Stop Photoshopping My Baby

She looked at me with a laugh and said, “Seriously, don’t photoshop my baby…”

My son is perfect in every way. I love his little nose, bright blue eyes and cute little fingers. His laugh is contagious, and his tiny toes wiggle every time we kiss him on the cheek. We’re the luckiest parents in the world, and our love for this kid continues to grow each and every day. I guess you could say we’re a little obsessed. But, hey! Who wouldn’t be?

We Can’t Get Enough

If you follow my wife and I on social media, you’ll be quick to notice the amount of pictures we post of our son. Why? Because we cannot get enough of his cuteness, and we can’t help but share our joy with the world.

A few days ago I had just got done taking a few pictures of our little boy in one of his new outfits, when I noticed a large scratch on the front of his face. My wife and I do our best to keep mittens on his hands 24/7, but every once in a while he will manage to find his way out of them and scratch up his face like an angry cat. Seriously, this kid has got some claws.

Without even thinking about it, I nonchalantly searched for a blemish remover app on my iPhone. I wanted to get rid of that scratch before I posted the picture. Why? I’m assuming it had to do with my insecurities of always wanting my face to be clear and dealing with acne as a teenager. Regardless, it was idiotic of me to force that upon my son. What kind of message would I be sending if he ever found out about this?

My wife glanced over to see what I was doing and said with a laugh, “Seriously, don’t photoshop my baby…”

I immediately stopped and realized what I was doing. I couldn’t believe I was editing my son. “I’m a shallow jerk” I thought to myself. I realized how quickly I fell into the lie that I needed to portray a perfect image for myself and my family. The reality is, my two-month old son doesn’t care about that scratch on his face—he poops in his pants for crying out loud.

What he’s worried about is being taken care of, comforted and loved by his mommy and daddy. The time I spent editing what I saw as imperfections could have been better utilized giving my son the attention and love he deserves. I know I’m not the only one who has done this, but maybe I’m the first to admit how wrong it is. It’s not right.

I’m NOT Perfect

I’m not a perfect Christian. I’m not a perfect husband. I’m not a perfect father. If I have ever portrayed myself in a way that made it seem that way, I’m sorry—It’s not true at all. Authenticity and transparency are such an important part of my life, and I realize that there is even more I can do to showcase this truth.

This is my confession. My first of many failures as a father. Forgive me son, you are perfect just the way you are. Your daddy loves you.

Parents, don’t photoshop your kids. It’s not worth the message it will send them.

—Jarrid Wilson

Published by Jarrid Wilson

Husband, Father, Pastor at Harvest Christian Fellowship & Author of a few books.

4 comments on “Stop Photoshopping My Baby”

  1. We can always count on you, Jarrid, for honesty and authenticity and this post doesn’t disappoint. Awesome!

  2. This is not a very bad thing! In a world full of parents who sees their children just as something to show others and nothing else…it’s comforting hear someone who cares so much. Bless you and your family

  3. First of all God bless you and your heart, always searching for the best, the most pure. I’m a photographer myself and have retouched many hundreds of baby images, I totally get where you are coming from here and for Instagram I would say bin the app you don’t need a retouch app. I hate shaving my legs it’s not Gods plan for me but we do these things automatically, society forces us to do things we don’t even want to do. My little girl is five months and I trim her finger nails every day they grow sooooo fast and u might find once they are trimmed with tiny baby nail clippers he might find his thumb and find comfort in that. God bless you and your family.

  4. You’re heart is in the right place – whether or not someone enhances a photo to fit in with a post thread is not the same as being ashamed or trying to give a false image – Don’t be too hard on yourself, Pastor – people can be insensitive on both sides of a subject or concert – God knows and His mercy and grace covers us – Shalom <3

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