What It Means To Be A Man In 2014

What It Means To Be A Man In 2014

What It Means To Be A Man In 2014

There are many conversations stirring up on what it means to be a man in today’s society. And while many might jump to answer muscles, money and a job title, others would claim the heart and actions of a man are what matter most.

As I take a step back and evaluate both sides of the equation, I can’t help but notice the need for a mix of both. I don’t believe a mustache and muscles alone will make a man, but I also don’t believe the actions and mindset alone will make one either. We need to understand that there are many characteristics that play into what being a man is all about. And while many people might have more attributes than others, this doesn’t mean that they are out of the running.

When it comes to being a man equipped with biceps and triceps, I’ll be the first to raise my hand and take a step backwards. I may not have the same form as the men in Muscle Magazine, but it doesn’t mean I wouldn’t go to great lengths to protect my friends and family.

And just because someone makes six-digits a year doesn’t make them any more of a man than someone who only works for minimum wage. Regardless of where you fall in the muscle and money spectrum, we all need to take a step back and realize that it’s not one attribute that makes of breaks a man, but instead a unique combination of mature qualities that work together in radical form.

Muscles and money alone don’t make a man. CLICK TO TWEET

Here are ten things I believe make a real man:

1. A real man protects his friends and family.

2. A real man does everything he can to provide for his household.

3. A real man doesn’t lead women on.

4. A real man treats people with honor and respect.

5. A real man walks in humility, and speaks with integrity.

6. A real man honors the purity of women.

7. A real man goes above and beyond to be above reproach.

8. A real man knows that there is more to life than a title or paycheck.

9. A real man leads himself closer to God.

10. A real man will always lend a helping hand to someone in need.

Would you agree? It’s okay if you don’t. Everyone has their own idea of what a real man looks like, but I wouldn’t disagree that the previous list makes a pretty good start.

– Jarrid Wilson


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  • Joseph February 14, 2014 at 8:00 PM

    Agree! :))
    Thanks for encouraging me so much! :’))

  • Rose February 11, 2014 at 10:00 PM


  • Alessio Brovelli February 9, 2014 at 7:29 AM

    Reading this from Italy. I’ve translated and shared it with some friends from my church and also with people not in church. I think your posts are really good and I’ll keep sharing these with my friends! Much love! Alessio

  • Kian Enabore (@kiangreatness) February 2, 2014 at 6:40 PM

    This is quite a list & I couldn’t agree more. :)

  • Erick Sostre January 26, 2014 at 8:40 PM

    Wow. This is a great reminder for me to live with integrity in all areas of life. It becomes so easy to be distracted by the small things, and losing the intentional focus on growing in a relationship with God is detrimental. Thank you for this post.

  • Karina January 23, 2014 at 4:27 PM

    Thank you Jarrid for sharing your point of view, of a real man is.
    Most men nowadays don’t know how to respect others. Not only men but most women also don’t respect themselves and others.
    Keep on posting your writings.
    It inspires me on how to be a better christian. I show most of my friends (guys&girls) your posts, so they can also get inspired.
    So thank you again!

  • itisallaboutfaithblog January 23, 2014 at 2:48 PM

    Sounds A LOT like my husband. Thank you for reminding me how blessed I am. Sometimes he is just a knucklehead and the hurts from many years keep clawing at our marriage. Satan sucks. But the bottom line is that I need to remember just how awesome this man really is. Tony Stites really is SUCH a giant among men!! Thank you for writing this. I feel like you were speaking directly to me telling me to let stuff go and wake up and see this man of God I’m married to! I needed this. Please keep on writing!!

  • Brenton Little (@brenton_clarke) January 22, 2014 at 12:35 PM

    I love this

  • Aya Mindalano January 22, 2014 at 5:42 AM

    Yes i agree and the man i love now had that ten things as a real man because he respect and honor me, love my family and his own family, he always lend a help to someone in need because and he lead me toward Christ and we always pray together as a loving couple that God is always the center of our family and relationship… Thanks

  • Ebele January 22, 2014 at 2:48 AM

    Yes I agree with you on these attributes of a real Man

  • Davies January 22, 2014 at 12:33 AM

    Very right, I so much agree with all

  • Ruth January 21, 2014 at 10:17 PM

    I recommend this book on bliblical manhood: ‘The Real Win: A Man’s Quest for Authentic Success’ co-written my Matt Carter, pastor of The Austin Stone Community Church and NFL quarterback, Colt McCoy. http://austinstone.org/therealwin/ It contains a powerful explanation of idolatry and temptation. Convicting for women, too.

  • Vince January 21, 2014 at 7:47 PM

    Thanks, Jarrid, for you wisdom and for sharing with us through your site. I’m an ‘older’ single guy who misses your point of view as another single guy. Congrats on getting married, thought! Numbers 1, 2, and 9 sort of make me feel like a ‘real man’ really isn’t unless he’s married. A little sensitive here, I know.

    • Jarrid Wilson Author January 21, 2014 at 9:30 PM

      All of these can apply even if you’re single.

  • Try Manoellang January 21, 2014 at 6:12 PM

    I really like all your writing. It’s really helpful and encouraging.

    Blessed to be a blessing.

    Greetings from Indonesia

  • tyrondetalla January 21, 2014 at 5:31 PM

    love it so much..

  • Sam January 21, 2014 at 4:46 PM

    Great article, I just came back from a College church retreat where we read in 1 Timothy and spent most of the time talking about what it means to be a Godly woman and a Godly man.

  • Sally January 21, 2014 at 4:15 PM

    Love it! Hoping I will find a real man someday. In the meantime I will hold my standards and try to wait patiently for God to guide me to this man. My family deserves this. Please pray for us.

  • karen January 21, 2014 at 3:42 PM

    Thank you Jarrid for sharing. I would like to share a book called “A Modern-Day Knight.” Since my son’s father haven’t been in the picture for years now. I’m trying to raise a boy into a Godly man. Pray for me. Thanks!

  • Shawn arruda January 21, 2014 at 3:41 PM

    Bro! Love this man!

  • Jonatan Guluarte January 21, 2014 at 3:36 PM

    I’m not a native english speaker. Can someone explain me the “don’t lead women on” part?

    • Anonymous January 21, 2014 at 4:29 PM

      to make a woman think that you have feelings for her (maybe even love her)
      but you really don’t.

    • Tim January 21, 2014 at 4:30 PM

      Leading a woman on could be an attempt to entice her, or even attempt to seduce her. Technically, it is to mislead a woman as to your intentions. Play with her heart. Does that make sense?

    • herman January 21, 2014 at 9:14 PM

      on my understanding . “dont be a boss to a women, give her freedom, in return she will respect you.”

    • Amanda January 22, 2014 at 3:12 PM

      It means to lead a woman (or man, women can lead men on too) to believe that a relationship or situation is something that it’s not. Often this has to do with romantic relationships where the person being led on thinks there’s some level of commitment, but the other party has no intention of that.

  • Gillett Kabigting January 21, 2014 at 3:10 PM

    a real man is like Jesus. Worship God aka has fear of the Lord. Serves God in all he does. a real man serves everyone as if he is serving God. a real man’s purpose and mind is one with Christ. ♡ a real man brings woman not to him but to God. a real man loves the way God loved us.

  • Cedrico95 January 21, 2014 at 3:07 PM

    Real talk , May GOD help us to walk in integrity .

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