I’m Dating Someone Even Though I’m Married

I’m Dating Someone Even Though I’m Married

I’m Dating Someone Even Though I’m Married

I have a confession to make. I’m dating someone even though I’m married. 

She’s an incredible girl. She’s beautiful, smart, cunning, strong, and has an immensely strong faith in God. I love to take her out to dinner, movies, local shows, and always tell her how beautiful she is. I can’t remember the last time I was mad at her for longer than five minutes, and her smile always seems to brighten up my day no matter the circumstances.

Sometimes she will visit me at work unannounced, make me an incredible lunch, or even surprise me with something she personally baked. I can’t believe how lucky I am to be dating someone even though I am married. I encourage you to try it and see what it can do for your life.

Oh! Did I mention the woman I am dating is my wife? What did you expect?

I must continue dating my wife even after I marry her. The act of pursuing shouldn’t stop just because we both said, “I do.” Way too many times do I see relationships stop growing because people stop taking the initiative to pursue one another.

Dating is a time where you get to learn about someone in a special and unique way. Why would you want that to ever stop? It shouldn’t. Those butterflies you got on the first date shouldn’t stop just because the years have passed. Wake up each day and pursue your spouse as if you are still on your first few dates. You will see a drastic change for the better in your relationship.

When it comes to any relationship, communication and the action of constant pursuit is key. Nobody wants to be with someone who doesn’t want to pursue them whole-heartedly.

I encourage you to date your spouse, pursue them whole-heartedly, and understand that dating shouldn’t end just because you said, “I do.”

– Jarrid Wilson


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  • adlein September 3, 2015 at 7:15 PM

    So sweet

  • Francy July 13, 2015 at 12:40 PM

    It s really such a nice idea , some people since they get married that s all and have some kids point blank. After marriage and kids it s the time for you the wife to prove yourself to your husband and Sir husband your job is harder to continue on dating sharing love but remember money for the family is not easy as well.

  • maria July 1, 2015 at 5:59 PM

    How long have you been married? Do you have kids?

    • Jarrid Wilson Author July 4, 2015 at 9:57 AM

      Married for two years and we have a son.

  • cupidious May 14, 2015 at 10:10 PM

    Some of the words hard to understand, but has absorbed most of what in your article

  • Ninjaprincess August 31, 2014 at 9:39 AM

    I really like the way you thinking. Me and my husband do kinda the same. We plan to get out and do something special, just for us

  • anonymous May 8, 2014 at 8:33 AM

    I think men should date other women if his wife lives like a roommate or relationship gets complicated. I would agree with Jarrid Wilson.

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  • Ashley January 23, 2014 at 11:35 AM

    What I find interesting is how this has been turned into a negative or men have to do everything. The Author clearly states his wife pursues him as well. When a married couple has problems and seeks counseling most of the time the counselor among other things encourages them to date again. God constantly pursues us and what’s us to pursue him and marriage is the closets depiction of that relationship on earth….. So shouldn’t we pursue each other?
    Btw if you are on here complaining about your spouse, stop wasting time on here being negative and get to work….
    Happily married and pursued!!!

  • Tom LeGrand January 17, 2014 at 1:02 PM

    Late to the game here, but I’d have to agree with at least some of the comments here (haven’t read them all, nor will I). I get it. We guys get slack, we get comfortable and lazy and don’t treat our spouses as we should. And yes, we should continue to “pursue”…but continuing to truly “date” as we once did is not realistic, and not even the ideal. I’ve counseled way too many couples that were splitting up because “I just don’t get the feeling that I did when we were dating”. It is also a failure to acknowledge that life often gets in the way, and reality is that we cannot be just as we were in dating life.

    Further, I’m not sure that this should be the goal. There is an openness and sincerity that I believe the Spirit wants us to seek in marriage that just cannot be equaled in dating. In addition, just because married life is different does not mean it’s inferior. Part of our Christian maturity is recognizing that not everything is “butterflies” in life.

  • Jessica R. January 17, 2014 at 9:51 AM

    Jarrid, I am very curious, but how long have you been married?? This is truly beautiful, but could any of it be that those newlywed butterflies haven’t quite worn off yet? If you’ve been married 30 years I can certainly learn from this, but if only a few years then I have a hard time relating this to my own life. Regardless, I do love your attitude and perspective on how married life should be :)

    • Andrew January 20, 2014 at 11:13 PM

      Do the years really matter that much? What is an appropriate time?

    • Victoria / Justice Pirate January 22, 2014 at 10:43 AM

      If it helps, I’ve been married nearly 10 years and my husband still dates me. Even though Mr. Wilson is a newlywed, I find this post beautiful. I’ve known people who stop dating directly after they get married and that is why many times we hear things like, “The first year is always the hardest.” I am thankful to hear that the Wilson couple have been doing so well since being married. They are excited about being married and set an example to people who aren’t married and hope to be and who have been married a long time. This post explains exactly why it is wonderful to be married! I can say from experience, i am far more in love with my husband than I was when we were a new couple 13.5 years ago. You go Jarrid! I’m cheering you two on! :) I still have newlywed butterflies myself! Were they supposed to go away?

  • olu January 17, 2014 at 7:57 AM

    you are very very wonderful. God bless your ministry.Amen

    • Godfrey Jones January 18, 2014 at 12:19 AM

      This is a married man’s guide to continued fellatio in married life. And women are falling for it.

  • Anna January 16, 2014 at 8:23 AM

    I think the heart behind your article is great and I really think that time with your spouse is important but what really concerns me is the amount of single woman reading this post and sharing it on facebook. I feel that this post perpetuates the thought that single Christian woman need to pray and wait for Mr. Right instead of Mr. Normal. Let me explain. Mr. Right is super Godly, good looking, a spiritual leader always, the perfect father, makes enough money to support his wife and family in a beautiful home, is a musician, very romantic, has done missions, has a Myers Briggs personality compatible with yours and has memorized the 5 love languages. He meets every requirement of that list you wrote in youth group and is a reward for being super content in your singleness. Mr. Normal is a Christian but has up days and his down days with God just like you. He is average looking, he may need you to pray for him during tough seasons, may make mistakes in parenting, has romantic times and times when the football game is more exiting than complementing you, he may or may not have done missions and may be more comfortable stacking chairs than evangelizing. His personality may complement you at times and drive you crazy other times and has stressful days and happy days. He is able to communicate with you through the ups and downs of stressful circumstances as well as grocery shopping and changing diapers and has your back when the going gets tough. He may not always be the most the most romantic but he loves you even though you are not a size 2, get stressed, burn food, forget things, may skip a quiet time and generally are an imperfect person. He is not your reward for being a perfect Christian but he is your friend. Be careful of what expectations you set for young Christians!

