When is the last time you heard someone preach about sex from the pulpit? When is the last time you heard a pastor or small group leader express their hurt for the impurity of our culture? And when is the last time you heard a true biblical statement regarding sex before marriage?
The reality is: Sex is a word that is rarely used in The Church of today’s culture. But in reality, The Church should be talking about sex more than anyone else on this planet. Why? Because the origination of sex was divinely created by our Creator for a specific and beautiful purpose. If we don’t share that purpose, we can’t expect our culture to know the truth behind it.
If The Church won’t talk about sex, we can’t blame our generation for seeking answers from the world.
OUR GENERATION NEEDS ANSWERS.
And although not everyone in this world struggles with the temptation of sex out of the context marriage, you’d be greatly surprised by how many do.
FACT: The porn industry makes more money each year than the movie, music, and video game industry combined.
Sex is purposed as an intimate experience between a man and a women becoming ONE in eyes of God. And while much of our culture sees sex as nothing but a social activity, I can only imagine the hurt God feels while looking down upon us as we socialize an experience that was meant for the confines of a husband and wife.
- Genesis 2:24 - Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.
- Hebrew 13:4 - Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.
- Ephesians 5:5 - For you may be sure of this, that everyone who is sexually immoral or impure, or who is covetous (that is, an idolater), has no inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God.
This post was written to make you think. To make you evaluate your heart. And to open up your eyes to the truth of what God says about sex. Don’t let the world take something that was intended for beauty, and turn it into trash. It’s time for us to take back sex for what it was purposed for.
One of the most powerful ways to glorify God in your life/relationship is to stay pure. Don’t let sex become your god.
Share this post. Be the change.
- Jarrid Wilson
FINALLY! Thank you fot this, youth needs it
Thank you Priscilla!
You have no idea how much our youth need this, Thank you so much!
I couldnt agree more. I haven’t seen many talking about such an untouched topic until my church went through a series called Explicit Lyrics early last year. It went through the book Song of Songs.
http://media.reallifechurch.org/messages/messages/series/explicit-lyrics
Amen! Love your church.
Amen! I love your church.
Amen Jarrid!!! My generation doesn’t have to be blind to the truth!
Amen!
Very true. I love my pastor because he is NOT afraid to speak on this topic. He wants the congregation to be very clear about what Love is, why God created marriage, and why God ordained sexual relations within marriage (and not outside of marriage). The Word is very clear about this topic. If God created it, and the Bible teaches about it, then there should not be any shame in discussing it. Either we teach it, or, we tacitly approve the teachings of the world.
Amen Fenton. Love your thoughts.
Thank you for sharing Jarrid! As a body we have to become more open and talk about all these things that are running rampant in our culture. People are hurting and they are using everything (especially sex) to “ease” the pain and fill the void in their hearts. But Jesus is the ONLY 1 who can and does fill every void, need and desire and the ONLY 1 who heals our hearts and broken lives.
Thank you Sade! I appreciate your kind words.
Amen!!!
Very well said! Happy to know that your letting God use you to the fullest.
And bring out topics most people wont talk about.
And something our youth desperately needs!
God bless!
Thank you Kevin! Means a lot. Praying for you bro.
wow, thanks.. I needed to hear this.. It is not easy for me and my boyfriend but this is the truth!!
Wow. Thank you for your honesty Carol! Appreciate you.
I’m glad this was addressed! :) My church actually talks about it more often than expected, but that’s great just for the reasons you said. It IS a gift from God that humans may be intimate and reproduce the Earth with children that will love God! :D
Thanks Thani. I prayed about addressing this topic for awhile.
So true Jarrid. You know Satan has to work in one place at one time but the porn industry is a perfect example of how his misery is spread to the masses as it takes one unrepentant soul, a Larry Flynt for example, to create something that destroys thousands of lives without Satan having to set foot anywhere else to spread it. So it is a topic of great significance.
Amen. Thank you Bruce. Satan definitely knows where to work. Praying we can be the change.
Thank you for posting this. It is alarming how many Christian guys I’ve met who love God but think that it’s ok to have sex when dating, they all agree that one night stand is wrong but it’s ok when they’re dating someone seriously. I know by experience sex outside marriage harms our own body, we bond our souls with our sexual partner’s, their baggage become ours and viceversa. That is pretty serious stuff because we see sex as a physical act but reality is that it goes way beyond the physical, it affects your soul and your spirit. Girls.. stay pure :)
Thank you for your support Priscilla. I am praying God continues to guide you. Purity is the way to go :)
I want to say thank you for this blessed post & May God continue to use you to reach out to many. I am a young minister as well & I recognized this problem as well. Sex is more embraced than religion in today’s time. People see it as something to make them relevant and cool at the moment, but they don’t think about the consequences that come with it. I, too, have struggled with the sexual demon & I am witness that it takes A LOT out of you & also draws you away from your relationship with God. If we as children of God keep spreading the DIVINE word of God to many, I believe we can overcome this “Sex God” as well as the Devil. Keep up the good work Jarrid, May God be with you, & Let’s enlarge the Kingdom Movement.
