What Should Christian Women Look For In A Man?

What Should Christian Women Look For In A Man?

What Should Christian Women Look For In A Man?

1. Spiritually Fit.

Putting this into a spiritual context, Christian women should yearn for a man who is frequently exercising his spiritual muscles. Maybe he attends a bible class, midweek service, home group, or even a mens Bible Study. Regardless of what his spiritual workouts looks like, any woman who is seeking a Godly man should find someone who is constantly refining his relationship with Christ.

2. Calm and collective.

Proverbs 14:29 states, “If you stay calm, you are wise, but if you have a hot temper, you only show how stupid you are.” A woman after God should always seek a man who can collect his temper, hold his anger, and constantly seek to stay calm a midst trials and tribulations.

3. Someone who can lead.

Napoleon Bonaparte once said, “A leader is a dealer in hope.” And while I understand that not every man is destined to be a world-renown leader, I do believe that each individual man in this world has a leadership role to fulfill within a marriage. Whether this role be filled by helping make big decisions, managing finances or even leading the family spiritually, every man is called to be a leader.

4. A trustworthy soul. 

He should inspire trustworthiness within you. If you don’t seek a man you can trust, you’ll probably end up making him as bitter as you’ll make yourself. Not worth it. If you can’t find a man you can trust, you should probably take some time away from pursuing. If there’s good reason not to trust him, don’t even think about pursuing a relationship with him.

5. Prayerful. 

A man who doesn’t pray is a man who doesn’t truly have a relationship with God. I encourage all women to seek after a guy who has a strong prayer life with the one who created him. A man worth pursuing is a man who seeks after God on a daily basis. A prayerful man will encourage a prayerful relationship.

6. Selfless.

He should care about others more than he cares about himself. Look at the way he treats her family and her friends. If he’s not close with his family, and doesn’t have any close friends, that’s probably a red flag. Some questions to ask yourself: Does she care about the needy? Does she go out and volunteer where it’s needed? Is he willing to give up the shirt off his back for someone in need? These are important characteristics to consider when looking for a man to spend your life with.

7. Ambitious.

Seek a man who has confidence in his skills, and uses them to pursue his dreams. Not only should this man seek to fulfill his God-given calling, but he should also empower his wife to pursue hers. Godly women should seek a man who is passionate about life, his calling, and his marriage. Don’t get caught in a relationship with a man who is lazy.

8. Forgiving.

Don’t reach for a man who is unlikely to forgive. The last thing any women of God want’s is to be in a relationship with someone who holds resentment for mistakes, issues, and misunderstandings. A forgiving man is a Godly man. Seek a man who showcases the same love and grace as Jesus.

9. Loving.

1 John 4:8 says, “But anyone who does not love does not know God, for God is love.” We can conclude that any man who truly loves God, is a man who loves without limitations. Women need to look for someone who is willing to showcase love no matter the circumstance. You don’t want to get caught in a relationship with someone who acts like showing love is worse than pulling teeth.

10. A good reputation.

Proverbs 22:1 states, “A good name is to be chosen rather than great riches, and favor is better than silver or gold.” And while many people might not necessarily agree, I believe any God-fearing woman should desire to seek a man whose reputation is always kept under control. Don’t get me wrong. Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but joining a man whose reputation has fallen for a reason is something you should think twice about before accepting. Seek to be with a man who gets raving compliments when his name is brought up mid-conversation.

-Jarrid Wilson


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  • Brithany February 20, 2014 at 2:50 PM

    You are truly anointed! So much said in so little words. I’m definitely keeping his list! God bless you Jarrid!

  • Andrea February 20, 2014 at 2:29 PM

    Thanks for these words, Jarrid! It’s nice to have this “list” as a reminder, as I continue to wait on the Lord for my future spouse.

  • fmu_mj February 20, 2014 at 2:20 PM

    How do you do it in so few words, Jarrid?!? This is another one of your posts I’ll have to share with the Future Marriage University (FMU) community at: https://www.facebook.com/FMUniversity.

    Great stuff! In particular I love #5: prayerful.

    You can’t be close to someone you don’t spend time with and it is in intimacy with His Heavenly father that I man learns how to pursue HEALTHY intimacy with a daughter of God.

    Anyone looking for a little encouragement in seeking God in prayer, check out this post on our FMU Date Night Advice (DNA) blog: http://f-m-u.com/Blog/chick-flicks-vs-real-life/

  • Jacqui February 20, 2014 at 12:54 PM

    My boyfriend, who is also my first love; even though he is a christian there are some points (2 and 8) in this article in which he is still struggling with. I love him, we love God and pray together. What is your advice? Blessings!

    • Marjorie June 19, 2014 at 5:54 PM

      That’s pretty scary Jacqui…….coz if he really is into Christ, he would change….or if he loves you, he will naturally be calm, not controlled by his emotions…..if those qualities he struggles is thrown towards to….Godbless! :)

  • goonies217 February 20, 2014 at 12:38 PM

    Perfect! Keeping close to heart!

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