    • Alfonso January 17, 2014 at 5:52 AM

      Shut up

  • man gives woman takes January 16, 2014 at 3:06 AM

    Dating your wife is a good thing. I think more men should do that and maybe there would be less marital problems. The reverse of that should be true also, wives should pursue their husband. The one thing that bothers me about my wife and other women I know and that is the thinking that the guy should do all the work and they get to sit back and enjoy the benefits. I’ve made hints to my wife and she just doesn’t get it, I’ve shown her, multiple times, how to do the things we need to do and she doesn’t get it. Sorry but my wife thinks that I should be the one to initiate it all and she gets all the reward, and when I stop doing those things and wait for her to do them, well then I’m the mean, bad, jerk of a husband. Really I can’t give much more.

    • Joshua_D January 16, 2014 at 10:08 AM

      Yep. That’s the result of decades of feminist propaganda infesting our society including the Church. The idea that a husband should constantly pursue his wife is unrealistic and it demeans the true meaning of a marriage. The Bible speaks to marriage in a very different way. The Bible doesn’t speak about pursuit or dating. The Bible speaks to the wife as a helpmate. The Bible instructs husbands to love and honor their wives. What is the purpose of pursuit? If a man is constantly pursuing a woman, has that woman committed to him? Pursuit undermines commitment. The author needs to use a different term than dating, in my opinion.

    • Junior January 18, 2014 at 10:15 AM

      I had the same problems with my wife of 16 yrs, I do all the work planning and I take the initiative but she makes it sounds like that im suppose to do it and part of my responsibility of being a husband, if I sit back and don’t do anything nothing happens,, we go to work,home and kids,, same routine everyday. its funny how most articles relating to marriges and relationship its always the men…

    • John February 13, 2014 at 1:53 AM

      Despite what people think, or say they know, women run the world. Without women the human race can’t survive lol. Because of that, women take advantage of men because they throw around, “if you don’t do this no sex for you” or get mad and say, “you don’t ever help”.
      Women are to stand by their man, their companion and to be a helper. Am I saying that women should “be in the kitchen”? No. Women just need to remember they’re helpers, not slaves. HUGE difference but is completely taken out of context.
      On the other side, men need to realize women are helpers not slaves and pitch in when they can. If the trash needs to be taken out or load/empty dishwasher or whatever else, do it. The things that men may see as “petty” things are the fine details which seem like huge tasks to some women. Just doing the “small things” around the house help more than men know it.
      In conclusion, man and woman need to stand side by side. They are the others half. Before they get married both of them need to realize this. There shouldn’t be a need for continuous dating to keep a relationship going. It’s the small things that count, it doesn’t have to be this grand charade like you did when you were dating to “keep” her. Buy some flowers once or twice a month. If your wife cooks then on a day you have off, cook. Yes it’s nice to go out by yourselves here and there but don’t make it a routine to seem like you’re dating, you guys made a commitment not a half ass attempt or that’s all it’s going to be, an attempt, until God smacks you across the face and wakes you up!

      These are observations seeing my parents go thru this.

  • Sarah Murray January 15, 2014 at 10:49 AM

    The title is an excellent narrative hook. The title sounds “disgusting”, but the story is refreshing.

  • Kilo Oneninenine January 15, 2014 at 10:02 AM

    A woman can have everything she wants as long as she chooses the right mate. It’s like pairing the correct purse and shoes with the right outfit.

    Just like you wouldn’t match stripes with further stripes, one shouldn’t expect a “bad boy” or ” jerk” to change and be into dating based one the feminine ideal.

    Choose wisely.

  • WhoCares January 15, 2014 at 9:58 AM

    Ok, let me ask you, how many kids do you have?

  • Angelica C. January 15, 2014 at 9:29 AM

    I love this!!! People can say what they want. There are always going to be people with something negative to say, but they are usually the ones who settle, become bored and frustrated with a relationship/marriage and then split. Those who want their relationship/marriage to last and stay fresh understand the message you have shared. Thank you!!!

    • Joshua_D January 16, 2014 at 10:11 AM

      Marriage is a commitment. Marriage is not conditional on whether your spouse makes you happy all the time. Of course, in today’s society and with the help of the Church, most Christians think the opposite. They think marriage is a commitment, if I like it, or if my spouse meets my expectations, etc. To keep your marriage fresh, all a man must do is love his wife, and a wife must respect her man.

  • Julie January 15, 2014 at 9:18 AM

    Disagree – the action of constant pursuit is NOT key. the action of constant pursuit IS a sign of insecurity and neediness.

    “Constantly pursuing” by definition indicates never achieving a comfortable secure assurance of anothers love and dedication. i.e., things are only good, as long as “i’m happy” or someone else comes along that pursues me harder than you do at any moment.

    • Amber January 15, 2014 at 2:04 PM

      Pursuing your mate shows a desire for them, not a lack of security. This is a good read, despite some of the negative comments.

    • Joshua_D January 16, 2014 at 10:12 AM


  • mokayah January 15, 2014 at 6:12 AM

    Just wasted 7 minutes of my life reading this bullshit.

    • Cee January 15, 2014 at 5:53 PM

      You actually needed seven whole minutes to finish reading the short entry and couldn’t even draw what good you can take from the writing for your own self?

    • Dan January 16, 2014 at 4:39 PM

      I must admit, I’m fascinated by people like you who show up on websites to read articles they don’t like, just to make a negative comment. What motivates you? Out of hundreds of links, how did you choose to click on this article? And a couple paragraphs into it, for what reason did you continue reading? And finally, why did you sign in simply to make a comment that didn’t offer any critique or disagreement?

  • James Dabbagian (@JTDabbagian) January 14, 2014 at 11:53 PM

    Well, aren’t you the bloody master of Clickbait? Yeah, I’d keep dating my wife too, because we can still go on dates. The dates don’t stop because we’re hitched FFS. Christ. Waste of my time.

  • Kaila Griffin January 14, 2014 at 10:39 PM

    I love how you mix titles and messages to the opposite intention. Like “why I’m getting a divorce in 2014 ” when it’s about your divorce with your phone and others. It grabs my attention to read more and really think about the purpose to the message. It’s inspirational because it is a different way of teaching Christ to the world, and we need that!:)

    • kirst January 15, 2014 at 3:17 PM

      amen ! love is making the time we make to help others and making sacrifices eg the ““why I’m getting a divorce in 2014 ” where the writer shows how technology can stop us spending our time with others face to face…life is too short to waste what little time we have glued to our phones and laptops. God designed us for positive relationships and Jesus shows us how to love people in a far more real way than anything u find online…

  • Jeff January 14, 2014 at 6:52 PM


    • Sarah January 14, 2014 at 8:17 PM

      smh . gtfo

    • Wedgie January 15, 2014 at 3:51 AM

      Yes Jeff. You must be gay.

