Not Everyone Is Going To Like You

I’d be lying if I said I didn’t spend much of my life trying to impress the people around me. Whether in the workplace, my friendships or even at church, I was constantly on guard to try and impress in hopes of finding acceptance. It feels good to be liked by others, but trying to constantly gain approval by everybody is also a game that will keep you on your toes 24/7.

When it came to group conversations, I was constantly stressing whether or not I said had said the right things or made the correct responses. I spent so much of my life trying to gain everyone’s approval. It was draining, time-consuming and always had me living life at the expense of pleasing people regardless of my personal thoughts or ideals. Even as a pastor, you yearn for that approval.

Living for the approval of others will make you a slave to their opinions. Living for the approval of others is a draining process that will never harvest eternal fulfillment. Living for the approval of others is a waste of time.

I’m a people pleaser, and I’ve always had a hard time hearing when someone didn’t like me. Over the last few years I’ve realized how much of my self-worth was dependent on the affirmation of others and I knew it was time to make a change.

The reality is, even Jesus has people who didn’t like him. That’s just the way life is. Not everyone is going to see eye to eye with your way of living. When we live for the approval of others, well eventually die by their critique. I’m just Jarrid, and I have to be okay with not everybody liking that. My worth is found in the grace of Jesus, and my calling is to glorify God in all I do—this includes striving to be an incredible husband and raising my son to know the love of Christ.

Not everyone is going to like me. Not everyone is going to like my writing. Not everyone is going to agree with my beliefs. Not everyone is going to like the way I dress. Not everyone is going to understand the way I live my life. I’m okay with that.

I’d encourage you to take a step back and look at the bigger picture of life.

We are all children of God and that is where we find our worth.

—Jarrid Wilson

What are your thoughts? Leave a comment below.

Published by Jarrid Wilson

Husband, Father, Pastor at Harvest Christian Fellowship & Author of a few books.

34 comments on “Not Everyone Is Going To Like You”

  1. We cannot be hung up whether someone or a group, likes us or not. How about the feeling of being despised? “He was despised and rejected by men…he was despised and we esteemed him not.” It says we, not them, or some but we so when we read the verse in Isaiah, we are admitting that we are guilty of despising and rejecting the Lord, which we did, before recognising him and accepting Jesus as our Lord and Saviour. And once we did, it’s not about us, it’s all about Him.

    1. This (sentiment) can so identify with. To see smiles ” being a people pleaser” and in those moments of anothers (disapproval?) a reflective frown having boomeranged back can hurt, cut deep into the heart

      God bless you dear brother, this post “A Blessed” reminder Our identity is found in Christ JESUS💜☺

  2. I total agree. Not everyone is going to like you. I am learning to live for His glory, image. Each of us is created in Christ’s image and I am learning to live according to His creation and purpose for me. I am also living to show His glory, love, and mercy in everything I do. He created each one of us with a purpose.

  3. Today I feel like I ever try to like everyone. But it’s dangerous…in my job, someone don’t like me…and this make me feel unnecessary…in my life, my daughter, sometimes don’t like my ways…and this make me feel broken…
    I spend all day in prayer today, but I need more time to accept things…today I think no one likes me and it hurts…

    1. Hi Francesca, just wanted to let you know that you have the Father approval always with you because of Jesus – probably you know that, just wanted to speak this over you as an encouragement. Bye from Italy

  4. This is exactly what I am dealing with everyday. It’s killing me for years!! Thank you for this message. There is nothing I want more than rest and being myself. And find my identity in Christ.

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