Why I’m Getting A Divorce In 2014


Before you start assuming I will be leaving my wife, let me just tell you that’s just simply not the case. I’m looking to leave someone else. Someone you may not know about. Someone who takes up most of my time, distracts me from spending time with my wife, and even spends time with me during the late hours of the night.

Her name is iPhone 5. She’s extremely smart, funny, reliable, and keeps me up to date with all the latest trends. And although she’s always by my side, I can’t help but notice that she is keeping me from spending time with the people who matter most in my life: God, my wife, my family, and my dreams.

She’s really good at keeping my attention. So much so that I’ve been known to completely ignore people when they are trying to have a conversation with me. She tempts me to use her apps while at church, weddings and funerals, instead of enjoying the moment un-distracted. She even keeps me from working on personal projects that have strict dead-lines.

She’s extremely insensitive when it comes to my safety, and is always tempting me to be with her while I drive. I can’t help but notice she is slowly infecting my social life, my marriage, and the lives of those around me. Many people act like it’s no big deal, but I imagine the longer one ignores this issue, the worse one’s personal relationships will be affected in the long run.

We need to bring our phones back to being an accessory, not a priority.

2014 Challenge: Divorce your phone, your apps, your social-feeds, and engage in relationships with people that actually matter. Vow to spend a significant amount of time off your mobile-devices, unplugged, and instead get back to making personal relationships that will stand the test of time.

Other than God, my wife deserves to be the #1 priority in my life and I don’t want anything to get in the way of that. The reality is, we’re all married to our phones in one way or another.

Mind you. Not everyone struggles with this. But I hope you will take this into consideration regardless.

  1. Learn to balance the time you spend on your phone.
  2. Make your phone an accessory rather than a priority.
  3. Give yourself limitations as to when and where your phone can be used.
  4. Control how you use your phone, and stop allowing your phone to control you.
  5. Try spending parts of your weekends unplugged, offline, and away from your mobile device.

In 2014, I vow to divorce my phone. Will you join me? Share this with a friend, and let’s get the “Divorce Your Phone” movement going.

-Jarrid Wilson


What are your thoughts? Leave a comment below. 

Published by Jarrid Wilson

Husband, Father, Pastor at Harvest Christian Fellowship & Author of a few books.

1,009 comments on “Why I’m Getting A Divorce In 2014”

  1. THIS IS FREAKING AWESOME! Sharing with the Future Marriage University community at https://www.facebook.com/FMUniversity.

    Thanks for making me think seriously and in a different way about this issue. I may not have a smart phone, but the thing I’m typing on right now is bad enough. I don’t know if I’ll divorce my laptop, but I definitely need to limit my time a little more in the coming ye…………..

  2. Definitely would find it hard to divorce by smartphone but am surely looking to be on it less. I think I’ll be giving it up for certain periods of time throughout the year.
    Self discipline, it’s my word of the year in more areas than one. Thanks for sharing!

  3. I’ve slowly been divorcing a lot of social media sites. First was Twitter, now I’m thinking Facebook. No reason to keep wasting time scrolling through pointless posts. I love keeping up with friends and seeing pictures, but spending a huge amount of time on it is pointless! I also plan on making sure my phone is aside when out with friends and family.

  4. Something I new but know that you put it this way it really touched me. Im joining on this, thinks is a great way to start the year. Specially if its getting between our most important relationships, God and family!

  5. Totally with you on this. One of my biggest pet peeves is those who are on their phone when we are out together. There has NEVER been an emergency. It’s always some nonsense that could wait. It’s hurtful to be ignored. And it’s worse when we realize we have missed moments in life because we were NOT fully present because of electronic distractions. I turn my phone off when we are out, I put it on do not disturb during certain hours of the day. And I do not stay logged into social media with it. There is NOTHING more urgent than those sitting in front of you right then.

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