Christians Are Failing At Showing Love To The LGBT Community

In response to the plethora of posts floating around in regards to the LGBT community, God has definitely stirred some emotions within my heart. I’m sure this post is going to start quite the conversation, but I feel within my heart that it’s something in need of saying. Why? Because I value people. I value souls. I’m called to love people. It’s what Jesus did.

You can’t ignore the fact that the conversation between the Church and the LGBT community is something of importance, and I believe this will be one of the most discussed topics for the next 10-15 years. We must realize that how Christians handle this situation today is going to greatly impact the quickly-approaching future of the church. You can still love someone and not affirm their lifestyle.

When looking for guidance on how Christians should treat people they would say are different than them, I believe Jesus is the perfect example when seeking for an answer.

A few things I know about Jesus. 

1. He loved people who were different than him.

2. He ate with people who were different than him.

3. He served people who were different than him.

If you call yourself a Christian, you’re called to do the same. You don’t have to agree with someone’s lifestyle in order to spend time with them. You can still showcase love and compassion to someone, even if you don’t see eye-to-eye with their beliefs. Jesus would have never wielded a “Got Hates F*gs” picket-sign, nor would he reject the opportunity to sit and eat with someone for dinner just because they were gay. He loved all people equally and you and I are called to do the same.

While I don’t believe all people have hateful picket-signs stored away in their closets, I do believe the unspoken opinions of the LGBT community would resemble something quite similar. That’s a bold statement, but I believe it to be true by what I’m seeing and reading taking place in our world.

Regardless of what your interpretation of biblical text is, loving your neighbor is not something you can ignore or push aside. And while I don’t believe all Christians need a crash-course in “showing love 101,” I do believe that there are millions who do. Are you one of them?

“The second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ No other commandment is greater than these.”—Mark 12:31

Pastors, teachers, brothers and sisters, you are CALLED to love all people in the name of Jesus. You are CALLED to show compassion to those who need it. You are CALLED to befriend those who are different than you, all to exude the grace and mercy of your Savior;Jesus.

I have family members who are gay. I have friends who are gay. I know people who are questioning their sexual identity. So, what do I do? I show them love and grace as Jesus would. My calling is to lovingly point people to Jesus, His Word, and not shove my egotistical, “I’m right, and your wrong” beliefs down their throat. That never works out well. That’s why Christians are in this spot in the first place.

Does this mean you a live of passivity? Nope. This means you evaluate the way you say things and make sure they are said with love, compassion and mercy.

It hurts my heart to see how many pastors and leaders are wrongfully handling the LGBT conversation, and I believe that coming back to heart of compassion is what’s needed most. There are so many people who are handling this conversation correctly, and I wish more people would follow suit in the name of Jesus.

Regardless of what side of the conversation you find yourself landing on, your commandment to love people and share truth in a loving way remains the same. Love well.

-Jarrid Wilson


What are your thoughts? Leave a comment below.

Published by Jarrid Wilson

Husband, Father, Pastor at Harvest Christian Fellowship & Author of a few books.

88 comments on “Christians Are Failing At Showing Love To The LGBT Community”

  1. I agree with you Jarrid. Everyone wants someone to love them. I do not not agree with the lifestyle but I am not one to judge someone for the life they are leading. God is the one they will have to answer to. God says to love as he loved. Christians need to do just that no matter who you are. Jesus sat among the sinners and thieves, he loved those who thought they were unlovable even the ones who crucified them. Instead of leading pickets and shaking a fist in someone’s face for the way they are living, lead a Bible study and invite them to it. Let them see that not all Christians will condemn them for how they are living. Hug them and let them know the Jesus loves them and that they can come back to him anytime, but also let them know that there is not much time to think about it. We are to be witnesses and now is the perfect time to do so.

  2. Thank you for this post. To some, the biblical texts against the homosexual issue is very clear and yet the ones about loving thy neighbor is nuanced in different ways. One thing that I not seen mentioned is about the father’s unconditional love for both sons regardless of their issues in the story of the prodigal son.

