Why I’m Getting A Divorce In 2014


Before you start assuming I will be leaving my wife, let me just tell you that’s just simply not the case. I’m looking to leave someone else. Someone you may not know about. Someone who takes up most of my time, distracts me from spending time with my wife, and even spends time with me during the late hours of the night.

Her name is iPhone 5. She’s extremely smart, funny, reliable, and keeps me up to date with all the latest trends. And although she’s always by my side, I can’t help but notice that she is keeping me from spending time with the people who matter most in my life: God, my wife, my family, and my dreams.

She’s really good at keeping my attention. So much so that I’ve been known to completely ignore people when they are trying to have a conversation with me. She tempts me to use her apps while at church, weddings and funerals, instead of enjoying the moment un-distracted. She even keeps me from working on personal projects that have strict dead-lines.

She’s extremely insensitive when it comes to my safety, and is always tempting me to be with her while I drive. I can’t help but notice she is slowly infecting my social life, my marriage, and the lives of those around me. Many people act like it’s no big deal, but I imagine the longer one ignores this issue, the worse one’s personal relationships will be affected in the long run.

We need to bring our phones back to being an accessory, not a priority.

2014 Challenge: Divorce your phone, your apps, your social-feeds, and engage in relationships with people that actually matter. Vow to spend a significant amount of time off your mobile-devices, unplugged, and instead get back to making personal relationships that will stand the test of time.

Other than God, my wife deserves to be the #1 priority in my life and I don’t want anything to get in the way of that. The reality is, we’re all married to our phones in one way or another.

Mind you. Not everyone struggles with this. But I hope you will take this into consideration regardless.

  1. Learn to balance the time you spend on your phone.
  2. Make your phone an accessory rather than a priority.
  3. Give yourself limitations as to when and where your phone can be used.
  4. Control how you use your phone, and stop allowing your phone to control you.
  5. Try spending parts of your weekends unplugged, offline, and away from your mobile device.

In 2014, I vow to divorce my phone. Will you join me? Share this with a friend, and let’s get the “Divorce Your Phone” movement going.

-Jarrid Wilson


What are your thoughts? Leave a comment below. 

Published by Jarrid Wilson

Husband, Father, Pastor at Harvest Christian Fellowship & Author of a few books.

1,009 comments on “Why I’m Getting A Divorce In 2014”

  1. Wow. Jarrid for a second you got me popping my eyes out but when I continued reading the post… I related to it very much. Infact I’m in church right now but I’m reading emails. Thank you som much! I vow to divorce my Blackberry! Going anti-social network and to socialising with real people.

  2. In addition, there’s some evidence that seeing notifications on our computers and mobile devices provides a small adrenaline spike that is actually causing people to develop a resistance to adrenaline. This resistance causes your body to have to provide more adrenaline when it’s really necessary (emergencies, etc.). The regular adrenaline spike keeps us from healthy sleep and causes the adrenal gland to grow in size, once this happens it’s unlikely the gland will return to its original size.

    1. Hi Jenn, that’s pretty interesting. I googled for research studies and articles but couldn’t find any. Do you mind posting any links that back that up?

  3. I’m all in!! I don’t really use mine that much anyways, but I was at a family reunion this past weekend and everyone was always on their phones. No one was really talking. It was sad. Anyways, I am definitely sharing!

  4. Love this! I ‘divorced’ my Facebook last year for 21 days…best 21 days! I still posted pictures of my daughter to Instagram but not having the drama to see daily was wonderful!

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