An Open Letter To Miley Cyrus

An Open Letter To Miley Cyrus

An Open Letter To Miley Cyrus

Dear Miley Cyrus,

I first want to say how sorry I am for the way people are treating you and tweeting you for your performance at the VMA’s. While most of the world sits back and wonders “What the heck happened to Miley?” I personally wonder, “What’s going on in Miley’s heart?”

I cannot say I enjoyed your performance, but I can say I my heart breaks for you, your future, and your identity as a woman.

There are so many things I don’t know about you, but something tells me that you are going through more than you are willing to share with the people around you. I can’t imagine being surrounded by the paparazzi 24/7, living in the shadow of your dad, and constantly being asked, “What happened to that sweet girl from Hannah Montana?” 

I get it, you’re an adult now. You don’t want to be forever viewed as the Child-Star from Disney Channel. But I can promise you that this isn’t the way to break that mold.

A Few Things: 

1. You deserve to be respected. 

2. You deserve to be treated like a lady. 

3. You deserve a man who will treat you with honor. 

But the current lifestyle you are living will make it very hard for you to find any of these things. I say this because I care about you, even though I have never met you. You have a platform that is beyond grasp, and I believe your potential to use it for good is unmeasurable.

I’m not going throw any scripture at you. I’m not going to tell you how wrong you are. And I’m not going to tell you that you need Jesus.


Because frankly, I think you already know all of these things.

You’re a smart girl who has found herself caught up in the world of entertainment. I assume it’s rough. I can’t imagine being constantly surrounded by drugs, sex and alcohol. And I can’t imagine the peer pressure you must feel from labels, managers, and other artists around the world pressuring you to be something you’re not.

I’m here to tell you: YOU DON’T NEED TO LISTEN TO THEM. You are allowed to make your own decisions, and quite frankly this might be the first time anyone has ever told you that.

Regardless of what the tabloids say, my wife and I still believe in you, and will always show an open hand of grace and second chances.

Jarrid Wilson

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  • Chanz September 1, 2015 at 1:36 AM

    She is not free from her decesions. Her life is not her, Its from God. You tolerate this kind of attitude. Open up your mind. Judge not lest you be judged. Twist not the scripture you be like the devil. As christians we have right to judge righteous judgement. Mr. Wilson where did you get your theology.

  • Jaye August 31, 2015 at 4:54 PM

    I think miley can careless what anyone thinks. And she seems happier now than back then. She just gave an interview where she said hannah montana made her have issues with her image. Its music and music videos. If u dont like them. Dont look or listen. Mtv advertised the VMAs as an adult show. And she wasnt even actinf crazy. Dont pray for her. Shes fine with her money and fans like me who like her better now than before. She makes it know she doesnt judge and she accepts everyone with love. Maybe u should take a page from her book

  • Joel Sanabria August 31, 2015 at 3:25 PM

    Hey Jarrid,

    I fully agree with what you have written. Although, i’m not sure if I would have apologized for the reaction of everyone else. After all, you reap what you sow. But, I fully understand what you are stating in this article. The fact the Miley Cyrus, Justin Bieber and other musical artist are portraying a lifestyle that is very questionable, troubling and at times outrageous does give us a glimpse of the actual pain and struggles they are going through. They have inner issues, pain and troubles for which they only know and will not share and so they seem to cover that pain and their troubles by acting in a manner not normal to our standards, even to the point of being very offensive.

    Miley, I’ve watched her since she was young and yes she is not the same person. The enemy has taken hold of her life and as long as she continues to hide her pain and run from it, he will use it to bind her and lead her to destruction. She may or may not realize the damage she is causing to her own life and affecting the younger generation that look up to her and think that it’s okay to be like her. We can only pray that she is able to find a way to cry out to God and come boldly before His throne to find grace and obtain mercy.