Thank you so much Jaelen! I am praying for your future in ministry. Thank you for your encouragement and support. We are called to be the difference, and I pray that we are!
Jarrid. I could ramble all day on how thankful I am for your posts, but it isn’t about you, or me, but the one who made us both. I appreciate what God has you doing in this world. You are a fantastic tool being used by him. This site is my homepage, so every time I open internet, your posts are the first thing I see. This keeps me both accountable and reminded of where I go next from your site, but as soon as I open the browser I read your latest post. My favorite quote from this whole post is “If The Church won’t talk about sex, we can’t blame our generation for seeking answers from the world.” Well put, man. I look forward to more inspiring words from my spiritual hero.
Amen bro. It’s all for His glory. Thank you so much for your encouragement man! We’re called to change the world.
Just something for the author to think about. This culture’s idea of beauty is highly influenced by porn, so how would you go about restoring beauty as God intended? Simply stating that stuff is outta wack doesn’t help us any. Where’s the solution?
I totally agree John. To be honest, the solution is bring God back into the vision of Sex. Doing thing the way God intended them to be done. In looking and searching through the eyes of God, we will in turn bring back the beauty He intended. – Jarrid
“If The Church won’t talk about sex, we can’t blame our generation for seeking answers from the world. ” – Preach it preacha! Even we parents need guidance.
“…not everyone in this world struggles with the temptation of sex out of the context marriage…” – I’m guessing you mean “not all women…” ;-D
“One of the most powerful ways to glorify God in your life/relationship is to stay pure.” – Let’s lose the P word. No one is pure; the very word divides the body into haves and have-nots. In truth, we all struggle to live right and follow Jesus. It gets complicated and messy, but we bathe in his love and mercy.
Thanks for opening the discussion. Let’s hear some more thoughts on the subject!
Amen! I love your thoughts. It’s time we take back what God intended for beauty.
I’m a young person and I find sex to be utterly disgusting. Even within the bounds of marriage. I dont know if its because of my screwed past, but I myself find sex nasty, and I dont think this needs to be spoken about in churches. Just my personal opinion.. I like the article thoughm, just dont agree with the content.
There is beauty within God’s plan :)
Thank you! just this weekend we had a talk with the teenagers at church about sex, no sugarcoats, just the truth about what God says. I was amazing to see so many kids liberated from this burden and shame. Like you say we NEED to adress this subject in our churches, desperately. Only that way the next generations will be able to stand up and transform this world
Amen! So good.
I think this is an eye opener! I strongly agree that we youths need to take back this beautiful aspect of God’s love for us. I mean in Church it is hardly heard of, instead pastors are shying away from this topic. The huge irony is that many of them are preaching that we all should be clean and maintain a sense of purity, yet they are struggling with sexual immoral themselves. We need to pray about this topic. Let us all spread this and give Sex God a voice. Who knows a pastor out there might just see this post. Lol! That would be super awesome! Jarrid keep inspiring us and the wider world! God bless you! :)
In my woman’s group a couple of months ago they decided to start talking about sex and what the bible says about it and how awesome it is (within marriage). This caught me extremely off guard but I feel the same way as you, if the church went out of their way more to talk about the good in it and how beautiful it is, maybe more people would be motivated to wait until they get married, because I know I was.
So awesome!
Do you have a citation for your claim that “The porn industry makes more money each year than the movie, music, and video game industry combined.” I’m sorry but I have a very hard time believing that.
Yup, the statistic is everywhere. You can google it and find the validity anywhere. :)
I wish this topic was spoken about more in the church setting. My experience with churches has only been that they discuss and promote marriage when a very high percentage of the men in the church(known and unknown) have struggled with leaving their homosexual lifestyles behind. I being one of those men have left the physical act of living that way behind not once but twice and always find myself not fitting into a church family because once I open up about that internal struggle and seek answers all I get is the talk about how im supposed to get married to a woman. What if Im so damaged from a messed up life of sexual abuse and I cant even conceive the thought of being with anyone ever again because between my childhood and my adult life experiences i’m just worn out from giving up my body in exchange for love. What about where Jesus talked about some men being born eunuchs or making themselves so? These are questions that no one ever wants to answer or talk about. Some men’s journey through life isn’t as simple and transitional as others. I agree with you, the subject of sex, and sexual immorality should be addressed more in the church because our generation is totally lost. Pray for me if you can bro.
I agree that there are not many church’s that speak on the topic of sex however, my church Word Assembly talks about the topic SEX more than any church Ive ever been too, Bishop Keith L Clark did a whole sermon on sex and it was sooo powerful, I wish the whole world could all be in 1 pace at the same time. My grand father Superintendent Robert L. Smith’s church Greater Good Shepard talks about sex as well, so more church’s need to because it is a topic that should not be forbidden or hidden. It also starts at home as well, its important for parents to discuss sex with their children, to lead them to God. Sex should not be something to be ashamed of, its a beautiful spiritual creation God made that is to be between 1 man and 1 woman whom are married; for every person one has sex with, they become 1 with them.