Why I’m Getting A Divorce In 2014

Why I’m Getting A Divorce In 2014

Why I’m Getting A Divorce In 2014

Before you start assuming I will be leaving my wife, let me just tell you that’s just simply not the case. I’m looking to leave someone else. Someone you may not know about. Someone who takes up most of my time, distracts me from spending time with my wife, and even spends time with me during the late hours of the night.

Her name is iPhone 5. She’s extremely smart, funny, reliable, and keeps me up to date with all the latest trends. And although she’s always by my side, I can’t help but notice that she is keeping me from spending time with the people who matter most in my life: God, my wife, my family, and my dreams.

She’s really good at keeping my attention. So much so that I’ve been known to completely ignore people when they are trying to have a conversation with me. She tempts me to use her apps while at church, weddings and funerals, instead of enjoying the moment un-distracted. She even keeps me from working on personal projects that have strict dead-lines.

She’s extremely insensitive when it comes to my safety, and is always tempting me to be with her while I drive. I can’t help but notice she is slowly infecting my social life, my marriage, and the lives of those around me. Many people act like it’s no big deal, but I imagine the longer one ignores this issue, the worse one’s personal relationships will be affected in the long run.

We need to bring our phones back to being an accessory, not a priority.

2014 Challenge: Divorce your phone, your apps, your social-feeds, and engage in relationships with people that actually matter. Vow to spend a significant amount of time off your mobile-devices, unplugged, and instead get back to making personal relationships that will stand the test of time.

Other than God, my wife deserves to be the #1 priority in my life and I don’t want anything to get in the way of that. The reality is, we’re all married to our phones in one way or another.

Mind you. Not everyone struggles with this. But I hope you will take this into consideration regardless.

  1. Learn to balance the time you spend on your phone.
  2. Make your phone an accessory rather than a priority.
  3. Give yourself limitations as to when and where your phone can be used.
  4. Control how you use your phone, and stop allowing your phone to control you.
  5. Try spending parts of your weekends unplugged, offline, and away from your mobile device.

In 2014, I vow to divorce my phone. Will you join me? Share this with a friend, and let’s get the “Divorce Your Phone” movement going.

-Jarrid Wilson


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  • Scott Dallas (@ScoDal) July 4, 2015 at 1:22 PM

    Awesome post! My phone is nuts too.. there’s always a notification. I put it on silent a few months ago and just never took it off silent. My life is so much better. I noticed I didn’t have trouble finding time for my phone, I would inevitably check it out whether or not it made a noise or vibration.. so now it just sits silent on the charger til I have time for it. It makes people angry, I try to explain it to them, and they eventually get over it. No harm done!

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  • Caitlyn Griffin October 9, 2014 at 6:10 PM

    I want a husband with your kind of thinking.

  • Aderson October 4, 2014 at 9:31 PM

    Hello Beautiful, Thank you once again for your message and i am grateful,and in all sincerity, i will like to know you more and better and if opportune i will like to chat with you if you don’t mind? do you?

  • Ansley West September 24, 2014 at 8:30 AM

    This was not the type of divorce I expected but it certainly makes sense. I resisted getting an iPhone and it does become a major part of your life, distracting you from actual people and leisure time that could be spent doing better things. Good luck with your divorce!

  • Karela Gilbert August 29, 2014 at 7:07 PM

    I have had a basic phone for a year now. My smart phone was too much of a distraction, and now I can spend more time with family, friends, my son, and actually give them the full attention they deserve.

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  • Brittany June 13, 2014 at 10:43 PM

    PROPS to you for picking such an AMAZING title! I’m sure it really grabbed a lot of people’s attention. Do you really think it’s appropriate to compare using less technology to severing a bond created by God, pulling children away from parents, and severing families? I think it’s pretty inappropriate to use a word and concept the Bible literally tells us God hates (Malachi 2:16) to compare erasing some apps and reducing your surf time. Atleast your “tips” are really ground breaking, no one has ever suggested we should “unplug” or spend less time with our technology . I’m sure the word “divorcing” will really resonate with a lot of single mothers and children of broken homes, I hope they click on this so you can rack up more sponsors on American Express and “cheesy-free” stock photos! Because what could be less cheesy than comparing cell phones to child custody battles?!

    • Karela Gilbert August 29, 2014 at 7:09 PM

      I think you are looking a little further into this then needed.

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  • Calvin Meric May 31, 2014 at 7:35 AM

    Is it my imagination or is there just a lot of really sick in the head people out there? I am not talking about phones – I am talking about comments here added by the strangest people I think I’ve ever heard from. This world is a frightening place indeed! Otherwise I agree, who has time for a smart phone and a life at the same time. No smart phone for me! Never had it – never will.

    In the mean time, some of the people commenting here – there is professional help available for you.

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    My Name is Barry Muller …

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  • Jenna April 7, 2014 at 10:15 AM

    Or then you can buy Nokia. All my friends who has iPhone are always doing something with them, but people who has Lumia or some other Nokias phone, they don’t use it that much. Because there is less apps available.

  • Cheryl Hoekstra April 6, 2014 at 6:21 AM

    Good post Jarrid. I’m also thinking of divorcing my Facebook page! (tongue-in-cheek readers, I too have been through a painful real divorce).

    On 2 separate occasions at church this past month, I’ve let grown men know their cellphone lights are very distracting. When they tell me they’re “reading the Bible” (as our Pastor is speaking) … I suggest they sit in the back row. Each time they, along with their wife, simply moved to another seat in the same row. I don’t get that. Our church makes it worse in that it dims the lights when the message starts. People get focused on the message and the worship (isn’t that why we’re there?) … and then some inconsiderate person raises his 5×3 beacon. For a few seconds would be bad enough, but these ‘fellow parishioners’ flash everyone behind them for the whole hour.

    I also see increasing numbers of people ignoring their kids all the time too while they have their nose in the almighty cell phone. Harry Chapin would call them modern day Cats in the Cradle.

  • Lorieta April 1, 2014 at 7:11 PM

    i am hear to give testimony of how i got back my husband, we got married for more than 9 years and have gotten two kids. thing were going well with us and we are always happy. until one day my husband started to behave in a way i could not understand, i was very confused by the way he treat me and the kids. later that month he did not come home again and he called me that he want a divorce, i asked him what have i done wrong to deserve this from him, all he was saying is that he want a divorce that he hate me and do not want to see me again in his life, i was mad and also frustrated do not know what to do,i was sick for more than 2 weeks because of the divorce. i love him so much he was everything to me without him my life is incomplete. i told my sister and she told me to contact a spell caster, i never believe in all this spell casting of a thing. i just want to try if something will come out of it. i contacted traditional spell hospital for the return of my husband to me, they told me that my husband have been taken by another woman, that she cast a spell on him that is why he hate me and also want us to divorce. then they told me that they have to cast a spell on him that will make him return to me and the kids, they casted the spell and after 1 week my husband called me and he told me that i should forgive him, he started to apologize on phone and said that he still live me that he did not know what happen to him that he left me. it was the spell that he traditional spell hospital casted on him that make him comeback to me today,me and my family are now happy again today. thank you traditional spell hospital for what you have done for me i would have been nothing today if not for your great spell. i want you my friends who are passing through all this kind of love problem of getting back their husband, wife , or ex boyfriend and girlfriend to contact traditionalspellhospital gmail.com. and you will see that your problem will be solved without any delay.

    • Lucius Driftwood April 15, 2014 at 3:02 PM

      You dabble in witchcraft and think Jesus is at the heart of it? You talk of Jesus and casting spells in the same sentence? What is the root of your faith, your hope, your power and love? Are you trusting inJesus, or do you think He is so unpowerful that you must look for witches to perform spells to do what you want? Tell me, WHAT IS YOUR FAITH? Are you for Jesus, or Baal? ‘No man can serve two masters’…

  • Monica Smith March 30, 2014 at 12:04 AM

    I and my boy friend as been separated for a long period, I cam across different spell caster and they were all unable to bring my lover back. I was so sad and almost gave up on him when i met a spell man called DR OLOKUM, who helped me get my lover back. Ever since then i have been so happy and couldnt believe it would happen. He also helped me with success spell, I have been living happily with my lover now and will be getting married soon. Here is his contact if you need his help. LAVENDERLOVESPELL@YAHOO.COM

  • haykamirbekyan March 29, 2014 at 11:07 PM

    you cant Just divorce your phone. there is a better solution.

    The nature of the app industry is such that the primary source of revenue for developers is advertising. That means keeping users looking at the screen for as long as possible, to increase advertisement consumption. In other words, your attention=profit for developers; that is why apps are designed primarily to retain your attention, rather than to be useful.

    If developers had another revenue stream, the world would be a better place. So the core of the issue is that developers rely on ” advertising revenue from FREE apps, since people are usually unwilling to pay for products, when there are so many free products on the market. However, if people start paying for apps, the quality of products will increase, and developers wont have to to rely on stealing your time to earn a living.

    If you want to make a difference, you have to be willing to pay for good products. Understand that every time you download a free app, its primary goal is to steal your time. On the other hand, when you pay for an app/game, its primary purpose is to provide a valuable and efficient service to you.

    The goal should be to fix the way that we interact with our technologies, not abandon them. We therefore need a shift from free to paid apps.

    and that means people have to be willing to pay for quality.

  • Adrain Walcult March 26, 2014 at 9:59 AM

    My name is Adrain walcolt I live in United States. I am happily married with two kids and a beautiful wife but something terrible happened to my family along the line, I lost my job and my wife packed out of my house because I was unable to take care of her and my kids at that particular time. I manage all through for four years until I cannot cope with the situation again, so I searched on the internet for any help about getting back my family and job, but I came across so many testimonies, so I decided to Try Dr. Bacasim of (pristbacasim@gmail.com who attended to me and instructed me on things to do which I did with faith and within 12 hours, my office called and gave me back my work on that same day, my wife came back with my kids and apologized for her actions.

  • Christabel Smith March 21, 2014 at 4:24 PM

    After being in relationship with him for nine years,he broke up with me, I
    did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him
    back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with
    everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to
    someone online and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell
    caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type
    that never believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the
    spell caster, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be
    okay before four days, that my ex will return to me before four days, he
    cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex
    called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that
    he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return
    to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was
    how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made
    promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of
    help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful
    spell caster, DR OJEFOR who helped me with my own problem and who is
    different from
    all the fake ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell
    caster, his email is (drojeforspellcaster@gmail.com }
    you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or
    anything he cast spells for different
    purposes like
    (1) If you want your ex back.
    (2) if you always have bad dreams.
    (3) You want to be promoted in your office.
    (4) You want women/men to run after you.
    (5) If you want a child.
    (6) You want to be rich.
    (7) You want to tie your husband/wife to be
    yours forever.
    (8) If you need financial assistance.
    (9) Herbal care
    (10) If you can be able to satisfy your wife
    sex desire due
    to low erraction.
    (11) if your menstruation refuse to come
    out the day it
    suppose or over flows.
    (12) if your work refuse to pay your, people
    owing you?.
    (13) solve a land issue and get it back.
    (14) Did your family Denny you of your
    (15) Let people obey my words and do my
    (16) Do you have a low sperm count?
    (17) bad lucks
    (18) people are jealous of you

  • John Grabowski March 21, 2014 at 10:51 AM

    I’ve never plugged in to start with. I’ve never seen the appeal. I go into Apple stores, whose iPods and iMacs I love, and play with their phones and pads and try to get excited over them, but I can’t. I don’t want to stare into a screen and watch YouTube videos or read every moronic “funny” post on someone’s wall all day. Not when there’s Burke and Thoreau and Woolf and Eisenberg and Voltaire and de Tocqueville and Montaigne and Kundera and Saramago and Girard out there.

  • Grammi Foster March 20, 2014 at 6:22 AM

    thanks for the kick in the behind – I really needed this!

  • Adrain Walcult March 19, 2014 at 3:55 AM

    My name is Adrain walcolt I live in United States. I am happily married with two kids and a beautiful wife but something terrible happened to my family along the line, I lost my job and my wife packed out of my house because I was unable to take care of her and my kids at that particular time. I manage all through for four years until I cannot cope with the situation again, so I searched on the internet for any help about getting back my family and job, but I came across so many testimonies, so I decided to Try Dr. BACASIM of (omukorojatemple@gmail.com.) who attended to me and instructed me on things to do which I did with faith and within 12 hours, my office called and gave me back my work on that same day, my wife came back with my kids and apologized for her actions.

  • Loveth Jones March 18, 2014 at 2:16 AM

    I thought everything was fine in my relationship until he explained to me he wanted out and that it was him and not me. I couldn’t understand because I thought everything was fine and that we were in love. Then I decided to look into this further and I looked at his Facebook account and then I saw the other woman that he was involved with, I was devastated and cried.The problem for me was that I still loved Joel and I believed in my heart that he was my soul mate. i tried to work things out but after 5 years in what I thought was the best and greatest romance of my life Joel didn’t want me and in fact he was planning to leave and during that time there was a lot of arguing that made matters worse. I had no idea of what else to do and so i took a chance at purityspell@gmail.com with the help of a spell and to cut the long story short, he came back and set things right again and now we are living happily together. If you ever need help in relationship issues, contact him on purityspell@gmail.com, Prophet Mike is his name.

  • MLT March 11, 2014 at 9:20 PM

    It irritates me that you use the word ‘divorce’ to get attention for the post. It’s not a divorce. And divorces are awful so using it as attention-seeking is pretty thoughtless. If you had ever been through a divorce, you would know you can’t keep the spouse around as an accessory. If you want to divorce your phone, you’d put it in the trash and never think about it again. THAT is the equivalent of a divorce.

    • Erind March 12, 2014 at 2:40 PM

      Ever heard of metafors? Go ahead, reply from your phone

    • Jason March 14, 2014 at 1:34 AM

      Sad that you are limiting this mans creativity because your mind is so limited to closed-mindedness.

    • Brittany June 13, 2014 at 10:48 PM

      I agree!

  • Doc David March 11, 2014 at 10:07 AM

    Maybe you should actually look up what divorce means? This actually is a fairly dumb post.

  • Brett Baummer March 10, 2014 at 9:28 PM

    ….people struggle with other technology. One should unplug everything. I mean good grief people now read books on a kindle and such, or they listen to audio tapes on books. Technology is destroying bookstores, newpapers, learning to use a map instead of a GPS, no one learns to memorize phone numbers cause its in your phone, etc etc etc…

  • ShirleyO March 10, 2014 at 8:20 PM

    We all need a phone. How about treating it like it is a land-line phone. It can’t go beyond its wall charging cable. Now there IS reality.

    • Sanderk8 May 20, 2014 at 2:19 AM

      I attached my charger to a 10m long cable of freedom

  • Erica Howard March 8, 2014 at 5:30 AM

    Interesting and provoking thought; however, in moderation is the key; with this awareness, we should all examine ourselves to determine if the fruit – self control is within.

  • James Weller March 8, 2014 at 12:41 AM

    Well said sir. You’ve said what i’ve thought for a long long time and am now taking action!

  • Rosemary Barringer March 7, 2014 at 7:40 PM

    I love this! Praying for all who attempt this, as I’m hoping y’all will pray for me! I’m giving this a serious try… and hopefully I’ll set a good example for my children! Thanks for a great, insightful post! God bless you!

  • Chris Pascal March 7, 2014 at 3:20 PM

    Talk is cheap…. it has to be controlled… almost 12 years into marriage myself and this issue has arose many times… It’s not just the phone… its the internet…social media… its everything… but like a previous poster said…. Divorce means to cut all ties… assume you mean taking things slowly?? To limit the amount of time you spend with your mistress… Don’t get me wrong, I like the idea…. but its just so damn convenient to get wrapped up in it all… instant updates on everything and anything… The only thing that works is to talk about it with your spouse and limit the on/off time… Dinner time is for family… phones and ipads off… kids go to bed is for alone time… phones ipads go off…. does it always work?? No… sometimes we need to get things done or whatever… but whenever possible…. dont lose that alone time. Watch a movie with the phones off… Or in the morning leave your phones at home and take a walk or go work out. Good Luck!!! We all need it.

  • Josh McGraw March 7, 2014 at 11:28 AM

    Yes, divorce that iPhone and step on up to a real smart phone with a decent sized screen, such as the Galaxy Note 3 :)

  • Osker March 7, 2014 at 6:43 AM

    You can’t control your urge to use your iphone in moderation so you’re giving it up? That’s a lack of willpower my man. That’s like a person who drinks and can’t control their alcohol intake so they deem it evil and quit it all together and wants everyone else in the room to quit as well. Not everyone who uses a phone gets lost in it. I for one will NOT be “divorcing” my iphone sine we have a perfect relationship!

    • mightywarrior March 17, 2014 at 3:47 AM

      Yeah, I used to think drinking was a bad thing…..so I gave up thinking……..

  • Miriam March 7, 2014 at 2:10 AM

    I literally just finished my own post related to this topic, complete with a snapshot I took of 2 older that spent an ENTIRE MEAL on their iPhones…and then I found your fabulous post! Keep up the good work, Jarrid!

  • tnypxl March 6, 2014 at 5:27 AM

    You’ll get back together in a year and you’ll be closer than ever. -Steve Jobs

    • LadyB March 10, 2014 at 9:00 AM

      LOL I love this

  • Haji March 5, 2014 at 8:07 PM

    Spell caster. What a joke

  • KT March 1, 2014 at 12:13 PM

    I really like this idea. I think too many people are married to they phone, but they don’t even know, or cannot accept it. I am not married to my phone because I broke my Iphone a while ago and now I don’t have one so my phone isn’t good enough to be in a relationship with it. I have higher standards :P But in seriousness, just remember that your IS an accessory. I think that’s the most important thing. Good Luck

  • Arnold Cerdena February 28, 2014 at 6:25 AM

    My first impression, I’m dissapoint on your title because I suppose that you divorce your wife but I’m surprised that you are getting divorce on your Iphone 5,

  • frank freeman February 27, 2014 at 12:14 PM

    Donna Take your Medication now!!!!!

  • Igor Brusetti February 27, 2014 at 5:47 AM

    I just pick up the challenge, reblogged and translated part of this post in Italian, to invite my friend to join the challenge.
    Thanks for your words!

  • Visien Vinesa February 24, 2014 at 9:53 PM

    I have deleted facebook and path and other social media that really keeps me distracted. But luckily I have my own idealism of: “Never ever access my smartphone while I’m talking with other people, or when I am in a social gathering consists of 2 or more people.” And when I’m eating on a table, I play this “phones stacking” game. Everyone around the table must put their smartphones on the table, stacked. Who to take their phone out first, he or she needs to pay the bill! Hehe

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    • donna February 26, 2014 at 5:26 AM

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    • donna February 26, 2014 at 5:27 AM

      i rebuke you in Jesus name!

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    • donna February 26, 2014 at 5:28 AM

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  • Melanie February 19, 2014 at 12:03 PM

    I actually work for an educational non-profit that is all about teaching students, teachers, and families how to use technology well and how to put boundaries on it. “Just because we can doesn’t mean we should” is a thought that comes to mind with technology and smartphones.

    My problem, though, is that my phone is a work phone–and I love to be available for my coworkers when they’re on the road and need help, but it’s hard to ignore their calls and texts on weekends and after work hours, when I should be able to step away from work and focus on family/friends/life. If only there were an app that would let only texts/calls from and friends and family through during non-work hours, as well as turn off most functions (except for maybe the camera!) for certain times of day…oh wait! That’s called “self-restraint”! ;)

    Thanks for this awesome post!

  • Rayona Paris February 18, 2014 at 8:25 PM

    I am not on the verge of divorce, even though the time I spend in the evening on the phone is getting out of hand.

  • E Bishop Wooten February 18, 2014 at 7:28 AM

    I had the same problem with smart phones. Plus I got tired of charging them all the time. Of course I never had an Iphone. I can’t bring myself to pay $500 for a phone or lock myself into a 2 year plan and pay nearly $100 a month for a phone. I find prepaid smartphones for around $100 and pay $50 a month. In some cases it can be beneficial if you use the social media apps as a way to connect with people; like Facebook, Twitter, or even Huffington Post and Business Insider if one reads those. There is also a Meetup app where you can go out to groups and actually engage with people you met through the site.
    God bless,
    E Bishop Wooten
    The Liberal Conservative

  • sandeep February 17, 2014 at 7:35 PM

    the children’s schools fee and other responsibility i did this for good five years. I cry all day and night because i don’t know what else to do to have my husband back to me until this faithful day i saw the post from on one site a woman testifying how the high priest helped

    • donna February 26, 2014 at 5:31 AM

      i rebuke you in Jesus name!

  • Tonya February 16, 2014 at 2:34 PM

    I’m actually in the market of getting another phone. Ironically enough, I was telling myself to not get another smart phone. Distractions from things and those that matter was my main reason. Somewhat in hopes that my husband will follow suit. No! I’m not trying to change him. I just want him to see the major negative impact that phones have on relationships. I get on mine when waiting for him to be done with his. By time he’s finished, I’m not. That is a very ugly cycle because he expects me to clear my schedule for him when he’s ready. I’m just experimenting in hopes that he will see that technology can be a major cause of relational demise. Gotta get back to the basics in life.

  • Gigi February 15, 2014 at 7:18 PM

    Philippines being the text capital of the world, mobile phones are getting cheaper. There is nothing wrong with owning a lot of social media gadgets as long as we are disciplined enough to use them.

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    • donna February 26, 2014 at 5:29 AM

      i rebuke you in Jesus name!

  • Angel Van Horn February 13, 2014 at 8:38 PM

    I love this!!! Wonderful Jarrid… and oh so true… I think about how much time both my daughter and I sit in bed at night and watch our blue-glow faces… but don’t interact because we are reading all about someone else’s life on Facebook…. I also want you to know your Nita Grantham is sooo proud of you…. she told me to look you up! :D I loved your Tom Wilson too!! Great, great man and influence in my life!:) Look forward to reading more…

  • John February 13, 2014 at 1:10 AM

    #1 God
    #2 Family
    #3 Church
    #4 Everything else

    • LvBurrell April 1, 2014 at 8:52 AM

      Amen! Glad someone got that. I am really shocked at the number of people that scoff at the idea of putting God before their family. Unreal.

  • Monica Maxwell February 10, 2014 at 9:16 PM

    Hello to every one out here,Am Monica Maxwell, from United States am here to shear my the unexpected miracle that has happen to me few days ago, I came across a post online talking about how she got her ex back to her with the help of the great spell caster who happens to be high Dr OSIAN, that he helped her though i never believe this because i was just wondering how could this be, but i gave my self hope and i contact the spell caster. this is the unbelievable that has happened to me this December I was happily married and we had three kids, we lived together as one because we both loved each other but before i knew it, my husband started acting funny and cheating on me later on, he told me that he cannot continue with me so that was how he left me and my three kids without noting but there was noting i could do to stop him or bring him back to me I work so had to pay the children’s schools fee and other responsibility i did this for good five years. I cry all day and night because i don’t know what else to do to have my husband back to me until this faithful day i saw the post from on one site a woman testifying how the high priest helped her to get her ex back I just wanted to try my luck because i never believe it will work but to my greatest surprise, am singing a new song i contacted the great priest on 2nd of December and he told me not to worry because once he finish caster the spell, that i will get my husband back the unbelievable happened on Friday when i got a call and I was surprise to hear my husbands voice apologizing to me that he is so sorry for keeping alone and came back home and we are happy together again wow, i really appreciate your good work great Dr OSIAN, God bless you and your good work for there noting else i can say than to tell the world about you. So if any one is out here seeing this post and you have similar issue like this, worry no more and contact the only man that can help you this email:osianspelltemple@yahoo.com

    • donna February 26, 2014 at 5:25 AM

      i rebuke you in Jesus name!

  • mandy February 9, 2014 at 8:33 AM

    I ditched my phone last winter. I broke it (rite after I had the screen replaced) and gave life a go /w it. Life is better without it at first. You will start to notice things you never saw before. You will see people completely caught up it in their phones. Some people will choose their phone over personal conversation. It’s for this reason that I believe our phones are bad for humanity.
    But, when your kids teacher emails everything, the schools main communication is twitter, friends want you to text or FB them -not call them-. It becomes a major pain not having a phone.

  • Todd C February 7, 2014 at 11:02 PM

    Did you use your iPhone 5 to post this thread?

    While I understand your dilemma I think there are some alternative options you should consider before signing the divorce papers….I’m also struggling with this issue – here are sso I’ve been using a number of different strategies to temper my iPhone addiction.

    1) Airplane Mode: This is an extreme measure but is nonetheless, very effective. My finger actually shakes as I push the button – but after a few minutes I’m actually able to move on and start living in the moment. To my surprise, I’ve left this on much longer than I planned on…

    2) Hoarding Apps?: Again, separation anxiety set in and I wasn’t able to just delete applications. Instead – I moved them to the last page of my iPhone – cleaning up the first few screens to show only the apps I use all the time. Visual “cleanliness” took away the feeling of being overwhelmed with pages and pages of apps.

    3) Bedside manner?: Put your primary charger in the kitchen or another place – anywhere but your bedroom. Plug in the phone before you go to bed so it gets charged fully overnight and use a regular alarm clock to wake up. This prevented me from jumping on apps before my first cup of coffee.

    4) Will you remarry?: My thought is yes – and sooner than you think. I’m guessing you’re like me and don’t realize how many things we use our iphones for to save time…

    Apologies for the rant but I hope I’m saving you from having a secret affair – with your replacement iPhone – the one you are secretly hiding because of your public divorce!

  • Colleen Helms February 6, 2014 at 2:55 AM

    I have tried to schedule my time on my phone to late evening or while I am eating lunch ! ( Of which , it helps me control my intake of food !) I think that my pc was worse than my phone !!!!! I would get so wrapped up in yakking that I neglected many things ! Well , I prayed that the LORD would help me control my time ! About 2 days later a terrible storm came through my area and a bolt of lightning took out my pc ! (THANK YOU LORD !) HE knew exactly what HE was doing ! Now I have oodles of time for so many things I didn’t have time for before ! GOD answers prays always. ( You just have to be careful how you ask for things if you don’t want to lose something of value ! Of which , HE always manages to replace it !) I AM so glad I’m free of the pc ! At first I thought I missed it then one day as I was leaking my BIBLE I realized I was reading my BIBLE at a time when I used to be on the pc!

  • Caleb Stanley February 4, 2014 at 7:52 PM

    Great post man. Keep preaching truth, even if it’s in the mundane things of life!