  • darlene August 31, 2015 at 12:38 PM

    My heart breaks for her my young daughter refuses to watch her videos any more ..Miley is making the wrong statements in her performances and its sad .. Yes she wants to prove she is her own person I do understand that but she can do it without degrading herself .. And that is what she is doing .. The one video where she cuts her fingers off there are so many young people that battle with harming themselves and she unwittingly glorified it .. They say any press is good press but when you make the choice to be in the public eye you are making the choice for others to follow your lead
    . So make choices to better things then assist in the downward spiral of society

  • K.C. August 31, 2015 at 11:49 AM

    Nice sentiment, except she has openly said that she is fully in control of what she’s doing, that she is doing it because she wants to, and that she’s doing these things because she feels pressured NOT to. She’s not “caught up” in anything that she hasn’t openly dived into. That is what is the most disturbing thing about everything she’s doing: she’s doing it of (comparatively) sound mind. She IS making her own decisions. Worse, her parents seem to back her. I gave her the benefit of a doubt when she first started acting out. I still pray for her, but I don’t make excuses for her. Not any more.

    • Kristina Losito August 31, 2015 at 7:09 PM

      I was about to say the same thing, sadly =(

    • Kathleen Duncanson Heseltine September 1, 2015 at 6:12 AM

      There is something inherently wrong with this young woman who repeatedly wants to take her clothes off in public leaving nothing to the imagination. Secondly, there is something inherently wrong with her father and mother for not putting their foot down with this young woman when they had the chance. It was their job to raise her to respect herself and not offend the sensibilities of those around her. Her father, Mr. Achy Breakey heart, (Billy Ray Cyrus) was on television after the awards saying how proud of her he is… I can’t imagine what prompted him to say that out loud… It’s disturbing to say the very least… He actually said, she’s young and just having fun… No family values here…

  • Kate August 31, 2015 at 9:45 AM

    I agree with you sir 😊

  • Apple Tork June 21, 2014 at 9:15 PM

    She’s just a young person having fun like all young people do. She doesn’t need your condescending judgement. She’s going to just fine.

    • Dakota C. October 22, 2014 at 1:20 PM

      I don’t think he means it condescending at all, honestly. It seemed very loving, understanding and full of grace. A lot like how Jesus would have spoken to her and I think He’s trying to speak to her through this.

    • Monique Augustin August 31, 2015 at 9:54 AM

      All young people do not have fun like that. Some were raised to respect themselves

    • K.C. August 31, 2015 at 11:52 AM

      I know a lot of young people, people in her peer/age group. I don’t know too many who are choosing the destructive path that she is. It’s NOT just “having fun”, and not ALL young people are doing it.

  • Kaytlyn February 27, 2014 at 9:49 AM

    Have any Celebrities replied to your open letters? If so i would like to know how they responded. It would be really cool to know that one of them actually looked at what you had said, read through it, and responded in someway. Hopefully, in a positive and polite way.

  • Grace December 19, 2013 at 6:02 AM

    Jarrid, this is lovely. THANK YOU.

  • Ben Santhosh Daniel December 17, 2013 at 5:16 PM

    the same way i felt when i witnessed her performance… a troubled, pressurized and frustrated soul which thinks it’s lonely… God is closest when you think He is farthest.. praying for her.. may the Lord Jesus bless her as He has blessed each one of us… To all the ladies and gentlemen who have judged her: “for all of us have sinned and have fallen short of the glory of God……. whoever is sinless among you, may throw the first stone at her” –> hope none of you have forgotten these verses which are an absolute truth…

  • Takisha Taylor-Collins December 17, 2013 at 2:32 AM

    I agree. Well said, for we all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of God.

  • Hannah W. December 16, 2013 at 8:18 PM

    This is great! I’m glad this has finally been said from a place of love and concern instead of judgement.

