Gay Straight Or Purple

Gay Straight Or Purple

This post might single-handedly be the most controversial post I will ever write. Why? Because our culture and much of “The Church” likes to put a greater emphasis on certain topics than others. – This is one of them.

A Few Things Before I Start:

1. I have dear friends who are gay.

2. I have multiple family members who are gay.

With those things being stated beforehand, I need everyone to realize that I don’t “hate” or “despise” anyone who claims to be gay, or of any other sexual orientation different from mine.

Why? Because it would be highly ignorant and hypocritical of me to do so.

But, this doesn’t mean I wont stand for my beliefs and proclaim The Gospel of Jesus Christ. 

All throughout scripture we see Jesus proclaiming a Gospel of LOVE and GRACE, but for some reason today’s society likes to ignore that when dealing with this topic. The so-called “Christians” of today have done a horrible job at dealing with this, and it’s sad to see our world’s view of Christianity be known as: The people with the signs that say “God Hates Fags.” (It makes me sick!)

Really America? Really Christians?

It frustrates me to the point of tears knowing that some of my friends or family members think I might hate them – All because of how a small group of so-called “Christians” are choosing to display their so-called faith.

I’m 100% positive that the course of action these people are taking goes against EVERYTHING The Bible calls us to resemble.

  • LOVE
  • HOPE

And if you think I am wrong, I would encourage you to take one minute of your day to actually spend time in the presence of God. 

Regardless of what scripture states about “homosexuality,” or “marriage,” (Leviticus 18:22) this doesn’t give people the right to ignorantly show hate and destruction to certain people we don’t agree with. Sharing the truth and hope of Jesus should be done in LOVE, not slander and destruction.

The Harsh Reality: I know a handful of people who are gay, go to church, and in fact show the presence of Jesus’ love more than most self-proclaimed “straight” Christians do. (Let that sink in)

This post isn’t for me to use my platform to swoon you into one view or the other. I’m a Bible believing Christian, and I believe that’s all I need to say.

Regardless, my point of writing this is to hopefully WAKE UP our generation, and encourage them to start showing the LOVE and GRACE of Jesus (This doesn’t mean that you stray from biblical truth). Our world is already filled with so much destruction and hate, and the last thing Jesus wanted when dying for us was us to be part of it.

I don’t care if you are gay, straight or purple… God loves you, cares for you, and wants nothing more than to see you in a relationship with his son Jesus Christ. Christianity is NOT a one way ticket to a picket-sign and megaphone.

1 John 4:8 – Whoever does not love does not know God, because God is love. 

Jarrid Wilson

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  • Fer June 21, 2014 at 9:33 PM

    Ok. it’s a sin. We all are sinners but God can heal them to live a new life. I encourage people to love one another because that’s the commandment Jesus gave us. No matter who you used to be or what you did, we all were redeemed by the blood of Jesus. Our past is over and God has greater plans for us in store. If you still have hurts or doubts about it, you should talk to God and he will lead you to the truth. Bible is clear but only the Holy spirit will give us understanding to know what God is trying to say. This is a good blog Jarrid.

  • G June 20, 2014 at 10:04 AM

    Where in the Bible does Jesus Christ say that homosexuality is a sin?

    • cla July 16, 2014 at 7:08 PM

      leviticus 18 : 22, 20 :13

  • Debbie May 21, 2014 at 1:53 PM

    The people on this blog make me laugh. They claim to be full of love and acceptance, but they consider being BORN gay a sin. Be careful, Christians, be very careful of calling God’s creation a sin. Get your nose out of that man-made book of yours and truly follow Jesus and all the other prophets that God has created for us.

    • Jeff Strahan June 19, 2014 at 8:18 PM

      As a person who was born with a desire to steal other peoples stuff, I deeply resent a society that finds my birth condition so offensive. Society is so intolerant of my desire to steal that I am forced to change my behavior…whats up with that?

    • Cathy June 20, 2014 at 9:07 AM

      Whether or not anyone believes being gay is a sin or whether or not someone believes drinking alcohol is a sin…everyone sins and my sins maybe different than anyone else’s. Judge not least ye be judged! God forgives EVERYONE…His forgiveness is not based on how you sin!!

    • Byron June 20, 2014 at 7:19 PM

      Debbie, “It’s just natural” or “I was BORN this way” seems to be one of the common justifications for a number of things in our society. People make the case that if something is natural, that must make it right. (Leave aside for the moment that most of the arguments equating “nature” with “right” will only mention things society wishes to foist upon us. No one argues that someone who is a natural sadist should be allowed to be sadistic).