  • Tia February 4, 2014 at 10:49 AM

    Hey Jarrid! Thanks for your article, you inspired our team at The Life and today we published my reaction to your challenge! You can read it here, if you’re interested: http://thelife.com/challenges/call-it-quits

  • Alex Gilbertson February 3, 2014 at 10:20 PM

    Sounds familiar:

    • Nirmal February 8, 2014 at 2:55 PM

      Living in the present. It’s what children do best. Remember who you were as a child and journey back.

  • Anna February 3, 2014 at 9:14 PM

    Mr. Wilson,
    I’m a college student who recently spent an entire semester working on a paper about technology and its affects on society. I just published this paper recently on my blog at: http://www.liveonnatural.blogspot.com. I appreciate that you set steps to accomplish your goals, and invite you to join in our conversation and read the paper. Keep up the great work & God Bless!

  • Mrs. A Guevara February 1, 2014 at 4:55 PM

    I totally agree. We didn’t grow up with these phones, apps or social networks. We had time for our family and friends. We weren’t distracted in Church we were there to learn the Word of God and enjoy Sunday School Summer Camp. I do however take time out from my phone but it never seems to be enough, My husband has said to me that rather than read the Word of God I Listen to the Word of God. He has a Great point because I used to read and not listen to the Bible. I may be divorcing my Android soon because I agree we should get back to the Importance of being humble and not into the electronic world we have become.

  • Melanie February 1, 2014 at 8:15 AM

    That means I dont have time to read your blog either.

  • Rusty Wallace January 29, 2014 at 4:09 PM

    The Iphone 5 is really no different than any other idolatrous thing that separates us from our loved ones, the church, responsibilities, or community. My Iphone 5 is a tool I utilize as part of my job. I do not have to divorce it because I use it as intended and keep the proper focus on what is important in my life, such as loved ones, God, my responsibilities and others with whom I come in contact. None of us need to divorce our high tech tools. All of us need to stay in focus and in tune with family and friends.

  • Father Mark January 29, 2014 at 3:45 PM

    Ouch! This hurts! But only because it’s so true in my life! (Have you been talking to my wife?)

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  • cyroberts1960 January 26, 2014 at 9:04 PM

    I agree between the laptop iPad and iPhone I get absolutely nothing done I mean nothing not even the bed is made. This is a choice that we have made we don’t have phones with cords to let us know ” hey you really need to get off the phone”

  • halzx January 26, 2014 at 8:52 PM

    Get a Samsung galaxy note 3.

  • Sheri January 26, 2014 at 7:09 PM

    I must confess, I am totally guilty an must join this move.

  • George January 25, 2014 at 6:15 PM

    I’m in. What’s the plan? Is there a recommended schedule for phone usage?

    • Shanus1682 January 27, 2014 at 3:23 AM

      No just stop messing with your device and engage in life. No schedule just use common sense.

  • christiangirlsguidetodivorce© January 25, 2014 at 12:00 PM

    A Facebook friend of mine posted this on her page today. As a divorced woman with a blog-turned-book ministry, I was curious and excited to read what Mr. Wilson had to say on divorce.

    Alas. It was just a catchy title.

    I agree with Mr. Wilson’s message – let’s not be so addicted to our phones. Let’s engage in interpersonal relationships. Let’s put our phones down at meals, in social situations, etc. It’s a great challenge.

    It’s also common etiquette.

    Mr. Wilson’s “I’m Dating Someone Even Though I’m Married” blog post went viral and made everyone gasp and then sigh with relief when he revealed the woman he is dating was, indeed, his wife. Again, good job with the shock and awe, but, to me, it’s a repeated formula.

    I challenge Mr. Wilson to dig deeper and become more vulnerable in his writing.

    As Arthur Miller writes, “The writer must be in it. He can’t be to one side of it, ever. He has to be endangered by it. His own attitudes have to be tested in it. The best work that anybody ever writes is the work that is on the verge of embarrassing him, always.”

  • Sharon Vaughn January 25, 2014 at 9:51 AM

    I agree with you. I have been talking about this with several people I know. I ride the public transportation. I ride the para transit bus, Marta bus, and rail to school and other places. One day while traveling on the train I started observing people. Everyone on the train had their head down looking at some type of electronic device. I thought wow this is sad. I wounder if anyone notice this. If you say good morning some individuals look at you like your crazy. There was no communication at all.

    Also, I have a friend who son was a computer wiz all thru high school. His friend were on line social media.He has graduated from high school and he is having a hard time finding a job, because he did not know how to communicate. She had to find a way were he can learn how to communicate. I gave her some suggestions. I believe children need to be monitored with these electronic devices whether cell phone, iPad, and any electronic device. I agree that electronic devices stop you from enjoy everyday life with your, family, friends, and people in your circle.

    Finally , I’m new at facebook. It’s has not been a year. I notice I have to time myself,because I can be on it for hours and do not even know it. I enjoy reading the post which makes me loose track of time. Some people post faith, courage, strength, jokes that put a smile on your face which help people when they are facing life challenges. This is just what I believe. I am getting a divorce from facebook by unplugging and using facebook on week ends and continue to time myself. I enjoyed reading your post.

  • Christ January 23, 2014 at 10:16 PM

    your right on point, minus GOD…

    • Carey January 27, 2014 at 11:41 AM

      I agree with you. I was captured by the article until the mention of God.

    • SeaBass January 30, 2014 at 6:13 AM

      What is wrong with mentioning God in his article if that’s what he believes in. Are you truly that offended by just the mere mention of God in an article that you have to bring it up and complain about it.

      It’s not as if the author of the article was trying push his views on you, or making claims that God is real vs. God is not real. Why must you be so sensitive to other peoples religious beliefs? Did his mention of God physically hurt you in some way? It sounds to me that yourself and Carey are non-believers and that is perfectly fine, but do you really need to complain about the mention of God in the Authors article. Sounds to me like like some vagina’s are sore, stop your crying and go complain about something that actually affects you. You know, go complain about Obama

    • Lisa Bellamy February 6, 2014 at 2:04 PM

      Appreciate your comment, but why do we minus GOD while adding everything else? Maybe this is part of what causes us to be so self-absorbed, gadget-consumed and imbalanced. People were made for relationship… with other human beings; yes, but the primary relationship was intended to be with our Creator.

  • jeann'e January 22, 2014 at 6:18 AM

    i think all need to read the book by Terri Blackstock called LAST LIGHT, it is a very real & surprising book. It will let u realize what is important in life besides electricity etc.

  • James Fromm January 21, 2014 at 10:43 AM

    I didn’t know people had such problems with their phones. How could you enjoy staring at a little screen all day? I don’t even look at my phone from when I get off work until I go to bed. I don’t have social media and I don’t sit around sending pointless texts to friends. If there is something important they will leave a message. I spend my hours after work bonding with my wife and enjoying the activities we do together. If she is gone I take time to soak in the things I enjoy (music, cooking, exercise, sports).

    Life is lived in right in front of us, not on a tiny screen.

  • Peter January 19, 2014 at 11:15 PM

    I think the core message of this is to take some time away from technology in general to be with God and the relationships in our lives that are most important. Kind of reminds of this article I read on this website about the disconnect we have.


  • Tom January 19, 2014 at 5:26 PM

    How will you feel when what you cherish most leaves you? And could you have taken risk or go beyond as expected to make sure that, that thing comes back to you? Well this testimony of mine will not only please your ears but also will give you the chance to get what you desire. And i am Tom Singletary.
    I lost my girlfriend because i didn’t always find chance to be with her because of my work at sea. I only get to see her thrice every month and she grew tired of our relationship together and i didn’t blamed her. But i did try to make her understand but i was distance from her and you know women, they love to be with their lover everytime and all that, And it was like i was depriving my girlfriend of that chance and she broke up with me. I begged her but she told me she doesn’t give men a second chance that when she said, it is through that it is through and she deleted my contacts.
    I was depressed and it even affected my work life, i loved her so much more than anything, she was the best that have and will ever happened to me, she gave meaning to my life and i really never wanted to lose her and so, i prayed so hard but she wasn’t coming back to me and not until my good friend told me about a great and powerful African Psychic who could helped me get her back into my life and made her to understand me and i did actually contact this great psychic who revealed to be LORD ESIENDO of HOODOO SPELL CASTS and i explain to him what i needed, that i need my gf back and of a truth, he helped me and exactly as he said, that My Fiona will find me in 7 days time with apologies in her mouth and confessing true love to me and we both will be reunited and it happened according to the HOODOO LORD. And after we were reunited, i did my gf a favor and it was that i gave her a job in where i worked and we both are both living fine and well, thanks to LORD ESIENDO at hoodoospellcasts@outlook.com

    And no matter what marital/love problems or health problems you might be now or your loved ones might be, don’t fail to let LORD ESIENDO help you for if i was helped, i don’t see any reasons why you also shouldn’t be helped.

    Thanks and farewell.

  • Ryan January 18, 2014 at 9:27 PM

    This is retarded. If you can’t balance the two, you don’t deserve either. People like this are not worthy of oxygen.

    • Kevin January 19, 2014 at 8:56 AM

      I think he said that he is balancing the two, and this article is an explanation of how. Your comment is irrationally harsh; I can only assume you are a troll, and not a very good one at that.

  • Brim Nichol January 18, 2014 at 3:35 PM

    I have been in bondage ever since my ex leave for another woman, It was really hell for me and everybody told me to forget about him but i could not because i love him so much, Things get worse until my friend introduced me to this great spell caster Dr. Kalo who have save so many life and relationships and i contacted him through his email (Choosenlovespell@gmail.com) i explain everything to him and he cast a spell for me immediately after three days, everything turn around and my boyfriend come to me on his knee begging for forgiveness that i am the one and only woman in his life now. i was surprise i have never seen such a miracle in my life. I am so thankful to this man and i will forever publish his name Dr Kalo

  • Rose Maria January 18, 2014 at 7:29 AM

    My Name is Rose Maria, From UK, All thank to Prophet Lord for bringing joy and happiness to my relationship and my family. I lost my boyfriend, and i required help until i found Prophet Lord for his male spell caster, And she assured me that I will get my boyfriend back in one days after the spell has been cast. one day later, my phone rang, and so shockingly, it was my boyfriend who has not called me for long, and made an apology for the heart break, and told me that he is ready to devote the rest of his life with me. Prophet Lord released him up to know how much i loved and wanted him.. right now me and my fiance is living a happy life and our love is now stronger than how it were even before our break up.. All thanks goes to Prophet Lord for the excessive work that he has done for me. Below is his email address in situation you are undergoing a heart break, and I assure you that as he has done mine for me, he will definitely help you too. Prophet Lord. victorylifelovespelltemple@gmail.com

  • Edmund January 17, 2014 at 1:30 PM

    It’s really a helpful piece and I really enjoyed it. Technology is not an end but a means of accessibility to things we wanna achieve but it has even blocked the way of getting to these achievements. Spend less tym on these and more tym on other things dat will lead us to our dreams.

  • niklette January 17, 2014 at 11:42 AM

    Rediculous! Love the post. Love the message. But these responses are insane.

    Lost my love so I asked some voodoo gooroo to help and now everything is better. ????

    Your nuts.

    • Robatox January 19, 2014 at 5:08 AM

      Hahahaha well that’s the most logical thing to do!!

    • Flong January 19, 2014 at 11:07 PM


  • kesoze2 January 17, 2014 at 8:15 AM

    Seems to me that there’s two kinds of apps, really. One kind is games, photos, to-do lists, etc. — in other words, anything that removes you from social connections. The other is Facebook, Whatsapp… NOT Twitter tho — in other words, anything that lets you maintain one-to-one connections with people close to you. Not people you don’t know well or care about, PEOPLE CLOSE TO YOU.

    My parents and others at times get upset when I seem to be messing with my phone, and I need to be careful about that. However, much of the time when they are upset, they’re actually busy doing something else, and I’m consoling a good buddy who just lost his girlfriend, or letting a girl I know some job advice, or making dinner plans for next week with a friend who will be in town. In other words, when I’m messing on my phone I’m actually BUILDING CONNECTIONS.

    A lot of older people don’t get this. Phones can push us apart if misused, but if used right they can actually bring people together. I think most older people who don’t like phones would be perfectly satisfied if they were able to sit in on the conversations taking place near them.

    • KristinaInParis January 18, 2014 at 3:51 AM

      Agree 100%!!

    • Ang January 18, 2014 at 4:17 AM

      If you were to engage with the “older people” around you, you might find they need your encouragement or suggestions just as much as your fb friends. Help your mother clean up after supper and ask her how her day was while you’re putting dishes in the dishwasher. Give her eye contact while she’s talking. Then invite these “older people” to play a card game or board game with you on the table you just helped clean off. Share your stories of your life with them while you’re playing the game and don’t look at your phone while doing so. You will feel a satisfaction in your soul that only comes from personal face to face communications. There is some satisfaction from helping or communicating online, but it pales in comparison. Just try it one evening and see how long your satisfaction levels are afterwards. Mine lasts for several days; I’m sure yours will too.

  • Christopher Kalie January 16, 2014 at 4:27 AM

    When you live in a country like Korea it is not advisable to divorce yourself from your smartphone. Even though I use my phone a lot, I simply don’t allow my phone to take over my life. As a teacher, my phone is in DNS mode for most of the day and I have absolutely no qualms ignoring messages. The technology exists to enhance our lives, not take it over.

  • Belinda Nainggolan January 15, 2014 at 7:46 PM

    it reminds me of a movie – “Fire Proof” . one of the thing that will ruin a marriage is our bad habits, “the parasite in your marriage” – the movie said. Thanks for sharing this.

  • Liz January 15, 2014 at 11:30 AM

    You make my day. Lol.

  • fiscoyadah12 January 15, 2014 at 9:20 AM

    Thanks for this great post :)
    Very well said….

  • itsadrenalynne January 15, 2014 at 8:31 AM

    I love this!! This reminds me of my recent post, “Simplify” http://adrenalynne.net/2014/01/05/simplify/ ..

  • Heinz Dinter, PhD January 15, 2014 at 3:16 AM

    What a grandiose thought! Computer technology has been part of my life for 56 years, have enjoyed the benefits of telephoning from my car for 39 years, and don’t subscribe to all those unnecessary acts that increase the risk of preventing me from becoming a centenarian.

    • Paul January 20, 2014 at 2:30 AM

      …and of course you have to add PhD to your name just so that we all know how important you are.

  • Derek January 15, 2014 at 2:21 AM

    Bunch of freakin addicts……. Divorce your phone? That’s not very godly…. no matter how you slice it…. God teaches against this sort of idiocy, doesn’t he? …. silly monkey, repugnant even. Oh well, not everyone can be right all the time eh!?

    • m January 15, 2014 at 2:33 AM

      No one is trying to be Godly, only God can do that. Oh, wait, did I get caught up in the semantics of what you were saying and entirely ignore the point? Feels kinda shitty, doesn’t it?

    • Frankie January 15, 2014 at 7:09 AM

      You are completely missing the point! He’s trying to tell you to stop paying so much attention to your phone with all it’s apps and pay more attention to the living, breathing people in your life

    • Kathryn McMorrow January 15, 2014 at 7:24 PM

      Don’t we wish!

  • John January 15, 2014 at 1:41 AM

    Easy. Keep it on silent and engage directly with people round you.

  • james January 14, 2014 at 7:29 PM

    Hi My name is mr james’ i want to share my experience with the world on how i got my ex lover back and saved my marriage… I was married for 10years with 3kids and we lived happily until things started getting ugly and we had fights and arguments almost every time… it got worse at a point that she filed for divorce… I tried my best to make her change her mind & stay with me cause i loved her with all my heart and didn’t want to loose her but everything just didn’t work out… she moved out of the house and still went ahead to file for divorce… I pleaded and tried everything but still nothing worked. The breakthrough came when someone introduced me to this wonderful, great spell caster who eventually helped me out… I have never been a fan of things like this but just decided to try reluctantly cause I was desperate and left with no choice… he cast a strong spell and used roots and herbs… Within 3 days she called me and was sorry for all the emotional trauma she had cost me, moved back to the house and we continue to live happily, the kids are happy too and we are expecting our fourth child. I have introduced him to a lot of couples with problems across the world and they have had good news… Just thought I should share my experience cause I strongly believe someone out there need’s it… You can email him on via email ojoojasalvationtemple@gmail.com Don’t give up just yet, the different between ‘Ordinary’ & ‘Extra-Ordinary’ is the ‘Extra’ so make extra effort to save your marriage/relationship if it’s truly worth it.

  • Mayjo January 14, 2014 at 6:00 PM

    Make your phone an accessory rather than a priority

    • Barbara Crain January 15, 2014 at 11:42 AM

      so true! too many people have their priorities out of whack and if anyone is like this article is talking about, they lead a very sad life.

  • jennifer January 14, 2014 at 4:37 PM

    Hello to the world at large I want to share my testimony to you all which i believe you can still try your best to give a testimony like this so i was married to morphy at first will both love each other but short time he started a new behavior which i cannot even explain to any one then i keep it to my self hopping one day he will change for good no way he did not change so i was in pain every day don`t no what to do on till one day when a friend of mine visited me in my office she met me crying then she was asking me what is going on i try to be cam but i could not then i open up to her telling me there is a way out which i will do before he left me with my kids i look up and not knowing what to do then i ask her to tell me. shortly she open up to me and say there is a man called agadaga he is a spirit man he can do it with in three days then i look an said okay i will try my best to contact him four days later, my husband did not come home i called his phone switch off then i try my possible best i did not hear from him so i began to look for one way for a help so i remember my friend told me about one man called agadaga i quickly run to my friend asking her if she still have Dr.agadaga contact then she gave it to me that was how i contacted this great man of spirit he did it for me so quick so now i can now control my husband in any thing even i can tell him that i don`t want him outside today he will not. Now i have a happy family so via email :agadagasolutionground@gmail.com

    • Paul January 20, 2014 at 2:32 AM

      Have you been wasting your full stops? You appear to have run out!

  • Matthias Müller January 14, 2014 at 10:52 AM

    I’ve had a phone since the early days of cellulars. I still have one. I can call someone with it – that’s all.

  • kisten January 14, 2014 at 9:41 AM

    wow, i came here to read about what you are divorcing and why. secretly, i was hoping for something like our government, but the phone and all its technology is good. i was then perusing the vast comments below…….well, you people need to read and reread the article/blog again. i am pretty sure it wasn’t about or meant to spark a religious debate, but i could have been wrong, just saying. other than that, excellent idea and advice and i agree. i, for one, have been guilty of this and have glanced up to see the look on the faces of those who had made time for me and i was then, cutting into that precious time they gave me. life is so unpredictably short people, when someone wants to give you their time and spend it with you, have the common courtesy, at least, to return that precious gift. i have been dealing with cancer, prevalent, both in my family and dear friends and their families and you don’t know if that singular moment they chose to be with you, was the last one.

  • Kirk January 14, 2014 at 8:18 AM

    I need to get a divorce from my computer, but she has a better lawyer than me!

  • Ganesh January 14, 2014 at 5:10 AM

    I am guilty as charged. All that was illustrated above made me blush as it was EXACTLY how I am with my smart phone…but I go one step further, I text whilst driving. Thank you for the wake up call my friend. I shall try very hard from here on. Stay well.

  • Aya Mindalano January 14, 2014 at 4:24 AM

    Thanks for this blog, my computer always get my attention everytime i am home and i got ignored the people surrounds me and now i should have to take control of giving to much attention of my computer.. I had a phone but i just use it for a text and call and can’t get to much attention but my computer only…

  • revjm January 14, 2014 at 4:20 AM

    I still have a flip-phone…

  • mann185 January 14, 2014 at 12:35 AM

    I’ve always had this one little smart phone that relatively doesn’t do much in terms of games, apps and almost everything an iPhone has. I’ve got a decent job with a decent pay, it’s the reason why a lot of people keep asking me WHEN I am going to get a new one that’s far ‘better’. I am proud to say I never struggle with peer pressure, I am not embarrassed of using a relatively old and cheap phone simply because people suggest me to download more apps and stuff. I use my phone for three things and three things only; Phone calls, texting and time. I am even planning to buy a watch so I don’t have to keep looking at my phone. I don’t need apps because I have a laptop which is far more capable and offers more what any top smart phone could provide and the fact that it is impossible to keep looking at your laptop except within its compound (e.g workplace or little home office). This gives me opportunities to look at everything around me when I’m outside, being able to sniff fresh air and consciously feel it circulate within your body, it gives me the satisfaction when talking with people, it gives you the feeling of being human when you are sitting on a chair and do completely NOTHING, observing the activities in your vicinity as your little ‘me’ time.

  • thediggerman January 13, 2014 at 9:01 PM

    I just lost my smart phone a year ago and beginning then I’m using a very simple phone just for text and call. Although right now I’m planning to have one because I thought I can use for my blog right now. But since I read your post, I’m already thinking twice if i just really need to have one, maybe I can post or I can update my readers in some ways.

  • Lucy January 13, 2014 at 8:34 PM

    I lost my phone a few months ago in a cab and i never felt so free from it! People can only contact me via email or facebook, but now i’m forced to make conversations with people in person. I don’t plan on getting a new phone ever.

  • jackie January 13, 2014 at 2:39 PM

    “The man I live with” who Ive been there for more than he deserves…tells his female fan club im ‘Just the woman he lives with and nothing else is their business”…not that he sleeps w me and lies about his relationships ie Christina Brewer…and all the others… but they call and send him inapropiate photos all nite as he sleeps next to me… He believes fb is a useful tool… so do I but if your looking to sidestep your reality and have meaningful relationships w strippers and women who don’t care at the end of the day they are interfering w a man ina a relationship who he doesn’t respect and leaving behind a beautiful but now damaged woman. who will never trust him.. sweep up your shit before inviting new. I made serious mistakes over the past year, now I must clean it up…angry you ask? Fuk yes and now im not hiding it any more

  • Harry Johnson January 13, 2014 at 1:42 PM

    Dumbest thing Ive ever heard.

  • arlenepellicane January 13, 2014 at 9:25 AM

    How interesting to read your post…I am currently writing a book with Dr. Gary Chapman “Growing Up Social: Raising relational kids in a screen driven world” and the comments you are getting makes me think that many parents are ready for change.

    • Jake January 15, 2014 at 2:28 PM

      Oh geez. Way to go on the plugging of your shitty book on someone else’s shitty article. That first sentence of yours is an indiccation of how much it’ll suck.

  • Ken January 12, 2014 at 11:20 PM

    this article applies to any and all forms of media.. take away the phones, internet and television, and most people lose their sanity anywhere between 1 day & week max

    • T January 13, 2014 at 4:37 PM

      True Ken…I’ve heard I’m lost without my phone I can’t live without my phone! People drive and talk and text while driving very dangerous it takes a second for an accident to happen…keep it up your phone may be the reason you are not LIVING,

  • grace January 12, 2014 at 10:32 PM

    I think it applies to Computer Games & Soap Operas as well…
    Thanks for the article! =)

  • Gary January 12, 2014 at 10:25 PM

    Steve, you bring up a great point about laws. However, I do disagree with you. You say that any scientist will tell you that a law is just a theory. But according to The McGraw-Hill Dictionary of Scientific and Technical Terms, written by scientists, a scientific law is defined as, “a regularity which applies to all members of a broad class of phenomena” (2003, p. 1182). In other words, as long as the scientist takes care to make sure that the law applies to the scenario in question, the law will always hold true. According to its definition, a scientific law has no known exceptions, or else it would not be a law in the first place. A “theory,” on the other hand, is merely an “attempt to explain” phenomena by deduction from other known principles (McGraw-Hill…, p. 2129). A theory may not be true, but a law, by definition, is always true. Since there are no known exceptions to scientific laws, it is completely unscientific for anyone to assert, without any scientific evidence, that there have been exceptions to the laws of science in the past. The only scientists that will tell you that a law is just an unproven theory are those who are trying to avoid Gid because they know that the laws point to Him.

    • Tom Swirly January 13, 2014 at 12:53 PM

      > Since there are no known exceptions to scientific laws, it is completely unscientific for anyone to assert, without any scientific evidence, that there have been exceptions to the laws of science in the past

      I probably agree with what you’re *trying* to say, but what you’re actually saying is just not true.

      There have been numerous cases of exceptions to what the laws of science were in the past – a typical example was the orbit of Mercury. Simple response from science – new theories were formed, new laws formulated.

      Now go to any science news site – say, one on particle theory or cosmology. You will see all sorts of phenomena that the current theories do not explain.

      These aren’t miracles – we know full well that our theories are not complete, particularly for a bunch of edge cases that would never ever impact a person in their daily life. Eventually, we will almost certainly figure out new theories and laws to account for these.

      You might say, “Well, these weren’t true laws, if science later disproved them.” In some sense that’s true, but that makes it impossible to tell if any statement you make is in fact a law or not, so the word “scientific law” because completely un-useful – by definition, you can’t break the laws of science, but we’ll never know for certain what they are.

      Does this mean that “God” was making an end run around science and, say, stopping the Earth’s rotation for a day? Of course not! There’s no solid evidence for miracles of any kind, and lots of strong evidence against them.

      But arguing against miracles by saying, essentially, that science is perfect is just silly.

  • africanstardust January 12, 2014 at 5:09 AM

    Lol, I love how so many people said stuff like “it’s your fault, not the phone’s.” What, a blogger can’t make an insightful analogy? Good grief. I for one think this is a great idea. I’ve thought of going back to using my old brick, a Nokia, but I have to admit that Whatsapp saves a lot of money. However, I’ve deleted most of the other apps from my phone and now only use it for its phone-ness, Whatsapp, and occasionally Instagram. Good post, and good luck!

    • Angela DiAmicis Hicks January 13, 2014 at 10:24 AM

      africanstardust: first. love your name.cool. you are right on in so many ways. I am currently using a walmart straighttalk phone and I LOVE it. Because it is simply what I want from a phone, To make a call. No hassles, no grief, not many choices. Too many choices already, which I try to eliminate. Too many other things to think about.

  • Simon January 12, 2014 at 2:22 AM

    So what’s your first priority, God or your wife? Can’t be both.

    • yiorgps January 12, 2014 at 7:45 AM

      Urine idiot

    • Edson Peacock January 12, 2014 at 8:33 AM

      / \
      / \
      / \
      Husband & Wife

      It is quite simple…. Place God at the tip-top of you priority Triangle and you spouse by your side and then as you hold hands side by side and have God as both of your priorities then you will both seek to care for the needs of each other firs, because their needs are equally as important as your own needs! Thus there is no hard feelings cause the wife sees her husbands needs first and the husbands sees his wife’s need first as they are both looking up to God and living to please God.

    • Allah January 12, 2014 at 10:27 AM

      some people will only get one thing from this article.. love how you represent that.