  • HA! January 14, 2014 at 5:10 PM

    well shes almost perfect just that darn belief in the magic sky genie. Too bad really.

    • lauren January 14, 2014 at 6:39 PM

      With that immensely strong faith, I’m not sure I’d even date her in the first place…

  • Mehjabeen January 14, 2014 at 4:14 PM

    Ditto. But Dude you got a brother who is single and ready to be bagged? ;)

  • Eda January 14, 2014 at 3:14 PM

    By the way, with the help of God, my husband is an amazing man & father who pursues me through my toughest times & shows me tons & tons of grace through my gripes & nagging, but only through Jesus’s example on the cross is he able to do this- so all you who don’t think romance is possible through hardship, get to know what Jesus did for you while you were very tough to love!!!

  • Eda January 14, 2014 at 2:58 PM

    Just want to say that my husband & I date. Earlier someone said that you would only do this is you were motivated by a good wife & not one that is naggy etc but my husband & I went through some really tough times over the last few years where divorce was imminent & the Lord brought us through. We never stopped “dating” through it all but, it was tough, my gripe was that it was forced and a huge lack of genuine affection from my husband-but constant prayer and showing him God’s love & grace through my actions kept us together. And one day God answered all my prayers and changed his heart, though claimed Christianity when we got married, the Lord touched my husband’s heart & he began to know and have a relationship with Jesus Christ. And now he pursues me though I am naggy, imperfect and not an “ideal wife” he pursues me like how Jesus pursues us. Those who said it takes two people for this to work have not tasted the Lord’s grace for the bible says this: “God demonstrates his own love for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.”-Romans 5:8
    Love is not loving someone who is easy to love but loving them regardless of what you get in return. “This is love: not that we loved God, but that he loved us and sent his Son as an atoning sacrifice for our sins.”-1John4:10. Jesus was rejected, and we are sinful, choosing sin against God, but God still loved us and paid the price for our sins through His son Jesus Christ. He pursued us & it was one-sided.

    • kirst January 15, 2014 at 3:34 PM

      what a wonderful testament i too am married and me and my husband work shifts quite often opposites so time really is precious Jesus loves us where we are even when we reject him but he pursues us relentlessly …. im trying to love like jesus but cant do tht alone i need his example and help…try reading luke’s account of Jesus’ garenteed u wont know unless u find out for urself.. ( alot of preconceptions out there ) :-)

  • jaki January 14, 2014 at 2:36 PM

    What a great confession or story what ever you would like to call it, it kind of reflects my life. Joe & I have been married 26 years we have three adults that I still to this day and for ever will call my babies. When Joe & I met we where inseperable we had our kids young & time we didnt have because we both worked. However as time passed Joe always made sure we spent time together as a family and he would always tell me ” you and I will have the rest of our life together”. At first I doubted him how can we do it with three kids two dogs and working different shifts. Well guess what, He started with weekend movies, then there where dinners, a drive to the beach for ice cream, small weekend get aways. It all adds up 26 years later he still makes time for me, much to my surprise my wonderful husband has been dating me since we have met. A good relationship is not hard to maintain one just has to know how to nurture it…

  • meranda January 14, 2014 at 2:32 PM

    WOW! I think its very sad how so many people a bashing this! I’m married and love my husband very much! We have a 5month old but that doesn’t stop us from dating! We still have date nights often! Shame on all of you that are bashing him for making time for his wife! Just because you think you are too busy to deal with dating or that the magic goes away after a while doesn’t mean you should be rude to this guy. Maybe its hard for you to believe because you haven’t taken the time to try it! I know my husband and I’s dates aren’t the same as they were before but I still love to spend time with him as us and not mom or dad or coworker or any other roll I’m busy with.

  • Mitch Yurkovich January 14, 2014 at 12:35 PM

    Someone else may have made a similar comment, but this post reminds me of a scene from the movie Fireproof. The main character, Caleb, is talking to his friend and coworker about dating his wife. His friend makes an analogy similar to this, “Dating your spouse should be like getting an education. You shouldn’t stop at getting a H.S. Diploma. You should continue to learn more about her (date her) and get your Bachelor’s Degree… then Master’s Degree… and finally your Doctorate. You should never stop learning more about your spouse!” Sorry I’m probably not as eloquent as the movie, and it’s been a little while since I’ve seen the movie but this post reminded me of that scene. It’s what I try to do in my relationship with my wife. We have an amazing marriage, but it’s something we both must WORK AT. It’s far too easy to become complacent and take your spouse for granted or think you don’t need to date them once a ring is on their finger. It can be even more challenging if you have a strained marriage, one or both people have hard or hurt feelings that need to be mended. Point being no matter where your marriage is you should date your spouse and continue to learn more about them until you’re the most knowledgeable and experienced person on the planet when it comes to them! Wherever your relationship may be, if you follow this advice you will be more likely to see your marriage improve. Excellent article Jarrid!

  • John January 14, 2014 at 12:34 PM

    Corny nonsense.

    • Rebecca January 14, 2014 at 1:01 PM

      Pretty much

  • STEVEN JAMES ROHIT January 14, 2014 at 12:27 PM

    First Peter 3:7 “ Likewise, husbands, live with your wives in an understanding way, showing honor to the woman as the weaker vessel, since they are heirs with you of the grace of life, so that your prayers may not be hindered.”

    Before God, marriage is a lifetime relationship that should never be severed by human action. In the book of Malachi, God says that He hates divorce” (Malachi 2:16).

    SO, you my friend are not a pastor, do not preach and show wrong to others who do not know God and to the children of God.

    Steven-r@live.ca > If you care for me to explain your actions “pastor”.

    • Eda January 14, 2014 at 3:19 PM

      Did you read the whole article? He is talking about his wife!

    • Lee January 14, 2014 at 9:03 PM

      God did not cut back on blessing people with ignorance I must say

    • adrian varela January 15, 2014 at 5:29 AM

      We must get the “spirit”of the brother. A must to read; The Spiritual man by W.Nee

  • Amy January 14, 2014 at 12:03 PM

    I agree. More info on your married life is necessary.

    • Lee January 14, 2014 at 9:17 PM

      I don’t understand why people are trying so hard to find reasons to say he’s too inexperienced or just flat out wrong.

      The simple, dumbed-down message for the naysayers is that married couples in this day and age should spend more time together. What is so blatantly wrong about that?

  • Amy January 14, 2014 at 12:02 PM

    I wish all men thought like you.

  • Teresa Blalock January 14, 2014 at 9:55 AM

    Three questions, how old is Jarrid, how long has he been married, does the couple have children? Without the answers to these questions, the weight/chivalry of “dating your wife” can not be measured. A man that has been been married for over 10 years and has children might be a little impressive. A faithful husband and father of 20+ years that still courts his wife is definitely impressive and one to aspire after. Jarrid, I think you need to put a few more years into your marrriage before claiming bragging rights.

