Alright Ladies & Gentlemen, this post is for you. In regards to the recent showing of “The Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show,” I think this post was needed.
To be honest, I’m disgusted by the way our world treats you. It’s sad to say, but it’s almost as if our world purposely ignores the way we treat women. And Christian or not, the topic of weight and waist floats across the board of conversations. Not to mention how many women have struggled with weight issues in their past. The heartless conversations definitely don’t help.
The Church is supposed to be a place of freedom, acceptance and purity. But how many times have you found your insecurity level rise while in the presence of Christian men or women? Our conversation is supposed to encourage, not deter.
Ephesians 4:29 – Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.
1 Samuel 16:7 – “For the LORD sees not as man sees: man looks on the outward appearance, but the LORD looks on the heart.”
If yes, why is that?
Now don’t get me wrong. I am not saying all Christian men/women are like this. But what I am saying is that it’s wrong and not of God. You are beautiful in the eyes or God, and until someone can look at you through His eyes, their sight is of the world and not of purity.
Continue to seek God, and do not let the opinion of men or women crush your foundation in Christ. Regardless if you weigh 50 lbs, 100 lbs, or 300 lbs. You have been made in HIS image, and don’t you ever forget that.
Ladies, your beauty is not defined by your waist size or weight, but by your heart and passion for Jesus Christ. And, if anyone says differently, I wouldn’t waste your time in their presence because they’re only going to bring you down.
A real man knows waist size is a waste size. It’s the heart for Him that counts.
Genesis 1:27 - So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.
- Jarrid Wilson
Very encouraging! I work in the beauty industry so I find myself envying other women’s waist size, skin, etc . often. I will deff be remembering this next time I feel myself turning green! Thanks brother. Keep on sharing Christ’s love!
Thanks for this post bro! yes, the image of good women in society is decreasing. I even argued with my male friends about being pure in a relationship and about beautiful girl. I guess, the world put so much weight and burden in us, i mean being women, regardless what size or height we are in. YET, I thank God for some people like yourself, think highly of us :) Thanks so much and God Bless!
this is huge. honestly, i cant tell you how many times i feel judged by others or hate looking at myself in the mirror. and im a skinny chick. but im not as beautiful or as skinny as most models. i know this is just a ridiculous outlook. but somehow, seeing adverts, music vids, and shows that portray the “perfect body” still affect me. and still affect my friends. we just need to somehow know that God has an equally important plan for everyone, regardless of how we look or even whether we are men or women.
“A real man knows waist size is a waste size. It’s the heart for Him that counts” GOLDEN!
I know this was mean’t for the girls but I read it anyways not only because you, Jarrid write the best blogs but because my girlfriend often struggles with this and I’ve found it hard to convince her of her own beauty even though I know she is to me. So thank you so much once again Sir I now have the right words to say and the verses to back them up <3
Nothing wrong wit being healthy, spirituality and physically. The gym is a perfect place for a start towards a healthy lifestyle. Just an opinion. One Love, Jesus!
I do like this post, but I also believe that we should take care of our bodies by eating healthy, going to gym, dancing, etc. Us ladies also need to remember that all these women on TV have stylist and they are made to look beautiful not just for us but also to sell.
It has taken me a long time to realise that and I am glad .I have. Be healthy, treat your body like a temple, don’t listen to what the media has to say and listen to everything God has to say about you
Oh how I wish this message could get further out there. I struggled so much with this as a teenager and into college and now I work with girls from first through 12th grade and I see it at every age. It’s a true encouragement to hear it from a man of God.
It’s wonderful to see a post like this coming from a guy’s perspective. Oftentimes women do all of these things to try to please men, but if we heard more positive views like this I know it would greatly impact us. Thank you Jarrid for stepping up and respecting women the way Jesus has called everyone to! :)
Thank you for this! It’s encouraging to read things like this. I came across your blog as you are scheduled speak at the church I attend in a few days. I’m all for living a healthy lifestyle, but do it because you’re trying to take care of the temple, not just to look good on the outside to the world.
In my first year of high school, (not saying how long ago that was hehe) I made a very conscious decision to really go against the grain of how the world says I’m to look, dress, or conduct myself. I stopped wearing makeup, kept my hair tied back and became a “jeans and t-shirt, plain Jane.” Granted after years of having to wear skirts and dresses in private schools, the wardrobe change was more about being finally free to be comfortable. I was a “play in the mud with the boys” kind of girl growing up, so wearing dresses made it difficult to do the things I wanted to do. Having been thrown into the lion’s den that I imagined a public high school would be, part of me thought maybe it was also “safer” to be unnoticeable. I didn’t really think of myself as pretty, but I didn’t see myself as a troll either. In a culture often obsessed with appearance I would appear less attractive by my decision to go Plain Jane though.
I said to myself back then, (pretty deep for a then-14 year old) if God has someone out there for me, he’ll like me, for me, without all the frills, and really care about inner qualities, not merely external. God uses our weaknesses, more than our strengths anyway. I had a guy in college tell me “don’t try to get by on your looks.” I should get by through God’s Providence, not my looks.
Pleasing God with my life is the goal. Besides, trying to please the world changes all the time, so much more work. “Look this way”, “buy these clothes”, “have this”, “have that”. I’m hoping that there is a man out there for me who makes God’s approval list, but I can please God with my life without one.
Amen! Love your response Marlena. I am praying for you sister! Continue to shine bright.