  • Ivan January 12, 2014 at 12:15 AM

    My ex girlfriend was famous for constantly texting other people while she was sitting across from me at a restaurant. Hence why she’s an ex now. I have absolutely no patience or respect for her kind. All of our arguments and serious conversations were done through text messages. I finally got sick of that behaviour and decided to call it quits and in hopes of meeting someone who shares my opinions and respects my values. I do however respect technology in terms of information availability and reliability. But it stops there. Just my two cents…

  • Zoe January 11, 2014 at 9:40 PM

    Don’t blame the tech because you don’t have the will power to PUT THE THING DOWN when you have vistiors or are at church. I have one, and facebook and a laptop and I hardly touched them for two days when I had friends over. Except when showing photos i ignored all but the actual phone, as you would if it was the land line. FB and even the projects Iam working on waited until friends left. That is MY willpower, and noting to do with how tempting the tech is.

    • less.is.moore January 12, 2014 at 12:29 PM

      “Mind you, not everyone struggles with this.”

      At least he’s trying to change and willing others to look if they need to also.

  • lori January 11, 2014 at 6:51 PM

    I don’t have a cell phone. I got rid of it 2 years ago and never looked back. Call my home. If I am not there the machine picks up. Simple simple simple. I don’t need to be in contact with the world 24-7. Call me old fashioned, but I miss the days when you would actually send a letter..through the mail…or a card…whatever. Penmanship is a lost art form. Kids are now illiterate, but boy they have strong thumbs!!!! Why learn to spell when you can autocorrect…why learn grammar? Technology is not always a good thing.

    • sandy hollingshead January 11, 2014 at 11:42 PM

      yes..you are so right about penmanship and grammar getting lost..i know two kids with terrible writing and spelling, but they are still moving ahead in school..guess i’m just not with the 21st century..

    • Kenny January 12, 2014 at 8:52 PM

      You’re pretty much using auto correct on here, hence the red line under misspelled words. Auto correct has actually made me a better writer. How would I know if I spelled the word wrong or not? Just because you feel there are all of these negative externalities, you should probably consider the positive ones first.

  • Jolie January 11, 2014 at 4:39 PM

    I love this so much. My only issue is that I would have never seen it had I not gone on face-book. Facebook is a total waste of time, however; every now and then I come across something as brilliant as your article. Thank you for putting my thoughts into words.

  • Brandon King January 11, 2014 at 12:01 PM

    Dear Brother Jarrid wilson, I love the concern on your heart to make more time For Jesus Our Lord! How desperately we as a nation in the us need to pratice this in fasting! However Im concerned with the choice of terminology you have chosen. “Divorce” As a Christian I am compelled by the Holy Spirit that corrects my mind and heart to the fact that Our God is a God of Love, and in fact He is LOVE amen. So in being convicted to this knowledge. I must as a believer and follower of Christ present my concern to you! Please understand I am NOT by any means trying to hinder your ministry! Never will I be in the Way from Gods Worker; which you are doing a pure job I trust.
    Here is my heart on this matter. The world believes divorce is acceptable if happiness is not present…and its “okay” if both partners agree to disagree…remind you this is worldly knowledge and not of God. So what Im getting at is the approach to your ministry, I feel you could reach much more people if you rearranged the wording a little. ex “Conquering my iPhone! Defeating distractions for Christ with prayer and fasting to His word…or something. Feel me bro? Hope I didn’t offend you or seem rebuking. What you are doing is AWESOME work, I just think you might get some heat from people who just got to have their phone! lol you know how it is! But we must let love consume all!! haha hit me up on https://www.facebook.com/brandon.king.supercharge I would love to join your blogs and ill send you invites to my blog page. My wife likes your work so she would be thrilled

  • The Motivated Life January 11, 2014 at 12:01 PM

    Like many people about to divorce a significant other, they refuse to take responsibility and instead shame and blame the other party. ;)

    The device really isn’t the problem, as it’s just a reflection of it’s owner (especially if it has mirrored surfaces). After all James 1:14-15 clearly states that you can blame only yourself when it comes to temptation!

    You’ll actually have to pardon me while I go buy an iPad mini Retina today. I need something smaller and more convenient to read my Bible on. I’ve found digital devices like the iPhone or iPad actually have enabled more daily Bible reading than the days without those iTems. Maybe the tech tool is just the reflection of its owner?

    Direct the shame at yourself, not the inanimate object. Blaming the iPhone might up your pedantic Christian hipster cred at your Christian college or church or community, but for some of us, we’re wise to know the real problem isn’t the stuff surrounding you, it’s actually you.

    • Robin January 11, 2014 at 9:21 PM

      I was thinking the same thing — but I give Jarrid the benefit of the doubt. Surely he knows he is responsible for his own actions. I believe the style of the story was just a cute and interesting way to portray the phone relationship.

    • Lisa January 12, 2014 at 11:41 AM

      You’re really being harsh. Jarrid obviously is admitting to his own weakness and doing something about it. The article was written in a clever and entertaining way which brings to light just one of many things that infiltrate our lives and weaken and destroy relationships, when one allows it too. My husband’s “mistress” is his laptop. Unfortunately, and unlike Jarrid, he isn’t willing to give up the relationship. I have a friend who is losing his family over his infatuation with golf. Nothing takes precedence over golf. Personally, I don’t get it.

  • R MARK REASBECK January 11, 2014 at 10:07 AM

    THE VIEW FROM A 61 YEAR OLD MALE: A friend sent this article to me, I’m glad he did,because I have many people to send it to. I have 5 adult children,they all have a smartphone growing out of an appendage . Do you think you can TALK to them on the device? NO. No one ever answers the phone. If you’re lucky, you can get a Text in between the Facebook postings…….in a few days. I’ve watched 4 Asian girls in Chipolte’s try to eat burritos with one hand because they can’t put the phone down to eat and never say a word to each other. I’ve seen a lady trying to fill 2 cups at a soda fountain but takes forever because she couldn’t figure out that if she took the phone out of her hand she could actually place a lid on the cups. I’ve confronted a “skater dude” on an airplane when a flight attend had asked him to turn off his device 3 times before take off. After her third warning, he continued to type on his phone. I just politely “reached across the aisle” and tapped him on the shoulder and said , “Dude, you’re not that important, SHUT OFF the Phone”. In Colorado, I’ve watched dozens of parents fiddle with their phones while attending their child’s karate tournaments. Why even bother to show up if you can’t give it your attention? And in Church, there should be a rule, If you’re going to read a Bible, it needs to be a real book. You have no commitment to the word of God if your version of choice is the i-Bible. My favorite is urinal texting, I guess it proves you can Multitask. (don’t forget to wash the phone!) And i’m sure Hallmark Card’s stock is down because all I ever get on my birthday is an unimaginative text. I could go on and on with this but, I’ve concluded with all of the this technology to keep us connected, we are more disconnected than ever. I have a smartphone, BUT I use it to talk, limited texting and maybe check a map once in a while. I don’t see the fascination with watching videos, movies or TV shows on a 3″ screen. I have experienced divorce twice in real life. If I divorce this phone, will it keep my house? Will I have to pay Phon-a-mony?? Opps , gotta go, group text coming in

    • Patsy January 11, 2014 at 4:48 PM

      Yea I know how you feel but they always have other excuses but when u fine out they was on facebook or talking or texting. They cant put phone down for 30 min to do the one thing and get it over with and then they can get back to what they was doing… you try to talk to someone they steadly texting. Cant stop 5 min to talk or answer a question. I think it should go back to home phone and if its business do it get it out of the way.. The cell phones..iphones..ipad so on is a problem inthis world today. Kids thats all they do is get on facebook and these other cites and talk to these guys thats in there late 20s and early 30s and it causes problems in these kids school

    • Melissa January 12, 2014 at 3:51 AM

      Brilliant post!

    • Diana Sanchez January 12, 2014 at 7:10 AM

      Mr Reasbeck, I am a 40 year woman who is married with a 14 year old son and I am guilty of all of these. These smart phones are an addiction and I do notice all the time how we get distracted by social media, YouTube videos, vine and the list goes on and on. I think your reply to this blog was the best and really got me thinking. Starting today, I’m deactivating my fb and will be challenging my son and husband to put their phones down! Have a great day.

    • Lynn January 12, 2014 at 11:56 AM

      I wish you could talk to my husband! We’re going to end up divorced because all he does is stare at his laptop, smart phone, and television (mostly football games). Generally, he’s looking at all three at the same time. He falls asleep with the remote in one hand and his smart phone in the other. The first thing he does when he wakes up is pound the bed looking for the phone. Maybe when the bed gets cold, the frig is empty, and the bills don’t get paid, he’ll notice I’ve left. Funny thing is, he still gets jealous when other people notice me. If I were the only person he was ignoring, I’d assume I’m the one with the problem, but he ignores others too. Our friends scold him about his “phone’ time when we all go out. I’m sick of being by myself at home staring at his vacant face as he gazes at all of his electronics. Now I spend more time at work, at the gym, and with friends. It’s really too sad that its come to this.

    • clare January 13, 2014 at 5:17 PM

      brilliant!!! xx

  • joannamontreal January 11, 2014 at 9:59 AM

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    You may have heard about the movie “Her”.
    I read one paragraph of this post and that’s what it reminded me of. You might enjoy watching it, however I obviously have not seen it yet and don’t know how the end will turn out to be.

    • Jason January 12, 2014 at 10:30 AM

      Joan, I just saw it last night.. wow. it’s amazing!! There should be a warning on the sexual content of the movie though..

      • joannamontreal January 13, 2014 at 3:42 PM

        Oh really? Alright I’ll keep that in mind.
        Thanks! I’m glad you liked it! :) Great blog!

  • Benton Kyner (@bentonkyner) January 11, 2014 at 9:23 AM

    David M, whoever you are, I’m sorry about all the hateful comments from these supposed Christians. Didn’t Jesus say something about turning the other cheek?
    Like you, I’ve struggled with my views on God and am still searching. Best wishes to you.

  • leo January 11, 2014 at 9:09 AM

    How hard is it for people to just be normal? There is no need to constantly update your fb/twitter/instagram/vine/etc with hourly updates on what youre doing. Be NORMAL, people have done so just 10 years ago. It is not hard to put it down and enjoy something that doesnt require a piece of technology. If youre cooped up inside then go play a board game with your kids/family.

  • Mike January 11, 2014 at 8:59 AM

    “Other than God, my wife deserves to be the #1 priority in my life.”

    You do know what #1 means right. You can’t have two #1 priorities. Math doesn’t work that way.

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  • Paul January 11, 2014 at 8:37 AM

    Funny to see there are people that think that long and frequent rituals directed to an imaginary friend in the sky is better than spending time on social media. Hey, I am sure there is, or soon will be an app that can magically measure and warn you at the weirdest moments that it is time for you to say a prayer. That way you can keep your phone *and* spend more time on your favorite waste of time!

    • AC January 11, 2014 at 11:29 AM

      You must be a very pleasant person.

    • Maggie January 12, 2014 at 7:34 AM

      You are a sad individual. my God is real, Jesus walked this earth. People like you just don’t want to make the effort to know God. It would enrich your life if you did.

  • Kit January 11, 2014 at 5:43 AM

    My wife an I are both in IT. We constantly have some device or another with us. It is a constant source of information to which we find a plethora of topics and information to add to our conversations. I have learned things about her she herself had forgotten about but the memories resurfaced when I mentioned an article someone posted on Facebook, Reddit, or any other number of sources. And vice versa.
    A great deal of (but not all) our arguments end up being shorter because there is instant proof, access to others opinions to validate both sides, or invalidate false assumptions. I agree many become too dependent on it and I like to go camping to get away from it all. But when I read the comments where people are saying smart phones destroyed this relationship or that relations ship. That’s just blaming peoples shortcomings on a device. It is something easy people can retreat into instead of dealing with life. It’s like blaming the knife for cutting the chef’s finger instead or blaming the chef for using it in a manner that caused him harm.
    The lesson #2 stated above should be #1 and that needs be the only rule. The rest fall under it. If you treat it as a handy tool, and not a lifeline, you don’t have to regulate your usage of it. Use it to improve your life and others around you.
    I use my phone while waiting in long lines or for appointments to play a game on Facebook that is helping scientists stop the eradication of a certain type of tree by a fungus that grows on it.

  • charles000 January 11, 2014 at 4:07 AM

    I’ve been watching many of my comrades get sucked into the smart phone zombie vortex for years. My phone is a $9 Kyocera / Virgin Mobile, which costs $7/ mo to keep it alive. It rings, I answer . . . that’s it.

  • G January 11, 2014 at 3:14 AM

    Anyone who needs to follow those 5 steps has far bigger problems than an iPhone.

  • Maria Matthews January 11, 2014 at 1:00 AM

    Great post, its annoying to be in a restaurant and see others talking on their phone, I often think, “how insulting is that to those in your company.”

    • Christopher K January 11, 2014 at 1:56 AM

      I say amen to that. Disconnect to stay Connected.

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  • No Name January 10, 2014 at 10:16 PM

    I am the person in the background. I like to take a step back and observe what is going on around me. I personnel don’t own a smart phone because of this issue. It is sad to look around and see everyone on a smart phone and not one word is exchanged between two individuals. People drift into their own little world and zone-out when they are engaged with their smart-phone — completely ignoring what is going on around them.. Technology is a great invention; however, we’re losing the ability to completely immerse ourselves in what we’re doing, whether it’s watching TV, visiting family or catching up with friends for coffee; that we’ve becoming so lost in what’s happening on the screens that we’re forgetting to stop and enjoy what’s happening around us. I am a public speaker. When I release an audience of over one hundred for a break the first thing everyone does is pull out their smart phones instead of engaging with whoever is around them. I am curious how everyone else feels about this issue.

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      totally agree with you. see the same thing around me.

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  • peter January 10, 2014 at 7:33 PM

    I solve the problem by using a BlackBerry … not so smart phone … apps are useless – given up on them. I can look something up on the internet when I really have/want to (and that can be useful when I am having a discussion – a real discussion – with another person) … but so awkward to use that it doesn’t dominate. I can also keep up with sports scores – which means I will spend time out with family friends just checking every 15-20 minutes for a few seconds … so i never just sit there watching sport on TV. I choose how to use my technology ..rather than let it tel l me what to do.

  • Jacky January 10, 2014 at 6:57 PM

    This is why we have dumb phones.

  • Doug T January 10, 2014 at 4:22 PM

    I am lucky not to have an IPhone..all garbage stuff really.Boss gave me a cheap phone at work to call me when he needs to while I am on the road and that is it.I shut it off when I am at home,don’t need the crap.But to text or roam the internet on there..WHY??? Not really important to me.I see a lot of people who are useless..ones that live on their phones,ones that cause accidents and walk into walls,poles and even cars…the ones that die from using their phones deserve it….so stupid.Society has lost it if you ask me…kids today can’t even write their own names because everything is done on a keyboard.I have witnessed that myself from some 25 year olds..they can only print sloppy like a 5 year old..insane.Brains are going soft to with this technology .what a generation that is coming now…I laugh at people when the power goes out or their provider goes down for a few hours to days..they are pulling their hair out..WOW now that is CRAZY.Someone told me years back and now I am believing them..this tech and interenet is the Devils work and he is winning..people are cold as ice and cannot communicate with others..they blow up and lose their tempers so quickly..they are lost puppies..

    • Mike. January 10, 2014 at 6:23 PM

      You can use your phone to stream educational podcasts.

    • matt January 11, 2014 at 8:49 AM

      Chill out, smart phones are not making my generation any less intelligent. That arguement makes you sound like a bitter old man who hates change. This technology literally enables my generation to learn more then was ever possible. We literally have a wealth of knowledge at our finger tips whenever we please. So relax with the dramatics.

    • Emily January 11, 2014 at 7:23 PM

      I walk into walls with my nose burryed in a book a real book made out of paper I have to study a lot with all my classes and the only time I get to read for pleasure is when I eat lunch and walking across campus for class so I have ran into a few walls. Not every one who uses technology has bad penmanship I don’t print I write and my writing is immaculate. I have an iPhone I use it every once and a while to make phone calls and to listen to music when I am studying because it is harder for me to be distracted by other people this way my studies have my full devotion.

  • Andrea Abay-Abay January 10, 2014 at 3:29 PM

    Glad to say I’ve divorced my phone already. Life is better without it.

  • Sapphyreopal5 January 10, 2014 at 2:47 PM

    Good for those who decide to spend time with their friends and family more instead of being glued to their phone. I think that there are other underlying problems with individuals who are glued to their phones, and marriages where the individuals involved spend more time on their computer, phone, watching tv, etc. than with their significant other or other loved ones. Sure at the surface level those things are to be blamed because hey that’s where they’re spending more of their time, right?

    However, there are other reasons why people ignore each other and hey, that kind of issue has been a problem in many relationships LONG before this kind of technology ever existed. Those things can cave to people’s bad habits but why do people abuse such things and ignore other things and people in the first place? I’m honestly annoyed with all of the people who blame technology for their problems, assume that’s the issue, get rid of it, and then oh my they STILL have those problems or they just resurface later on. Quit blaming the technology and demonizing it, as opposed to addressing the reasons why people choose to spend more of their time on these things in the first place.

  • V. Beamer January 10, 2014 at 2:06 PM

    I do believe this is what caused my son and his wife’s divorce. They never spoke to one another. Always on some sort of device or another.

    • Kit January 11, 2014 at 5:28 AM

      If a device can end your marriage, there are far bigger issues with your marriage.

  • no name January 10, 2014 at 1:36 PM

    My reading comprehension is perfectly fine, and I understand the point he’s trying to get across about over-dependence on cell phones and social media, but it really bothers me to see people use the word “divorce” in such a flippant manner. I’m glad that you have a happy marriage, but this is not cute, funny, or clever to those who have gone through the pain and hurt of divorce. It’s an incredibly sad time.

    • None January 10, 2014 at 2:02 PM

      I agree.

    • just me January 10, 2014 at 2:12 PM

      Sorry but that is the correct term when you cutting off with something and your divorce or it being hard has nothing to do with this great article on a issue that plagues our society.

  • Laura January 10, 2014 at 1:30 PM

    As ”they” say… ”who the hat fits…..let them wear it…” we should learn to take the good part of the stuff and stop just seeing the bad and criticize…

    Great article :)

  • Tony January 10, 2014 at 11:57 AM

    Congratulations, ironically you ask for others to share this, on social media, and for them to comment on it, and start a movement. Well, I believe all you guys really need is self control and respect. Self control in any situation where you need to concentrate, do it; and respect for others, this implies: their time, their love, their moments.

    But yeah, don’t forget to share this…duh!

    • Sapphyreopal5 January 10, 2014 at 2:53 PM

      What about the people who use their phones to read articles like this? Wouldn’t that be encouraging them to use their phones as opposed to telling them to use their phones less? He he :P

    • Cabell January 10, 2014 at 3:18 PM

      He wasn’t saying that technology is always bad and you need to stay 100% away from it. He is making the point that it can come in the way of those you love. He is challenging us to make more time for other people, to have real conversations. He’s not being hypocritical here, as you’re implying.

  • Meg January 10, 2014 at 9:23 AM

    I’m about to get texting and Internet on my phone for the first time in my life. Part of me is excited because I think I’ll finally be able to get in touch with people who I can’t get to pay attention to me because they are on their phones all the time(but they don’t like to call people.) The other part of me is hurt because so many people can’t be bothered to call me, so much so that I don’t want to be bothered to have anything to do with them. :/ Someone who has friends shouldn’t be so darned lonely.

  • emaaonline.orgAbra January 10, 2014 at 9:07 AM

    This is beautifully written. Although, I’m not as addicted to my phone as most, I understand where you’re coming from as I see others around me constantly on the phone. I will also make a note to divorce those things, which keep me from my family and friends.

    • Ingrid Harper January 15, 2014 at 5:08 PM

      I agree with both sides. While I have experienced a real-life divorce and the pain of that rejection is unimaginable, I get the picture this blogger painted regarding the current addiction society seems to have toward electronic devices. Relax everyone, it is just a word picture painted so that we get the idea. It is certainly no different than the parables Jesus used in his time to explain concepts to those around him. Go Jarrid.

  • Brad S January 10, 2014 at 8:41 AM

    David M..you are an asshole. That is all.

    • Rhonda Mechtly January 10, 2014 at 11:34 AM

      Had you a reasonable challenge to his article, you might have posted THAT for some credibility. You have, however, branded yourself a bitter spleen-venter who fails to put forth any points for his apparently 180-degree position. Your judgmental condemnation is pointless; you advertise a lack of understanding how to differ with someone’s viewpoint WITHOUT embarrassing yourself.

    • Shena January 10, 2014 at 1:01 PM

      Well said Brad, well said.

  • Gerry January 10, 2014 at 7:38 AM

    LOVE this! Thanks!

  • starry1979 January 10, 2014 at 7:35 AM

    Can I have your phone in your divorce? I promise to only use it as an accessory! All kidding aside, I agree with your post because I’ve seen parents go to an unnamed fast food restaurant to let the kids play on the equipment and stare at devices the whole time.

  • Vicki January 10, 2014 at 7:10 AM

    APPARENTLY some people didn’t “get” your post…….. I have a daughter with 3 children that needs to divorce her phone and spend time with them.

  • Holly January 10, 2014 at 6:52 AM

    My cellphone’s for work and emergencies (I’m required to have one for work, and I do not want to be stuck somewhere if my car breaks down). Sure I do send a few texts to my friends…. but only when it’s for meetups. Otherwise, yes… it’s just an accessory.

  • themanbeyond January 10, 2014 at 5:49 AM

    Ha! I’ve never had a cellphone. Probably never will.

  • Amber January 10, 2014 at 5:18 AM

    I was born in 1990 so I know a lot about technology however I still prefer having a face to face conversation or sending a letter in the mail or making a simple phone call from the comfort of my home than using cell phones. Are they convenient? To a point yes but they are over used. My girlfriend for example drives me nuts because she is always on her phone texting, checking Facebook, and playing games while people are trying to talk to her. I have snapped a few times at her telling her to put her phone down while we are playing kanasta or monopoly and her excuse is always I have to collect stuff from this game or so and so is texting me using one word answers. Some people majorly abuse technology while others know how to balance technology with everything else in this lives. Look at how many businesses are using texts Facebook and more to promote products or to get feedback from products. I have recently enrolled in college and gues what all our text books are on iPads. What a better way to distract students from their work but to put Facebook and games at their finger tips when they should be learning. I still prefer the good old fashioned paper back or hard cover books. They may add weight to a bag but they do not give you the distractions that today’s society holds.

  • Samir Madani (@Samir_Madani) January 10, 2014 at 4:39 AM

    Get a Pebble watch (https://getpebble.com/), and you won’t have to look at your phone for every single bloody notification! I love mine, and it has allowed me to distance myself from the phone. Now I can relax as well as keep focus on more important things. Don’t want to be part of the ” 45° Generation ” that walks around in a forward-leaning manner!

  • David M January 10, 2014 at 3:05 AM

    At least it makes you forget about the hateful “being” you call god. Just hope it keeps you from preaching its stupidities as well.
    In fact, a good thing to do is to stop blogging and go back to some secluded snow desert bound monastery or so

    • Shane A January 10, 2014 at 6:28 AM

      or maybe you can just stop reading his blog. Just because his views are not yours doesn’t mean you have to disrespect his.

    • nottock January 10, 2014 at 6:47 AM

      David, off topic, and it seems perhaps you were attracted to the article because it talks of divorce and you were disappointed about what it’s true topic was. Be a big boy and just move on to another article instead of leaving an example of your shallow thinking.

    • NWB January 10, 2014 at 6:56 AM

      David – you cannot imagine what you’re missing in this life.

    • GB January 10, 2014 at 7:44 AM

      Hateful being??? wow….your actually calling the man that gave his life to save you from dying and burning in hell for eternity “hateful”?? I think its more like the hateful devil has you by the nose…lying and pulling you away from the one that actually loves you. Jesus is coming back and hate me if you want to for saying this but if you don’t repent and change your ways your going to be left!

    • Heather January 10, 2014 at 7:46 AM

      Oh David, how wrong your are. I claim your for GOD’S kingdom.

    • alice January 10, 2014 at 8:40 AM

      so its okay for you to leave hateful, disrespectful, thoughtless comments like that? but by your statement we should be in a cold desert never to see others again, and to never speak? wow astounding how double standards work huh? now who’s an oppressive and a hateful being?

    • Mathew January 10, 2014 at 11:42 AM

      You’re an idiot David

    • Shena January 10, 2014 at 12:56 PM

      Wow David M. Why so hateful? You must be a miserable person. I just feel sorry for you. It seems to me like you need a little less one-sided technology and a little more people interaction….. maybe then you won’t be so heinous.

    • markus hopkins January 11, 2014 at 8:44 AM

      Go to hell, David M. Maybe then you’ll understand. But I doubt it.

  • MENDA January 10, 2014 at 1:44 AM

    i think we are begining to see more people get married to cell phone in our villages now than ever more. every one is not just happy with the simple phone but wnts to get something smarter

  • Cori January 10, 2014 at 12:27 AM

    Great article! This is so true! People have become so addicted to their phones. There’s very little personal interaction between people anymore & they spend all of their time either texting on their phones, no matter where they are or what they’re doing, or else they’re taking tons of pictures of themselves & then posting them online for everyone to see. People have become like robots. They walk around or sit with their face in their phones as if the whole world has to know what they’re doing 24/7. They’re texting at work, while driving, while eating out, etc., etc. It’s very sad that we don’t relate to one another like we used to.

  • Ellen Spencer January 9, 2014 at 10:58 PM

    It’s a freakin’ phone. Get a grip on your life. Is this really what you want your legacy to be when you leave this earth: a stupid phone??

  • Liberty Valens January 9, 2014 at 8:06 PM

    All fine and dandy except the success of your blog and this article is to some amount credited to these devises. Get rid of your phone and start a new blog under a different name as test the rankings.

  • JGlo January 9, 2014 at 7:26 PM

    Great article….reading it on my iPhone 5 ;)

  • SWP January 9, 2014 at 7:07 PM

    I think this posting came at the right time for me. I am struggling with this. It does affect my marriage….badly! The relationship with my spouse is not doing to good. We are on the verge of divorce. I really think we need to start taking time out for ourselves & not be plugged into society and social media, work related emails, etc.
    Thank you!!

  • Robert Baker January 9, 2014 at 6:08 PM

    This is why the post office is going broke people have forgotten how too compose a letter lol.

    • Lacy Thomas January 10, 2014 at 5:40 AM


    • nottock January 10, 2014 at 6:43 AM

      The USPS is always going broke, the government takes the profits for other purposes.

  • anna January 9, 2014 at 5:38 PM

    Love this! Decided to focus on paying off student loans and have been sans cell phone for over 2 years! I don’t miss it at all. Loans are paid off and I still don’t have the phone. My real friends keep in contact with me in other ways.