    • Kristin January 14, 2014 at 1:46 PM

      Great idea and concept. It doesn’t say he has kids though. Not that kids should stop you from “dating” your wife/husband. After your married its onto the next step though. I think the REAL challenge when you have a marriage and kids is loving your spouse throughout all the chaos. Its easier to love on someone when you are one on one without a few more distractions to add to the mix. But loving your spouse in the midst of bath time and dinner prep is really something worth bragging about…ok not bragging about but consistently working on. I have to admit i am not one of those people who are on the (you have to have a date night once per week person). Its not because we can’t afford to, or because i think its wrong. I think its UN-realistic to expect someone or everyone to make a date once a week. Leaves you feeling guilty and like a failure if you don’t. How about, lets focus on the original lover – CHRIST:

      Ephesians 5:23-25 23
      For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything. 25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.

      Lets stick to loving our spouses like Christ loved us, in any circumstance – whether its date night or bath night, whenever. So whether that means a date a week, or once a month or WHATEVER you and your spouse deem is realistic. Then do it. And in the meanwhile, don’t forget to love each other during the week, each day :)

      Its cute to do dates, its healthy to get alone time, but it will look different for every couple. Make your OWN realistic expectations, your OWN set of date nights, it will change at different phases of life. Remember that. Don’t stress out yourself and your husband/wife if your not getting date nights as often as everyone else. It doesn’t mean you love each other less. Sometimes these posts are silly to me because it doesn’t really address the fact that couples need to COMMUNICATE to each other their needs, availability and realistic expectations to each other. So a post like this can cause a lot of women in particular to feel as thought hubbies aren’t as good as you, when in all reality the people reading this are at a much busier time in their life. Just something to think about if your reading this. BE REALISTIC.

    • Elliot Kim January 14, 2014 at 1:58 PM

      his post was meant to be taken with a grain of salt. thank you. It’s the heart and the effort that counts. three questions. are you married? do you have children? so why does that stop you from keeping that loving flirtatious relationship with your husband?

      This post is to be read in a Christian context where is symbolizes how our relationship should be with Jesus Christ. So many of us accept Jesus Christ and proclaim that HE is our Lord and Savior. Yet we fail to maintain that relationship. Just because we Love Him doesn’t mean we stop pursuing him. I can confess, there were those days when I couldn’t live without Jesus Christ, and then without realizing, I let go of His hand. It’s a constant struggle to keep that fire going…

      Just like its a struggle to keep ANY relationship going.

      Practice with your spouse and APPLY to our true ETERNAL LOVE, :]

      I do not mean to sounds offensive, I just wanted to open up a perspective.

  • wilt January 14, 2014 at 9:28 AM

    I love this, but how do I get my husband to realize that I need this without coming off as needy? I have hinted that we should go out on a date after work sometime, but it hasn’t worked he always wants to go home so he can play his video games and I always end up cooking. I try to do special things for him to make him feel loved and special, any ideas of things I can do for him that will really make him feel loved, respected and special? He is my world and I really want to make him happy, and for him to make me happy in return.

    • hugelovejonny January 14, 2014 at 6:17 PM

      thats so sad!! you deserve way better than that! how can he be your world if he only wants to play video games…. sounds like he barely cares about you! also- no one can ‘make’ anyone feel a certain way… you can not force him to be happy. we choose our emotions and no one is powerful enough to ‘make’ you feel something that you are not already feeling inside… just something to be aware of. if this concept strikes you as strange please research the concept of NVC: non-violent communication. we are responsible for our own emotions ultimately… good luck with him!

  • Larry Ebaugh January 14, 2014 at 9:27 AM

    Come on Jarrid. You’re wise enough to know that people do things when they’re inspired to do them. I’m widowed now, but if I was married to a wonderful woman as you describe your wife to be, I’d be dating her too.

    But if a wife becomes manipulative, nagging, and complaining, what man is going to be inspired to “date” her. Oh, he could force himself, yes. But is there genuine affection in that?

    But it doesn’t sound like you’re forcing yourself. It sounds like you’re inspired, and you’re a very fortunate man indeed.

    God bless . . .

  • Christian January 14, 2014 at 9:02 AM

    The amount of hate in this post is saddening and I only hope they find the same peace and joy you have found. Bitterness is toxic…

    Besides that, thanks for this Jarrid! Totally agree, although I do believe it takes two :) Thank you for trying to set a good example for others.

  • Miss C January 14, 2014 at 8:45 AM

    Fiddle! I thought you were going to say it was your mother!

  • Mary January 14, 2014 at 8:44 AM

    Yes I must say the title was somewhat confusing. I was judgemental at first sight. But once I read the essay , I was more accepting of the author’s conceptual idea.. It should be very enlightening to most married men who are misguided by thoughts of insecurity in their marriage.

  • Jin January 14, 2014 at 8:10 AM

    The only people who are going to like this drivel are women

  • mark January 14, 2014 at 7:27 AM

    Haha!!! Who didnt see this coming! Shocking! LOL

  • Joe January 14, 2014 at 7:10 AM

    Great article. Keep up the good work.

  • Karen January 14, 2014 at 6:44 AM

    Love your titles. They grab your attention and make you want to read the articles.

  • Joan Ferreira January 14, 2014 at 6:15 AM

    Congratulations for taking credit for stuff that a marriage is supposed to be like in the first place;… smh … nothing new here….

    • Joe January 14, 2014 at 7:03 AM

      Wow! Someone sipped on some haterade this morning huh?

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  • Romy January 14, 2014 at 5:59 AM

    Dear Jarrid,
    This Story cheered me really up. I’ve posted the link at my Dutch blog.

  • Starting Over January 14, 2014 at 3:45 AM

    I have added your story to my blog. I think the moral of the story is fantastic and it’s a message a lot of us need to hear. :)

  • Robin January 14, 2014 at 2:06 AM

    Hi Jarrid

    I guess you have a wonderful wife who is there for your every beck and call, it would be good to hear what you do in return? In my limited experience (25 years) the best way of prolonging a marriage is to understand it must be a 50/50 split…… on average, sometimes it will be 90/10, but as long as it averages out, over time you will be just fine. So in you next post I expect to read that you have delivered some home baked goodies to your wife!