      I think a couple of things are worth noting concerning this. The first is that Christians don’t worship Nature; we worship Christ. We need to be careful to differentiate between “nature” or “natural” desires and God’s will. Nature is the created order, humanity included. Humanity was given sovereignty over creation and when humanity “fell”, all creation fell with us. (Likewise, when Christ returns all creation will be renewed, not just people in relationship with Him). God can work His Will through an imperfect Nature—just as He works through us, an imperfect people—if He so chooses. But to say that something happens “naturally” or that something “is natural” is not the same as saying it is God’s Will that it be that way. Don’t confuse the results of The Fall with the Will of God.

      The second thing of note is the ongoing process of creation by God. While we have had generations upon generations to genetically destroy our bodies (how many inherit disease from their parents and grandparents?), it is the spirit that God creates in us that yearns for the salvation He offers. As Paul states in Romans: “For in my inner being I delight in God’s law; but I see another law at work in the members of my body”. God creates in spirit and it is only in relationship with Him that our spirits may overcome the sin our bodies seek in the natural world. “Nature” or “what is natural” to us is not the measure of right and wrong; it is not the definition of God’s Will. Rather, our natural instincts and desires are our own will(s), leading us away from God if we are not very careful. Again, as Paul reminds us: “Those that live according to the sinful nature have their minds set on what that nature desires; but those who live in accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires”. When we set our minds on ourselves, claiming our desires are simply “natural” and so must be right, we are not moving in God’s will but our own.

    • Deborah Pembleton November 16, 2014 at 8:27 AM

      But the Bible is God’s/Jesus’ Word. He is the living word and the Bible is the written word.How can I love Him and not follow what He says? John 14:15, John 14:23, 1 John 5:3. What Jesus do you follow?

  • Lee Johnson February 21, 2014 at 12:47 AM

    I am a gay man and I do feel unwelcome by Christians and Christianity as a whole. Often, them trying to reassure me only salts old wounds. “Lots of people struggle with same-sex attractions” I don’t “struggle with same-sex attractions” I am gay. What I struggle with is how I am treated. I know people “who claim to be gay.” “Claim to be” like we’re making it up, because gay isn’t something you are, it is only something you do, so you should stop doing it.

    Ironically, when I feel unwelcome or even despised, I draw comfort from the words of the Bible:
    2 Samuel 1:26 “How I weep for you, my brother Jonathan. Oh, how much I loved you! And your love for me was deep, deeper than the love of women.”

    • Mark August 19, 2014 at 8:39 PM

      I’m sure Jarrid, and the rest of the actual Christian society (including myself) feels sorry that you this way. However, like he said in this post those who degrade you and show hate and rejection forwards you don’t know God, because he is love. i myself have a “gay” brother, I love him very much, and i will kill (figuratively speaking) if someone expresses hate torwards him, even though i dont stand for what he thinks he is. As for the verse, Jonathan was a very close friend of David, like a brother (you can say it was a bromance) david enjoyed his company more than relationships with women. Therefore this verse was his eulogy to a great friend, or brother.

  • whitneyalexandrahager January 17, 2014 at 10:23 AM

    I agree with you 100%! I don’t care if you’re different than me in sexual, religion, race and any other differences between us. If you’re good to me, expect that in return. I have very dear friends that are gay, I treat them no differently that I would a straight friend. I have enough love in my heart for everyone and everything. I do recognize it as sin though, but it’s a sin to me in general, not just one situation. I do not judge nor is it my place to judge. We’re all sinners, we shouldn’t judge because others sin differently than we do.

  • Kayla November 16, 2013 at 2:25 PM

    So do you think that homosexuality is a sin?

  • Renee February 12, 2013 at 3:33 PM

    Thanks so much for the early post that started with the “fabrics of two threads” quote. This discussion reminds me so much of the discussion that went on years ago about divorce. Honestly, none of us lives up that standard of Christ. And none of us are in a position to present anything as God’s truth for another’s life EXCEPT to present Christ who is truth. And for all of us over-eaters and gossipers out there – do a word search about what the Bible has to say about how horrible those are. Don’t know anyone who has ripped out their own tongue lately.

  • kristy mapp January 29, 2013 at 10:16 AM

    What I want to know is where in the Bible does it talk about Jesus being so loving and tolerant of sinners? When Jesus encountered a sinner, He would either heal them and then they followed Him (repentance), or He rebuked them. I don’t see tolerance at all. Call me an extreme Christian… I won’t be going out of my way to hold signs and bash people, but I also will stick to the Word of God which tells me that I should not be tolerant of mine, or anyone else’s sin.. and that I should be praying for change in me and others.