  • ehjenn January 9, 2014 at 4:40 PM

    Seems to be a common goal this year, and I am glad for it! I don’t use my phone to the extent described in this post, but I was starting to notice a few months back that using my phone was affecting my ability to pay attention to those around me at times, and the games were keeping me up too late at night. I deleted Facebook and all games and I hardly use it now, unless I’m making a phone call or checking bus times. It has made a big difference in helping me to stay present in the moment, and I don’t wake up as tired in the morning (grumpy and feeling bad about myself because I could have at least been doing something productive with all the time that I was awake playing games). Every once in a while I get bored and download a game, but I end up playing for a few minutes and deleting it again. I would rather do something else with my time now… like sleep, or spend quality time with my kids. :) There’s no going back for me!

  • Jeremie January 9, 2014 at 3:02 PM

    For instance, in the grocery line, you could seek to positively impact the people around you. You’re not by yourself if there’s someone standing next to you :)

  • Brad January 9, 2014 at 1:09 PM

    Are you kidding me? My phone has had a far more positive impact on my life than my ex wife ever did. Divorce the woman.

    • AubVaz January 9, 2014 at 5:01 PM

      Maybe that is why you got a divorce in the first place — is because some things were more important to you than your spouse… If you don’t put your spouse first before everything(except God, if you believe in Him) then you will never be successful in marriage…or any other relationship for that matter.

    • Larry January 9, 2014 at 7:50 PM

      If you get sick or are in the hospital will your phone come to visit you—–or does your phone really care whether you live or die.

    • k2 January 9, 2014 at 8:00 PM

      So sure you’ll be single for some time to! Cuddle up with your phone I’m sure IT will satisfy all your lonely needs.

  • Samantha January 9, 2014 at 1:05 PM

    I just don’t get all the backlash on this article. I agree wholeheartedly — the phone should be an accessory. My husband and I are pretty good at keeping this, unless one of us is addicted to a game, which happens occasionally. But I don’t get why people are saying that this whole blog is hypocritical and that if you wanted to really divorce technology, you would no longer use any of it. I specifically read “Learn to balance the time you spend on your phone.” at the end of the article… I wish people would read everything and then comment.

  • Natalie Euley January 9, 2014 at 12:56 PM

    For me, my phone is more than just a phone. My phone is my alarm, and calculator, and bible, and calendar, and probably a million more things. Yes, I do have games on it, but what are you supposed to do when you are waiting in the grocery line by yourself? Or sitting around, waiting for the cafeteria to open? It’s more than just entertainment when I have nothing better to do. It’s part of my life, and giving it up is like throwing away half my life.

    • Courtney January 9, 2014 at 3:47 PM

      It’s pretty crazy that your phone play that big a part in your life. It is wrong that people are so attached to their phones. I think that you should really think about what kinds of connections you are missing out on. I know people that are very glued to their phones. It is one of the most disrespectful things when someone begins to answer a text when you are speaking to them. When you are by yourself in line find someone to smile at, or look around for familiar faces. When you are waiting for the cafeteria to open, just sit their and enjoy yourself. Let your mind work. I think that this is why so many kids have ADD and ADHD. They don’t know how to sit idol. I really think that you should think about all of things you are missing out on and think about the impact it would have on the people around you if your phone didn’t make up half of your life.

    • Terri January 9, 2014 at 4:37 PM

      my phone is my phone…I do not have internet access or any other fancy thing. I rarely text and I have been known to leave it at home when I am out with my friends or family.

    • Billy Conner January 9, 2014 at 6:57 PM

      I have two girls (16 ans 11) both of them have phones and I always worry about them becoming victims using their phones. Like when you see these people (mostly teenagers) walking down the side of the road with their head down and their earbuds in and make themselves victims. I always worry about that…just be careful of your surroundings when you’re on the phone.

    • Emma January 9, 2014 at 9:55 PM

      That is pathetic.

    • kendra January 10, 2014 at 3:09 PM

      I think that’s the point. We didn’t use to have the option to get on a phone while waiting in line at the grocery store or anywhere else. Now we do. Its a distraction. Myself included. I think this is a great article and it has helped motivate me to do the same. Its a great opportunity to get our noses out of our phoned and focus on our relationships. And not just of our friends and family, but of that random person who you may meet in the grocery line that needs a smile or kind word.

  • David January 9, 2014 at 12:17 PM

    Simple solution! It’s called the off button.

  • Ashley January 9, 2014 at 11:27 AM

    Um, maybe I didn’t understand this correctly, but for everyone harping on the fact that he is using social media to spread his message of “divorce” perhaps didn’t understand that he was referring to divorcing the distraction of having his phone on him at all times including those times which should be spent with his family and friends. He didn’t say that social media is BAD and we should all run away, he said that we should focus our efforts on REAL relationships first, and then use social media in our free time. In other words, our phones and Facebook shouldn’t take the place of having a conversation with our spouse at the dinner table. Seems like a pretty good concept.

    • cheryl January 9, 2014 at 12:19 PM

      couldnt have said it any better ashley!

    • Donna Lynn Rector January 9, 2014 at 2:38 PM

      Excellent response, Ashley! Very well said.

    • beth January 9, 2014 at 2:54 PM

      Well said Ashley

    • Pam January 10, 2014 at 9:54 AM

      Ashley you are so correct. I have a cell phone and I do not have it stuck to my ear or anywhere else. I have it mainly because my mother is 96 lives 5 hours away from me and if I am needed for her last rights, I want to be notified. We talk weekly but I still want to be “reachable” should her time arise.

  • Joseph Samaan January 9, 2014 at 10:35 AM

    It is true

  • You'll Soon Be Flying January 9, 2014 at 10:32 AM

    Oh I think your blog and I can be soul sisters. Especially this post. I have been feeling this way for YEARS, I even created a similar Challenge back in September 2009 (obviously way ahead of my time) aptly named, Project Eye Contact. I started getting this nagging feeling people were slowly disengaging with each other, the more technology was unrolling at lighting speed- and that was Before FB was a daily distraction, iphones were still fairly new to me, the don’t text and drive movement had not yet begun, and I had no idea about Twitter or even how to blog. Needless to say the challenge flopped, but I have recently in the last year seen its revival forming in the minds and words of so many others.. you included. Bravo. Wise words. Love this post. Love this blog. I am going to be keeping tabs on what you have to offer. Its fantastic stuff. Keep it up!

  • Shannon @ She's Got Issues January 9, 2014 at 10:08 AM

    Awesome idea! I “divorced” my iPhone last year and ONLY use it for emergencies only. I’ve gone a whole month on one charge at times. No apps, just to make sure it’s in use should my family have an emergency and NEED to get in touch with me. It’s about as important to me now as a tampon. Carry it when you need to, but only use when it’s the right time. Great post and good for you!

  • Kennedy January 9, 2014 at 10:00 AM

    Got to the “God” thing and stopped reading. The idea of putting an invisible man in the sky before your wife is pretty ludicrous.

    • Jack January 9, 2014 at 10:21 AM

      Ah. You’re one of those atheists. The absolute asswhole who can’t accept the idea that other people do believe, and don’t respect their own life choices. Good on you. Asshole.

    • Kennedy January 9, 2014 at 11:34 AM

      @Jack. Except, I don’t have to respect your beliefs. Common misconception.

    • Bo January 9, 2014 at 11:37 AM

      As an Atheist, I wholeheartedly agree with Jack. It’s the message we should be paying attention to, not the deity. Atheists or other non-believers should be practicing the “live and let live” ideology and understanding that the message is what is of importance. To get offended that someone would have a religious belief or follows a dogma that doesn’t represent our own attributes to far too much duality in the instance of a simple idea. Ludicrous or not, I suggest you give it another good read to absorb the message, as opposed to whether or not the author is a follower of any kind of god.

    • Maggie Shirley January 9, 2014 at 12:23 PM

      @Jack Are you a Christian? Cause you’re not really acting like one. Calling someone an asshole, you didn’t even do it for a good reason. Someone doesn’t share your beliefs and that makes them an asshole? Mmmm…ok.

    • Steve Carapiet January 9, 2014 at 2:41 PM

      I respect all opinions, yours I happen to agree with and I hope others get the hint that it’s not very…..(Christian, Buddist etc etc ) to call someone an asshole because of their convictions.

    • ylyan leigh von chelten January 9, 2014 at 2:43 PM

      “Invisible man in the sky” ? It’s no wonder you’re an atheists. The person or persons who tried to give you insight into how and why things are, failed you my friend.
      So, tell yourself this: Without a creator, a God if you please, NONE OF THIS (EVERYTHING YOU SEE, HEAR, TOUCH, SMELL AND TASTE) should exist; we didn’t just happen.

      P.S. There is a benevolent force or how else did Honey-Boo-Boo get a t.v. show!! 8^{P~~~~~~

    • AubVaz January 9, 2014 at 5:19 PM

      Try thinking of it as a source of inspiration to constantly encourage one to be better… Besides, everyone is religious – everyone worships a ‘God’. Not all may refer to it as such, but if you value your Smartphone above everything else, well then that is your ‘God’ – that is what you worship, because to ‘worship’ means to devote ones time and energy to learning about, spending time with, and following the teachings of a person OR thing…. It’s just this man decided to worship a different type of ‘God’ then you do – so why judge.

    • Steve January 9, 2014 at 7:57 PM

      If anyone can tell me where heaven is I’ll believe in “GOD” any “GOD”

    • Shane A January 10, 2014 at 6:41 AM

      @Steve – If you can tell me how the universe was created without using theory…I’ll start believing in man-kind again. Unfortunately there will never be a time where science will be able to explain how it all started…so I’d rather just keep trying to live my life according to Jesus and respect and love all those that I can.

  • Betsy January 9, 2014 at 9:00 AM

    This really hits with me…..sometimes I feel just plain lonely at home. To be fair, my husband is new to the smart phone….I am hoping after time that it won’t be in his hand all the time, the excitement of it will fade, and he will actually look at me again. I have found myself on mine more as well because he is on his. Going “off the grid” is more and more appealing to me :)

    • Elaine Brodhead January 9, 2014 at 9:43 AM

      Very few people have the simple manners so important for good relationships. Just look around whenever you are out in public. It’s truly amazing. Someone should invent a common courtesy app!

  • Seth January 9, 2014 at 8:15 AM

    Dumb phones are for smart people. Smart phones are for smart, lazy people.

    I completely agree! Smart phones are sucking the social energy out of people to the point that actual relationships are rare.

    • bryaninvent January 9, 2014 at 9:00 AM

      Do you have a Smart Phone? Do you use it daily. If you do, then you should not be critical of the technology, be critical of yourself and your ability to cope. It is called work-life balance. You can have technology and be a good person at the same time. It just takes discipline. It is called “attention management”. It is like blaming the fast food companies for being overweight. No one forces you to look at it all the time, you do that yourself. Put it down, enjoy your life and use it as needed, at the appropriate times.

  • Jody January 9, 2014 at 7:46 AM

    If this article upsets, annoys or rubs you the wrong way in ANY way, you probably need to take an objective look at yourself or go talk to a professional.

    • Steven January 9, 2014 at 8:20 AM

      ITT Old people scared of change

  • Susanna January 9, 2014 at 7:12 AM

    On divorcing the i phone I can really agree. What makes me sad to read is that you put God before your wife. If God exist he should be great enough to let you love your wife more than you love Him

    • kristen January 9, 2014 at 7:50 AM

      May God have mercy on your soul when your time comes Susanna, if thats what you got out of that then you truly have some deep rooted issues with the lord and I find that sad, how you take the article and turn it in to something hateful about God. Why?? If it was not for our lord and savior the man in the text would not have a wife, family, or friends. Our God should always come before anything in our life, for it was not for him we would have nothing.I hope you find peace in soul and I pray that one day you understand what I am trying to tell, and I pray that God touches your heart so you can see the truth. Love your sister.

    • Eddie January 9, 2014 at 7:50 AM

      Wouldn’t that kinda make Him (God) smaller (than his wife)?

    • john January 9, 2014 at 8:28 AM

      God is my creator. He is the only one that brought my wife to me in that he created her also and lead us together. In that He comes first.

    • Dorothy January 9, 2014 at 10:02 AM

      Sad that you don’t understand this.

    • Lori January 9, 2014 at 11:19 AM

      I was not sure how detailed your understanding of the Bible is so I thought I would help you understand this man’s comments and interject that it is Biblical for all of us to put God before anything else in our lives. Everything else benefits if he is #1. I know this may sound awkward if you have never studied this but if you pull out your Bible or seek some Bible-based guidance they can provide more detailed explanations for this instruction. Hope this helps..

    • Maria January 9, 2014 at 12:24 PM

      Susanna, I would be thrilled to hear my hubby say he loves God more than me. Because if he loves God, then he knows how to love me. God doesn’t need the love; we do. And we don’t truly know how to do it apart from him. I’m sorry that comment made you sad, I bet his wife his very happy.

    • Steve Carapiet January 9, 2014 at 2:45 PM

      There are a lot of those contradictions Sue which I’m sure you are aware of,,,i.e. why would an all powerful God give a hoot whether we put it first. But these people are stuck on having to believe what they were taught at 2 yrs old. Oh yes, Santa too, huh ;)

    • Steve January 9, 2014 at 8:18 PM

      Can anyone tell me where heaven is?

    • scott thompson January 9, 2014 at 9:19 PM

      Susanna, I totally understand. For 43 years of my 48 year life I could never understand the concept of loving God before my wife. I went to church and all… But I just couldn’t truthfully say I could do that. And then one night I said “YES” to JESUS. That I believed in Him and acknowledged that He was my savior and only way back to God. Then I fully understood how He can come first before my wife… because Jesus opened my eyes to a whole new way of life! And our 20 yr. marriage has never been better… With Him 1st and her 2nd :) Go with Jesus today!

    • Drea January 10, 2014 at 9:23 AM

      @Steve It appears from a study of the Scriptures that heaven is located in the North of our universe. When they would offer the sacrifice in the Old Testament they would offer them northward toward the Lord. Notice what Moses said in [Lev. 1:11]. Now, north is always the same direction from this planet no matter what time of day. Salvation comes from the north [Psalm 75:6], east, west, south is mentioned, but not north-therefore salvation comes from the north [from God, of course]. What else on North is there? Check out [Job 26:7]. This reference also says, “He stretched out the north over the empty place. There is an empty place or void in the North of our universe. This place is so large it could contain 200 of our Milky Way galaxies. The Milky Way is 100,000 light years across. Light traveling @ 186,000 miles per second would take 100,000 years to travel from one end of our Milky Way to the other. Other references to the north are: [Isa. 14:13; Psalm 448:1-2; and Hebrews 12:22].

    • Jinjo_Bread January 10, 2014 at 12:54 PM

      All of these replies are completely ridiculous.

    • Jinjo_Bread January 10, 2014 at 1:00 PM

      There is no north in space.

  • Harpo January 9, 2014 at 6:57 AM

    What’s all the chatter about ??? It’s a phone people; p-h-o-n-e. Use it first and foremost as such and the problem is instantly resolved. BTW my wife has one of those pieces of crap phones. We are with the same provider. She can be standing beside me somewhere and can’t make a phone call because it only has 1 bar. Whereas my Dino-phone always gets through. Darn thing has so many bells-n-whistles that it just can’t handle being a phone any more.

  • SAS January 9, 2014 at 6:39 AM

    People are reading your blog on their iPhones. You say lets share this and all divorce our phones, but the social media you are spreading this on will mainly be viewed as an update on a smart phone. Although I completely agree with your message, the way you have chosen to share it seems contradictory. Even if you argue that people can see and share this message via their computer instead of a smart phone, is it really any better. We are all too “plugged in” is what you are trying to say it seems. But no one would read this or care what you were saying if we weren’t getting Facebook updates on our iPhones that someone just shared this article on their wall.

    • Abigail Rivera January 9, 2014 at 7:03 AM

      well if were all so “plugged in” then wouldn’t this be the RIGHT WAY to share his message? gotta start somewhere, right?

    • sara January 9, 2014 at 7:04 AM

      At first I kinda agreed with your comment. I then realized what a genius way to get this message out to many people. Yes it may be ironic this message came via the very thing he is speaking against but what a clever way to say “in your face” to our phones by using it to send out this message. Very clever. I read this on Facebook and now will try to use my phone less and talk with my husband and children more. We use we have to reach many, and many this will reach.

    • angela January 9, 2014 at 7:27 AM

      I agree with you… If you read the information in the “ABOUT ME” tab on his facebook and social media sites you’ll see his predominant platform is social media. And he thrives on this… he posts his excitement about his blogs going on global news just hours ago. Which of course fits our culture and is a great ministry approach … so why is he saying he is divorcing his entire platform for ministry and then doesn’t do it. His article was written Dec 31 2013 and he was already responding to posts and creating new posts on Jan 1 2014… that is one seriously short lived resolution!!!
      His title using the word “DIVORCE” is obviously used for shock value only and by his own actions does not reflect his CALL TO OTHERS TO JOIN HIM in “DIVORCING” devices and social media. And maybe this is my frustration… using religious manipulation to do something that just common sense… and then not even doing it himself.
      I also love his shock value titled articles about dating while he’s married… that’s an old concept made new through SOCIAL MEDIA… and I agree with many of the people commenting… lets add in a couple kids and a frustrated wife while this guy grows his “ministry” and see what kind of conversation she’ll have with a trusted friend over coffee in five years.
      I hope them only the best but great intentions and pure motives still produce the same realities…

    • Jody January 9, 2014 at 7:36 AM

      SAS, your comment doesn’t make sense. If the target audience of this message are people across the world that are excessively “plugged in,” is he supposed to put this in the local newspaper or post flyers and expect it to reach these people? No. You put it online where it will be reshared on Facebook by the people it touches. The point is to reach and touch someone.. I doubt this article has caused anyone to spend more time online than they normally would, but I’m sure it’s made thousands of people evaluate their priorities.

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  • Maida January 9, 2014 at 5:22 AM

    I think it’s a great idea. I wish more people would be like you. I do not even have a cell phone although I may consider one for emergency or safety reasons. Your relationships will be all the better for it. Good luck!

  • Mary January 9, 2014 at 5:04 AM

    I have an old fashioned flip phone that I can call or receive a call. It is all I need!!!

    • John January 9, 2014 at 6:44 AM

      Mary, if you had a smart phone, you’d fall in love with it ;-). It’s got everything lol.

    • serenity January 9, 2014 at 6:56 AM

      I agree! Cell phones are getting way out of hand! New law No Texting while driving! Think about how many people have died while texting while driving a car? I myself can honestly say I have never done that! In a split second something could happen that will cause an accident! And Hurt or kill the other people ! They cost a lot! And seeing people with the best costly phones that are on government asst. And having them go off in church, or a funeral is bad! I was raised in the 60’s and the dial phones were just fine! Beepers were worse! And now there is a directory you can get any ones cell number! I am disabled and have a tracker phone! That I hardly use! I use my land phone! Seeing 7 yr old kid’s with cell phones at school? Playing games and Facebooking? No wonder so many come up missing! They should be used right!

  • lonelyreload January 9, 2014 at 3:37 AM

    i’m totally agree with you..

  • Jamie January 8, 2014 at 11:45 PM

    I’d like to say as a young adult (23) Only reason I have fb anymore is because I help promote my friends I grew up w in Detroit as amazing djs not ur New age wanna-bes who claim they are real artists the media has ruined my generation and brainwashed them into the true zombie apocalypse

  • Barb Imler January 8, 2014 at 9:14 PM

    Love it!! I don’t have a phone…. and I am frequently frustrated by how the phone technology is stealing people’s time….. Thank you… I will certainly repost this (with the hope that friends and family read this… and join your divorce movement!)

  • Adrian Williams January 8, 2014 at 9:10 PM

    I manage the time I use my iPhone very well, because material things don’t really entice me. I can’t bring it with me to my grave, but the point is I only use phone unless it’s important meaning my family needs to contact me or for my celebrity career where I get content emails and texts in which my manager responds to them.

  • Christy January 8, 2014 at 8:40 PM

    One thing we have always done, is when a big group of us go to dinner, the phones sit in a stack in the middle of the table, and the first person to grab theirs has to pay the whole bill. It definitely gives people some separation time from their phone.

    • Ashley S January 9, 2014 at 2:46 AM

      This is weird… Because I served a family that did this at red bowl in lexington! Gave me a great idea for my family! :)

    • beth higginbotham January 9, 2014 at 2:55 PM

      Great idea if most of your friends have their phones glued to their hands when they should be eating or conversing, but what about the people who have to answer their phones in case it’s an emergency? Most of my friends are unwaged carers for family members (as I am) and we have our phones in our pockets 24/7, as we’re “on call ” anytime and all times.I always excuse myself and go somewhere quickly to answer mine though-and then most likely have to leave in a hurry, dinner eaten or not.

  • moica10 January 8, 2014 at 8:36 PM

    First divorce your computer, then your phone amd then think about what you are doing!!!!!!!!!!

  • Ben Melbye January 8, 2014 at 8:09 PM

    Not everyone needs a “divorce” from their phone (unless they’re an asshole). It’s not that hard to use a phone “responsibly”. Here’s some simple rules: don’t text and drive, don’t talk on your phone in an elevator, keep it on vibrate so people don’t have to hear your stupid ringtone and message alerts, ignore your phone when hanging out with real live people… in short, just don’t do things with your smartphone that annoy other people. No need to just give it up… just give up your stupid annoying habits!

    • angie January 8, 2014 at 10:21 PM

      you are so right i use my phone when i need to or for fun too (it is not a sin), but it is never on when i am working (if my family needs me they call my job) or if i go out with friends in don’t answer it unless it is important, (and its quick), all around me i see people more and more distracted by the phone than by real life and family. i find it sad.

  • Chancellor January 8, 2014 at 7:23 PM

    But this comes to us through… The internet

  • Gaylen Carroll Rhudy January 8, 2014 at 6:11 PM

    I think its the best idea I”ve heard in a very long time. I pray that people think about this. It is taking America over. Lets pray that everyone will listen and seriously think about what it is doing to our relationships. Thanks for caring enough to try to open peoples eyes.

  • Diane Dombrovski Czech January 8, 2014 at 5:36 PM

    I really think that most people are so consumed with technology and especially their phones that they don’t even realize how it is affecting them and those around them. I work a seasonal job at a local apple orchard. They are only open mid-August through late November. Very popular place, known for their amazing soup, sandwiches, salads and of coarse apple pie! It always annoys me when I see people sitting at the table on their cell phones instead of talking to each other. The one that really got me was a family of 4, parents in late 30’s and 2 young teenage children came in, I took their order and before I had even grabbed the last menu, all 4 took out their phones and didn’t put them down until I brought them their food. This is meant to be a fun family outing for most people, but this particular family really got me thinking and I came home and set new rules for the cell phones in our family, Still have a little work to do, but it is better, The phones never come out when we are out and about! We as a society need to get back to our roots and remember that cell phones are a privilege that didn’t exist 15-20 years ago!

  • Stephen Worthington January 8, 2014 at 4:10 PM

    Great blog post. Thanks for sharing something so close to my own heart. I’m also going to give up reading the comments threads on blog posts because I think the amount of criticism you got for “not quoting bible verses”, “posting misleading titles”, “some other insult that isn’t blessing you as the bible they’re accusing you of not referencing tells us to do”. So with that I say bless you. Bless you, bless you, bless you. Have a great 2014!

    • Jarrid Wilson Author January 8, 2014 at 4:42 PM

      Thank you!

    • Timothy January 8, 2014 at 5:49 PM

      Don’t have an iPhone. Don’t even have a cell phone anymore. Don’t even need them. Have phone in car (On Star) in case of an emergency!!!

  • sarah January 8, 2014 at 4:07 PM

    i love how no matter where i go on the internet there are ALWAYS those people who turn the most positive things into negative shit.
    i guess only jarrid and i can see the brainwash right before our eyes. no one wants to enjoy life for what it is and the simple things anymore. i believe this is what the article is realy getting at. the things we care about now are whole lot different than a couple hundred years ago. some of you actually think because african children hardly eat our over use of technology isnt bad…when thats not true at all. just because they have it worse in one way, doesnt mean we dont have a whole notha kind of bad over here…because we do and its not selfish to focus on you for a while. self discovery is wonderful.

  • Joe Boerner January 8, 2014 at 2:22 PM

    Decent article.. the only bothersome part is that he didn’t use any Scripture reference in the article.
    Technology usage is based on conscious, 1st Corinthians 8. The apostle Paul through the Holy Spirit used the illustration of food, can be also used for sports, videogames, books, clothes, vanity, speech, etc..

    Is it an idol – sin?
    (Pick one)
    (a) Yes – Surrender the technology to Christ
    (b) No – Ask God for protection from the temptation of technology
    (c) Not sure – Ask the Holy Spirit for sensitivity in this area

    • hannah January 8, 2014 at 4:37 PM

      maybe because hes not a preacher…this article wasnt supposed to be religious.

    • DB January 8, 2014 at 5:06 PM

      @Hannah – He speaks of spending time with God, so he wasn’t being secular in the blog post. It also says that Jarrid is a pastor in his description.

    • Shayne January 8, 2014 at 11:26 PM

      Maybe just maybe not everyone is a christian reading this – open your mind!

    • Smokey Combs January 9, 2014 at 12:40 AM

      I did not come to this article for religious instruction, scriptural guidance or any other grand purpose. I came to see the opinion expressed by someone who is as annoyed by personal technology taking the place of actual interaction with people as I am. I thought the article was well written and clear and through it I felt myself thinking, “This is a good and thoughtful man who is living his priorities according to his beliefs.” I did not know this was a written by a pastor until I read the byline at the bottom. I do not need scriptural quotations and Bible thumping to understand that the real Christian is he who lives according to what he believes, and uses what influence he can to help others do the same. For that, I bow my head to you, Jarrid. Well done.

    • Joe Boerner January 9, 2014 at 12:45 PM

      To all who replied –
      The word Pastor has changed between the early Messianic Congregations and the early Church, and we only see remnants of these two entities, today.
      Please look up the word Pastor, and the origins of it. DB and I both address it.
      You can go here, if you choose to: http://biblehub.com/

      Shayne – In the early Messianic (Jewish) Congregations and Christian (Gentile) Church, the Apostle’s would address both non-believers (such as Pharisees, Orthodox Judaism as we know it today, Gnostics, Atheists in Greece, etc.) and address believers. My mind is quite open in terms of what reality is and what reality is not. To assume, that I’m closed because I don’t hold to view, is wrong, because you don’t show your own view.
      In you choose to, please in the Bible, the book of Acts, chapter 2 for the Messianic Jewish Congregations, and Christian Gentile Church in Acts, chapter 10.

