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Not Everyone Is Going To Like You

Not Everyone Is Going To Like You

Not Everyone Is Going To Like You

I’d be lying if I said I didn’t spend much of my life trying to impress the people around me. Whether in the workplace, my friendships or even at church, I was constantly on guard to try and impress in hopes of finding acceptance. It feels good to be liked by others, but trying to constantly gain approval by everybody is also a game that will keep you on your toes 24/7.

When it came to group conversations, I was constantly stressing whether or not I said had said the right things or made the correct responses. I spent so much of my life trying to gain everyone’s approval. It was draining, time-consuming and always had me living life at the expense of pleasing people regardless of my personal thoughts or ideals. Even as a pastor, you yearn for that approval.

Living for the approval of others will make you a slave to their opinions. Living for the approval of others is a draining process that will never harvest eternal fulfillment. Living for the approval of others is a waste of time.

I’m a people pleaser, and I’ve always had a hard time hearing when someone didn’t like me. Over the last few years I’ve realized how much of my self-worth was dependent on the affirmation of others and I knew it was time to make a change.

The reality is, even Jesus has people who didn’t like him. That’s just the way life is. Not everyone is going to see eye to eye with your way of living. When we live for the approval of others, well eventually die by their critique. I’m just Jarrid, and I have to be okay with not everybody liking that. My worth is found in the grace of Jesus, and my calling is to glorify God in all I do—this includes striving to be an incredible husband and raising my son to know the love of Christ.

Not everyone is going to like me. Not everyone is going to like my writing. Not everyone is going to agree with my beliefs. Not everyone is going to like the way I dress. Not everyone is going to understand the way I live my life. I’m okay with that.

I’d encourage you to take a step back and look at the bigger picture of life.

We are all children of God and that is where we find our worth.

—Jarrid Wilson

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  • Jenica Real April 7, 2016 at 10:08 AM

    Your post enlightens my heart to open up in wonderful possibilities of life by exploring myself without needing someone else’s opinion. Everything by Gods grace of course :)

  • Sarah Vaughan April 6, 2016 at 1:32 PM

    This is one of my favorite articles featured on the site Jarrid. Thanks for being honest about your struggles with this issue. I still struggle with this on an almost daily basis. I’m gradually learning to let go of the thoughts that encourage the idea that my worth is found in the opinion of others. It’s a hard process, but the reward is feeling so much better about oneself regardless of outside forces. Learning that our identities are not reliant on what others want or need us to be is such an important lesson.

  • Lovejesussavior086 April 6, 2016 at 1:15 AM

    Hii Jarrid! Your words are always precious and encouraging to me. As I am reading to your words, I find myself in it. I want people to like me and wants them to accept me. And I am also very self-conscious of what other people will think of me. Because of that I have failed to do my very best many times no matter in school or at church. I pray for the changes and Christian ways to live but I am still finding myself through this. Do you have any advise for me??

  • Bbbbb April 5, 2016 at 8:13 PM

    What if the approval that you seek is from your parents? That would be very hard… Pleasing them dont you think?

  • Jennifer April 5, 2016 at 7:39 PM

    Very well said. I have going trough the same situation pleasing other and this is very inspiring. Thank you so much. God bless.

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