    Psalm 1:
    1 Blessed is the one
    who does not walk in step with the wicked
    or stand in the way that sinners take
    or sit in the company of mockers,
    2 but whose delight is in the law of the Lord,
    and who meditates on his law day and night.
    3 That person is like a tree planted by streams of water,
    which yields its fruit in season
    and whose leaf does not wither—
    whatever they do prospers.
    4 Not so the wicked!
    They are like chaff
    that the wind blows away.
    5 Therefore the wicked will not stand in the judgment,
    nor sinners in the assembly of the righteous.
    6 For the Lord watches over the way of the righteous,
    but the way of the wicked leads to destruction.

  • Bryan Totten January 19, 2013 at 3:14 PM

    Thank you man. This post hits pretty close to some things that have happened in my life and helped to answer to questions regarding people that I consider good friends. Keep doing what you’re doing and moving through the love of Christ.

    • Jarrid Wilson Author January 22, 2013 at 10:20 PM

      Thanks Bryan. I will definitely check out your blog.

  • brenda January 18, 2013 at 11:23 PM

    I am not gay obviously, i am married with four kids :) but i do know some people who are, and they are very sweet, but i do believe is a sin, God made a man and a woman for a reason …. but that is not my job to judge them for who they are, we are all sinners and they all weigh the same in the eyes of our Lord, but as a Christians and believers in God we can show them the love of God by loving them and showing them the light of God in us. I am so far from perfect but i enjoy being a girl :) …God bless you Jarrid

  • Rebekah W. January 17, 2013 at 7:39 PM

    I don’t know why people would be confused by reading this. You were clear in what you believe. Maybe it’s that people don’t understand that you can disagree with something and still be loving. Great post.

  • Arny Sanchez January 14, 2013 at 8:48 PM

    Wow…well said bro…
    I never really new a gay person personally…but now I have a co-worker that is gay…and she is one of the coolest person i know…
    I agree…that it is wrong…but that is not my place to judge…i take the plank out of my eye…i know there are sins i can not control…and doesn’t make me better or worse then her…just the same actually…sinners in the hands of the loving God….GOD will deal with my sin…and he will deal with hers…not me…
    All the while speaking the Gospel of Jesus.

  • Chelsea January 14, 2013 at 4:32 PM

    Jesus speaking right here. :)

  • Aaron B. King January 14, 2013 at 2:37 AM

    To all of you here, Christians

    Do not get anything twisted. God is love. Unconditional love. He loves us all. We as Christians should reach out to murderers, people in prison, rapists, gays, prostitutes, suicidal people, people whose souls have been destroyed by worldly love… To those we should be like Christ. But what is Christ? He is love, peace, acceptance (His arms are opened for ALL Humans, for a human a the image of God on Earth. The thing is that sin got us away from God but Christ was the bridge, this narrow bridge that brings us back to God.) grace and mercy.
    Someone who says they are Christians but do not show any of these thing IS NOT a Christians (read Galates 5:22, 1 John 4:8 and 1 Corinthians 13) and I am sorry if some are offended but it is better that I say that now, instead of having Christ saying that, when sitting on the Great White Throne for it will be too late by then. So all of us, let us show, unconditional love, peace, acceptance, grace and mercy, shall we? Some of our critical blessings and breakthroughs are hindered just because of that (For it is a lack of obedience). And for those who are still skeptical, if you cannot show mercy and acceptance and love to the world, why should God show this to you?? Who are you to demand this? You are humans just like me, unworthy of getting that but since God is love, peace, grace, mercy forgiveness and acceptance (about justice, that is only for Him to say who is to be punished, not for us, we just show the Bible to the people, but the justice is the Lord’s) you just received God’s gift of love. Since you got it from Him, how about you show people God’s unconditional love (again that is love, peace, acceptance, mercy and grace, shown by Jesus Christ on Christ. He laid his life for people who hated Him. As a Christian, would you lay your life for someone who murdered someone you love? Or for a gay? If you can’t, talk to God NOW)
    In the end, the only thing that’ll save the world is God’s love revelation through us Christians (Christians means followers of Christ). Let us do our job, in full obedience, reverence and love to our dear and lovely Redeemer, shall we? Let us God bless us as we do so.


  • Guillermo Calvillo January 13, 2013 at 9:29 PM

    God hates sin but loves the sinner… so much He send his only begotten son to die for us.

    • Paul January 17, 2013 at 7:28 AM

      On judgment day, will God send the sinner to hell or their sin?

    • Jarrid Wilson Author January 17, 2013 at 11:09 AM

      We’re all sinners. Those who have not repented will not seek housing in the Kingdom of Heaven.

  • Amber January 13, 2013 at 9:19 PM

    AMEN! One of the best lines I’ve read is this: Don’t judge me because I sin differently than you.

    A sin is a sin no matter what it is. I would never treat someone differently because of the lifestyle they choose. I have friends and family who are gay, and I love them regardless of this. Hate does not turn anyone’s heart and those that use it need to remember what God is all about.

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