      Smokey Combs – Well, for those who need Scripture and application, so they can put the two together, like Lego’s.
      As for those that are not informed, more of the churches of today reject Scripture – the Bible text, and at the same time reject the God, Jesus Christ, and the Holy Spirit. When Scripture is used, it is taken out of context and the application falls short or used out of manipulation.
      What I did, put the Bible text so believers can see the cross-reference to what Mr. Wilson is saying. In it’s proper context, the principle of Hermeutics (Science of Interpretation) and Exegesis (Application of the Interpretation).

      Also, if you look for someone’s opinion, why does it matter?
      It just an opinion, nothing more.. Why not look for Truth and Truth alone?
      Doesn’t secular society give their opinions on things?
      What would make Mr. Wilson’s view different from any others?
      Should Scripture be important to a believers life in Christ?

      To all:
      I am being fair in my evaluation, nor did I attack Mr. Wilson’s character at all.
      Please be aware, that I’m not here to create any form of doubt, but to address a problem or problems when I do see them, to bring things that are in darkness, into the Light.

  • Andrew McLean January 8, 2014 at 2:21 PM

    great post, i wrote about this my self at http://gospelperspective.wordpress.com/2013/10/20/poor-digital-diet/ check it out

  • Som January 8, 2014 at 2:10 PM

    Read would be exciting and curious if this phrase was at the end of the piece, “Her name is iPhone 5”

  • Daniel Mateer (@DANceMateerial) January 8, 2014 at 1:17 PM

    In 2014 I’ve Made a Pledge To Murder Someone Close To Me

    Now before you think I’m going to kill a friend or family member, I’ll let you know that’s not the case. I’m going to kill the voice inside my head that tells me to be lazy instead of embrace every day to its fullest

    ^ See? It’s easy to make a horribly misleading title as a cheap shot to get people to open my blog page.

    • NancY C, January 8, 2014 at 2:13 PM

      I have a regular phone just for emergencies and it sits in my purse. I could careless about apps; texting’ and whatever else one does on a phone. I have better things to do, like talking to people in person; writing a letter; enjoying life, Our children and grandchildren don’t know how to do math, spell,look eye to eye to a person and talk to them, and enjoy life. Technology is nice and all, BUT It shouldn[t rule anyone!!!!!!!!

    • Steve Carapiet January 9, 2014 at 2:48 PM

      lol, well said.

  • Roger Christie January 8, 2014 at 1:16 PM

    If you are retarded enough to let a phone consume your life then you should bash your head in with it lol. This is great technology that pushes us forward, and gives us information and the power of the world in our pocket in hands. If you are stupid enough, or don’t have enough will to use it when necessary, you have a bigger problem that has nothing to do with technology. I make my living from tech being a graphic artist, it’s my passion and i love it, yet it does not consume me. Most people are doing mindless things with it. Smart people use it to change the world. That’s the problem. Most humans are mindless.

    • Joe Mahogany January 8, 2014 at 1:27 PM

      Before you start rambling off about “how great the iPhone is” look at how you are speaking to this guy who was trying to give good advice to people who are wasting lots of time on their devices. Beating down a guy who is just trying to help by using sentences like “if you are retarded enough” or “if you are stupid enough” and then building yourself up by saying things like “it does not consume me… smart people use it to change the world.”

      Wow. Congratulations on being one of the few who don’t find themselves addicted to their phones. This obviously isn’t for you. Jarrid even said at the end “Mind you. Not everyone struggles with this. But I hope you will take this into consideration regardless.”

      Even if you don’t “struggle” with it, you can still be supportive of people who do struggle.

    • sarah January 8, 2014 at 3:52 PM

      its not retardation roger…i assume your 40+ and know nothing about how a phone can consume your life unknowingly. being raised with phones make it just that much harder to give one up. something im sure you dont quite understand.its subliminal messages that have been in our head since the day we were born. listening and looking at all the adds, watching our parents with their phones and computers. that makes it just that much more tempting to have one yourself. when everyone of your friends has this app or is using that social media site…well i just couldnt blame such vulnerable minds for getting trapped into the lies.
      its not retardation, its the 21st century.

    • Chris January 8, 2014 at 5:30 PM

      attempting to impress by affecting greater importance, talent, culture, etc., than is actually possessed.
      “a pretentious literary device”
      synonyms: affected, ostentatious, showy; More

    • Mark Christian Stewart January 8, 2014 at 9:53 PM

      Kind of harshly put, but I agree.

  • Richard Dean January 8, 2014 at 1:07 PM

    I wonder how many of you are lieing,just to feel good about your sorry buts.

  • Lena January 8, 2014 at 12:45 PM

    I agree that phones are taking over people. They can’t leave em alone for one second. I use my phone a lot because I text my boyfriend who lives a long ways away. But when you’re having a meal, have people over, are at someones house, playing a game, or visiting, like get rid of the stupid thing. You’re not going to die from being away from your phone for a couple of hrs. 5 years ago everyone could live no problem with phones being few and far between. We can today too.

    • Debie January 8, 2014 at 2:17 PM

      Well said!

  • Adilah Brodie January 8, 2014 at 12:22 PM

    I NEVER married him (My Android)!! My husband and I have a rule…as soon as we get to our door, ALL electronics, devices, etc are turned OFF!!! There are no exceptions to this rule. We do not allow these gadgets to control our lives and let it take away our free time together… So, Good for you Minister Jarrid! God 1st as always!!!

    • kcmalone January 8, 2014 at 2:57 PM

      yeah my bother has that policy. so his phone goes off and I never get to talk to him since he doesnt have a home phone. not necessarily a good one. There are definately a way to have a cell and use it wisely without absolutes.

  • LE January 8, 2014 at 12:11 PM

    EXACTLY!!! As a wise friend of mine once said “BE WHERE YOU ARE”. I think there will be a backlash in the next generation and everyone will want off the grid.

  • the new guy January 8, 2014 at 11:21 AM

    1st world problems lol, there are people dying all over the world because of oppression and starvation there are still races enslaved…..and we debating cell phone usage and how much is to much and how much is enough. lol. If using your fancy phone is the biggest problem in your life then consider yourself EXTREMELY lucky…so lucky. I bet the starving children in africa that will never know what a warm meal is are really feeling badly about your over-usage of your electronic devices.

    • Ryan Joshua January 8, 2014 at 12:00 PM

      Really fantastic point. Thank you. For a man of god, this article is surprisingly shallow.

    • Lee January 8, 2014 at 12:04 PM

      Man, you are so right. I can’t believe I wasted my time reading this article. I should be “all over the world” right now fixing it. And definitely talking about it. How could I waste my time not thinking, reading, writing, dreaming, eating, sleeping, breathing these issues I was so unaware of. Please send me the link to your blog where you speak the truth about these matters and book me a ticket on your next trip to africa to save the starving children. I have to assume you scour the internet for inane articles like this so you can enlighten the authors. Why else would you have read it? And should we stone the author of this article? I think so. Oh wait, shut up.

    • Michael Fermin January 8, 2014 at 12:18 PM

      Modern life comes with its own set of unique problems and distractions. This is consistent with the human condition. Yes there are people around the world that don’t have their basic needs met, but that doesn’t at all trivialize the problems of modern living. Realizing that people out there struggle with affording their most basic needs should bring one perspective on whats important in life, but it doesn’t mean turning a blind eye to our own unique set of challenges that come with living in the modern world.

    • Joanne Walker January 8, 2014 at 12:31 PM

      I’d say you’re missing the point. These are separate issues and he has a good point. I assume thinking of starving children in Africa will certainly help you justify your phone usage?? Hope you give to those starving children you are so concerned about. :| Bringing to light a lessor topic, does not take away from the more serious problems in this world but it is still a very important topic, as anyone knows how much these devices have interfered with life/interaction with others.

    • Chris Lee Smith January 8, 2014 at 12:41 PM

      How did everyone on here respond and see this? lol oh yes… electronic devices (I agree this may be a problem but it’s really pathetic there is an actual group for it wtf?) why are people so upset that they over use there phone when there is a lot of people else where wishing they had some food not an extra data plan ughhh..

    • sarah January 8, 2014 at 4:32 PM

      just because they have it worse doesnt mean we dont have a hole notha kind of bad over here. do you honestly give to those children in africa? go to charity’s or events?..if so, than im proud that you stand behind your word…but its not selfish to put yourself first in life for a while. maybe you may be blind to how we have been deceived all our lifes but if you dont believe in self-growth, discovery or even just enjoying the simplicity of life. than im sorry you are so unlucky because thats the best thing we have in this world are not objects or food…they are the moments and memories we have.

  • San January 8, 2014 at 11:19 AM

    I hardly use my phone at all. Its a tool, not a distraction. I use it for business mainly, for logging appointments, to dos, text msg (which are few and far between) and not really much else – I wouldn’t do without it tho, as I’m not good with time keeping – I wouldn’t want it to get in the way of my family.

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  • Tommy January 8, 2014 at 10:16 AM

    • Ray pollard January 10, 2014 at 12:59 AM

      Amazing how simple this video is, yet brings to light the insidious nature of the smartphone. I am guilty of this on occasion, but I am trying to leave my phone at home when I run simple errands. The sad truth is I feel guilty for not having it with me…but I am getting over that. I grew up without a cell phone and did justr fine. Maybe it’s time to get back to that state! Great post.

  • Jeff January 8, 2014 at 9:45 AM

    I have found that my wife and I talk much less now than we used to because she is on her phone almost constantly. It has gotten to the point that when she isn’t using her phone we struggle to find something to talk about. I wonder if anyone else is experiencing what I am trying to describe here.

    • tiffany January 8, 2014 at 11:22 AM

      I know exactley what youre going through…my husband spends all his time on his phone even rather do that than play with his son and if hes not on it theres an awkward silence and no one knows what to say we never had this problem when we first got together 5 years ago when he had a simple flip phone

    • TritoneChris January 8, 2014 at 1:25 PM


  • Heloiza January 8, 2014 at 8:56 AM

    I totally agree, but I am eternally grateful to the internet and social apps to help me to find my future husband and today we are very happy with our son… thank you internet lol

  • BritneeZee January 8, 2014 at 8:43 AM

    This issue at hand is idolatry. Whatever becomes our source of fulfillment is our god. The god of entertainment is at work here. All of the pleasures under the sun are meaningless according to King Solomon. Like chasing the wind. We must therefore look beyond our sun and to the true God above. He alone deserves our worship. Not anything on earth. That’s not to say that what God created isn’t good or to be enjoyed. We just cannot make things our god.

  • Laine January 8, 2014 at 8:41 AM

    Yesterday one of my 3 year old twins asked me to take their school pictures off the fridge. He proceeded to take them to my husband, who was on FB on his phone after dinner at the table. “Look Daddy!,” he said, so proud. “Mmm hmmm” my husband replied as he scrolled and Liked and whatnot. “He’s trying to show you something'” I said. “I see,” he said as he glanced at Taylor. “What a picture!” he exclaimed, eyes back on his phone.
    This is an all-too-often scene at our house – by both of us – as demonstrated by my other twin 3 year old when I asked, “Tyler, can you please hand me the remote?” He replied, “No, I’m too busy on my FaceBook” and continued to draw on a stenographers pad. Cringe. I’m all in for divorcing that SOB.

  • rachelscheyer3 January 8, 2014 at 8:38 AM

    A valuable, profound, and thought-provoking post! Thank you for sharing. God bless. Rachel Maria

  • Lakshmi Rajagopalan January 8, 2014 at 8:18 AM

    I have actually managed to stay off my phone – like I do not check msgs often, all my email is manual push (so no DINGs to alert me), I am terrible with whatsApp, For me the biggest problem is time I spend online (excluding the time at work) – blogging (yes, it is a good stress buster and a good hobby), looking/reading articles – some informative, some just noise – i just have to figure out to cut the noise out….am getting there but it will take some time. I also wanted to check if I can use your post as a starting point to blog something similar. Lemme know.

  • Geek Gal January 8, 2014 at 8:07 AM

    I think if you feel you need to unplug then go for it. For me I actually feel like I am more aware of friends and family because of facebook. I am more in touch with people not less. Especially those friends that live far away. My husband died in 2013 and I actually feel less isolated because of facebook and being able to access others online. I say do what you feel you need to do for your own good, but don’t try to push it on the rest of us.

    • Mary Wilson January 8, 2014 at 8:43 AM

      I don’t think that he was trying to push it on to anyone else, just taking a stand. I’ve seen it and been on the receiving end. I have an “old-fashioned” cell phone – flip phone. There is nothing MORE annoying than being on a date with someone and they check there messages and/or are playing with their phone. And THEN there’s the answering of it while on the date – when NOT even work related! It’s rude and insensitive. You have NO idea whagt YOU are missing around you when you are with others or in “public” with what’s going on, being said. What is really interesting is when a user of these phones gets ticked when someone else knows their business because that particular user was using in front of the other person. Hey, it’s like this, we didn’t have these things 25/30/40yrs ago did we? What did we do? have less fights, a lot less cheating, a lot less gossip, etc. Admittedly, there is some good in it, BUT, people don’t think about others anymore, only themselves, hence your comment. The man whom originated the “story” was thinking of others, wasn’t he? And with your comment, somewhere, by at least one individual, you must’ve been criticized – because you’re on the defense!

    • Joanne Walker January 8, 2014 at 12:39 PM

      I see what you’re saying but I believe his point is for those who are sitting in a room with someone else or several others, namely family members and yet they spend all their time communicating with other’s online. I don’t think he’s pushing anything, merely bringing to light what so many other’s are already feeling…ignored by that someone next too you in the room.

  • Rianne January 8, 2014 at 6:37 AM

    I think your intentions are great and you’re absolutely right. However, I have only recently gotten an iPhone. I was late to the smartphone game and then got a BlackBerry, to which I also was not very attached. My iPhone I use much more often, yes, and actually it has been quite the relief. Why? Because wherever I went people would be attached to their phones and thus I felt slightly offended and extremely bored. Now I can just get my own phone and play candy crush or some other lame game. I do not need it as much as others do, still, and only get it out in situations like these when around others, but at least I do not need to be bored when others would rather spend time with their virtual friends or play useless games than deal with real life and actual people. Do I agree with this? No, not at all, but that’s just the way the world works now. I hate it, but I’m not going back to being bored. I can make my own decision when to get out my phone and when to have the decency to leave it in my pocket on silent and be with my friends who are actually there.

    • Pamela Lee January 8, 2014 at 7:00 AM

      Rianne I have been in situations like that but it wasnt a problem for me as I always have a good book/magazine or my kindle in my bag. This way I can kill time without feeling like ive wasted it. It may not be the same for you. Maybe a puzzle book, a travel chess app on your phone, a sketchpad or notebook, or even some colouring in to do might be better. Im not trying to tell you what to do, im just saying there are ways to deal with the crowd zombification thing without either joining it or feeling like youve wasted part of your day that you may not have considered. Not that I have a problem with people that find genuine value in candycrush, each to their own, but im not one of them and it sounds like you arent, either.

      • Rianne January 29, 2014 at 12:51 PM

        Thanks Pamela, you’re right. Though I somehow have been sucked into the Candy Crush thing.. I was like ‘let’s see what this is all about.. ok, I don’t get it.. what is fun about this?’ *keeps playing, confused* ‘I hate the levels with the ingredients’ ‘I hate the levels with the gelatine’ Oh wait. Thats ALL levels. And now its like I WANT TO BEAT THIS STUPID LEVEL! DAAH. >.< And considering reading books.. I can't read a book at a meeting like that because I hate being interrupted when I read.. which means that if I were to start to reading I might as well leave the place completely. Which I do sometimes. I just go join a different group to chat with if possible.

    • Rosie January 8, 2014 at 9:03 AM

      I agree with everything Pamela said, but also think you need to get some new friends or drop the ones who aren’t “actually there”. Also If you’re so “bored” when just sitting by yourself maybe get some hobbies, read a book, or some adhd.

      • Rianne January 29, 2014 at 12:54 PM

        I have dropped a few. But you have to face the fact that everyone is doing it to some degree and most of which can be really good friends, they just don’t realize what they’re doing. And I have plenty of hobbies thank you very much but those I carry out when I am actually BY MYSELF. Not in a social setting. And I don’t have adhd. I am the most tranquil person ever, so that’s ridiculous. I think it’s ridiculous in general that everyone who can’t sit still is being drugged. Just give them something to do.

    • Rosie January 8, 2014 at 9:04 AM


  • sarah January 8, 2014 at 2:28 AM

    I think some people didn’t get the point of Divorce. Jarrid didn’t mean “phones” are bad but we are so in to them and we forget all our duties, we find that every one is in the house but holding a gadget we forget to say hi to our loved ones, forget to talk to our God that is through prayer. Please can we stop being judgmental on other people’s faith, that is not Christianity.

    its very clear. myself i usually go to sleep by 2300hrs but i find 3hrs later am still on my phone so we should limit the time we use on our “smartphones”

  • RicRok January 8, 2014 at 1:49 AM

    I’m sorry but my wife and family come before god. Yes I am a believer and yes I do love our lord… But in this world there is only family that I would die for. Take it as you wish but my conscience in this matter is clear. Family first…. always. I’ll meet our Lord in another life.

    • LvBurrell January 8, 2014 at 5:16 AM

      My dear friend, I am so glad that you love your family a great deal. However, that is completely against scripture and the will of GOD. Search the Word and ask the LORD to reveal to you how to love Him first. When you love Him first, the love you have for your family actually becomes stronger. PLUS, you give Him access to take care of your family instead of you bearing that weight on your own. Give Him access to all that you love by loving Him first, my friend. That’s the way it should be and it is a magnificent way to live.

    • Lena January 8, 2014 at 9:23 AM

      Actually, the first commandment that Jesus taught is to love the Lord your God, first and foremost. Next is to love your neighbor as yourself (family, friends, etc). There is a reason for this command as a believer or non-believer. When judgment day comes, your family can’t save you—only God can. Its the same in the vice verse, you can’t save your family, only God can. And when I say “judgement day”, it means the day you die. You will either face eternal life or eternal damnation depending on how you live your life on earth. You either have salvation or you don’t. A true believer knows these commandments.

      Matthew 22:36-40

    • the lost prophet January 8, 2014 at 10:08 AM

      Do all those who worship a different God go to hell? Do you go to hell for caring about fellow man more than the God you choose to worship? My God tells me to live my life the best I can. He tells me that making mistakes is OK, that is what makes us human. He tells me that in order to become part of his kingdom, I must realize what it means to be truly human. He teaches me to put others on earth before him. He teaches me to keep an open mind. To be respectful of those who can not see the world for how he intended it be. He teaches me to be tolerant of other religions. Even if they have taken their beliefs to the extreme and have forgotten how to be human. He assures that those who do good in their lives, those who work to make the world a better place, those who put the well being of fellow man ahead of everything else will earn their salvation.

  • lyn wilson January 8, 2014 at 1:36 AM

    very good article and so true…thanks for sharing

  • Maureen Mulder (@FaceonlineNL) January 8, 2014 at 1:35 AM

    I’m not divorcing my phone, but I AM actually making time to spend more quality time with the people that are most important to me. To be actually *present*, without computer or phone….

  • Maureen Mulder (@FaceonlineNL) January 8, 2014 at 1:34 AM

    I’m not devorcing my phone, but I AM actually making time to spend more quality time with the people that are most important to me. To be actually *present*, without computer or phone….

  • andrew January 8, 2014 at 12:17 AM

    its called learn how to be a normal human being that acknowledges and greets people instead of everything else you do. like everyone has an iPhone, they all do the same shit…whats wrong with you?

  • Dan A January 7, 2014 at 11:22 PM

    let me get this straight, you are getting rid of your iPhone because it distracts you from your real #1, a ficticious entity you call “god”? .. yes, the iPhone is the distraction.. haha I wonder how much time you waste on the real issue here.

    • URAI Diot January 8, 2014 at 12:58 AM

      Why are you an idiot concerned with other peoples faith?

    • Christopher January 8, 2014 at 2:20 AM

      Are you serious? There are 2070 letters in that post, making up 460 words. 3 letters out of those 2070 is “god”, and you lose your shit.
      The other 459 words were good enough for me to ignore the one word i don’t believe in.
      At least the blog author is doing something real to be a better husband to his wife, and i love that! God or no god, stepping up for you significant other is a good thing, so stop giving him hate.

    • Alayna January 8, 2014 at 6:08 AM

      Dan, I am glad you agree that the iPhone (or any electronic gadget that takes up most of our time) is a distraction. Do not discredit people who believe in God. I know beyond a shadow of a doubt because of experiences. Please don’t call God a fictitious entity. I am so much joy and a lot less stress when I recognize that my Heavenly Father has my future in his hands and I don’t need to worry about anything. I’m sorry you do have this joy I have.

    • Amy January 8, 2014 at 7:23 AM

      The “real issue” is that you believe differently than him. That’s all. Don’t attack the man on his own blog.

    • Anthony Evans January 8, 2014 at 8:47 PM

      Dan, nobody has brought up the egregious contradiction that atheists believe that there is nothing in which to believe. I would ask that you show the same respect to someone who chooses to believe in God. We Christians are free to practice our belief just as you are free practice your unbelief. Don’t criticize someone else’s use of his or her First Amendment rights while exercising the very same rights yourself. “Ain’t that the pot calling the kettle black…”

  • Gary January 7, 2014 at 9:00 PM

    Bill, God is not looking for religious people. You need to look no further than Isaiah or Matthew to see this. Jesus repeatedly calls the religious people hypocrits and in Isaiah, God says the religious people honor Him with their lips, but their hearts are far from Him. God does not want you to be a religious person, He wants your heart.

    As far as proof, there is truckloads of evidence. But here is just a bit. The Law of Cause and Effect says that every material effect requires an adequate cause that precedes the effect. The universe is material, thus it requires a cause. The Bible describes God as All-Powerful. That is certainly an adequate cause. It also describes God as non-material, which places Him outside the law, which makes sense since God created the law. Keep in mind that this was written before the Law of Cause and Effect was discovered. So it was not written to fit the law. Other laws support this, such as Thermodynamics. Entropy shows that the universe is wearing out. So we know that it is not eternal. Eternal things do not wear out. This proves that there was a beginning confirming cause and effect. This doesn’t even scratch the surface of all the evidence confirming the God of the Bible. I hope this helps.

    • faisal January 7, 2014 at 9:09 PM

      So if I say I am all-powerful, am I now a legitimate cause of the universe?

    • yourancestor January 8, 2014 at 12:16 AM

      There is no need to do or say everything based on a book. Get a life(you owe your life to your parent who fucked hard and worked hard to bring you up until you could read this). Therefore, put your parent at first. Stop misleading people into your own thinking in a small box. Humanity is better off without something that was initially created to take individualism from you. Religions(all, are the same, guide its believers to be neutral to/in nature) are just guidelines. Have your own thinking about this world by observing your surroundings. The book you are using as guidance to your life now is more than 2000 years old, so it is not be relevant to use smoke to communicate with neighboring villages.

    • Steve January 8, 2014 at 10:44 AM

      Gary, I am not taking you to task on your beliefs, nor do I believe it is my place or right to do so. I love that you have your priorities and that they work for you and your family. To briefly play devils advocate (no pun intended), you are talking about a law of science and any scientist will tell you that a law is only a theory that has not been proven wrong yet. You can have 50 million positive outcomes of an experiment and only one negative to which the “law” is no longer. Just a thought!

  • Steven January 7, 2014 at 8:35 PM

    For everyone bringing up the dictionary definition of ‘divorce’, I feel like the title implies a marriage divorce by its phrasing, even though the general meaning of ‘separation’ fits as well.

    However, as other comments have said, I think the title has the effect of highlighting the author’s relationship with his phone, and also how strongly he wishes to separate himself from it.

    Also, it’s disappointing that the brief mention about God can distract so many from the core of this message. It feels like some didn’t consider the message for itself, whether it’s personally true or not. If either love or hate toward the author affects an opinion on the article, i think the truth is being clouded.

  • Gary January 7, 2014 at 8:14 PM

    Luke, I must disagree with you. God is absolutely real. Science, archaeology, history, and philosophy all confirm this truth. I absolutely put God before my wife and I will tell you why. It is a command from God to love my wife the way Jesus Christ loves the church. Jesus gave up His own life for the church. This means that a man should give up his life for his wife. He should be taking care of his wife before his own needs. Any man who does not put God first does not treat his wife as God commands. This explains why 51% of marriages end in divorce by the 5th year. The man who does not have God 1st in his life is the man who deserves the beating. You cannot love your wife enough if God is not 1st in your life.

    • Ty January 7, 2014 at 9:09 PM

      Please watch zeitgeist on netflix there you will find the true answers but you must not stop watching. Take in the facts that are proven from science, philosophy, archeology and history. This isn’t meant I offend you.

    • BRubble January 7, 2014 at 11:43 PM

      Bahahahah! Oh man! You’re joking right? Please tell me you’re joking… Pfft haha man this is the epitome of retarded.

    • proud atheist January 8, 2014 at 1:09 AM

      gee, i have had enough of this whole jesus is absolutely real shiet. even if jesus is so real and creates all the miracles in the world, doesn’t mean i’d believe in him. it’s my fucken choice and i don’t just put my faith in something just because it’s “real” and scientifically proven true. i cannot see god and i don’t wish to see him.

      and whoa there, divorces happen just because they do not believe in god? gosh, that is extremely narrow-minded of you. god do not make everything happen. he do not create conflicts and make one cheat on another. don’t tell me “god planned for that” kind of bullcrap. that shows he is a sick sadist who wants to see pain and sufferings one has to deal with betrayal and uses “i want you to learn to be strong” bullshit. life happens, NOT god. oh and you love your wife just because your god “commands” you to? what is love for your wife then? does that mean that non-believers have “fake” love for their spouses?

    • Kg Beachus January 8, 2014 at 2:40 AM

      As an archaeologist I can categorically state that ‘God’ has not been discovered by either History or Archaeology. Many ‘gods’ have been discovered by both,

    • Ty January 8, 2014 at 2:47 PM

      Did you watch it yet?

    • Grandpa Randy January 9, 2014 at 11:21 AM

      Gary has a point.

      Whatever force/energy/being put the whole universe into motion 13.8 billion years ago has decided that among the billions of stars and the billions of planets orbiting them, he/she/it has deliberately chosen his favorite star and favorite planet. And what luck! It’s the one we find ourselves on. So he has chosen this place to start life and his project of trying human souls. That’s correct – ever since your birth you have been put on trial. You have about 80 years to make your case – some have more, some have much less (some have only minutes) – after which you will get your verdict. He has, beforehand, constructed a heaven and a hell as his 2 possible verdicts. And there are no appeals. But fear not, he will instruct a select group of your fellow humans to write words on paper in an attempt to guide you so you don’t do those 80 years wrongly.