  • Jandrew January 13, 2014 at 10:41 PM

    There are certain types in the world who have experienced aspects of love, within themselves and another person. When you are young love is a “beach”. You catch some sun, ride the waves, relax on the shore , have friends at the sandy BBQ. Then the storm show’s up. People begin to leave. The rain comes in and makes the sand heavy and the water rise and the winds push the waves further forward onto the shore. If youre still standing on that shore soaking wet, the waves will eventually get at you. Its then as you get older you begin to swim in the ocean. You begin to dive, dive deeper into the water , the same water that you used to gaze at when you were younger. Its cold and dark. But it also has clarity and can soak in sun. Love is a lot like this , you need to swim in the water to understand what you are looking at. Kissing it with your feet , strolling along it prolongs what is really the heart of it all. Swimming in it. Experiencing the dark,the rain, the clarity , the life that doesn’t get much attention on ‘the shore’. When the ‘dating’ ends that’s when the ‘diving’ should begin. I think you’re advice is wonderful for those ‘who need a good guide’ for awhile but we are not teaching what makes love very important. what makes it the core of life. Love is not always dating, and shore walking. You’re going to have to dive , dive in and you better be ready to swim.

    • Melissa January 14, 2014 at 10:14 AM

      This. This is beautiful. If you are married, your wife is a lucky woman.

  • Julie January 13, 2014 at 8:24 PM

    Love this article, my husband and I have been together for 11 years and the fire is still burning. I love him today just as much as I did the day I met him, yes with me it was love at first sight

  • Dale Aceron (@daleaceron) January 13, 2014 at 8:05 PM

    Love the article. Very well written. At first I thought it was a parenting article about dating your daughter, but then it made much more sense with your wife. I need to reframe my mind and try this. I know wife will love this idea. Another adventure and memory to ponder on later in life.

    P.S. Love the title. Haters gonna hate. Great creativity!

  • Royce January 13, 2014 at 7:47 PM

    The title really reduces your credibility.
    And you’re a “pastor”?
    Says who?

  • George Nolan January 13, 2014 at 7:41 PM

    I came here for advice on how to successfully commit adultery. You have tricked me….

  • B. January 13, 2014 at 7:13 PM

    I also was tricked by this post’s title. It’s a lovely essay. And I agree that spouses should, ideally, set aside time to spend together. Call it a date, call it something else. It’s the intent that counts, not the name.

    Anyhow, I had thought that the post would be about dating another person while your spouse is suffering from a progressive dementia. That’s what my situation is.

    • Joe January 14, 2014 at 7:02 AM

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  • Erin January 13, 2014 at 7:08 PM

    totally great concept….until kids enter the picture. It’s hard to have date night these days when I’m absolutely exhausted by the time hubby comes home from work….and mr. budget makes dates a little harder. (I know we could have creative date nights at home, but I’m too tired to think about that!)

    • Milk January 13, 2014 at 11:19 PM


    • Carianne January 14, 2014 at 8:10 AM

      Erin, look at Dating Divas….lots of dating ideas that you don’t have to come up with yourself. Many are cheap, or no cost dates. You can pick and choose which ones you’d like to use. I have had a lot of fun mixing it up in my relationship using their ideas. And my honey has a great time anticipating what I’ll plan next. He even gets into the planning himself at times. It is harder with kids, but not impossible! Team up with other couples in your shoes and share child care so you don’t have to pay a sitter or rely on family.

    • Rebecca January 14, 2014 at 1:06 PM

      I agree. My first thought after reading this was, “Newlyweds with no kids, how cute” I remember those years.

  • Illeist January 13, 2014 at 5:28 PM

    TIL polyamory sounds disgusting.

    • Casey January 14, 2014 at 5:18 PM

      Thank you.

  • mike January 13, 2014 at 3:40 PM

    Love the story and the concept. I wholeheartedly believe in pursuing my wife to the best of my ability, but I will admit that my heart gets heavy as it is not returned… but I knew this long before we got married… You see, she is a firm believer that it is the man’s role to pursue the wife and that I am wrong in saying that if she really felt love towards me, she would want to pursue me as well….

    To always be the one on the chase honestly, can leave a guy a little tired… I’d like to be able to stop chasing once in a while, and get chased in return… am I so wrong? She says it’s not scriptural for women to pursue men, and even when I show her places in scripture where the female did pursue the man and vice versa (song of songs) she tells me I am interpreting it wrong… I just wish I knew a way to convince her otherwise :(

    • Mary January 14, 2014 at 8:30 AM

      Be careful sir . A man is suppose to love his wife as Christ loves his church. Your wife is suppose to respect and honor you. It is not in her to chase you. A woman heart is to her children, Scriptures say ” The love of a mother to her children is the closest example of the kind of love that the Lord has for mankind (unconditional love ). Your wife is right. Its your job as the husband to come up with ways to continue to keep that bond alive. You are suppose to watch for signs of honor and respect sir. How does a woman show honor and respect toward her man ? That is the question that you need to be asking the Lord. Seek and ye shall find sir !

  • Tina January 13, 2014 at 3:02 PM

    I’m all for dating your spouse, almost 20 years talking here! Don’t like the title of the article, thought I was going to read about an open marriage…

  • Arizona Woman January 13, 2014 at 2:37 PM

    This is a great concept … but only works if both people are willing to do it. My husband refuses to do this! Yes, refuses. He wants no part of “dating” or “pursuing” – he’s told me, “If you wanted to keep dating, then you shouldn’t have married me.” He gets very angry at the idea of taking me – his wife – on a date, or “passionately pursuing” me. I am alone and lonely in this marriage.

    • Tina January 13, 2014 at 3:06 PM

      I’m sorry to hear this, I hope you have good friends to hang out with. Follow your heart.

    • PJ January 13, 2014 at 3:41 PM

      You can do better…

    • Joe January 14, 2014 at 7:07 AM

      Pray for your husband and allow God to enter your marriage.

  • Dave January 13, 2014 at 2:26 PM

    I think you’re a click-whoring douche and marriage advice should be reserved for people that have been married much longer than you.

    • Lai January 13, 2014 at 7:10 PM

      Hello, brother. God bless your for your opinion :)

      I think you ought to know that the bible says:
      1 Timothy 4:12 (NIV)
      Don’t let anyone look down on you because you are young, but set an example for the believers in speech, in conduct, in love, in faith and in purity.

      As young as he and her wife are, they can set an example in love and marriage :)

      I pray that you find peace for your troubled heart, and the wisdom that your soul is craving for.

    • Randy January 14, 2014 at 9:31 AM

      We have been married for 34.5 years and we totally agree with his advice. Try it; you might like it!!

  • savedthruhim January 13, 2014 at 2:12 PM

    You’re blog titles are making me feel sick to my stomach. I guess you’re trying to be noticed but I don’t think it’s all that funny to word things that way and it kind of pokes fun at people going through horrible things.

    • Nyle Rigor January 13, 2014 at 3:28 PM

      I have to agree with you this and felt the same way. :(

    • Kayla Danelle January 13, 2014 at 6:54 PM

      Ditto. Felt the same way. Perhaps trying too hard to be noticed.

    • Lai January 13, 2014 at 7:14 PM

      It’s called writing technique–to hook people’s attention with something as simple as the article title.