  • juana December 16, 2013 at 5:50 PM

    This is great!
    I felt kinda the same when all this had happened… my thoughts were- you knw what, at least she isn’t being a hypocrite like many. At least she’s being who she wants to be…I didn’t see why all were in such shock. its hollywood, sadly, but why would it surprise anyone more so than if it had been another person. We all have sinned and do foolish things. We just keep ours in secret and hope the whole world doesn’t find out. We’ve been through hardships and have dealt with them foolishly. There was no need to look down upon her. Simply because we too have been in pain and lost and have portrayed it, it just wasn’t publicized or shown over tv for everyone to see and criticize…anyway a lovely letter to miley. I hope she was able to read it. Its people like you, Gods people that we need more of to make a stand and shine. :-) God Bless

  • Poeticdreamz November 28, 2013 at 5:26 AM

    I have to agree with a lot of what Mr. Wilson said in his open letter. What is upsetting to me is how we as individuals and as a group can be so judgmental to another person or group and use the excuse of faith. The reason a lot of people are not flocking to the Christian faith is not weather or not it is sugar coated or watered down, or if its the hard truth. People want the truth regardless. It is the followers who become pious, read God’s word and use it against others rather than meeting them where they are in thier lives. Did not Jesus go to the sinners, was he not humble, did he not sup with the tax collector and save the woman’s life at the well? I remember him accepting who they were in that moment and offering unconditional love, patience, wisdom and showing them that there is a better way. There was no name calling, no judgement.There are a lot of people in the Christian faith who read the bible and then use it as poison barbs against others and then have the audacity to claim that they are doing God’s work. This is why I have stepped away from the Christian faith. There are too many in the faith quick to condemn others. My son was barely a month old (he was born premature) I took him to my home church where I had been attending for years. I took my son to the nursery and the women’s bathroom as adjoining. I used the rest room when two women came in and started talking about my son and about my life. They proceeded to call him a bastard drug baby because his eyes were so big. I stepped out of the stall. I corrected them. I told them that yea..he was born out of wedlock, they got me on that one. However, the reason his father and I did not get married was that he would beat the crap out of me on a regular basis and chain me to a toilet.. I told the two ladies that this was the reason he was born pre mature, not because of drug use. I have never done any illegal drugs. I reminded them that we are not to judge others. I also reminded the two ladies that my child is the Son of God and should be respected as such.I concluded my discussion with the two ladies and gathered my son up and left the church for good. It has been over 13 years since that occurred. The point of this is no one has the right to judge another person. We have not walked in their shoes. I will leave the judging up to God because I know I am in no position to judge others. I feel as long as man takes it upon himself to interpret God and then speak for him without the Wisdom and love a true relationship with God, that nothing will change. I do not agree with Miley’s choices, but these are hers to make. I must admit that I mostly listened to the radio, stay away from tabloids and rarely watch television so I had not seen Miley in a while. When I decided to look her up on youtube I was shocked by what I saw. When I saw the videos the first thoughts that came to my mind was that she was in deep emotional pain on top of trying way too hard to shed the young Disney girl image. She is a beautiful talented woman with an amazing gift. She has a beautiful voice and a bright light that shines from within her. In my opinion (not to be mistaken for judgement) she has more than enough talent and fan base that she doesn’t have to dress the way that she currently is dressing or being as sexual in her actions as she is. I continue to be a fan on Miley’s, but for myself, I will not buy any of her cd’s or merchandise. I will not help support this type of lifestyle. I will wait for her to move on, to grow up, and tone it down a bit. Then I will be back and purchase her cd’s.

  • morga November 2, 2013 at 7:19 PM

    Amen. You just gained a bunch of respect form me. I always love your posts but I believe this has to be one of my favorite. You are so right. It’s her decision to act as she does.

  • lolita bhatia October 9, 2013 at 10:50 PM

    I’m gonna say just the same what you have written for Miley.

    God blesses you Mr. WILSON.

  • Haley October 9, 2013 at 6:37 PM

    Just so everyone knows, you know she’s doing all of this on purpose, right? She’s a marketing queen- she’s brilliant. She’s getting free press. Why are you all so silly?

