Why Christians Should Stop Saying, “Everything Happens For A Reason.”

I can’t begin to explain how many times I’ve heard the phrase, “Everything happens for a reason” growing up, especially while surrounded by many people who would consider themselves Christians or people of faith. And while I understand that this statement is mostly used to help comfort and console people who are in times of turmoil and uncertainty, I’ve had a hard time wrapping my head around the validity of its meaning.

I come from a place where I believe that not everything in life happens for a reason, but that everything that does happen can ultimately be redeemed and used by God for a purpose (Romans 8:28). These two things are quite different if you begin to unpack their meaning and understanding.

We live in a fallen world, a world full of sinful people, people who are in need of the grace of Jesus. With this being said, we have to understand that there are things in this world that are going to take place that aren’t of God, his character, or his doing. He may have allowed them to happen, but he didn’t forcefully direct them. Many might disagree with my last statement depending on their theology, but I hold true to my belief that God does not have his hand in sin, darkness or anything contrary to that of good as it states in 1 John 1:5, 2 Corinthians 5:12, and 1 John 3:5.

When someone uses the phrase, “Everything happens for a reason”, what they could be saying to somebody is the following:

  1. “Your father died of Cancer for a reason.”
  2. “Your son got hit by a drunk driver for a reason.”
  3. “Your child was stillborn for a reason.”
  4. “You were abused as a child for a reason.”
  5. “You were raped or sexually assaulted for a reason.”
  6. “You are struggling with depression and suicidal thoughts for a reason.”
  7. “Your spouse cheated on you for a reason.”
  8. “Your friend was murdered for a reason.”
  9. “Your house caught on fire for a reason.”
  10. “Your friend committed suicide for a reason.”

And so on…

That’s who He is.

When you begin to really look at some of these statements for what they are, the phrase, “Everything happens for a reason” seems to make a lot less sense and sound a lot more misleading. But what doesn’t change when looking at these phrases is the fact that God can bring redemption to each of them, use them for a purpose, and allow the testimonies that come out of them help further his kingdom. That’s who he is. That’s what he does.

We have to be careful when using lofty statements and responses that sound good for the moment, but can actually be harmful in the longrun—especially as it pertains to one’s views on God and his hand in their life. If one really believes that everything happens for a reason, then one has to also ask themselves whether or not they believe God would have his hand in circumstances and actions contrary to that of his Word and character.

—Jarrid Wilson

What are your thoughts? Leave a comment below.



Published by Jarrid Wilson

Husband, Father, Pastor at Harvest Christian Fellowship & Author of a few books.

97 comments on “Why Christians Should Stop Saying, “Everything Happens For A Reason.””

  1. Just a question for yah. While I understand why we think it is out of God’s character to ordain sin, isnt that almost in itself putting God in our box? I’m not saying that God sins, but we can’t possibly understand his full functionality, or the fact that he transcends our realm. I would point to Jesus as a prime example of this. Sin had to take place for Jesus to die as our sin payment, we know that to be God’a will. Did God not ordain that?

  2. Some Christians shouldn’t talk at all, as they have no idea what they’re talking about – just repeating something they heard someone say who didn’t know what they were talking about. Like “That’s God.” And always answering stuff with a ?? behind it, in their tone of voice. More Christians walk around in fear than in love. Believers who really don’t believe, have nothing uplifting to say. Saying “maybe”, is not giving advice and definitely not an answer. The fact that you are alive, with gravity and moving objects and terrorists and crazy people with guns, and poison in our food and in our workplace, and MONEY to be made, are why a huge percentage of things happen. There’s your reason..

  3. I want my 19 year old son to understand God’s love & grace & my son’s free will. He doesn’t believe God is a loving God; he believes God sends the sinner to hell, is all-knowing of how things will turn out. So, sees no reason to accept Christ if God picks & chooses his ppl. This blog was spot on what our family has tried to share with him. Broken hearts.

  4. Very true.I totally agree.Rather these circumstances are used to lift you up and further becomes a testimony in your life.No evil is given by God.Thank You Jarrid,just made it easier for me to shun people and guide them as to how it actually works.God bless you

  5. To find a purpose is the “reason” of a particular incident that might have happened. Same concept to me. It does not make God less appealing because one cannot go past pain without God.

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