      That also reflects the condition of your heart ma’am/sir, that you think this article “pokes fun”.

      Matthew 7:1-5 (NIV)
      “Do not judge, or you too will be judged. For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you.

      “Why do you look at the speck of sawdust in your brother’s eye and pay no attention to the plank in your own eye? How can you say to your brother, ‘Let me take the speck out of your eye,’ when all the time there is a plank in your own eye? You hypocrite, first take the plank out of your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.

    • savedthruhim January 13, 2014 at 9:03 PM

      This isn’t to be judgemental. It really makes me sick to my stomach to read “I’m getting a divorce, here’s why” or “I’m married but dating someone.” I guess only the people who have faced these hardships personally would understand. It would be like twisting words like abuse or murder to “wittingly” discuss other points.

    • Amanda Véronique January 14, 2014 at 1:37 AM

      People just need to think broadly, a title is just a title but the whole main point is in the article. This guy who wrote it could save someone’s relationship, look at the positive side.

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  • Jeff January 13, 2014 at 12:52 PM

    Have you read this book by Andrea Syrtash?: http://www.amazon.com/Cheat-On-Your-Husband-Spouse/dp/1609611098

  • brhsteach January 13, 2014 at 12:33 PM

    My husband and I are both pastors and ever since the first day of our married life we have set aside a date night. It is a time when we focus on just each other and I love it! Loved your article. Thank you for sharing it.

  • Ed T Duck January 13, 2014 at 11:48 AM

    LOL wait until you have kids.

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  • Melissa Meyer (@coaset) January 13, 2014 at 10:32 AM

    i like the idea of perpetual pursuit, my question is only, why get married?

  • Andrew January 13, 2014 at 7:04 AM

    Epic article. Great job and great advice my friend.

  • citra laksmiarsih January 13, 2014 at 6:30 AM

    I love how you describe what you mean, i think your thought is very true :)
    Thank you for remembering me trough your writing, gbu

  • Lou January 13, 2014 at 4:47 AM

    Did you really want to use the word “cunning” to describe your wife? There’s some negative connotation commonly associated with that word, particularly when attributed to a woman. Might I suggest “clever”, “wise”, “adept”, “keen”, “playful” or “artful” instead.

    Generally when men refer to a woman in their life as cunning, it is meant in the pejorative…or certainly often enough to raise an eyebrow anytime it is used; especially if you’re going to use adulterous misdirection to create tension in your story.

    • Sara January 13, 2014 at 9:05 AM

      Excuse you. Just because he used -one- word that this world has warped into negativity, you feel the right to be so critical? His message is beautiful and one that is so rare in today’s society. If you cannot appreciate that, then that’s your problem. There’s no need to try and make him appear awful.

    • Otonoshi January 13, 2014 at 1:45 PM

      Nah, my wife and girlfriend are both cunning, and it’s one of my favorite parts of them.

    • Cody January 13, 2014 at 5:06 PM

      Cunning can also mean attractive. Pretty sure he’d be going for description when speaking of his wife and perpetually dating her. And you know what, if there was a type or a word taken out of context, I really wouldn’t care too much because I believe we’re all guilty of that from time to time. We all know what happens when one assumes…

      Haters gonna hate.

      Great article Jarrid

  • JASMINE January 13, 2014 at 2:05 AM

    omg that’s so cuteee :) i’m glad God gave you the right path with this love;y woman may you n her pursue to be even closer than ever!! God bless you! Keep strong n live life =. YOUR STILL YOUNG :3

  • Lara (@LaraBockmuhl) January 12, 2014 at 5:54 PM

    WOW! you sounds like my hubby!we have 4 children & every time his on vacation from work,we date almost other day from the time we married.Its nice to know his not alone! hehehe. Keep up the good work!

  • iranchina January 11, 2014 at 9:38 AM

    My husband does not do that to me anymore. So sad that I want to give up.

    • Kevin Browne January 11, 2014 at 12:16 PM

      You know, you can do it with him also, if you really want to go on a date. He shouldn’t be the only one expected to initiate dates. And who knows? If you do it to him, then I’m pretty sure he’d do the same back.

    • Emmanuel Nyambare January 13, 2014 at 4:19 AM

      Hi irachina. Dont give up yet, love begets love. Do that to him and he’ll reciprocate with time

    • YrzaYray January 13, 2014 at 10:44 AM

      Dont give up!!! Surprise him!!! There are many small and un expensive things you can do!!

    • Arizona Woman January 13, 2014 at 2:43 PM

      I’m with you, Iranchina. As my own comment states, my husband absolutely refuses and rejects this idea. Marriage sometimes takes twists and turns that we never expected.

    • yael January 14, 2014 at 3:05 AM

      dont give up, fight for ur love.

  • Randy January 11, 2014 at 3:13 AM

    Well, let’s just see when one of you gets tired of your daily routines. lets see if these “dates” will still occur.

  • Ron M. January 10, 2014 at 9:24 PM

    That’s great. Your wife is lucky to have you as I’m sure you’re just as lucky to have her. Maybe if couples approach it the way you do, we’d have less divorce in our society. Just maybe.

  • Zak January 10, 2014 at 6:53 PM

    Just like my mom and dad.

  • yumina ibit solidum January 10, 2014 at 11:43 AM

    tha’ts what we call true love and the center of your relationship is God…..weve been married for almost 19 yrs with 4 kids and we do the same thing,were in love everyday,and sad to say my hubby passed away last oct.31 2013…..keep it up and G.od bless u both.

  • shasha January 10, 2014 at 7:33 AM

    my parents got married for 25 years, still surprises me that they still share several stories about their past life experiences. i feel envy watching them inseparable.

  • Valent January 10, 2014 at 5:17 AM

    I feel that your wife is blessed to be wedded to a husband like you. She’s so lucky. :)

  • David M January 10, 2014 at 3:47 AM

    Super disgusting, superficial, and of course stealing most, if not all, of your words

  • roxannefrankly January 9, 2014 at 9:51 PM

    This is such an amazing blog. Thanks for sharing. You and your wife are blessed to have each other!

    • Primitive Presents (@Primitive_P) January 10, 2014 at 1:30 AM

      Why are they blessed to have each other? All you’ve read is what he has done for her. Men don’t enjoy dating, they do it to make women happy, and I assume he’s paying. If he was doing what he wanted with that money, he’d be drinking with friends. So all you’ve read is what a nice guy he is. He didn’t mention “she lets me put it up her backside every friday”.

    • Chris January 10, 2014 at 2:14 AM

      @Primitive Presents

      Don’t generalize. Not all men have the same views as what you said. Some men do enjoy dating and more so if the one they’re dating is their significant other. Some men also date their special someone because they enjoy spending romantic moments with them. Also what if what he wanted to do with his money was to actually take his wife out instead of drinking with friends? Maybe he really just wants to take his wife out on dates; he’s not doing it ’cause he’s a nice guy, he’s doing it ’cause he loves her and what’s wrong with that? Also if the love is true, their relationship will go beyond any physical needs.

