomplete.

  • I. Gospodinov March 1, 2014 at 1:03 AM

    You preach that everyone will leave us and yet God won’t. Why is that, I wonder? You see I am not a believer like yourself and so many others. When people ask me: “Ok. If you don’t believe in God, in what do you believe than?” The answer is quite simple. Myself. The reason why God will never leave us while all else will is because God as you see it is within us, it’s US. God is created by men to ease the hardships. And if you think about it and somewhat follow my thought, I believe in God for I believe in myself. Now I kindly ask you not to make the mistake to think that I believe I am God. No such thing friends. I am simply sharing my opinion of the word God, for it is different for almost everyone. And as an end to my little comment let me share a thought of a man:
    “To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance.” ~Oscar Wilde~

    • Carmen May 3, 2015 at 1:12 PM

      I. GOSPODINOV-so what you’re saying is that we created God, and that He is us? If we created God, then how did we get here ourselves? God created us because He truly believes that we have value, that we have a purpose in life, and it is all to glorify Him, plus He loves us so much to even give up His life for us so we can have freedom in Him. I understand believing in yourself is fine, but what happens when everything falls apart? Or the emptiness we feel inside is still lingering there because we know something is missing in our lives, but haven’t figured it out yet. I struggling right now in believing myself to do everything, but even that I can’t trust myself because I’m never satisfied, and I can believe in myself 100% and still never be satisfied. This is not to bring you down, believe me I would hate it if someone would do that to me, but this is just a food for thought (if that is even how you say it). God bless you, and Jesus loves you…..seriously :)

  • GodSbabygirl Rollins February 28, 2014 at 7:27 PM

    What about Hollywood? And how do you know what your calling is?

  • Gabriel February 28, 2014 at 12:23 PM


  • Arnold Cerdena February 28, 2014 at 6:13 AM

    Nice article, Is to hard to depend on the people, it’s always fail you after all. And yet we need to depend God, he knows your future and never leave you, God’s love is super unlimited. I like you said on your article Money will leave you….Friends will leave you. God won’t, it’s inspired me…

  • Tyler February 28, 2014 at 5:17 AM

    So true! Being in fear all the time of other people and their opinions will cripple your calling in life.

  • Floyd February 28, 2014 at 1:57 AM

    I need help so as not to give a damn about what people think. But isn’t that being inconsiderate?

  • Clemont Hugh Washington February 27, 2014 at 11:59 PM

    I could care less of what people think. I blaze my own path and stand strong alone. Always been a lone wolf. An Alpha male. A Lion.

  • Nelia February 27, 2014 at 11:53 PM

    It’s as if God told you to write this for me. I needed to hear this.

  • nory February 27, 2014 at 9:22 PM

    Very good, remembering almost all of us become people pleaser than god pleaser. Thanks for the article today.

  • Nancy R. February 27, 2014 at 7:40 PM

    You have stated a basic truth that helps folks make more sound choices. I have learned this over my lifetime and in my career. I couldn’t believe how the opinion of others still bothers me. It is, as you’ve put, a matter to present to Christ. It is a daily thing in my relationship with Him. It isn’t easy, but I have sought to remain objective. I am at a point where the past influences less today.

  • debbie February 27, 2014 at 6:47 PM

    Hello Jarrid. I have been a silent follower of you and Juli for some time now. Ive been reading your blog posts too and this is my 1st time to comment. I have a question & I just need to ask you this, I am a stay at home, a wife & a church leader & I have this desire to start blogging about the calling of a mother & a wife but as a christian & a church leader I am afraid people might find it will not be good if il have my opinions & life opened in public. I know I shouldnt worry about what other people will think or say cause a pastor I know once said worrying what other people will say or think is a sign that youre a man pleaser.. & I dont want to be a man pleaser, I want to please God but I cant avoid sometimes i get worried & wondering a lot of what other people will say or think. Pls give me advice, should I start blogging or should I just leave it? Im sorry if I left this message here but I dont know where to reach you other than this comment box. Thank you & I hope I can hear from you. Send my regards to Juli. You 2 make such a cute couple. more blessings to u 2. – Deb from Philippines

  • phyllis ropoza February 27, 2014 at 4:46 PM

    for me pleaseing others i am not happy cause its not my job to make everyone happy or its not my bussiness what others think about me

  • Lloyd Stein February 27, 2014 at 4:36 PM

    EXCATELY , in the end LOVE always prevails , some people mis-interpret what Love is and it is you who is left standing alone except Christ Jesus

  • Adam York February 27, 2014 at 9:37 AM

    Hi-five to this! So good. So true.

  • Brianna February 27, 2014 at 7:57 AM

    woah, needed to read this.. great way to start my day. Thank you!

  • s3steele February 27, 2014 at 7:47 AM

    Dreams and goals may be achieved…but who is there to give you a hug at the finish line?

  • Melinda Todd February 27, 2014 at 7:00 AM

    This is one of my biggest struggles. It keeps me from finishing books because I’m afraid they won’t be good enough and people can be cruel in the writing realm. I almost didn’t share with anyone but a couple of close friends about God’s call on our hearts to move to Haiti as missionaries for fear of what others would say or think. But the response from friends and family has been overwhelmingly positive! We have to keep our focus on God and let Him work out the details of our dreams. I have to remind myself of this daily.

  • Rudi February 27, 2014 at 6:50 AM

    How do we seek our purpose?

  • Arizon February 27, 2014 at 6:43 AM

    Perfect timing! Thank you.

  • Nancy February 27, 2014 at 6:19 AM

    Great article Jarrid.

  • Jaque D Taylor February 27, 2014 at 5:01 AM

    Very good, needed to read that this morning. The lord speaks clearly.

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