      But wait! There’s more. He won’t start human life immediately. No, he’s only going to do it in the last 100 to 200 thousand years. For about 13.8 billion years, it will just be about stars forming and stars dying, galaxies forming and galaxies dying, planets forming and planets dying, even a bunch of non-human species being around and then going extinct long before humans (99% of species that have ever lived on earth are now extinct), and THEN in the last 200 thousand years he will embark on this one project involving one specific primate species – us. But please take comfort in knowing that the whole 13.8 billion years of events was just for this all along! This was the plan. Trying human souls. This was the reason he started everything 13.8 billion years ago.

      Bravo, Gary! Bravo.

      Gary, please use a fraction of the brain that you generated during your 9-month tenure in your mom’s womb before engaging in theism. Use it to distinguish between bullshit and plausibility. The same sentiments go to Jarrid Wilson and his Jesus nonsense. No, Jarrid, no. Don’t yearn to share that rubbish with the world. The rest of us are here to learn about our planet, our galaxy, human life, our universe, and the learning continues each day. We don’t want fake, made-up, unsupported answers to life’s most challenging questions.

  • widhi ba January 7, 2014 at 8:03 PM

    Don’t divorce “HER” .. The key is use “HER” wisely .. we believe that we are smarter than her (Smartphone).

  • Henry Chinaski (@chinaski2323) January 7, 2014 at 7:53 PM

    There are some great apps of there (oh the irony) that limit the amount of time you can spend on certain sites, apps, games, ect. You set them up to limit you to 30 minutes of facebook a day, and that’s it. You give the password to someone else so you can’t just disable it. Maybe it doesn’t have to be all or nothing — technology can be a great tool if used wisely, but it’s also a notorious time and relationship sucker
    Hopefully there will be restaurants and bars soon that install cell jammers, just like no smoking laws. There would be a land line for emergencies. I’d LOVE to go to a public place where the internet/cell phone use was truly banned. People would have to figure out how to entertain themselves and others the old fashioned way — remember how we did it for like 30,000 years?

  • Luke January 7, 2014 at 7:10 PM

    God is #1 before your wife and family……. You’re putting your imaginary friend before your REAL, LIVE family. Dude, you have serious issues. I hope your wife reads your comment, beats the sh*t out of you, then divorces you…… But don’t worry…God will be there to help……..ppfffhhh

    • Jeff January 7, 2014 at 7:16 PM

      You’re a jerkoff

    • Tim January 7, 2014 at 7:30 PM

      Imaginary, really? Are you basing your opinion on any in depth study or knowledge that you have or on complete ignorance? Just curious.

    • Bill VanBuskirk January 7, 2014 at 7:38 PM

      Show me evidence that god is anything but imaginary, 1 bit of evidence will do, I will become a religious god loving person if u can show me 1 tiny bit of evidence god exists.

    • Eugene January 7, 2014 at 7:42 PM

      Luke..did you read the whole thing before you made the accusations…you are showing what kind of judgental person you are. He’s talking about how the phone takes away from his life..and his wife. Need to wait, watch and read before you jump.

    • Henry Chinaski (@chinaski2323) January 7, 2014 at 7:44 PM

      Testify!!! Seriously, that stood out to me as well. ‘God’ shouldn’t be more or less important than anything in your life. If should just be a part of everything (if you lean that way). Saying god goes ahead of wife or family is just an excuse to be a narcissist in my opinion.
      I will agree that god should be more important than your iPhone though. But not your kids.

    • Joshua January 7, 2014 at 7:55 PM

      You completely missed the point of the article to bash on this guy over one statement he made? Seriously?! Get off your high horse. You claim to be a moral authority over other people, yet you deride and attack people in such a manner as this? How sanctimonious is that? Stop being a hypocritical fool and grow up a little bit. Funny thing is, I already know every way in which you are going to attack this comment as well, and sadly it falls on deaf ears.

    • Jorge January 7, 2014 at 8:06 PM

      In the atheist community, this kind of demeaning of others passes for proselytizing. You can cover the fact that REALLY you’re just filling the gaping hole in heart with smug, self-satisfied congratulations on how much smarter you are than everybody else, by pretending that mocking and belittling other people is really for their good. You know, spit in someone’s face enough and, sure, he’ll come around. And that’s why atheists have never managed to construct anything lasting– socially, philosophically, or physically.

    • Eva January 7, 2014 at 9:12 PM

      Great article. Response to Jeff below to his name calling…it’s 2014, we are all done with bullies. Grow up. We all have the right to our opinions with out being called names. Only cowards call people names.

  • Rachelle January 7, 2014 at 6:05 PM

    From “The Good Life: An Interview with Trip Lee” April 10, 2012 by Tim Challies:

    Challies: As a guy who recently wrote a book on technology, I’ve got to ask about “iLove,” a song to your iPhone. What inspired the song? Are there changes in your life that were inspired by the song (or that the song inspired)?

    Trip Lee: I was inspired to write the song because I know how much my generation is ruled by our technology. We’re almost enslaved by it. I sometimes find myself filling every extra moment of my day with random Twitter checks and Google searches. It’s almost like I’m scared to be silent and think for a moment. It’s scary. This kind of attachment hinders my depth and my growth. It also hurts my ability to connect with other people. And I know it’s not just me. So I wanted to write a song that addressed the issue.

    But I wanted to write it in a way that communicated how deep our obsession is at times. That’s why I talk about my iPhone metaphorically as my “girlfriend.” I love her, she controls me, and she doesn’t like my friends. She get’s jealous. Even when I try to read the text, she interrupts me so I can read another “text.” Technology can be used for good of course, as long as we keep in its proper place. I end the song by saying, “she’s only there for me to use her.” I thought it would be a fun, creative way to address a common issue.


  • Joshua January 7, 2014 at 6:00 PM

    And jared how do you think you’ll get your website more popular and having more views? this subject is extremely tricky to tackle, i understand your message but it has two sides, technology has helped in so many ways when used properly. in religion, politics, education and self awareness. there’s always two sides.

  • Elaine January 7, 2014 at 5:37 PM

    I’m not always even near my phone, so I don’t think I have a problem, but I know what you mean. I’ve felt sad in many places, noticing all age groups in their addiction to their phones. I even saw elderly couples, supposedly out for lunch, and elderly people who used to group meet for coffee and socializing and saw them not hardly speak a word to each other and only a few quick glances at each other. It is so sad. What are they thinking? They went there to see these people and then act as though they are alone and someone far away from them is seemingly more important to attend to. : (

  • Darla January 7, 2014 at 5:30 PM

    And here I am reading this……on my phone……good food for thought!!

  • TechNotTheProblem January 7, 2014 at 5:17 PM

    If this article connects with you as deeply as some of you have put forward, the problem is not your phone, social media, or any other focal point you would like to place these ‘issues’ on. The problem is YOU.

    • rmacg7 January 7, 2014 at 6:54 PM

      However, if you it is something that is controlling you and you want to be in control of it, a good way to get in control is to get rid of it or at least limit your access to it.

  • Sarah January 7, 2014 at 5:11 PM

    This was an amazing article!

    Last August I went into my phone provider and told them I no longer wanted my Iphone. They all looked at me like I was a crazy person and sold me an 80$ flip phone. I feel more free, more content and more sure of my life without that “priority”. I spend time talking to people and learning about them without having their profile in my hand. Getting rid of this device opens up your world again. The world of learning something through reading a book or spending your time with family actually visiting and playing games!!!! Throw it out, get back out there!

    • Jenny January 8, 2014 at 3:22 AM


  • Scott M B Gustafson January 7, 2014 at 2:50 PM

    You might enjoy the principles of the Sabbath Manifesto


  • Twyla January 7, 2014 at 1:42 PM

    True of most technology. I took a 14 day road trip and realized the first day that I needed to sit and enjoy the views I was photographing–really look at the view because the technology–the photos wouldn’t do them justice. It’s about LIVING IN THE MOMENT. Recording the moment is great, but what’s the point if you didn’t really SEE what you took the picture of. The view: a wedding, sunrise, children’s firsts… I enjoyed the trip way more after that realization. My rule has always been no phones at the table or when visiting with real live people. I have broken it once or twice but am generally good. Thankfully nobody is perfect.

  • Mutant Swarm January 7, 2014 at 12:23 PM

    You might just live longer. I’ve lost track of the number of people who walk out into traffic while staring at their phones. One guy actually ran out against the red light. I saw him coming and stopped to keep from hitting him. I hit the horn on my truck, and he never even looked up.

  • Leanne January 7, 2014 at 11:58 AM

    This is a great challenge! My children & my mother are always telling me how much I am always on my phone. I pledge to make a change in 2014. I will definitely spend less time on the phone & more time with my children & family.

  • Melissa January 7, 2014 at 11:45 AM

    The addiction to a phone, computer, social media is real.. Sometimes a person is so consumed into the world of social media that reality does not exist and in time they lose a job, family and friends. I was consumed by the poison of jealousy, I was jealous of a computer, people on a social network and gaming system. I lost the man I loved to that world, mainly because the jealousy of a computer consumed me.

  • JJ January 7, 2014 at 11:36 AM

    Its unfortunate that I’ve become a real slave to my phone in the last year, but in order to keep in contact with my significant other in ways that we can’t in person because we’re separated by distance, having a smart phone that allows you constant contact and able to share things on the spot significantly helps our relationship. Hopefully soon that won’t be an issue anymore…

    • Kalee January 8, 2014 at 3:21 AM

      I realized I’m a slave to my phone too. My other half is currently overseas. He is able to talk to me sometimes, through phone calls and messages. I am glued to my phone waiting for replies. Hopefully with his return, I won’t have an issue with my phone being a huge part of my life. I will just have to find ways to spoil him and make lots of new memories. This article definitely gave me a new insight on technology.

  • Krista January 7, 2014 at 11:32 AM

    For starters, I agree full heartedly. Some of these comments (actually the majority) were uncalled for, and rude. I am a 21 year old mother, and an engaged women. I play games on the phone (and computer) instead of spending time with my daughter, and future husband. During church, I am too busy texting or checking facebook. I have let the world of technology hold me back from actually living. I have only been existing at this point. Anyone who knows of God’s grace and love, knows that He DOES COME FIRST. ABOVE ALL ELSE. It’s hard to do, when all you know is this world; material and physical things. I don’t think the title was misguiding. Aren’t most headlines used to lure in an audience? Would anyone really have read this if it said, “Put down the phone and enjoy living in today and for God”? I highly doubt that. The writer wasn’t being deceiving, nor manipulative. Those who are actually getting a divorce, I’m sorry to hear that. But, you can’t get offended over this. People, as a whole, are getting offended about everything these days. It doesn’t matter whether you are a Christian, Atheist, Straight, Bisexual, Gay, White, Black or Green. We all bleed red at the end of the day. Why can’t we respect eachother? There is far too much chaos in this world, and we can’t hate eachother. Anyways, I agree with this article, and I’m desperately going to seek more time with my loved ones. I’m not guaranteed tomorrow.

  • Seth January 7, 2014 at 10:58 AM

    I truly love this. As for some of the comments about his belief in a higher power I do not agree with the concept that if we disagree with the personal beliefs of a person then everything they have to say is invalid. I have a “smart phone” which I only use for phone calls and it has to be a smart phone because I live in Australia while my family lives in the U.S. and Hong Kong so I use a voip app on my mobile. I just hate it when you are visiting with someone and they can’t stop playing with their phone.

    • Joshua January 7, 2014 at 11:43 AM

      Why does it HAVE to be a smart phone? People lived in other countries apart from their families before the cellular age and things worked out just fine. That “HAVE” is in the same boat with soldiers coming back from Afghanistan and Iraq. Our media makes them feel guilty for standing up for their country, unlike the greatest generation, the soldiers from WW II–they were celebrated and you didn’t hear of raping of families, murdering of wives and PTSD everywhere. Truth be told is that constant communication between two electronic devices is taking away from ACTUAL communication. Next time you go to Wal-Mart or a game or a concert, stop AND LOOK. It’s called addiction. As for your disbelief in a higher power, what are you actually “disbelieving” in? For you to acknowledge that THERE IS a CONCEPT to disbelieve in, actually gives credence to it’s existence. It’s philosophy, man.

  • Jonas E Matthews January 7, 2014 at 10:52 AM

    “God” before your wife, family, and dreams? Scary.

    • Sonsie January 7, 2014 at 11:14 AM

      Jonas, without God there would be no Wife, family or dreams!

    • Nommie January 7, 2014 at 12:09 PM

      It’s the way it should be. After all the only one that will NEVER fail you is God. Men who put God first are better husbands and fathers in my opinion.

    • Darren January 7, 2014 at 1:09 PM

      Fully agree with you!

    • Laura January 7, 2014 at 1:17 PM

      His bio says he’s a pastor, so that’s not surprising.

  • Ali January 7, 2014 at 10:39 AM

    People need to calm down about this article…. He has his opinions, you have yours. Don’t cause a huge argument or turn it into a religious argument just because he was stating his opinions. If you don’t agree, don’t read it and let it take over your mind, if you do, don’t bash others because they don’t.

    • Ian January 7, 2014 at 12:21 PM

      I think as you say this is his opinion and more importantly the point he is making if the phone is coming first over everything that is important not which order he wrote it down in.

  • Steve Lewer January 7, 2014 at 10:32 AM

    I thought it was sensible, until I read the bit about God. An imaginary friend, now there’s a real waste of time..

    • Sonsie January 7, 2014 at 10:55 AM

      Steve, God is real and he touches my life daily. I hope you have the privilege of getting to know him one day!

    • Larry January 7, 2014 at 11:24 AM

      About your God comment, You know I would rather live my life as if there was a God and find out that there isn’t one than to live my life as if there isn’t one and then find out that there really is.

    • Laura January 7, 2014 at 1:26 PM

      Larry, Pascal’s Wager is flawed. I think that if God is omnipotent, he’d know that the “belief” is just a failsafe “just in case.” And if you’re just wracking up spiritual insurance, why not also adhere to the many other religions out there to play it safe? I’d rather be honest with my own convictions and lead my life as well as I can without worrying about some afterlife rewards or punishments. If I die and find there is a God, I would hope that my good life without belief would weigh more than a person who leads a not-so-good life but paid lip service with the selfish hope of reward. If there is a God and that God feels lip service is more righteous than living a good life that does good for others, than I would not wish to serve that god in the first place.

    • Lori January 7, 2014 at 7:55 PM

      Laura, if you had spent one day in God’s word, you would never have written that.

    • Marilyn Milam January 12, 2014 at 7:55 PM

      Where did you get your idea of what God is? From a preschool children’s book?

  • hipster guy January 7, 2014 at 10:14 AM

    yaa, lets see how you last without your beloved iPhone 5. bet you can’t do all of 2014 without it. u hipster. ps- “Other than God, my wife deserves to be the #1 priority” lol you have problems guy

  • Owen January 7, 2014 at 9:44 AM

    You stole this idea from the spoken word master Propaganda! You could at least give him credit for it.

    • Lady January 7, 2014 at 10:05 AM

      Let’s be honest: the idea isn’t probably stolen. Who hasn’t moved this direction of “I do too much with my phone anyway, so I need to be away from it”? Not a stolen idea, more along the lines of thinking the same thing. That happens every once in a while, you know.

    • Red Crayon January 7, 2014 at 10:40 AM

      It’s a pretty prevalent sentiment. I’m not sure it’s possible to steal it. There’s a big percentage of the population that believes this. I haven’t seen the video you posted (still haven’t clicked on it and watched it), and I feel exactly this way, and could easily have written the article above. It’s not really an original thought for either of them. So what? It doesn’t make it less true.

    • Jonas E Matthews January 7, 2014 at 10:51 AM

      I doubt he stole it from this. This is not such an original idea/notion. People don’t always post things just to try and be better or smarter than you. Maybe you’re projecting a bit?

    • Brenda January 7, 2014 at 9:18 PM

      Owen, do you really believe that other people couldn’t
      feel the same way and or have a similar idea with out having seen this video. Just today, my husband and I who have been away from home talked about how nice it has been to spend more quality time interacting without so many of the distractions such as phones, internet and TV. We are roughing it but loving it

    • kweenb January 12, 2014 at 6:27 PM

      I thought I was the only one that noticed that… Prop said it way better

  • LorFalcon January 7, 2014 at 9:40 AM

    I don’t have a smart phone. I have a “special ed” phone. The way I see people glued to their phones is scary to me. I have a laptop at home. Work with a computer all day. Why do I need a smart phone? If I need directions, I have a map, or I do my research before. I don’t want to be a “Stepford Phonee.”

  • David S January 7, 2014 at 9:30 AM

    It’s stunningly childish to blame (even in jest) an inanimate object for your own lack of impulse control.

    • Wilson January 7, 2014 at 9:34 AM

      I am sorry but this is a stupid comment. It is society as a whole now. I am not sure where you are living, perhaps under a rock.

    • Ian January 7, 2014 at 12:27 PM

      well it has become almost an addiction not unlike smoking or drinking all in there state are inanimate, but when one cannot compete a 5 minute conversation because the phone vibrated buzzed dingles or what ever and your daughter, wife, husband, god, friend neighbour or whoever you were conversing has to wait and let you respond to the person butting in front of the conversation than that is very sad not to mention rude. If anyone has in a conversation and someone ran up stood between them and started talking and ignoring the oter person most if not all would consider that rude, but society as a whole is doing it all the time now with their phones. simply put it is a very sad time

  • John January 7, 2014 at 9:15 AM

    I’ll agree it is balance but since I got my first smartphone last year I have been in better contact with my children that are out of town. I still talk to them on the phone as much or even more now than before. I will agree that I need to put it down more but it is not the devil some make it out to be.

    • Harold January 7, 2014 at 9:26 AM

      You don’t mention your wife so assuming you are single? Studying your Bible as often or even at all taking time from Him? Not judging, just curious.

  • Aaron Campeau January 7, 2014 at 9:10 AM

    I put my I phone 5 in a drawer 3 months ago .. Disconnected it and haven’t used it one single time since. My daughter was standing right in front of me telling me she had to use the bathroom, I was reading something that I thought was so important . She asked me again if I could take her . I kind of snarled at her like as if what I was doing was more important than taking her to the can . She looked at me totally confused and said “daddy I really have to go to the bathroom”. I took her to the bathroom, came back in turned the phone off put it in my top drawer and haven’t used it since . I work full time in a city one hour away, I get a hundred emails a day just like you, I get 10 calls an hour . It’s been three months .. The sky hasn’t fallen , I haven’t lost my job, my work hasn’t suffered. I actually managed to produce more the past three months than I have in 10 years, just about the time the cell phone blew up . I have a home and office phone that I can use when I get to them . My emails are still there when I get to my computer . I understand that not everyone’s career can operate without the use of the cell phone . Just because you can read your neighbours status about how much snow is outside before I can doesn’t mean shit … Everyone is so crazy about getting every bit of news NOW .. Like the fucking world is going to end if they can’t update their twitter right this second !

    • Carly January 8, 2014 at 7:27 AM

      Good for you!! That’s awesome!

  • J January 7, 2014 at 9:01 AM

    I miss the when phones WERE NOT the center of attention. People can argue over this all they want but it truly is deteriorating to relationships. Phones detract from actual social interaction. I will definitely be sharing this article with my fiance. Thanks!!

  • Craig January 7, 2014 at 8:05 AM

    I agree. iPhones suck. Embrace the Samsung Galaxy.

  • Daniel Foo January 7, 2014 at 1:49 AM

    gonna start by closing this pointless article

    • Anthony January 7, 2014 at 5:30 AM

      Are you offended? Are you a person that is reading this on your phone thinking, “I don’t have a problem with being on my phone,” and then you went to playing Candy Crush while missing the question ,”What did you are think?” from the person who showed it to you?

    • Nadisse January 7, 2014 at 9:41 AM

      Lol Anthony – made me laugh XD

  • Austin January 6, 2014 at 11:33 PM

    I’m reading this on my iphone. oops…

  • bermudagirl January 6, 2014 at 11:14 PM

    Well, look forward to reading how you do this!
    Great post! Great writing!

  • Ric January 6, 2014 at 11:03 PM

    Opening line is “Before you start assuming” then it goes on to assume that all who read are the same by setting a challenge. There are plenty of us who don’t need the challenge and already spend quality time with our wives, our families and other personal relationships. But what else is to be expected from the usual self righteous bullshit we get from “some” religious.

    • ArtistofMind January 7, 2014 at 7:06 PM

      You started out by pointing out “before you start assuming,” and ended with assuming he is like other religious people and stereotyping religious people. Wow, you’re comment was such an oxymoron. At least think through your insults, please.

  • ccpruett January 6, 2014 at 11:00 PM

    I actually just deleted my facebook and instagram apps from my phone for very similar reasons. I’m sick of them being my legitimate reflex. I want my phone to be an accessory as you say, not an essential.

    • Dorothy Gay January 7, 2014 at 5:23 AM

      This is great, for the phones have taken over most everyone’s life. Put it down there is lots more in life than our phones1

    • Robert Ross January 7, 2014 at 6:44 AM

      I divorced my cell phone. Sorry it wasn’t a smart phone so it made it easy. I do have one but for emergencies only. I have my phone service with my cable company so if I lose power I lose phone service so I had to have something for medical emergencies. I don’t even take it out of the house.

      This was a great article.

  • Amanda January 6, 2014 at 10:59 PM

    Wooo people are need to war and I guess comment boards are the way to go since bullying and playing on the yard are not allowed in schools anymore… oh no did I just join the problem :) Good catchy title made me read subtitle but maybe wouldn’t have read without subtitle too. I have had trouble in my new marriage and full time ministry because of phone over usage. Dang. Put social apps on last last page of phone so I have to scroll a lot of get to them and hopefully will think about what I’m doing. My kids are tired of me ignoring them the first time as I of them. Life is already hard enough and I know Christ will grow me in this area along with others. Praying for more awareness as the Spirit moves in His wordsmiths. Thanks for the post.

    • Amanda January 6, 2014 at 11:00 PM

      Ewww typo “needing to war”

  • Lucas Leach January 6, 2014 at 10:56 PM

    Yet you used a run on sentence to call him stupid. Oh the irony.

    Using punctuation online is proof you have too much free time.

  • Ron January 6, 2014 at 10:04 PM

    Yes old people get sick of us playing with our phones while they watch TV and tell us to shut up so they can hear the news.

  • bart January 6, 2014 at 9:41 PM

    Stopped reading and gathered you were generally stupid after I read that you want to spend time with god – what a shame

    • Kim Willay January 6, 2014 at 10:08 PM

      You were unable to read PASTOR at the top of the screen beneath his name?

      Call me crazy but a guy who lists PASTOR is typically gonna, you know, spend time with God.

      What a shame you skimmed only to the parts you wanted to read rather than take a moment to comprehend before typing a negative comment.

    • Amy Crandall January 6, 2014 at 10:27 PM

      Yet you used a run on sentence to call him stupid. Oh the irony.

    • kent January 6, 2014 at 10:31 PM

      Hahaha, made me laugh. I do agree to an extent. He’s a hipster…

    • Rob January 7, 2014 at 6:52 AM

      That’s a capital ‘G’ Bart, …not like Thor, the iPhone 5, Zeus and the other, little g’s. You can read about who the big G is on your phone. Google, El Elyon and I hope you, “keep reading” this time.

    • michael January 7, 2014 at 9:17 AM

      God loves you

    • Linda O January 7, 2014 at 9:18 AM

      You are the stupid one. God should be first in everyone’s life.

  • kara January 6, 2014 at 7:51 PM

    Just Came across this on pinterest. Love the idea of having full days without being glued to my phone. I have a smartphone with apps and I have decided that I am going to “downgrade” to one that is just texting and calling, possibly some type of camera on it too. I might try to talk my husband into it too. that would be something.

    • Jeanneg January 6, 2014 at 10:46 PM

      Smart girl. You don’t even have to have the simple phone on all the time. It’s your tool not your master.

  • Douglas Anderson January 6, 2014 at 7:49 PM

    But, then who will read your blog?

  • ben January 6, 2014 at 7:22 PM

    I have a droid. Winning. Nobody has iphones anymore. Tool.

    • RealTalk January 6, 2014 at 8:39 PM

      ^^ Lol this guy.

  • Lucinda Brashear January 6, 2014 at 7:19 PM

    Guess I am old fashioned, I use it for a telephone only! I do not like to text, I would rather talk. Do not need Apps as I have a laptop for home use, and games. The only thing I do with my cell phone is change the ring tone now and again.

    • Cheryl Blackman January 6, 2014 at 8:09 PM

      I have a lap top to but U use it just as much

    • Doris Hillhouse January 7, 2014 at 6:45 AM

      I use less than 100 minutes a month. Yes I have to text but it is because my kids will not answer their phone unless I text them, then they will text me back. I actually use my phone to be in touch only. As they are not a live support, Just a life convenience.

  • BOB January 6, 2014 at 6:43 PM

    Funny that Tyler Murphy an Anniston, AL police office would get on this blog and like it and post it to his Facebook. He used his IPhone to text a married woman, a woman he met at Waffle House while working off duty in police uniform and she was in there drunk. At home in the bed was her two boys and a husband waiting on her, He managed to beak up their marriage and left his fiance that he was to marry in three months over texting on his IPhone. GREAT GUY!!

  • lantz.dille January 6, 2014 at 6:24 PM

    I wonder how many of us could be spending time with our loved ones right now rather than going back and forth arguing about this topic. I wonder how many of us are actually using our Iphones to respond. Hmm…

    • Mother T January 6, 2014 at 7:02 PM

      I agree that phones are over used as well as misused in public and at home. I think that texting is slowly replacing the sound of a human voice. I personally have a similiar issue with Facebook. I sometimes look at it just to view pictures, but never post any text or photos myself. I think it’s ridiculous that people have to report every single move they make each day to Facebook. I feel it’s an invasion of privacy and can easily set someone up for theft by advertising when they’re out for the day or out of town.

  • Angelina January 6, 2014 at 6:10 PM

    I am getting a divorce. A real one. Not a look-at-me-I-am-a-cool-pastor-and-I-am-using-a-tricky-title divorce. Because abuse was involved, we do not speak, just text or email. I’m just sayin’. And we both have Iphones, as do our children.
    Divorce is a serious topic. It rips lives apart. Your title feels manipulative and sneaky to me.

    • Elle January 6, 2014 at 6:29 PM

      Angelina, you are taking the title way out of context. People treat their phones like it’s their baby! It causes people to disconnect with their real family! It’s a perfect title for a very serious problem. There’s nothing sneaky about it.

