What It Means To Be A Man In 2014

What It Means To Be A Man In 2014

What It Means To Be A Man In 2014

There are many conversations stirring up on what it means to be a man in today’s society. And while many might jump to answer muscles, money and a job title, others would claim the heart and actions of a man are what matter most.

As I take a step back and evaluate both sides of the equation, I can’t help but notice the need for a mix of both. I don’t believe a mustache and muscles alone will make a man, but I also don’t believe the actions and mindset alone will make one either. We need to understand that there are many characteristics that play into what being a man is all about. And while many people might have more attributes than others, this doesn’t mean that they are out of the running.

When it comes to being a man equipped with biceps and triceps, I’ll be the first to raise my hand and take a step backwards. I may not have the same form as the men in Muscle Magazine, but it doesn’t mean I wouldn’t go to great lengths to protect my friends and family.

And just because someone makes six-digits a year doesn’t make them any more of a man than someone who only works for minimum wage. Regardless of where you fall in the muscle and money spectrum, we all need to take a step back and realize that it’s not one attribute that makes of breaks a man, but instead a unique combination of mature qualities that work together in radical form.

Muscles and money alone don’t make a man. CLICK TO TWEET

Here are ten things I believe make a real man:

1. A real man protects his friends and family.

2. A real man does everything he can to provide for his household.

3. A real man doesn’t lead women on.

4. A real man treats people with honor and respect.

5. A real man walks in humility, and speaks with integrity.

6. A real man honors the purity of women.

7. A real man goes above and beyond to be above reproach.

8. A real man knows that there is more to life than a title or paycheck.

9. A real man leads himself closer to God.

10. A real man will always lend a helping hand to someone in need.

Would you agree? It’s okay if you don’t. Everyone has their own idea of what a real man looks like, but I wouldn’t disagree that the previous list makes a pretty good start.

– Jarrid Wilson


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  • karen January 21, 2014 at 3:42 PM

    Thank you Jarrid for sharing. I would like to share a book called “A Modern-Day Knight.” Since my son’s father haven’t been in the picture for years now. I’m trying to raise a boy into a Godly man. Pray for me. Thanks!

  • Shawn arruda January 21, 2014 at 3:41 PM

    Bro! Love this man!

  • Jonatan Guluarte January 21, 2014 at 3:36 PM

    I’m not a native english speaker. Can someone explain me the “don’t lead women on” part?

    • Anonymous January 21, 2014 at 4:29 PM

      to make a woman think that you have feelings for her (maybe even love her)
      but you really don’t.

    • Tim January 21, 2014 at 4:30 PM

      Leading a woman on could be an attempt to entice her, or even attempt to seduce her. Technically, it is to mislead a woman as to your intentions. Play with her heart. Does that make sense?

    • herman January 21, 2014 at 9:14 PM

      on my understanding . “dont be a boss to a women, give her freedom, in return she will respect you.”

    • Amanda January 22, 2014 at 3:12 PM

      It means to lead a woman (or man, women can lead men on too) to believe that a relationship or situation is something that it’s not. Often this has to do with romantic relationships where the person being led on thinks there’s some level of commitment, but the other party has no intention of that.

  • Gillett Kabigting January 21, 2014 at 3:10 PM

    a real man is like Jesus. Worship God aka has fear of the Lord. Serves God in all he does. a real man serves everyone as if he is serving God. a real man’s purpose and mind is one with Christ. ♡ a real man brings woman not to him but to God. a real man loves the way God loved us.

  • Cedrico95 January 21, 2014 at 3:07 PM

    Real talk , May GOD help us to walk in integrity .

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