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Why Christians Should Stop Saying, “Everything Happens For A Reason.”

Why Christians Should Stop Saying, “Everything Happens For A Reason.”

Why Christians Should Stop Saying, “Everything Happens For A Reason.”

I can’t begin to explain how many times I’ve heard the phrase, “Everything happens for a reason” growing up, especially while surrounded by many people who would consider themselves Christians or people of faith. And while I understand that this statement is mostly used to help comfort and console people who are in times of turmoil and uncertainty, I’ve had a hard time wrapping my head around the validity of its meaning.

I come from a place where I believe that not everything in life happens for a reason, but that everything that does happen can ultimately be redeemed and used by God for a purpose (Romans 8:28). These two things are quite different if you begin to unpack their meaning and understanding.

We live in a fallen world, a world full of sinful people, people who are in need of the grace of Jesus. With this being said, we have to understand that there are things in this world that are going to take place that aren’t of God, his character, or his doing. He may have allowed them to happen, but he didn’t forcefully direct hem. Many might disagree with my last statement depending on their theology, but I hold true to my belief that God does not have his hand in sin, darkness or anything contrary to that of good as it states in 1 John 1:5, 2 Corinthians 5:12, and 1 John 3:5.

When someone uses the phrase, “Everything happens for a reason”, what they could be saying to somebody is the following:

  1. “Your father died of Cancer for a reason.”
  2. “Your son got hit by a drunk driver for a reason.”
  3. “Your child was stillborn for a reason.”
  4. “You were abused as a child for a reason.”
  5. “You were raped or sexually assaulted for a reason.”
  6. “You are struggling with depression and suicidal thoughts for a reason.”
  7. “Your spouse cheated on you for a reason.”
  8. “Your friend was murdered for a reason.”
  9. “Your house caught on fire for a reason.”
  10. “Your friend committed suicide for a reason.”

And so on…

That’s who He is.

When you begin to really look at some of these statements for what they are, the phrase, “Everything happens for a reason” seems to make a lot less sense and sound a lot more misleading. But what doesn’t change when looking at these phrases is the fact that God can bring redemption to each of them, use them for a purpose, and allow the testimonies that come out of them help further his kingdom. That’s who he is. That’s what he does.

We have to be careful when using lofty statements and responses that sound good for the moment, but can actually be harmful in the longrun—especially as it pertains to one’s views on God and his hand in their life. If one really believes that everything happens for a reason, then one has to also ask themselves whether or not they believe God would have his hand in circumstances and actions contrary to that of his Word and character.

—Jarrid Wilson

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  • Kevon December 4, 2016 at 6:51 PM

    I agree that this statement can be harmful if said at the wrong time to the wrong person, but I disagree that it is invalid. Look at Job. God literally told the devil to try him and bring torment to his life. God created everything we see in this world because it is part of His perfect plan. There is ALWAYS a reason, or else God isn’t in control.

    We may not understand why everything happens, but God does and that should be good enough for us.

    • Benjamin December 29, 2016 at 1:05 AM

      God did challenge the devil to try and bring torment to Job’s life. However he did not design the specific events that happened to Job; Satan did. If God did not design the specific events, how could he design a specific reason for each event?

      Your second paragraph is more congruent with Job. God basically shuts Job up by saying that his ways are above us. However God does not say that there is a specific reason for everything but that we shouldn’t question him for what happens to us. In other words, we can’t question his general plan of existence.

    • Marifer January 2, 2017 at 5:00 PM

      I agree with you.

    • Novella January 22, 2017 at 4:59 PM

      I totally agree with you. I love the example of Job that you used as well. The Bible says that the steps of a good man are ordered by the Lord. Some steps are hard and difficult to understand but nonetheless ordered by GOD. Sunshine has no meaning Without Rain.

    • Daena April 28, 2017 at 4:58 AM

      God did not TELL the devil to try him, but rather he ASKED permission from God.

      God does not TELL the devil to harm us just to test us, that is not Who He is.

      Evil is evident because people CHOOSE to do evil things.

      But whatever the enemy meant for evil, God will turn it around for good.

      God is IN CHARGE of but He is NOT IN CONTROL of our decisions.

      • Niki June 3, 2017 at 10:27 AM

        I agree. You hit the nail on its head.

    • Penny June 7, 2017 at 7:48 PM

      I do completely agree with you. I work in a psychiatric center and to say that “everything happens for a reason” is just not acceptable. As you said it is like saying that God had a hand in bad things. A perfect God is not capable of doing bad. Thank you for posting that. I quit saying that for awhile, instead I ask them if we can find a purpose. Also asking them if this is going to control them or are they going to control it and help others because of it. Finding a purpose.

  • Judy Rowe-stotts December 4, 2016 at 6:41 PM

    I have aways felt the same as you. Happy to see it in print and with a valid explanation. You said it very well with the love of God. Amen.

  • Cam Rincon December 4, 2016 at 6:21 PM

    Thank you for sharing this message, sometimes we just try to avoid our own responsibility as broken/sinful beings. And it is true we get lost in the world, so far beyond until the point we don’t even want to understand what is God’s will for our lives. (Jarrid, I think the verse you wanted to use on 1 John was chapter 2 verse 15)

  • Miyoko Ishibashi December 4, 2016 at 5:59 PM

    I Heard a friend say this same thing
    And I totally agree w you, sir.
    Mighty wisdom you have been given
    In a Spiritual sence than a World sence.
    God is in control, whether we believe it or not,
    Whether we are Saved or not.
    God will place road blocks
    Touch every ones hearts
    With Divine Appointments, interventions,
    Just so the saved and unsaved can
    Witness events so we can witness and glorify
    His Name, supernaturally.


    Nothing is by mistake
    Is another one.

    Everything I’d in perfect Order
    According to God and His Will be Done.
    In Jesus Mighty Name, Amen
    Hope I make sense.

    • Donna December 28, 2016 at 10:52 AM

      This is how I always believe. Our God is Love.

  • Fosheebonnie@ ymail.com December 4, 2016 at 5:37 PM

    I totally agree ever since that phrased was coined I just couldn’t accept it, thanks for putting it into words I just couldn’t seem to !

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