Christians Are Failing At Showing Love To The LGBT Community

In response to the plethora of posts floating around in regards to the LGBT community, God has definitely stirred some emotions within my heart. I’m sure this post is going to start quite the conversation, but I feel within my heart that it’s something in need of saying. Why? Because I value people. I value souls. I’m called to love people. It’s what Jesus did.

You can’t ignore the fact that the conversation between the Church and the LGBT community is something of importance, and I believe this will be one of the most discussed topics for the next 10-15 years. We must realize that how Christians handle this situation today is going to greatly impact the quickly-approaching future of the church. You can still love someone and not affirm their lifestyle.

When looking for guidance on how Christians should treat people they would say are different than them, I believe Jesus is the perfect example when seeking for an answer.

A few things I know about Jesus. 

1. He loved people who were different than him.

2. He ate with people who were different than him.

3. He served people who were different than him.

If you call yourself a Christian, you’re called to do the same. You don’t have to agree with someone’s lifestyle in order to spend time with them. You can still showcase love and compassion to someone, even if you don’t see eye-to-eye with their beliefs. Jesus would have never wielded a “Got Hates F*gs” picket-sign, nor would he reject the opportunity to sit and eat with someone for dinner just because they were gay. He loved all people equally and you and I are called to do the same.

While I don’t believe all people have hateful picket-signs stored away in their closets, I do believe the unspoken opinions of the LGBT community would resemble something quite similar. That’s a bold statement, but I believe it to be true by what I’m seeing and reading taking place in our world.

Regardless of what your interpretation of biblical text is, loving your neighbor is not something you can ignore or push aside. And while I don’t believe all Christians need a crash-course in “showing love 101,” I do believe that there are millions who do. Are you one of them?

“The second is equally important: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ No other commandment is greater than these.”—Mark 12:31

Pastors, teachers, brothers and sisters, you are CALLED to love all people in the name of Jesus. You are CALLED to show compassion to those who need it. You are CALLED to befriend those who are different than you, all to exude the grace and mercy of your Savior;Jesus.

I have family members who are gay. I have friends who are gay. I know people who are questioning their sexual identity. So, what do I do? I show them love and grace as Jesus would. My calling is to lovingly point people to Jesus, His Word, and not shove my egotistical, “I’m right, and your wrong” beliefs down their throat. That never works out well. That’s why Christians are in this spot in the first place.

Does this mean you a live of passivity? Nope. This means you evaluate the way you say things and make sure they are said with love, compassion and mercy.

It hurts my heart to see how many pastors and leaders are wrongfully handling the LGBT conversation, and I believe that coming back to heart of compassion is what’s needed most. There are so many people who are handling this conversation correctly, and I wish more people would follow suit in the name of Jesus.

Regardless of what side of the conversation you find yourself landing on, your commandment to love people and share truth in a loving way remains the same. Love well.

-Jarrid Wilson


What are your thoughts? Leave a comment below.

Published by Jarrid Wilson

Husband, Father, Pastor at Harvest Christian Fellowship & Author of a few books.

88 comments on “Christians Are Failing At Showing Love To The LGBT Community”

  1. You are one of the few who talk like this. Unfortunately, the entire subject of LGBT has become an object instead of about people. This is one of the reasons that fundamentalists and evangelicals are rapidly become anathema: by objectifying a group, they are void of love. Their straw man arguments have supplanted what is in scripture.

  2. We should not push aside the prayer as well! Convict people is not our job as christians, only God is judge of lives, of rights and wrongs. God always come through! So love people whatever their sexual orientation or opinion is, and pray, pray for our brothers and sisters so they can as well follow the word of God.

  3. It’s important to remember it’s not our job to convict others of their sins, that’s the Holy Spirits. But it is our job to love and point them in the direction of the wordTHROUGH love.

  4. Yes, yes, yes, yes, yes! I have just been waiting for a response like this to be released! These men and women are all seeking one thing, and it’s the thing that we have found, love. We are not exclusive just because we found that love, but called to share it. I hope people take this to heart when we read it because we are all God’s children, not just the straight people, but the LGBT community as well.

    1. I have to agree to a few things. Christians have at times handled the issue of homosexuality poorly at times. It isn’t a sin in a class all by it’s self. It’s one sin among many sins in a list that can be labeled as sexual immorality, sins such as adultery, incest and fornication, etc. You get the picture. Those sins are among a larger grouping of sins such as idolatry, those involved with the occult and with drugs, murderers, idol-worshippers, and everyone who loves and practices falsehood. (Revelation 22:15, Romans 1: 26-31, 1 Corinthians 6:9) .So in short, it is a part of humanity’s fallen nature.

      When dealing with the issue, I feel that we need to approach it the same way that we would approach any sin; that the unsaved need a saviour should be priority #1. The current issue it seems to me right now is within the Church. While more and more within the homosexual community are looking for acceptance of their life style choice from within the Church, those of us that are within have to deal with how to handle the situation. Scripture is clear, “What business is it of mine to judge those outside the church? Are you not to judge those inside?”~1 Corinthians 5:12. We ARE called , as believers, to govern the Church, to exhort, to rebuke and to train people up in righteousness. 2 Timothy 4:2, Titus 2:15.

      I too have gay friends (and by extension friends who are adulterers, fornicators, generally those of the unsaved type) and I do not hate them. However, they are of the world and my priority towards them is salvation. However to quote Jesus: “”10Straightening up, Jesus said to her, “Woman, where are they? Did no one condemn you?” 11She said, “No one, Lord.” And Jesus said, “I do not condemn you, either. Go. From now on sin no more.” (John 8:11) they need to know what exactly they are being saved from, and saved for. The most loving thing that you can do for them, is to tell them the truth and allow them to count the cost!
      ~Just my opinion…

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