  • Jazmine Gallardo October 9, 2013 at 9:13 AM

    Why can’t y’all just let her be? She’s her own person, she does what she wants too! She doesn’t need y’all to big her telling her that y’all’s “hearts are aching” or “y’all are disappointed in her”. She’s doing what she does for a reason whether that is to stop the pain and let it out or to show her true colors. Just leave her alone. I’m sure she has Jesus, but in her mind she’s doing what she thinks is right for her! It is wrong with everyone talking the crap they are about her but that’s their deal. They are just people with a miserable life who have nothin betterto do than to be talking about someone who is high above them.

    • Moses October 9, 2013 at 10:42 AM

      Jazmine you have no idea who Jesus really is. There is a reason Jesus said only a few people walk on the narrow road and many walk on the path to destruction, There are very few Christians in the world and if you can’t even descern them by their fruits, then I don’t understand how you could tell if anyone has Jesus. Being a Christian is dying to yourself everyday, its loving Jesus more than your mom and dad, brother and sister, and friends. Following Jesus is something the whole world can’t seem to do because the god of this world has blinded them (all that I am saying is from scripture btw).

    • Anonymous October 25, 2013 at 8:22 AM

      Just cause people want to express themselves in certain ways does not necessarily mean it is right. If someone is in pain and goes and kills people to release that pain is it still right? It is a very sticky situation that she has put herself in because she’s such an influence to young girls across the world. I don’t know how old you are and if you have a young daughter but would you really want your daughter to grow up and act like that? I would hope not. There are other ways for a person to express themselves. Miley needs to understand that her actions have consequences and not just for herself but everyone around her. She is giving herself a terrible reputation and it is going to come back to bite her later on her life. She may not care now but when she is older she will most likely regret her decisions. She is at that age where she should be able to determine long term consequences and determine what is right and wrong for her. I cannot justify what she is doing nor will I judge because I do not know her life and what she is going through but at the same time there is line that has be drawn and she has crossed it.

  • yovi October 9, 2013 at 6:03 AM

    when I saw the performance the next day to see what was all the buzz & fuss about my Heart Just ached for her I agree there is something deeper going on with in her, I dont care if she says she did it as a business tactic or whatever obviously there is something deeper going on inside of her, just look into her eyes and as christians we love each other and pray for one another, lets just pray for her out of Love for her bc we know that God loves her too. She does need Jesus I pray she has a love encounter so powerful and strong that Jesus flips her world inside out in an awesome way that there will be no turning back for her bc I also pray that she falls head over heals in ove with Jesus bc once that happens she will be free full of Joy , peace and his Love. He doesn’t care about her sins once she falls in love with him it will come so naturally to her to want to repent and never let him go, he will free her from all bondage and break all chains holding her down, he will lift her up, set her feet upon the rock and be her everything….:) that is my prayer and that is what I am asking Jesus our beautiful amazing perfect powerful Lord for Miley….I love you Miley and God Loves you more, more than anybody in this world for he created you and knitted you together in the secret place , you are fearfully and wonderfully made :) he will wash away all your hurts he will break all darkness away from you and set you free filling you with his Love and Joy and peace that surpasses all understanding….

  • Anonymous. October 9, 2013 at 5:25 AM

    Alright then, lets take out Christianism or being a true follower of Christ. You don’t have to be one to have morals and principals.

  • Gina Kocisko October 9, 2013 at 3:58 AM

    Hi I’m Gina, follower of Jesus as well. I find myself coming across things like this– some on modesty, some on life, and also ones like this. I understand where you are coming from.. BUT reading this as well as I see a lot of other comments you came off as a hypocrite and seemed as if you were judging her. There is a difference between holding one another accountable and just plain out judging. By saying she wouldn’t get a Husband by doing that is flat out wrong.

    “I’m not going throw any scripture at you. I’m not going to tell you how wrong you are. And I’m not going to tell you that you need Jesus.


    Because frankly, I think you already know all of these things.”