      I’m not saying that you’re wrong and I’m not saying that I’m right. I’m just saying that try to look at things in a more positive light.

  • kimberlie January 9, 2014 at 9:12 PM

    Wow so many people completely miss the bigger picture. The point is to never take your loved ones for granite. Continue to pursue them as the years go by regardless of obstacles that may come your way. No one claims this task is easy but it is definitely necessary to have a healthy, flourishing relationship with your spouse. If both partners respect, love, and put in the work together they are capable of continuing “that dating relationship”. However like any relationship there will be hitches, regardless continue forward.

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  • Zaza Ping-Ping January 9, 2014 at 7:14 AM

    That’s such a sweet thing to do. But how long have you been married? *Im curious* I agree that one should continue going on dates even after getting married. It’s a great idea!! but doing it all the time will make it boring, in my opinion. Because, at the end of the day, you already know each other and you practically spend all your time together since you live together. I think that the dating game should be reserved for special occasions; that way it breaks the routine. =)

  • Toyota Vios January 9, 2014 at 7:09 AM

    Yea, dating shouldn’t stop even if both of you are old.
    It should keep on coming and refreshing, that is the way to keep your relationship awesome and happy :)

  • Matt January 9, 2014 at 3:49 AM

    Hi. Ummm…so that’s me in the article photo. Did you get permission from the photog to use this pic?

    • Matt January 9, 2014 at 5:22 AM

      You did have permission (but you knew that). Sorry, tripped me out to see my face on your blog.

    • Rose Marie January 9, 2014 at 5:35 PM

      Haha I thought that was you, Matt! The picture immediately caught my eye but then I was confused because you didn’t write the article. :)

      Hope you’re doing well!

    • Andrew January 13, 2014 at 8:56 AM

      You got more famous now buddy! :)

  • Maryam January 9, 2014 at 2:42 AM

    Couldn’t agree more, my religion believes that dating after marriage is highly encouraged and more meaningful than to have a relationship before marriage. It’s fun too! In addition to fun and love, marriage gives a sense of responsibility and it makes relationship even stronger.

  • Jesus saves January 9, 2014 at 2:06 AM

    If you are going to continue to date then why even progress to marriage at all? It is better to just continue dating as you say. That way when either party decides it isn’t right for them anymore then you are both free to walk away without any messy legal stuff like alimony following into your next relationship.

    • Samantha January 9, 2014 at 1:16 PM

      …because the point is not to break up…
      Marriage is a lifelong commitment. To a Bible-believing Christian, it is a sacred covenant. It’s the closest a person can get to mirroring the image of Christ’s love for the Church. (Just some backstory there)
      But, being married doesn’t have to mean that dating ends. Personally, I’ve found that during my short engagement, all the times I met with my now-husband were to plan something for the wedding or for our future place together. It wasn’t ideal, but the point is, if we didn’t make time for “dating” or flirt again after we said I do, our marriage would be pretty dry. Having my husband text me every so often while he’s at work about cute little nothings and staying up late with him while watching a movie and cuddling… those are the things that make me know that neither of us will call it quits.

      By the way, it takes two to make a relationship dissolve, not just one. And there is no “when…” what you mean is “if.”

  • if you have kids how to date January 9, 2014 at 12:55 AM

    Yes this is a very nice idea jarid. My wife sometimes ask me when will i date her again like before just the 2 of us. But the problem i encountered is that i find it tough to find a time just for the 2 of us coz we have 2 kids already. My thinking is always a group date with my kids but my wife really wanted sometimes just the 2 of us on a date. So i want to ask you jarid what will you do if you have kids already?

    • trying to help January 9, 2014 at 7:49 AM

      when they are little it’s hard, you have to pay the sitter, pay for the date and sometimes that gets expensive or it’s hard to be awake long enough to do something without the kids. Swap babysitting with someone else to save money or date at home after the kids go to bed. Rent a movie, have a picnic in the living room, do *something* somewhere else in the house (you know what I mean)…when they are old enough to fend for themselves for an hour or two go to lunch on a weekend. When the kids are grown you have to have something left for the two of you. To the original blog poster, this is really sweet. :)

    • Samantha January 9, 2014 at 1:20 PM

      Couldn’t agree more with “trying to help.”
      My husband and I have a 6 month old son. Sometimes, the only “date” we get is after he falls asleep and we have 1-2 hours to hang out together, whether it be deep conversations, playing Mario Kart on our Wii, eating dessert and watching TV, or just laughing and being silly, we always make it a point to spend time with just each other. And, like dating, it makes you excited to be with that person for that amount of time.

  • Anuradha Chandran Menon January 8, 2014 at 6:53 PM

    Thank you from the bottom of my heart for sharing this….

  • venus January 8, 2014 at 11:55 AM

    3 years ago i got married. Unfortunately, i cried much more than laugh. Now im thinking if i made a wrong decision? Honestly, im not happy in marriage.

    • mel January 8, 2014 at 4:13 PM

      All relationships take effort and will go through ups and downs. What you have to work out is…are you sometimes unhappy in an overall happy relationship or are you sometimes happy in what is an unhappy relationship overall?

      If you were’t already in it…would you choose it? My favourite question for everything from a marriage to your career/ job. Its very revealing and you will probably have the answer ring clear for you straight away as it reaches your feelings without the pressure attached with ‘should i leave? Should i stay?’.

      I am 40, a trained counsellor with a BSc Psychology (Hons) and a divorcee, now in a happy relationship.

      Good luck with your choices.

    • Krystle January 9, 2014 at 3:39 PM

      I’m not married and I’ve not so much as been in a relationship so maybe my opinion is invalid but I honestly think if its a marriage where God brought you two together that is what it is. Your marriage, your life is to glorify Him so it’s time you start dating your spouse again, pursue them and remember why you married them in the first place. Then remind them. Forgive and grow. I’ll be praying for you.

  • Shelby January 8, 2014 at 11:53 AM

    I love this and completely agree with everything you said about dating when married. It is so important in order to have a strong, healthy marriage. Dating should not stop at the alter. I have been married for two years now and this is something my husband and I strive to do every day. Thank you for being so honest and transparent. Great post!

  • San January 8, 2014 at 11:24 AM

    my husband and I reached a decade last month. Still in love with him. Life gets busy and we do grow apart but getting close again is the best thing ever!!

  • emanuelle January 8, 2014 at 10:57 AM

    nice hair

  • Wondering January 8, 2014 at 10:15 AM

    I wonder how long this guy has been married for. Sounds to me like he’s only been married for a couple of years not a decade.