  3. How do you witness to someone in this community without condoning their lifestyle? Condoning has a negative connotation around it. I want to show love to these people like I would anyone else, but as soon as I say I disagree with their lifestyle they will either assume I hate them, or never hear me out. I don’t want to be passive about this issue, but at what point does “showing the love of Christ” turn in to sharing the gospel and witnessing to them? How do I approach this without giving off the wrong impression?

    1. I understand far less about homosexuality than I understand, but I understand this. To show the love of Christ is to show love unconditionally and without agenda, even if that agenda is to bring correction and lead to Christ. It is love that never fails, it is love that removes the obstacles of opposing views/lifestyles, it is love that reveals God. I have decided to shut my mouth when I have wanted to speak and to embrace when I have wanted to push away. The fruit of that is that I have maintained relationships with homosexual people who are in need of God’s love and at the moment I am the closest thing to that in their lives. There is hope…….because there is love.

  4. Thanks very much, Jarrid for the post. A very timely one.

    I agree with you that as Christians we are called to love and not judge and to be compassionate and gracious to all people, regardless of their race, color, culture, whether they’re gay or straight or whether they are mixed race couples, families or same-race couples, families etc and the list goes on. I have worked over 15 years in countries like Singapore, Malaysia, China and Kazakhstan – I also worked with people from every continent. Some of them were gay, but I still treated them with the same respect and dignity as I would anyone else and showed them love, grace, and kindness. One of my colleagues who was gay was quite close to me, but he died while we were working at a school in Shanghai, China. I was shattered that a wonderful, gifted and great guy died so young at the age of 35.

    The issue I have with the gay community is their treatment of Christians. I have heard of several cases where Christian businesses that refused gays services were taken to court by the gay couple, lost the case and had their business shut down, by order of the judge. Now this bothers me. For example, if a mixed race couple goes to a church to get married and if that church refuses to marry them, then what? The church does have a right to refuse to marry a mixed-race couple – whilst it’s very sad but a lot of churches I know operate that way. All the mixed-race couple need to do, is to find a church that will marry them – that’s it. It’s as simple as that. Why is it necessary for them to take the church to court, beat on them and then have the court shut the church down? It is not necessary at all.

    In the same way, when gay couples are refused services by Christians businesses (who have the right to serve who they want to) all the gay couples need to do, is to find businesses that will serve them. But many of them, I think deliberately target Christians so they can take revenge and shut their businesses down if they are refused a service. And I have discovered that one can show gays the deepest love, respect and kindness but if their minds are made up about us Christians, they remain resentful and bitter towards us.

    My heart goes out to those Christian businesses who have had their businesses shut down by gay couples who take them to court to get the court to shut down these businesses. What happens to our fellow Christians who depend on their business as a form of income and financial support? Are we saying that an one who refuses a gay couple a service, must suffer from their revenge? I cannot condone this al all.

    If they continue their brutal treatment of Christians and others who do not support their sexual orientation, they will isolate themselves. We desire that gays get treated well and fairly and that they respected in all our communities but if they carry on this brutal, revengeful treatment of others, they will become disconnected from others.

    Anyway, as for me, I will continue to show people from the gay community the love of God, respect and kindness and treat them fairly as I do anyone else.

    By the way, gays are not allowed to function as gay couples in many countries around the world like Malaysia, other Asian countries, Africa and the Middle East. In some of the countries, gays are likely to be killed if their sexual orientation is found out. So please warn those in your network and social circles when they make travel plans. I don’t approve of this at all – no one should be treated like this anywhere in the world.

    1. I guess it’s ok with you if these businesses have religious objections to serving Muslims or black people too. Think about it.

    2. So these same businesses don’t have a problem selling their product or service to couples that live together without being married? People who lie? Sure they do. But they pick and choose and decide to exclude one group of people because they think their lifestyle is sinful but sell to anybody else who they would have to agree is living a sinful lifestyle?? That’s called being a hypocrite and acting like God in judging what THEY think is the most sinful. To not be a hypocrite they would have to refuse to sell to anyone who sins, which means they would not be able to sell to anyone at all.

  5. Here is what I try to use every day to drive my interactions with everyone…. It is the Holy Spirit’s job to convict, God’s job to judge, and mine to love. Anything else is just useless noise.

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