    • Morgan January 7, 2014 at 12:23 AM

      First off, I’m sorry that you are getting a divorce with your husband, but you are over thinking this quite a bit. This is a serious topic. Some of todays technology really can ruin parts of people’s lives that would be better with out these items being used 24/7. My mom and me(I’m 18 and tech savvy) have a struggling relationship, because she is on her phone ALL the time. My boyfriend and I (we’ve been together for 5 years) only fight when we aren’t paying enough attention to each other and instead are involved with social media and our phones. From personal experience, iPhones can rip lives apart too. I’ve seen marriages even turn into divorce just because the wife continues to find crap(porn, ect.) on her husbands smart phone and the other way around. Divorce is a harsh word, and a harsh action. And this man is using that word in a way he should. He’s taking a harsh action to separate from his iPhone more, so that he can make his life better and pass the message on.

    • ALYNN January 7, 2014 at 7:29 AM

      It is all about perspective. I got a divorce, a real one as well because of abuse… I was abused, humiliated, and violated in that marriage, but that doesn’t change the fact that it is a fitting title to the article for some. I call my now husband’s phone his “Mistress” because he is always on it, and if he isn’t using it, he is thinking or talking about it. I am sure you wouldn’t have taken offense if the title was “Why I am Breaking Up in 2014” but because of one word in it, you miss the whole meaning of the post.

    • Laura January 7, 2014 at 7:39 AM

      Definition of “divorce”:

      1di·vorce noun \də-ˈvȯrs also dī-\
      : the ending of a marriage by a legal process
      : a complete separation between two things


      Seems to me that the latter definition applies in this case.

    • Oranjwoman January 7, 2014 at 9:36 AM

      I read it because of the title too, cell phone usage and lack of character in the use of the cell phone was a major contributor to the end of my marriage.

    • ThatTravelGirl (@TRVLINGRAICE) January 7, 2014 at 9:37 AM

      Oh for crying out loud..maybe your sensitivity is something to work on..without your phone. Yikes. Prayers for you that you get through your divorce and grow some thicker skin. Unbelievable.

  • Camilla January 6, 2014 at 5:33 PM

    I just wrote a post about this a few days ago. It was about my word for 2014. Simple. I want my life to be simple again, like it was before smartphones, zillions of emails and social media. I’m setting boundaries, computer free days and plan on finding that balance between my iPhone and my real life. Because after all, no one on their deathbed said they wish they had spent more time on it…

  • Cash January 6, 2014 at 5:17 PM

    By divorcing the phone, in this case a literary expression and play on words,your gaining your self-control, i.e. discipline. It is a physical expression to rid yourself from the bad influence that you have allowed to control your life. Much like divorcing a spouse, you are riding or purging them from your life physically by a contract and through separation, as well as vocally through the declaration. If you didn’t have dedication to it, then their would be no need for a divorce from it. However, I see it more of an addiction through self-conditioning and under valuing marriage by the play on words of “Divorce.” You never entered a contract with your iphone, so their is technically no need to “Divorce” your phone, unless perhaps you and your iphone went into one of those commitment ceremonies (these replace marriage and you can walk away w/o divorce bc you were never married), allowing you legitimately use the word “Divorce.” Not too mention, your phone has no soul and can not enter in on ANY such contracts, further establishing that the word “Divorce” is the improper word choice. Please, don not misunderstand what I am stating. I do understand the over arching point in this article. However, as a minister, you should have chosen a better way to convey your compare and contrast theme or chose a different play on words. I feel that this is a stab in undermining marriage, but it does exemplify where societies focus and dedication has gone. This is not a new issue, people were in an uproar in the beginning with pagers. There is a much bigger issue to resolve here, but it starts with putting down the electronics and being devoted to the things that really matter in life.

    • Wayne January 6, 2014 at 5:59 PM

      The Oxford English dictionary lists one definition of divorce as “distance or dissociate oneself from something”. The word divorce is not restricted to marriage. Therefore, I believe the use of the word divorce in this article was right and proper.

    • crampedwriting January 6, 2014 at 8:46 PM

      I actually appreciated the point of this article which was to highlight exactly the type of serious priority that we are placing on technology, or other things over our relationships. The reality of it is that many of us dedicate more time and effort to maintaining a relationship with our phones than we do with our spouses. I believe this to be a highly effective piece that illuminates the problem and I find that God is concerned with the overall message. The Bible points out how lost we can become when we get hung up on nuances rather than see the positive effects and perpetuate them. I’ll be bookmarking this site because I like the ability to scrutinize behaviors with conviction. Sadly, this is difficult to come by in many church families.

    • Amy January 6, 2014 at 9:24 PM

      Divorce doesn’t have to imply dissolution of a marriage. Divorce can simply mean to distance yourself from something.

      He wasn’t undermining marriage at all, quite the opposite in fact.

    • Josh January 7, 2014 at 8:24 AM

      I agree with you 100%

  • Cynthia Moore January 6, 2014 at 3:51 PM

    I never let my phone interfere with my relationships, life, or driving, etc. It was easier that stopping cigarettes. I hope others are able to let go of the habit.

    • John Abraham January 6, 2014 at 4:12 PM

      Yeah it was easier because cell phones don’t contain an addictive drug than nicotine….way to post an intelligent statement.

  • Hoshi January 6, 2014 at 3:31 PM

    I still have and use an old style flip phone. No apps, no internet, just a phone

  • Lee January 6, 2014 at 3:15 PM

    I have been on the other side of this for some time now. It’s a lonely feeling to have my fiancee stop listening to me in the middle of a sentence because she picks up her iPhone. Or to be driving and have to sit in silence because her attention is focused completely on her phone. The positive thing is that it’s made me more aware of my own behavior so I don’t do the same to her. An interesting question I read somewhere – When did the people we aren’t with become more important than the ones we are?

    • Mandy January 6, 2014 at 8:44 PM

      “– When did the people we aren’t with become more important than the ones we are?” …Best sentence I’ve seen in the comments. This was a good thought provoking article! I will share with my husband. Thank you.

  • Bobby January 6, 2014 at 2:39 PM

    So…you’re just saying, have more self-discipline. Not, “have a divorce.” I agree with self discipline. I think the analogy you are using [divoricng yourself from your phone] is off, though.

    • Chuck January 6, 2014 at 3:28 PM

      totally agree

  • James January 6, 2014 at 2:10 PM

    iPhone 5 > god

    • Patty Ann January 6, 2014 at 7:31 PM

      If you think your iphone is bigger than God you have bigger problems than anyone!!!

  • Sharon January 6, 2014 at 12:51 PM

    I agree, I once let my phone control me, I got to the point that i had anixety issues when i went into a store and didn’t have my phone so that i could call my husband to let me know where he was at inside the store (how stupid) was that i don’t have a phone now because i don’t want to be controled by a device. I think that it is so rude to sit with your family and they sit there texting on their phone like you are not even around. I go to resturants and watch as young people try to have a date night as they call it now but they can’t even sit and talk to one another without their phones laying beside of their plates texting someone i don’t know if they want others to think that they are rich enough to have the most expensive phone or they are just that unsecure but i hope that for their own sake that they can try divoricing their phones in the year 2014….

  • Lucille A. Rangel January 6, 2014 at 12:51 PM

    That is such a great idea! Divorcing your cell phone! I know. I’ve abused the use of my cell phone as well! And we’re very addicted to our cell’s. We’re more addicted to them more then our home phones! Our phone at home are so lonely because our cells have taken over! Haaaa :D. But, really…..I’ll tell you about my situation. My wonderful daughter as a gift to me had given me a cell phone (it is her old used cell) but, nonetheless, it was a gift from her to me. She also was paying the monthly cell bill. Which wasn’t much at all…but, she insisted on paying it. She had been paying it for the longest time…unlimited talking and texting was great! It didn’t have any other apps except a camera. I could receive pics and send pics as well. I really enjoyed it! But, it started taking over my whole being! I always had this thing with me wherever I went. Even in the house I had it in my pocket! So ridiculous! Well……my daughter approached me and said she couldn’t make my payment because she had to move from where she was living and move back home for awhile until she’d save some money to move on her own. I said that’s quite alright. I understood! So! I haven’t had a working cell phone in about going on a Month! I miss having one because that’s sometimes the only way I could keep in touch with friends and family. Other then, e-mails and facebook! Which I don’t have a computer at home. I have to go to a friends to borrow his. It’s fine with him. But, the fact is…..that I lost my self into this cell phone craze. Who know’s when I’ll be able to turn it on myself. I’m not working right now, actively looking! But, what I’m trying to say is, I thank my wonderful daughter for giving me a cell (I didn’t ask for one) it was her gift to me. And for a long time after had to stop paying the monthly payment as well! I see that as a Blessing! Because now, I can reflect on talking to people face to face and not living through a cell phone anymore! P.S. If I should turn on my cell one day…..I promise to turn it off OR on Vibrate incase of Emergencies. But, other then, that…..Cell Phones shouldn’t replace people! Thank you! :)

  • Ray Hull January 6, 2014 at 12:45 PM

    So I saw many people sharing this link so I decided to check it out. Turns out I already had the divorce. I few days before Christmas I placed a brand new shiny dumb phone on the table and told my family Merry Christmas. They were a little confused, I told them I was giving up my iphone and going to a dumb phone for 90 days so that I may better connect with them and others.

    It has been two weeks and I can tell you the experience has been great, in fact I have no plans to ever go back to a smart phone. The dumb phone has been refreshing,liberating and overall very enjoyable. Sure there are times when it would have been nice to have, in fact the first few days I kept finding myself reaching into my pocket for no particular reason, its a habit, an addiction and I am glad to be free of it.

    To be honest I still have an iPad so I am not completely “disconnected” but it is not in my pocket and/ or near me at all times. But as for the iphone it was powered of and has not been restarted.

    As a photographer there is one thing I do miss, a camera in my pocket. Going to have to sell some prints so I can get me a Canon s110 to keep in my pocket.

    Divorcing you smart phone may not be right for everyone, but it is for me.

  • kevinleroy January 6, 2014 at 12:40 PM

    I’m sorry…I do not mean to be disrespectful but this just seems silly to me. It’s not your iPhone, it’s not your Computer…it’s a problem with Self-Control. It would seem to me that people are pushing blame off of themselves and onto inanimate objects. When I am out with Family or my wife or anyone for that matter, they always have my full attention all the while having my iPhone in my pocket. Gal. 5:22

    • Dave Tjart January 6, 2014 at 1:07 PM

      This appears to be a reasonable alternative–make the intelligent, adult decision that you are the master, not the slave. Carry the thing with you, and use it as YOU need to, not as your peer group dictates.

    • KC January 6, 2014 at 1:57 PM

      Agreed. But if blaming an inanimate object is what is needed to get some people to put it away… then I’m all for it!

    • ellen January 6, 2014 at 3:17 PM

      My friends know if we are out having coffee, dinner or spending time together we don’t use the phones. Very rude if you ask me… My time with family and friends is precious, not to be texting or talking while with someone. Is it that hard to know what is more important?Love the ones your with…;)))~

    • Gene January 6, 2014 at 3:24 PM

      Amen, seems nowadays everyone is blaming something instead of taking responsibility for their own transgression

    • MULLY January 6, 2014 at 4:00 PM

      I agree 100% with you. Don’t blame the phone because you aren’t well mannered enough not to take it out at a wedding, funeral, church, what have you. You are the problem, not the phone. I love my phone and wouldn’t even consider getting rid of it. My phone doesn’t distract me from having face to face relationships with people.

    • Elle January 6, 2014 at 6:37 PM

      Leroy, not everyone struggles with the same things. Just like not everyone is addicted to drugs or alcohol. I’m sure there is an area of your life that you struggle having control over….and maybe people find your problem “silly”. I guess the majority of people arent as perfect as you. Im guessing you are still very young and havent experienced life yet or maybe you just havent given people with problems the time of day to hear them out.

    • kevinleroy January 7, 2014 at 3:54 PM

      @Elle – I realize not everyone struggles with the same things. But our problem is not the iPhone, it’s a lack of Self-Control. We are lacking in a Spirit Filled life. He alone can fulfill all our needs. What we need is to get back to a right relationship with the Spirit. In my previous reply, I mentioned Galatians 5:22. In that verse, Paul says the fruit of the Spirit ((byproduct of a Spirit filled life) is Love, Joy, Peace, Patience, Kindness, Goodness, Faithfulness and Self-Control. I don’t have a problem with my iPhone taking over my life. I have a problem with yielding my life to the Spirit and allowing Him to control where I go/what I do.

  • Matt January 6, 2014 at 12:36 PM

    This is super timely, and will go right there in the resolutions bin next to going to the gym. This shit was hard to read, honestly.

  • Amanda January 6, 2014 at 12:27 PM

    I am beginning to see a lot of people realize how much time they are truly spending on their phones with Facebook, snapchat, twitter, Instagram, and whatever else. It’s hard to have a conversation with someone who owns a smartphone nowadays because their eyes are glued to the device any chance you get to talk or respond to them in person. Also, anytime something cool happens or you find yourself somewhere magnificent, look around. Everyone has their phone out taking a million shots instead of enjoying the moment. I’m all for taking a picture to remember, but too often I’ve caught myself trying to get the perfect shot and later looking back at my photos realizing I wasn’t truly present and don’t remember much of the moment. I have an iPhone and am considering downgrading to a simple flip phone that will call and text so I can rid myself of the distractions of a smartphone and focus on the people I’m with and the moments I’m in as they are. Because I really can LIVE without a smartphone .

  • newlywed January 6, 2014 at 12:15 PM

    Thank you, more of us need to do this. I personally have spent the money on a relaxation (I have to have sound to sleep, and often used an app) device and an old school alarm clock so that my phone was not the last or the first thing that I saw when I went to sleep or woke up…rather that it was my husbands.
    Additionally, I had a very interesting experience over the holidays at my own wedding. We asked the planner to tell people to keep the phones away until our first kiss (we did have a professional photographer after all) and when people found out before hand they started throwing a fit. We simply responded to them, we want people to experience our wedding, rather than be viewing it through a 2×4 screen, additionally when we looked at them we wanted to see their faces. 90% (mind you we had a very small wedding)respected our wishes, and I cannot tell you how important it was to be able to look into their eyes, and see their support. for those few that decided they wanted to “capture” the moment for us, I could not see their faces, and in the end the photos they sent me do no justice to what our professional did….

  • Curtis January 6, 2014 at 11:22 AM

    I think this is stupid, if you’re using your phone like that you’ve got a problem.

    • Debbie D January 6, 2014 at 11:34 AM

      Ummm, hence the reason for this story.

    • Lindsey Lush January 6, 2014 at 11:36 AM

      you’re stupid. Tons of people use their phones in this way… you can see it everywhere.

    • qrwe January 6, 2014 at 12:48 PM

      Ummm – once again – hence the reason for this story.

  • Can Cunha January 6, 2014 at 11:21 AM

    I’m a junkie. No joke.

  • Jamie Cooper January 6, 2014 at 11:06 AM

    has it occurred to you that the iphone connects those who use it to other people? people perhaps that are more important then you are?

  • Lee January 6, 2014 at 10:06 AM

    Thank you from the bottom of my heart — my husband saw this this morning and I think we are on the road to recovery :)

    • j January 6, 2014 at 11:02 AM

      Everyone is such a hippocrit. U all know when u r buying a phone what it’s capable of doing and what it can do but when stupid people read something like this they feel they dont do it and they have to put their worthless two cents in saying like o I dont have a phone. Well u dont have one why do u take the time to post no one cares. Or it ruins my family. So u come here and try to get a pity party because u do nothing about it at home. Its part of life people. Technology will grow. It isn’t 1950 anymore. I bet u if the people back then had the technology that we have today they would be abusing it like us. I dont need some one telling me my phone is ruining my marriage. Or some one on here saying they would never do that.

  • viviennevavoom January 6, 2014 at 9:40 AM

    I have a healthy balance, but unfortunately all the people who don’t have that balance get freaked out or angry with me when I don’t respond immediately to their texts/FB messages/calls/tweets etc Next time I’ll just respond with this post ;)

    • LaDonna Cole January 7, 2014 at 6:50 AM

      I have found that, too, Viviennevavoom! People who are leashed by their phones get highly offended when they can’t reach me immediately. I tell them “I am not a slave to my phone. If you are in an emergency, leave me a message and call 911, because most likely my phone is in the other room.” I also do not take calls or texts when I am with another person. It’s up to me to set boundaries on my phone. Good article. Enjoy the benefits of technology, without being a slave to them.

  • Lacy January 6, 2014 at 9:20 AM

    I think this was said very well! Great change to make! I need to get my kids to understand why we need to take breaks from the cell phones and computers. Good lessons to be had in 2014.

  • Darcey Martell January 6, 2014 at 8:13 AM

    It’s very sad, but true. My husband and I are getting a real divorce because he detached from real life and decided to live in a fantasy world…gambled away money on his smart phone, used it as an excuse to avoid his wife and kids. It pains me to see people miss out on the wonders around them because they are constantly glued to a screen.

    • j January 6, 2014 at 10:47 AM

      Maybe he wants to be with his phone because it doesn’t complain as much as u do

  • jordanrichmond January 6, 2014 at 8:06 AM

    Great post! Excellent job Jarrid.

  • Spike January 6, 2014 at 2:20 AM

    Ironic that I found this on Facebook while on my mobile device…. Like that shhh

    • maryann January 6, 2014 at 3:33 AM

      Same here lol

  • ME January 6, 2014 at 12:06 AM

    I think it’s a little cheesy and weird that you use misleading titles to get attention to your entries. “I am getting a divorce….I am dating someone even though I am married…” Come on. If your content is that good, just title it appropriately

    • Marcy January 6, 2014 at 2:14 AM

      Funny, after reading the first paragraph, my first reaction was to nookmark this and use it as an example with my Sr English students as an awesome example of title selection! A title and first few sentences should be attention grabbing, which this definitively is! From someone with a background in English, it gets my strongest approval! Well done, writer!

    • Justine Marie January 6, 2014 at 4:03 AM

      Actually, as a writer, I think Jarrid did a very good job both with the content and the titles. I don’t think there’s anything wrong. Though we might find it misleading, the a good title itself should be interesting and catchy.

    • ToucanChoo January 6, 2014 at 5:12 AM

      You missed the point…but, it worked. You read the article…

    • Galen January 6, 2014 at 6:42 AM

      I would hope and pray you get some qualified counseling before you make such a drastic move. The word of God warns us of entering into another relationship while the other person is still living. Romans 7:1

    • marsha January 6, 2014 at 7:01 AM

      Not quite sure what you complaint is. Your use of your phone surely doesn’t seem to be your worse sin. All advertisers use headlines to capture attention.

    • Betty January 6, 2014 at 7:25 AM

      it got your attention though didn’t it!!

    • Joe Andrews (@KnuckleheadZCS) January 6, 2014 at 8:24 AM

      Sad, everything today is either disposable or selfish.

    • Dolores January 6, 2014 at 9:48 AM

      Is that all you can say, It caught your attention.

    • Charlene Lankford Mcroberts January 6, 2014 at 10:47 AM

      let me ask you something , would you have read what he wrote if he hadn’t of written it the way he did ? I see nothing cheesy about it but what i do see is honesty! we attach ourselves to items we think we just have to have 24/7 when in all sincerity what we need is to get back to family basics and family values not texting or lingering on a cell phone 24hrs a day ,7days a week, 365 days a year .Jared Wilson i wish you the best getting this message out to everyone and i will certainly help you out in every way i can to do it! I believe in progress as long as it is used in the right ways and doesn’t become a problem within the family unit…..GOD &FAMILY are always 1st!

    • TR January 6, 2014 at 11:12 AM

      He got you to read it didn’t he….

    • dani January 6, 2014 at 1:38 PM

      Its called a hook and a very common and useful technique taught in even in middle school English classes. Kudos to the author for using his imagination and creative skills to use his phone as a metaphor for “the other woman”

  • Believer January 5, 2014 at 9:02 PM

    No Nonono- just have to point out the irony in your own post. You say that believing and acting as if there is a God is selfish. Well haven’t you let the cat out of the bag? If there is no such thing as God, then there is no absolute right or wrong, and therefore nothing wrong with selfishness. Selfishness at that point is simply a way of living that cannot be applauded or condemned- it is merely one’s lifestyle of choice. If there is no right and wrong, then how we treat our fellow man really doesn’t matter. Why would it? Once you claim that selfishness is wrong, you are admitting that there is a higher standard we should aim to live our lives to. So, if you believe selfishness is wrong, you are admitting there is a higher moral law, and therefore a higher authority. Ironic, don’t you think?

    Great article. Thanks for the insights.

    • Ahinalu January 5, 2014 at 10:57 PM

      God does not make right and wrong, humans do. Even more so since we invented the idea of god(s) and everything we think this god we made up thinks. We are the higher authority, laws and morals should be based on 1st what’s good for the individual as long as it doesn’t interfere or harm the 2nd group and 3rd the world/environment we live in. They are all interconnected. All the laws that our religions speak of conform to the above edict…BUT…they also serve to better the priests and governments that brought them to be and continue to hold on to them.

      SO. If you get rid of religion but keep to the morals of science and humanity you are in fact ascribing to a more moral life which is better for us all, AND the individual. It’s ok to be selfish as long as the act of selfishness doesn’t harm or interfere with other individuals, the group and the world.


    • Saisei January 6, 2014 at 3:42 AM

      Believer – First off, he never said a thing about believing and acting that there is a god is selfish. Not once. And you haven’t provided a valid arguement why the lack of god immediately equates to there being no morals. Are you implying people of other religious beliefs have no morals? I always find it funny when religion comes up as a debate topic. Often, the side in favour of religion uses loopback arguements that are completely biased and use the source to prove the movement and the movement to prove the source! What Ahinalu is suggesting and/or promoting is the idea of “live and let live” or “don’t step on me, and I won’t step on you.” This type of moral standpoint I hold much higher than a Members Only Club that if you’re not a part of it, you are “against us” in the eyes on the Members. Ahinalu suggests an ideal that can involve EVERYONE of all cultural backgrounds, beliefs and social statuses. I don’t know what your definition of moral is but last I checked, it’s pretty moral to be open-minded and inclusive rather than exclusive. And at the very core, it radiates Humanity far beyond any religion has, ever.

    • random January 6, 2014 at 11:28 AM

      actually no. You are wrong. Just because people act a certain way doesn’t mean there has to be a higher authority lol. The funny thing is you explained it in your own paragraph. Something can be “wrong” so to speak without there being a higher authority, its a lifestyle choice. To much of anything is “wrong”. Right and wrong are determined by the individual to, not some mythical being. Hitler thought what he was doing was right, others thought he was wrong. Who was right? There is no higher authority, its just what you feel. The people that need a “higher authority” to tell them how to act are weak minded and plague to humanity. If you can’t figure things out on your own, you are the problem.

  • Matthew January 5, 2014 at 9:01 PM

    I think the problem was that you got an iphone in the first place, let alone an iphone 5. I’ve had a Nokia flip phone for at least four years and all I do is call and text. Why bother with wasting money on something that’s just going to break if its dropped? What happened to the good old days when Americans weren’t so dependent on their phones and people actually talked to one another? I believe your idea of “divorcing your phone” is good and one that can hopefully help people interact with each other face to face and I’m not talking about Skype or snapchat or whatever you call it.

    • Brenda Smith January 5, 2014 at 11:39 PM

      I’m with you Matthew, Where’s the days of old when we would come home and use the home phone for a few but we ALWAYS had time to go visit and it was in person… Now days you don’t have company nor do you get a phone call its all about texting or Facebooking… It would be awesome to see people put people first instead of these cell phones. Why not go back to the day of home phones, or even just a flip phone and use it only for that. You know I have seen so many times where a couple is in a restaurant to eat lunch or dinner and one of them can’t even give the other person the time of day, the WHOLE time there text or on Facebook… Hello pay for your own meal then!! Just saying. Prayers to ALL that can and will do this, Amen!! <3

  • Wendy January 5, 2014 at 8:12 PM

    I got rid of my cellphone about a year ago when I realized that people were talking to me and I never heard a word they said. Instead of getting a phone upgrade, I bought a tent and camping gear instead….and it’s nice to go somewhere without people tracking you down every 5 minutes!

    • j January 6, 2014 at 10:45 AM

      So u didn’t understand a word that’s said to u for over a year on a cellphone. So u got rid of it and bought a tent so people couldn’t find u. Uh yeah u sound really stupidly

    • Kas January 7, 2014 at 11:46 AM

      Apparently J, you can’t seem to find the “y” or “o” on your keyboard/smartphone. Who is “stupidly” now?

  • debbee56 January 5, 2014 at 7:51 PM

    I teach technology to seniors. I divorced my SmartPhone last year and have not regretted it. I have a StupidPhone and a SmartTablet — still costs less than the SmartPhone! I leave the StupidPhone in the car unless I know I will need it when I shop or visit someone, especially a senior. I never take it in a restaurant. The SmartTablet I ONLY take out if I have “time to kill”, need to demonstrate something, or need to look something up. I don’t even have social networks on it.

    I can’t tell you how many people tell me they “need” money when they have smartPhones. By the way, we also gave up our television access (satellite) and have slow internet so, well, no TV. I tried doing the streaming thing but half the time is buffering.

    I am so much happier and highly recommend it to everyone!

  • wiseoldman January 5, 2014 at 7:24 PM

    Those of you who are saying you should blame yourself and not the technology are acting very similar to alcoholics or drug addicts. They are in essence in some degree of denial themselves and are seemingly acting as though they don’t want to follow suit by giving up something they themselves are addicted to. I don’t believe this applies to all of them, but very likely to many of them. It’s incredibly easy to become addicted to cell phones because it’s only human nature to be constantly entertained. A smart phone and even a basic phone can be considered the best vehicle we have to do the entertaining. Let’s face it, no one likes to be bored and cell phones, computers, video games, etc. are a fast fix to relieve that sense of boredom.

    • smfop January 5, 2014 at 10:56 PM

      This one kind of bothers me. Just a post full of unsubstantiated claims and speculation. Drugs and phones are absolutely nothing remotely similar, clearly you have never suffered a drug addiction. I am just not sure how you qualify most of the statements.

      ‘I don’t believe this applies to all of them, but very likely to many of them.’ – How do you know this? And what makes it likely that this is ever true?

      ‘It’s incredibly easy to become addicted to cell phones’ – What scale are we measuring by? Do you know this by experimentation or personal experience in being addicted to many things at once with different difficulties achieving addiction? (I know, clearly a bait question, but I hope it show my point)

      ‘it’s only human nature to be constantly entertained.’ – Not certain if true or if ‘human nature’ is used correctly here.

