Why “Hate the Sin, Not the Sinner” Isn’t Working

This post isn’t a plea for clicks, likes or views, but instead a valiant cry for help in a world that paints Christians as the “God hates f*gs” militia. That’s not Jesus. That’s not me. That’s not most of us.

It’s sad to sit back and watch the media cover nothing but the faults and failures of proclaimed “Christ followers,” instead of getting down to the truth of what many of us do differently than the percentage who make us look bad. If what the media portrays is the world’s view of a Christian, please don’t call me one. I’d rather call myself a Christ follower than been thrown into the twisted and construed view of what we’ve made “Christians” out to be. I understand that Christian means Christ follower, but you get where I’m going with this.

The Word “Christian.”

The word “Christian” has become shallow, repetitious, and too common over the years. Not for the sake of Kingdom multiplication like we’d hope for, but instead that of comfort and ease. People say, “I’m a Christian” as easy as they would, “I love hamburgers.”

This isn’t a debate of theology, doctrine or philosophy, but instead of love. The reality is that Jesus called us to love one another as he has loved us. This means we are to relentlessly, passionately, and fervently love one another no matter the circumstance. Did you read what I just said? NO MATTER THE CIRCUMSTANCE. Let that sink in.

Regardless of what the Bible says about cursing, drinking, homosexuality, cheating, lying or stealing, we are still called TO LOVE ONE ANOTHER. It’s that simple. No questions asked, regardless of how you interpret.

The ideology of, “hate the sin, not the sinner” has NOT converted well in today’s culture. If you take a moment to look around, you’ll notice that we are very good at showing hate to the people whom God has called us to love. Shame on you. Shame on me. Shame on us.

Does this frustrate anyone the way it frustrates me? And before you say anything about seeking to keep your brother or sister accountable, please remember that you and I both sin as much as the next person. The goal isn’t that we are to look away when someone is struggling, but instead engage and embrace people in a way that reflects the loving comfort of Christ. A way that shows the love of Jesus. A way that strays from anything to do with hate. Period.

“Hate the sin, not the sinner” isn’t working. Frankly I don’t believe it ever has. When hating the sins of others, people just simply don’t know how to separate the sinner from the sin. I encourage you to instead “Love the sinner, not the sin.” Remove the word hate from your vocabulary as it pertains to individual attention, and start reflecting an image of Jesus that portrays him differently than a man standing on a soap-box wielding a megaphone.

I can’t ever recall a person who came to faith because of hate. Learn to love like Jesus, serve like Jesus, and forgive like Jesus. Let’s start a movement of people who are willing take hate out of the equation, and love people regardless of their sins.

The more we would love another, the less people would revert to sinning. CLICK TO TWEET

—Jarrid Wilson


What are your thoughts? Leave a comment below.

Published by Jarrid Wilson

Husband, Father, Pastor at Harvest Christian Fellowship & Author of a few books.

209 comments on “Why “Hate the Sin, Not the Sinner” Isn’t Working”

  1. I agree with you now that I have read the whole blog! Part of the struggle is what does love look like? I detest the sin in my own life and I have been confronted by other followers, as much as it hurts it makes us stronger. That is love. The best kind of love in my opinion because that person cares so much about me that they would get out of their comfort zone to tell me to step it up, get in line and man (or woman) up! The problem is many gay people do not believe they are sinning with their sexual preference. Is that the churches fault?

  2. We are to love everybody, including our enemies, but not what they do. We are to hate ALL sin, be it someone else’s and even our own! (Even God hates sin!) If a brother or sister is in sin, yes, LOVE them so much, that you tell them that what they are doing is wrong! But tell them lovingly. There is a reason God gave us rules: He loves us and wants to protect us. If a Christian is falling by the wayside, I would definitely tell them (lovingly) how to get back onto the path again, because I love them, God loves them, and neither of us wants to see him/her suffer the consequences for his/her actions.

    But when it comes to non-Christians, we honestly shouldn’t be getting onto them about particular sins anyway, because unless God moves their hearts to follow Him, they aren’t going to change their ways for the sake of glorifying him.

    The reason why the world hates Christians so much isn’t because we “hate on people” (although that 2% you mentioned are just excuses for the media to show “how much we hate”), but it’s because we follow a perfect God who has given us commandments to follow. “The law is written on every man’s heart”, and because we are all sinners, no one likes to be told that they are wrong. But it takes God humbling ourselves to accept it.

    I hope I didn’t end up rambling too bad. Peace :)

  3. Everybody sins. Nobody is perfect. The sins are between the sinner and God, not the public. We don’t have the power to forgive the sinner and get them into Heaven with our forgiveness so what business of it is ours what others do as long as it isn’t infringing on our rights as human beings? Let the sinner worry about their own individual place in Heaven.

    1. Because Amanda, if we are true Christians, with the love of Christ in our hearts we can’t help but care about others, whether they end up in Heaven or Hell! It is God’s will that all mankind come to Him. He doesn’t want any to perish! His love within us compels us to love others even our enemies! If you don’t care about others, even strangers, and how they live, then you don’t know Christ in His saving Grace. I do hate sin, for it brings heartache and sorrow to mankind, but I love all people whether they agree with me or not. I believe homosexuality is a sin because God’s word says he abhors it, but so he also abhors a lying tongue! I would never mistreat a gay person but neither would I condone their lifestyle. What I am beginning to understand more and more is that if we follow the teachings of Christ, love as He loved, speak in love the truth as He spoke, and stand against sin, we will be hated simply for those reasons, no matter how loving and kind we are to the persons involved. We as Christians are to be tolerant of all others but they themselves will not be tolerated. This will only become worse in the coming days and the persecution of Christians here in America has just begun. Doing my best to love as Jesus loved!

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