Breaking Up With My Phone

This past week I encountered one of the most stressful, yet liberating experiences I have had in a while. Since the dawning of social-media, we can see that many people have yet to lose attachment from their mobile devices. It’s crazy to think how many of us spend anywhere between 4-6 hours a day attached to our phones, and that’s just a rough estimate.

My liberation began when my wife and I were about to board a plane to St. Louis for a ministry trip. As the time to board our flight drew near, my wife asked if we had enough time to get some coffee and breakfast. As I reached for my phone to check the time, I was astonished to find that it was not in my pocket.

Immediately my mind began to run wild. “No you did not!” I began to say to myself. I couldn’t believe the words that we about to come out of my mouth as I began to tell my wife, “I left my phone in the car…” 

“Well, nothing we can do now” she said. She then began to explain how I could use her phone for the week, and reminded me that I could receive my emails and texts messages through my iPad.

Side Note: My wife is the most selfless, encouraging, and beautiful woman in the world.

This may seem like an extremely silly thing to get stressed about, but I cannot begin to tell you how much of my ministry efforts revolve around the contacts and applications I have stored in my phone. It’s a way to communicate, push content, and connect to people around the world.

The Reality Is: I didn’t really NEED my phone, but because I was so attached to it, I felt that I couldn’t work without it.

How many people are so attached to their smart-phones that it begins to dumb them down?

I spent a total of five days without my phone, and it turned out to be one of the best weeks my wife and I have ever spent together. We weren’t constantly checking updates, statuses, or Instagram photos. Instead, we were spending time with God, each-other, and with the company of friends while serving the city of St. Louis. Don’t let your mobile device hinder your mobility. Gain control of your life, and realize that it’s ok to turn off your phone every once in a awhile. In fact, I encourage you to turn off your phone at least two or three times a week for a minimum of two hours.

1 week ago today I broke up with my phone, and I don’t plan on getting back into an un-healthy relationship with it ever again. This post was designed to make you think about how you’re spending your time, and whether or not your smart-phone is actually dumbing you down.

I’ve only got one wife, and she doesn’t have an apple logo on her back.

Does this post resonate with you? Leave a comment below.

– Jarrid Wilson

Published by Jarrid Wilson

Husband, Father, Pastor at Harvest Christian Fellowship & Author of a few books.

85 comments on “Breaking Up With My Phone”

  1. Outstanding Article here Jarrid! The majority of us (me included) are addicts. We are so addicted to online social media and email we often neglect human, face-to-face interaction. Texting has become the impersonal discussion method of our age. In general, people don’t really talk or have REAL interactions any more. Excellent, thanks for the reminder!

  2. Hey Jarrid. Loved the post. I remember I had forgotten my phone at home one day. I didn’t realize it until I got to my 1st class of the day. At first I was extremely irritated b/c I felt like I HAD to have it. If it weren’t for the long distance from the college to my house I would have gone back to get it. But the day turned out great anyways b/c, like you said, I wasn’t constantly checking my social media accounts. Since then I have started turning my phone off twice a week. It just feels great to actually be alone to yourself and not constantly have your phone buzzing.

  3. My husband and I just got married 3 weeks ago. And every night after the kids are asleep. We spend at least 20-30 minutes sitting on the front porch. Talking about our day, plans for the next day, etc….
    It’s important for our relationship to turn the world off, and focus on each other. Focus on God! I enjoyed your post and hope others can learn from it. Until we turn the world off, our phones and iPad, we can’t connect to God because we can’t hear him. We can’t get to know our partners. Just my thoughts….Thanks for all you do. I enjoy reading all your posts…

    1. Thank you for the prayers. It takes time to get into a routine or habit of doing it. We look forward to it everyday! It’s our uninterrupted time….

  4. Yes! I have been talking about this for a couple of weeks to friends and loved ones. I get so much done and focus so much more on my family without my phone on. I let it die frequently and procrastinate charging it on purpose. I only use it for catching pictures and videos of my babies and to catch my emails and subscriptions (which I only do on Monday). I’m happier for it.
    Glad you had a great week with your honey!

  5. This is the second post i have read in less than 24 hours about the use of smartphones. I think the Lord may be telling me something here… I agree with your sentiments entirely Jarrid. Our reliance on our smart phones can become a vice. As you often hear, how on earth did we live just a few short years ago without our smart phones?

Leave a Reply

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.