  • OP January 5, 2014 at 7:08 PM

    Stop blaming technology, blame yourself. Yes the phone is cool, but you’re the one operating it, if you feel you have an issue, then blame yourself. People wish yo make it the objects fault when they are the one in control of their own actions. If you feel that you have an addiction to technology then you should vow to do something about it. Making these vows to simply spend time away from your device is giving the device power it does and shouldn’t have.

    So leave the phone out of these vows.
    Learn to balance your time
    Make your family a priority not an accessory
    Give yourself limitations.
    Control how you use your phone, and stop allowing your phone to control you. ( leave this one because this is the key)
    Try spending parts of your weekends not looking at your mobile device (to say leaving it off or unplugged then defy the point of having a phone to begin with. What if someone needs to get ahold of you in an emergency? You’re going to miss that phone call because of your dedication to leaving your phone at home or turned off? Illogical)

    Be aware of yourself, and stop giving power to inanimate objects, its insulting to yourself as a human being.

    • ffffffggggh January 6, 2014 at 7:40 AM

      Of all he replies yours is the best. You are so right. People don’t realize that they are the culprit. Good job!

  • Luke January 5, 2014 at 6:57 PM


    Does this mean that you will no longer be updating your Twitter and Facebook so incessantly throughout the day?

    Just curious….because it seems like you are always connected.

    Great article…but are you really going to live what you are writing?

  • kat January 5, 2014 at 6:44 PM

    I agree. Why stop at our phones, though. How about technology in general. Computers, T.V.’s, radios, i whatevers, etc.

    • j January 6, 2014 at 10:52 AM

      Yeah its all the medias fault great answer. Why dont u write a letter to the president to get all those banished Kat. We will see how fast u climb the popularity vote. Use some common sense

  • Robert Susan January 5, 2014 at 6:22 PM

    I’m wasting time using technology to write this comment

  • Chloe J January 5, 2014 at 5:30 PM

    The same theory applies to computers/technology in general. While some may not have a problem with their “phones” they certainly might with the amount of time they spend in from of a television set. It’s all about priorities and some of us have them seriously out of order. Becoming “unplugged” from social media; phones; tv; computers; (whatever takes the majority of your time) and keeps you from spending quality time with your kids, spouse, etc., would be a worthwhile concept for society to undertake. I know I certainly need to do better. If you are one of the few that are able to not constantly have a phone in your hand for whatever reason then I applaud you…but you are only ONE of the FEW.

  • Heather January 5, 2014 at 4:35 PM

    I got rid of my cell phone almost 5 years ago. Haven’t missed it sense. It’s rather freeing.

    • j January 6, 2014 at 10:54 AM

      No one cares. Go and play with your rotary phone then

  • A sane person January 5, 2014 at 3:02 PM

    Yes, let’s blame the phones we bought for all of these features in the first place. Your phone is an inanimate object, and is not you’re problem. Self control is. Posting this from my smartphone, which has never held my attention hostage. You’re responsible for your actions, don’t become all self righteous over something so stupid.

    • curdina January 5, 2014 at 3:56 PM

      Alcoholics stay away from bars and alcohol. Same principle. Try encouragement A “sane” person.

    • Agreeable January 5, 2014 at 3:57 PM


    • Kevin January 5, 2014 at 4:24 PM

      You must be so completely daft to miss the point of this. That or you’re extremely offended that anyone dare speak of the iphone or any smart phone in such a way. Only a delusional person who’s completely out of touch with reality would not recognize that as a society our phones have become way too much of a priority . So much so that many people are missing life as it passes by as a result. They aren’t living in the moment. Some people in fact do suffer from withdrawals or even anxiety if they don’t have their phone. There’s been actual studies done on the addictive qualities our smartphones poses. The only person being self righteous here is you by trying embarrassingly hard to let everyone know your phone has no power over you. You sound like a righteous pseudo intellect who tries way to hard to be better than everyone else.

    • sherry January 5, 2014 at 4:27 PM

      He was using the phone as an example. .. did you even read the whole thing ? I hope not because if you did and didn’t realize that it’s talking about limiting yourself than you are not that smart :)

    • Me January 5, 2014 at 4:54 PM

      Funny that you should say self righteous. Maybe take that plank out of your own eye.

    • stephanie January 5, 2014 at 5:22 PM

      He is only trying to state the obvious. Maybe you have self control but others don’t. He is challenging those people. Maybe he isn’t talking to people like you.

    • Maureen January 5, 2014 at 5:38 PM

      Addiction comes in many forms and the formalization of a divorce is a good way to handle such a problem in one’s life. I’m constantly baffled by those who think the only way to deal with an issue is their own way

    • Beth Shanks January 6, 2014 at 9:53 AM

      wow hostility is a sign of conviction…
      if the message isnt for you then smile and go on letting it minister those its meant for?

  • Sydknee Love January 5, 2014 at 2:38 PM

    Sorry to say but it is true……..technology is taking over our lives. Go out for an evening and look around. How many are enjoying the venue, music or people they are with? Not many because they are all playing with their cell phones. How many times do you call a business and get an actual person……frustrating. We are so connected today but do very little communicating…..in person. It’s all text messages and email. And how do we start and end relationships? Not in person……via text or email. Think about it. Where are we as a people headed? Sad, sad, sad.

    • Joanie Burdwood January 5, 2014 at 4:52 PM

      Agree. It is scary how people do no interact any longer. Sad society……….

    • R January 6, 2014 at 5:25 AM

      I totally agree; My daughter is just like that, would she ever call me, even though she is on the west coast and I’m on the east coast? Only if she needs something which is very seldom, I have to call her and when I do I feel like I’m on a timer, so many miniutes then well I got to go, she’s not really going she has a text or on the computer. Yes technology has come a long way, but some times it does take over out lives.

  • Laura January 5, 2014 at 2:20 PM

    I am in full agreement with you. I too am going to divorce my phone, tablet and facebook and spend more time with God and family. Thank you for the wake up call.

    • j January 6, 2014 at 11:08 AM

      They’re u go acting like this is a revelation. Might as well divorce all your other bad habits too. Go ahead u will relapse maybe god will help u get rid and stop technology . it sounds like that what’s u people want

  • you fag January 5, 2014 at 2:08 PM



    bitch nigga for real, divorce your lameness homo

    • Derek Chambers January 5, 2014 at 2:11 PM

      No more talking for you. You lost that privilege

    • Lindsay January 5, 2014 at 2:39 PM

      what the hell? Do you really need to write that when what they’re talking about is true? So many people these days are addicted to their phones so much they don’t know how to socialize with others when they’re out in public. You have to be a complete asshole who lives under a rock if that’s how you leave a comment to someone about their opinion that’s actually interesting and real. Why don’t you grow up and talk normal and be nice instead of talking like trash and being a complete dick.

    • Dan January 5, 2014 at 2:57 PM


    • leah schottey (@LeahSchottey) January 6, 2014 at 11:13 AM


    • Patty Ann January 6, 2014 at 7:37 PM

      There is no need for your immature vulgarities. Obviously you cannot handle this conversation so leave.Your name states it clearly….so immature,grow up!!!

  • Tess January 5, 2014 at 1:59 PM

    100% IN Agreement! Thank you! Smart Phones have no place in my life.And I am sick of seeing everyone with their faces in their phones! I have a cheap phone with 100 minutes on it.I keep it in my car in case of emergencies.

    • j January 6, 2014 at 11:44 AM

      What the hell do u care what other people do. Do me a favor stop caring what other people do Tess and take that cheap phone with 100 minutes and shove it up your ass. No one cares what u got

  • Pastor Surya January 5, 2014 at 1:44 PM

    Thank you for an amazing article.
    It addresses the real issue many of us are facing today.
    Iphone has become a goddess to many… I hear believers talking more about iphone and ipad than about Jesus.
    It’s become an idol…

  • MARCI January 5, 2014 at 11:50 AM


  • Linda Chatterjee January 5, 2014 at 11:42 AM

    I agree that there is a time and a place. Also, if you are really keeping the Sabbath holy, dont use it for anything except answering a call from a family member on that day. :-)

  • ReaderinNorth East January 5, 2014 at 11:28 AM

    This was a great piece. I’m sorry there are always people who find the negatives and positives in any item. Your piece offered a lot of practical insight for believers and unbelievers alike. Thank you for sharing.

    • ClaireforChrist January 6, 2014 at 10:34 PM

      I agree:)

  • Jen Ro January 5, 2014 at 11:12 AM

    I like how he places the blame on the technology rather than himself. I have an idea: Don’t use apps during Church, weddings, funerals, etc. Don’t have them while someone is trying to have a conversation with you. It’s rude. Put the damn phone down and use it appropriately. Blame yourself, not the technology.

    • Diane O'Keefe January 5, 2014 at 11:47 AM

      I think that was the point…. It can be an addiction or a bad relationship. It’s the abuse of it that makes it dangerous, not the common sense use of it or any other thing or person or idea or goal we desire.

    • Mandi January 5, 2014 at 12:20 PM

      I think it is becoming more of a challenge, more so because so many jobs and companies require you to be connected 24/7. I had friend threatened with their job if they did not answer calls from work during a family vacation…I think it is a combination of standing up for their personal value and companies supported time with family. Do we not devote enough of our time to work throughout the work week?

    • Brody January 5, 2014 at 12:23 PM

      He is blaming himself. He’s just doing it in a humorous manor. Look at the whole picture instead of picking him apart for one little thing you think you don’t like about it.

  • Tony Mallory January 5, 2014 at 10:53 AM

    Don’t have to, my wife is divorcing me for the technology. The technology lets her stay in touch with her boyfriends.

    • Pat January 5, 2014 at 12:49 PM

      This is a sad commentary on human relationships. I’ve seen this happen up close and personal. They think it’s not cheating on your significant other because it is text. If you would not want them to see the texts, and you hide them from your significant other, you are in the wrong. It is a betrayal, pure and simple. It would be hard, if not impossible, to trust them ever again.

    • Val January 5, 2014 at 1:43 PM

      Ooops… sorry to hear that.

  • Jim January 5, 2014 at 10:52 AM

    Respectable post, minus all the god crap.

    • CK January 5, 2014 at 11:35 AM

      Well, let’s see; He claims to be a Pastor, so I would be more concerned if he left out all the ” God crap” as you call it.

  • boystalkfrench January 5, 2014 at 10:22 AM

    Great piece

  • daddypurp January 5, 2014 at 9:59 AM

    God before everything else. Even your wife and family. Nice priorities. It’s pretty sad that you put an imaginary being before your very real wife and family.

    • Charity Campbell BA January 5, 2014 at 10:02 AM


    • myopinion January 5, 2014 at 10:39 AM

      First of all, just because you don’t believe in God, doesn’t mean he’s imaginary – leave us our beliefs. Second, as a wife, I want my husband to put God first because it makes him a better husband and father. Putting my relationship with God before my my spouse helps be be a more loving, more patient, more understanding wife… tell me if you don’t want your wife to be a little more understanding and patient, trying to love you as she feels God loves you- even perfectly.

    • Doug Johnson January 5, 2014 at 12:33 PM

      I’m a Christian, and I believe in God. This pastor was simply stating some possible solutions to what has become a known issue. He’s not saying that anybody that uses a smart phone is a horrible sinner and that he is perfect because he has a belief that you are aloud to and simply do not agree with.
      It’s interesting to know a little about what you are forming a harsh opinion about, like the God that this man is talking about. If a person that believed in God did in fact follow the words of God, they do put God ahead of everybody and everything. The neat part is that God’s writing, the bible, instructs us to put God first, then his wife. By doing this, you are simply holding yourself accountable to follow the words of God… which are to love, respect, and protect your wife and family.
      I do not see one single thing about God that is negative here, especially if He is in fact instructing you to love and cherish your wife.
      Interesting isn’t it? In fact, it’s incredible.

      A former atheist and interesting person to read about is Lee Strobel and his book that details out his desire to prove God and Christianity FALSE, ‘The Case For Christ’.

    • No Nonono January 5, 2014 at 2:43 PM

      Precisely. Since your obedience to the deadbeat cloud dad is solely to entertain the notion that you will get your soul into heaven, do you ever stop to think how petty and selfish that truly is? You put yourself before your family, period. That’s the saddest thing of all.

      Other than that, it’s a decent piece on the whole. It’s nothing new, of course, but given how our society as a whole as accepted that staring into the ether via smartphones is the norm and expected, the message is falling on deaf ears once again. It will only get worse because humans are selfish. Smartphones allow us to indulge our id and will be a losing battle for everyone else in your life, each and every time. Much like serving up obsequious fidelity to your god, placing the fate of your own perceived immortal soul before anything else.

      Irony much?

  • Will January 5, 2014 at 9:53 AM

    Got an idea. Cut all the bells and whistles off my phone, give me the old school “just makes phone calls” phone and drop my rate. If you remember back some time people weren’t always distracted by the phone and a phone that only makes calls would curb this issue and still offer service to people… Just saying..

    • Justsaying January 5, 2014 at 10:22 AM

      Just saying…

  • Bob Cantrell January 5, 2014 at 9:34 AM

    Reader, please forgive my preachee quote, but it brings it all home for me. Jesus said to his followers, “Your mouth speaks my words, but your heart is far from me”. This article is a challenge that I am going to commit to us limit my iPhone to a major reduction to use on a daily basis. Friends would you consider the same.

  • lagunamary January 5, 2014 at 9:19 AM

    Anything, ANYTHING, can become an addiction. For some people, their cell phone is simply a tool to use. For others, it’s a serious problem and I thank you for talking about it here. It’s especially frightening how many people are on their phones now days while driving (even when it’s against the law in their state) and TEXTING! That’s insane…that’s an addiction. The Enemy of our hearts and minds and souls will use any tool to distract or destroy us from living the life God created us to live.

  • Xander'sMama January 5, 2014 at 8:57 AM

    I don’t think thats what he meant. He’s meaning with all the technology today families aren’t spending as much time together anymore. He’s talking about putting the phone down and spending time with your family and other stuff like that.

    • cmwadden January 5, 2014 at 4:15 PM

      Yes, it’s that simple! Why d so many people get on their high horses about this…there was no finger pointing, no damnation! Just him needing to spend more time with those he loves! People…calm down!! Geesshhhh!

  • Xander'sMama January 5, 2014 at 8:55 AM

    I totally Agree with you on this!!! I also don’t see why so many people have such bad comments about this. Its not only just iPhones and you stated that too. For my family its Phones, tv, iPads, Computers, so many other things. I remember back when I was younger and these things weren’t around (or as much) families spent more time together. It seems like the more technology there is there isn’t much time for families to spend together. I’m so glad I read this and I’m going to start making sure we turn these things off to spend time together. Sad thing is it isn’t only the younger people who does this its also the older generation too! My dad came to see my son Christmas Eve and the whole time he was on his phone! Thank you so much this was a real eye opener!

  • susan January 5, 2014 at 8:36 AM

    I am amused that some of the most negative comments are the ones by the most religious people who should be the most understanding and loving ad kind. How typicically hypocritical. I agee with a statement earler about tv, thatat one point was considered a horrible distraction at te same time as it brought familes together…..on the couch…..eating dinner and geting fat from watching and eating at the same tim too much. Guess what? The novelty finally wore off, families realized it was distracting and getting boring and started limiting time on it..hThe same wll happen with today’s technology. And as you all argue this point on a computer type of device, you are wasting valuable time and energy on us vs your family :p

    • sherry January 5, 2014 at 4:32 PM

      Pathetic. … that’s what your whole statement was :)

  • Ashe January 5, 2014 at 8:35 AM

    In 2014, I vow to divorce my phone. Will you join me?

    No, I won’t. Partly because I understand that my phone is a tool, not a seductive temptress, but mostly because I understand the value of accepting responsibility for the consequences of my actions. The article suggests that you do not. You seem to have your mind set on blaming iPhone. “No, I’m not being disrespectful at your father’s funeral – it’s iPhone 5, she just keeps tempting me with her whore-screen!” “I would keep my eyes on the road, but man, she just TEMPTS me! How inconsiderate!” It would be, if she initiated the interaction. But did she? No, because she’s not a she, she’s a phone, and it doesn’t just leap into your lap and beg for your attention. Our attention zeroes in on what stimulates us. If your phone is stealing your focus away from your friends, church, funerals, weddings, and your spouse, maybe you aren’t being stimulated half as much as Candy Crush Saga is, and that should be a wake-up call. Maybe you should be building better relations with your loved ones instead of tossing the responsibility off onto your phone – your cold, inanimate, phone.

    • Stephanie Bovan January 5, 2014 at 8:49 AM

      As I didn’t write this post, I can’t say for sure, but I think he is taking responsibility. … just explaining it in a metaphorical way so that people will actually read and understand it. …. I’m sure he’s not literally in love with his phone. …

    • JS January 5, 2014 at 9:14 AM

      Ashe…I highly recommend going back and re-reading this blog post. This man IS taking responsibility for his life and his loved ones. Our society is technology crazed right now and it is only going to get “worse.” Everywhere we go we have our phones, our iPads, MacBooks, games, etc. It is more than evident that his intentions are to build better relationships with his loved ones.

  • susan January 5, 2014 at 8:22 AM

    Amen ;)

  • Nancy Nevill January 5, 2014 at 8:20 AM

    ….as I sit here on my IPad for the second hour, this is truly a 21st century stigma. I am a participant, but on a casual basis and not an addiction. I catch up usually once a week or so. I love to use social media to get my girls attention ….”answer your phone”….and then call them. Amazingly, they pick up on the first ring! On board for 21 days…..prayers I can do this!☺️

  • ldtiemann January 5, 2014 at 8:01 AM

    Well, as for me. I stopped my service 6 months ago. I just could no longer justify the cost per month and I had some outstanding debts. Getting my affairs in order. Frankly, I have not missed it. My thoughts are for one, if I have car trouble on the road, I will just go back in time and wave for help after praying for the right person to stop and help me unharmed. I myself sat one day in our lunchroom and every person was on their cell phone. It would be nice I thought to again go back to the olden days, where we would eat and chat together.

  • ChanaGoanna January 5, 2014 at 7:28 AM

    As an Orthodox Jew who observes the Sabbath, we turn off phones, TVs, computers, etc., at sundown Friday evening and spend 25 hours with family and friends, undistracted by pinging, bleeping, clicking and the mundane concerns of the week. It’s a time to reconnect with loved ones and just enjoy them and focus on the Source of all our blessings. Try it–you’ll love it!

  • Polo January 5, 2014 at 7:21 AM

    Jarrid, you are confused to think an electronic device is responsible for your issues. An iPhone might be a distraction for some, but it is also a great source of communication if used properly.

    Be responsible. I have seen what backwards preaching does to people; it conditions them to shift blame outwardly and never take full responsibility for their actions. No one in their right mind will challenge someone who is suicidal to “take a break” from sharp objects. Why? Because sharp objects aren’t responsible! They’re artifacts! You, however, occupy a space of what some might consider to be consciousness. You, and those reading this post I should hope, have pro attitudes like desires, beliefs, and wants, directed towards things.

    If you’re spending too much time on your phone, why not reach the heart of the issue by reflecting critically on what is good for you and making reasonable life-long decisions that will make you into a better person, instead of dealing with extremes and preaching that others should do the same?

    • Kristy January 5, 2014 at 7:37 AM

      It’s his way of grabbing people’s attention! Come on, chill out! If you feel it doesn’t apply to you then keep on using your phone and that’s it, but you don’t have to criticize his suggestions! They may be helpful to others!

    • ClintLee January 5, 2014 at 8:14 AM

      Congratulations. Your reply to this article confirms that you are in fact an absolute idiot. Do yourself a favor and do your own self reflection so you can get to the real reason you are an absolute idiot. I truly hope your reply was an attempt at humor!

    • Nicole January 5, 2014 at 10:04 AM

      I only see him putting the blame on himself. He realizes he has a problem and is taking steps to correct that problem. Him putting himself out there and asking others that may or may not realize they have the same problem to join him is not placing the blame on others. My husband showed me this article because I have a very similar addiction to my phone. I know this. And I’ve tried to stop myself from using it so much. I do really well, and then slip back into familiar territory all too soon. Phone addiction is becoming a very real problem for many. Kudos to you if you don’t have the same problem. This article doesn’t apply to you if you think that you don’t have the same issue.

      But maybe your defensive stance is an outwardly reflection of some guilt you have.

    • Christine January 5, 2014 at 10:38 AM

      Polo, you doofus…You apparently have little grasp of satire or even of this article, yet you spend a lot of time writing a criticizing reply! I know he’s right. Everywhere I look people are staring at their cell phones! we go out to dinner with friends and they spend all this time on their cell phones or Ipads playing games! How rude! I see people walking all over staring at their cell phones…one guy was hit by a car and thrown into the air because he crossed right in front of the car while texting, and the driver didn’t see him because HE was texting too! How ridiculous is that? And these people who are mesmerizing you with their texts are the same people you will be ignoring when you are with them in person to text to somebody else.

    • Jen Ro January 5, 2014 at 11:13 AM

      I agree. Don’t be a douche, put the phone down when someone is having a conversation with you. Don’t blame the technology, blame yourself.

  • Debbie January 5, 2014 at 6:44 AM

    While your at it how about the television?, the first “device” to take attention away from the Lord and our family.

    • sam January 5, 2014 at 8:18 AM

      Time will tell how many keep their resolutions

    • Jen Ro January 5, 2014 at 11:14 AM

      moderation in all things. As a family, we love watching a good movie.

  • vincent de silva January 5, 2014 at 5:21 AM

    No one could have said this better- thank you so much -must be shared around the world
    cheers and God bless .

  • Ksusha Sinichenko January 5, 2014 at 5:17 AM

    ok, if u people divorce ur iPhones, i don’t mind to take care of them

  • JeffUk January 5, 2014 at 4:42 AM

    You are all mad.. I’m moving back to mars!!!

  • Brenda Rose Harrington January 5, 2014 at 2:17 AM

    I agree, I own my own business and even I shut off during the day, people are losing social skills. What a shame.

    • Larry Spooner January 5, 2014 at 3:45 AM

      I think it should also go for home computers also, we get so wrap up in this crazy tech world we for get about people that mean the most to us.

  • BananaBean January 5, 2014 at 1:27 AM

    Since I stopped working full-time and started college, I have been unable to afford a cell phone. Now I REALLY realize how much time people spend on their phones. It’s awkward sitting in a group of people, unable to hold a conversation because everyone is on their phones. While I’d love to have a phone again, I’m ok with not having one for now.
    A few years ago, I fasted from buying clothes for a year to get that spending under control. Another year I gave up my favorite soft drink. These fasts bring perspective on the addictions and bring about new appreciation for the item/thing that was abstained from, but also self-control and moderation when reintroduced.

  • AJ January 4, 2014 at 10:57 PM

    I agree with your article. Thank you for bringing up a good point that many people need to change! Personal relationships definitely can use more time and undistracted effort put into them. However, please be careful in how you use divorce. Its not just a term to be thrown around, and especially seeing as you are a Christ follower, you know it is deemed in the Bible as a principle only allowed to be applied in certain circumstances. None of which include the moderation of overuse of inanimate objects. Also, from my heart, as a young adult whose parents are just finishing what I believe to be an unbiblical divorce, please know that that term also carries a lot of hurt. And shock in seeing it in the title of a christian article. I understand you want to catch attention and have people make a drastic change from the ways their phones are too evident in their lives, but please consider a better term for such an affect. Thank you!

    • Tonya January 5, 2014 at 12:58 AM

      I do not think the title is incorrect at all. You are clearly sensitive and hurt over your parents and surely have a right to be. I hope things get better for you.

    • rhianneorourke January 5, 2014 at 2:22 AM

      Thank you for your comment, I completely agree that the term ‘divorce’ carries too much weight and hurt to be used so flippantly. And no it’s not because I’ve experienced divorce in any way, my parents are still happily married as am I, and I believe that Tonya your comment was totally out of line and insensitive.
      Thank you for the article though, I even see my vicar on his iPhone during services, and not to read the bible app.

  • Candi January 4, 2014 at 9:00 PM

    I worked on the Verizon Project for a year. I had a very hard time listening to parents complain about the issues they were having with the phone with a crying child in the back ground, Get your priorities straight. Children FIRST. Then deal with the phone issues. Never did I talk to someone with a life threating situation. I still do not have a smart phone. I pay 15.00 a month on pre paid plan and that is more then enough. GET A LIFE! Away from your phone!!! Enjoy life.

  • Tiffany January 4, 2014 at 7:50 PM

    My phone is just my mistress…. I’m married to my computer.

  • Andy & Alicia Smart January 4, 2014 at 7:02 PM

    This is why we have a “no phone” policy at our dinner table….We love our family time, we can sit at the table long after dinner and talk, laugh!! Then there’s the “please don’t use your phone” during grandparent time…They won’t be here too much longer—enjoy and listen to them as much as you can cuz one day you will miss hearing them——– =)

  • Karen January 4, 2014 at 6:20 PM

    Just like everything else in life…moderation, moderation, moderation!

  • Tammy January 4, 2014 at 5:13 PM

    I agree with Crystal Vison, The phone does not call to you, or beckon you, if you are on it to much than it is YOU that is doing it NOT the phone. If you are not paying attention to your children, or in church, it is you making that decision NOT the phone, it is a machine. I love my phone and would be lost without it, but I am not on it 24/7.

  • kandi January 4, 2014 at 4:49 PM

    Jonathan you quoted some of my favorite scriptures are you one of Jehovahs witnesses

    • Jonathan Damian January 4, 2014 at 5:14 PM

      Kandi…I’m disfellowshipped…But I am trying to find my way back…

    • Jonathan Damian January 4, 2014 at 5:20 PM

      Don’t ever leave the truth and be careful on the web. Guard yourself from apostate literature. I hope one of these days soon I’ll be able to call you my sister once again.

  • Jonathan Damian January 4, 2014 at 4:03 PM

    Galatians 5:22-23. One of the fruitages of the spirit is self-control. Matthew 6:33 says to seek first the kingdom and Philippians 1:10 says to make sure of the more important things. Meditate on these Scriptures and ask for God’s holy spirit to aide you when you have a relapse and revert to habitually using your phone when you know you shouldn’t. Read God’s Word the Bible daily–that’s sure to help. Though you probably knew all of this. :P

    • Allisson January 4, 2014 at 6:42 PM

      Remember the joy over the return of the one lost sheep? Return to the fold. The congregation will be there with loving arms wide open.

      With Jehovah all things are possible. I pray that you can overcome your trial soon.

    • Jonathan Damian January 5, 2014 at 2:44 PM

      Thank you, Allisson.

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