    • Jarrid Wilson January 8, 2014 at 10:22 AM

      Doesn’t change the fact your vows are for life, and not for convenience.

  • Betty January 8, 2014 at 9:46 AM

    My husband and I just got married a day before Thanksgiving of 2013 and I was the happiest bride that day :)… But how I wish the days when we were still dating would come back so that I get text messages from him telling me how lucky he is for having me in his life, get flowers from him on special occasions or no occasion at all, those phone calls we exchange in the wee hours of the night just to say how much we love each other, and how anxious we look forward to the next date we set. You are right, Jarrid, dating should not stop after we say our “I dos” but rather, would go on to keep the fires burning and glowing with warmth and love.

  • Ml lim January 8, 2014 at 8:19 AM

    You are simplistic, and idealistic. Don’t get me wrong. I agree with the principle. You forget that it TAKES TWO. Pursuing, and wooing your spouse only makes sense if it is appreciated. Otherwise it just leads to frustration

    • J Ng January 8, 2014 at 11:54 PM

      Totally agree! It takes two to keep the fire burning. It will burn out if neither one tries or only one who is making all the effort. Married life with a kid is even more challenging.

  • perfectweddingfilm January 8, 2014 at 7:49 AM

    just did a blogpost for all the single people out there: http://perfectweddingfilm.com/2014/01/08/im-not-dating-anyone-even-though-im-single/ (:

  • sher January 8, 2014 at 6:17 AM

    Its encouraging to read this post. My first thought was to skip it since I’m strongly against cheating. BUT, its totally acceptable when I read on. How nice if I am able to find such a man.

  • sarah January 8, 2014 at 1:10 AM

    This great article. hope my marriage would be like that

  • lisa hayim January 7, 2014 at 6:57 PM

    i am so frustrated by this. before reading your post, i made my own decision to separate myself and said “phone” (aka controller of my universe). IT distracts me at work, school, and worstly, when I’m on the road. sadly, it took a broken i phone to get me into the store. the second i laid eyes on my 50 dollar go phone, i knew it was right. i felt liberated. finally- a phone thats just a phone (and a text machine). the problem: the phone sucked! i didtn receive any of my texts!!! Good news is, i did feel liberated from my apps, and constant need to touch my phone. bad news is, i was stuck having to fix my iPhone and am now back involved with it. saddened by the fact that the cheapest of phones can’t perform basic functions. Technology has made itself impossible to remove ourselves!!!\

  • Vivian Leo Yen January 7, 2014 at 5:46 PM

    So true.

  • Asi Christy Marianta January 7, 2014 at 10:32 AM

    So true. ..reminds me of our marriage counselling..we are doing it..even if our date is simply walking together and chatting along the way..

  • (: January 7, 2014 at 10:12 AM

    This was a good read.. Thank you so much. (:

  • Petter January 7, 2014 at 6:39 AM

    After all the “dating my phone articles” i was confused, was thinking like, “smartphone’s can make you lunch now?” :D

    • Tiff January 7, 2014 at 4:48 PM

      ME TOO !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The divorce one?! HAHAHAH, me too! That’s exactly what I was thinking !!

  • Catherine chew January 7, 2014 at 4:00 AM

    Wish to have a hubby dat treat me as tho we still in our courting stage but I guess in Asian country it damn head cost we r taken for granted.

    • Halezan January 9, 2014 at 9:31 PM

      Oh.. Well said. But my opinion, some people need a gf/bf outside to cherish their life with a “border” in their mind. /hh

  • Hira January 7, 2014 at 3:50 AM

    Pessimists every where. I have been married for 10 years with a 6 yr old and we have been going on date every Friday after the baby and its beautiful. Crazies are those who say it cannot be done

    • John January 7, 2014 at 6:00 PM

      How are you married for 10 years with a 6 year old?

  • Nola January 7, 2014 at 1:37 AM

    Thank you Jarrid. This strategy has worked for my husband and co-worker through all life’s traumas and challenges, including 2 babies and 2 step-children. Every day is an opportunity to love each other more, not an excuse to stop trying.

  • Gooobii January 6, 2014 at 11:31 PM

    Life different when your wife is pregnant and going thru confinement in asian country. My wife super hate and dislike my parent ever since the bad experience she encountered during confinement. From then on, our love or family story had been just a survivor series. We hang on together because of our kids. Nothing much but our son.

  • georgia January 6, 2014 at 10:12 PM

    you know ? is very nice and every wife want this husband ..but first of all reading your story I thought to your mom..and than I understand ; it is about you and your paradise…

  • Katy Scott January 6, 2014 at 9:36 PM

    I love reading posts about your relationship with your wife, Jarrid. I’ve never been in a relationship, but hopefully, my future husband and I will continue to pursue each other even after we’re married. I’m saving this article for future reference!

  • Heather January 6, 2014 at 6:21 PM

    Alex, when you and your date have babies, it is even more important to ensure you still take the time to enjoy dates with your spouse! The article doesn’t need re-written after babies, just highlighted!

  • Val January 6, 2014 at 3:46 PM

    Loved this article

  • Deanna January 6, 2014 at 2:20 PM

    Beautiful, I hope my next marriage is like that.

    • Arizona Woman January 13, 2014 at 2:54 PM

      Deanna, I agree.

  • alex January 6, 2014 at 1:20 PM

    This article has an element of truth… Now, you may have to slightly re-write it 10 years from now, when you and your date have babies.

    • Isaac Medina January 8, 2014 at 2:29 PM

      The stressed that may be generated by having children shouldnt dictate how you court your bride bro… Its about assessing the situation and acting accordingly

  • andrey January 6, 2014 at 11:43 AM

    can i date someone else other than my wife?

    • Mdm.Lim January 7, 2014 at 3:35 AM

      You Can – your mummy.

    • Nicholas Foo January 8, 2014 at 2:14 AM

      You Can – your daddy.

    • biasa sahaja January 8, 2014 at 2:38 AM

      your grandma?

  • Glenn Clevenger, Sr. (@GSC1949) January 6, 2014 at 11:40 AM

    There is no doubt there are many of us that just simply don’t realize what we have left behind years ago in our relationships simply because the idea of dating has always meant being single or in the worst case scenarios, cheating. I wonder sometimes if we didn’t stop dating our spouses even after we are married how many would never see a need to seek out someone new? It just makes sense that if we lose interest in each other the relationship will eventually wither on the vine so to speak!
    Thanks for this article, it is wonderful!

  • Nobody Special January 6, 2014 at 11:35 AM

    Hmm… tricked me.

  • Simone Roedres January 6, 2014 at 11:34 AM

    This is incredible. We must PURSUE our spouses for an entire life time.

  • Mike Avery January 6, 2014 at 11:01 AM

    So good!

  • Sheri Calvins January 6, 2014 at 11:00 AM

    This is amazing! Thank you Jarrid.

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