Not Everyone Is Going To Like You

I’d be lying if I said I didn’t spend much of my life trying to impress the people around me. Whether in the workplace, my friendships or even at church, I was constantly on guard to try and impress in hopes of finding acceptance. It feels good to be liked by others, but trying to constantly gain approval by everybody is also a game that will keep you on your toes 24/7.

When it came to group conversations, I was constantly stressing whether or not I said had said the right things or made the correct responses. I spent so much of my life trying to gain everyone’s approval. It was draining, time-consuming and always had me living life at the expense of pleasing people regardless of my personal thoughts or ideals. Even as a pastor, you yearn for that approval.

Living for the approval of others will make you a slave to their opinions. Living for the approval of others is a draining process that will never harvest eternal fulfillment. Living for the approval of others is a waste of time.

I’m a people pleaser, and I’ve always had a hard time hearing when someone didn’t like me. Over the last few years I’ve realized how much of my self-worth was dependent on the affirmation of others and I knew it was time to make a change.

The reality is, even Jesus has people who didn’t like him. That’s just the way life is. Not everyone is going to see eye to eye with your way of living. When we live for the approval of others, well eventually die by their critique. I’m just Jarrid, and I have to be okay with not everybody liking that. My worth is found in the grace of Jesus, and my calling is to glorify God in all I do—this includes striving to be an incredible husband and raising my son to know the love of Christ.

Not everyone is going to like me. Not everyone is going to like my writing. Not everyone is going to agree with my beliefs. Not everyone is going to like the way I dress. Not everyone is going to understand the way I live my life. I’m okay with that.

I’d encourage you to take a step back and look at the bigger picture of life.

We are all children of God and that is where we find our worth.

—Jarrid Wilson

What are your thoughts? Leave a comment below.

Published by Jarrid Wilson

Husband, Father, Pastor at Harvest Christian Fellowship & Author of a few books.

34 comments on “Not Everyone Is Going To Like You”

  1. Good message. FB and other make one want to compare ourselves, but as you stated we have to be OK with that because our worth is not in pleasing others, but rather pleasing the audience of one. God is who we are ultimately accountable to. Thank you for the great reminder.

  2. Boy, hit the nail on the head for me! I need to make the necessary changes, just need to know how. Thank you for the eye openin message.

  3. I’m very much like you pastor. I’m a people-pleaser. I crave for attention from others. Honestly, until now even though I am a Christian, I would lie if I am not an attention seeker. What I realized is that I am who I am in Jesus, He is worthy of all my attention, and I have all the attention I can get. More than enough even. God’s attention is on my every move, and it’s an awesome feeling to be noticed by the living God.

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