Ignoring Your Pain Will Only Hurt You In The Long Run

Pain can come packaged in many different ways. While one can encounter this burden through the loss of a loved one, another could have lost a job or even found out that they’re battling a life-threatening sickness. Regardless of how; pain is very, very real. Pain is not something we can avoid in life no matter how hard we really try. It’s a vital part of our human existence, and if treated correctly, will harvest much wisdom and knowledge.

I’ve heard the phrase “Just push through the pain” more times that I can count in my lifetime. And what seems like an encouraging an inspirational memo for those going through a tough time, any doctor will tell you that this is simply not a good idea. Why? Because ignoring the pain you have now can possibly cause further damage in the future. It’s important to fix what is broken.  Ignoring the hard parts of life will only make life more difficult.

Pushing through the pain is just as bad as ignoring it. You must acknowledge your pain in order to find healing and redemption. If you’re struggling with depression and anxiety, then maybe it’s time to fully admit that you’re struggling so that you can find help. If you’re fearful of what the future has in store for you, then maybe it’s time express that fear to a friend or loved one so they can better understand what you’re going through. If your heart is hurting and you’ve yet to open up about the pain, then maybe it’s time to drop your guard and start letting people see your brokenness. People can’t help you if they don’t know you need it.

Regardless of what you are going through in life, you must choose to look your pain in the face and make a conscious decision to fight, not flee. Pain can sometimes be a tricky subject to deal with, but it’s better to deal with it rather than never attempt at all.

There were plenty of times in my life where I ignored what I was going through because I thought I didn’t have enough time, or that my pain wasn’t that big of deal in the grand scheme of things. I couldn’t have been more wrong about my assumptions of how to deal with pain, and it was until I found myself googling painless ways to commit suicide that I realize how badly “pushing through the pain” had truly affected my life. I never one thought to reach out to people because I was afraid of what others may think. I failed to realize that we’re all broken in some way or another and that not reaching to anybody quickly put me in a corner of loneliness and despair.

The moment I found hope was a moment I’ll never forget. It was a moment where I chose to accept the reality that I was hurting and open myself to the comfort found in the truth of God and actions of those around me. I found people who related to my struggles and found themselves just as broken as I had felt. It was a rejuvenating experience to admit my pain, to really own it instead of trying to ignore. I learned throughout my life that time and time again, pushing through the pain will only make things worse.

—Jarrid Wilson

Published by Jarrid Wilson

Husband, Father, Pastor at Harvest Christian Fellowship & Author of a few books.

17 comments on “Ignoring Your Pain Will Only Hurt You In The Long Run”

    1. I’ve dealt with depression for the last 7 years of my life, contemplated suicide for 3 of them, almost had my leg amputated after a sports injury and was diagnosed with a rare blood disorder at 16 years of age that led doctors to believe I had Leukemia. I’ve dealt with my fair share of pain.

      1. My pain over a divorce is debilitating. I raise 4 children under 6 alone. Somedays I just want to die. My anxiety is scary. Its scarier that no one really cares. Love your courage

      2. Jarred, thank you for sharing with us a bit of the reality of pain, and your own struggle, that by reading this reply, I can now understand a little more about about the pain you’ve endured. Praise God you are now stronger to help and encourage others as well as to ignore thoughtless comments!

    2. I am going to assume this is an antagonistic joke because it is such a rude, ignorant blanket-statement. You have either gone through so much pain yourself that you think your pain tops everyone else’s (if so, I am sorry for what you’ve gone through, but it doesn’t minimize anyone else’s pain) or you are still so young that you believe in blanket-statements like that because you haven’t yet faced the complexity of life and the universality of heartbreak and brokenness. Jarrid hit it on the head when he said ‘we are all broken in some way or another.’ And I think learning that truth is a huge part of humility and maturity and learning to trust others with our pain and learning to have compassion for other people.

  1. Thank you for the timely reminder to face the pain and open to the comfort found in God’s Word.

    May you and your family continue to be a light that shines for Christ!

    P.s love reading your blog posts! Its so encouraging! Keep it up! :)

  2. Praying for you and your fam. You are not alone other people even pastors have walked a road just like yours. You are courageous when you face pain. Good friends will walk with you and accept you no matter what. Thanks for sharing.

  3. I’ve been following you blogs for about a year now and I have to say this blog has spoken to me the most. Hiding my pain has become an instinct for me. I’ve had multiple experiences where the lesson I learned was to keep my feelings hidden and a secret to prevent further pain or disappointment. This blog taught me Jesus paid it all so He knows it all. I need to open myself to the truth and process it.

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