    That was the part that made me shake my head. I’ve been following you on FB for awhile and I’m encouraged by a lot of things you post. As a Christian, and a person who makes daily sins and choices I know that life is what YOU make it. She knew what she was doing, because she said it in a interview .. she wasn’t doing it because she wanted to break away from little Hannah Montana, or Billy Rays daughter… she did it for people to talk about her… a business tactic. And it worked. Everyone has different relationships with God and it sucks to know that the stereotype of a real Christian is slowly turning into a judgmental state something I don’t want to be a part of. Which is why when someone asks me my religion I’ll always say a follower of Christ because I don’t want to put a stereotype on my relationship with God. Keep doing you, but I hope from some of these comments you take in that as someone who is going to do blogs like this Christians will also hold you accountable for the things you say as well. Just remember no one lives the same life, the best part about God is that He loves everyone equal flaws and all. We all have to work on our own sins and focus on our own lives before we can talk about others like that. Regardless Jesus is the only one who can judge her, you, and I. God Bless, and have a good day.

    • Robbie October 9, 2013 at 8:18 AM

      One of the most oft’-quoted verses in the Bible is Matthew 7:1—“Judge not, that you be not judged.” Those engaged in immoral behavior frequently quote this verse when attempting to defend their sinful lifestyle. Certain religionists quote it when being challenged to prove that their questionable practices are backed by biblical authority. A belligerent teenager might be heard reciting this phrase to his parents when they inquire about his occasional association with “the wrong crowd.” Skeptics even quote Matthew 7:1 in an attempt to show an inconsistency in Jesus’ teachings. From church pews to barstools, from the “Bible belt” to Hollywood, Matthew 7:1 is ripped from its context and bellowed as some kind of scare tactic: “Do you dare judge me? Jesus said, ‘Judge not, that you be not judged.’ ” Allegedly, Jesus meant that we cannot pass judgment on anyone at anytime.

      Sadly, Matthew 7:1 is not only among the most frequently quoted verses in the Bible, but also is one of the most abused verses in all of Scripture. Its exploitation becomes clear when the entire context of Matthew 7 is studied more carefully. Throughout Matthew chapters 5-7 (often referred to as the Sermon on the Mount), Jesus publicly criticized the Jewish scribes and Pharisees for their self-righteousness and abuse of the Old Testament. Near the beginning of this sermon, Jesus stated: “For I say to you, that unless your righteousness exceeds the righteousness of the scribes and Pharisees, you will by no means enter the kingdom of heaven” (Matthew 5:20). The unrighteousness of the scribes and Pharisees was at the heart of the Sermon on the Mount. Jesus wanted His audience to understand that self-righteousness would not be permitted in the kingdom of heaven; rather, it would lead to “condemnation” in hell (5:20; cf. 23:14,33). A follower of God must be “poor in spirit” (5:3), not filled with pride. He must love his enemies, not hate them (5:44). He is to do good deeds, but only to please God, not men (6:1-4). The scribes and Pharisees were guilty of wearing “righteousness” on their sleeves, rather than in their hearts (6:1-8; cf. 23:1-36). It was in the midst of such strong public rebuke that Christ proclaimed:

      Judge not, that you be not judged. For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you. And why do you look at the speck in your brother’s eye, but do not consider the plank in your own eye? Or how can you say to your brother, “Let me remove the speck from your eye”; and look, a plank is in your own eye? Hypocrite! First remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye (Matthew 7:1-5).

      In Matthew 6:1-4, Jesus instructed us not to do charitable deeds…“as the hypocrites do” (to be seen of men). In 6:5-8, Jesus told us not to pray…“like the hypocrites” (to be heard of men). In 6:16-18, Jesus taught us not to fast…“like the hypocrites” (to be seen of men). Likewise, in Matthew 7:1-5, Jesus was teaching us that judging another is wrong…when that judgment is hypocritical.

      But, what if we are doing charitable deeds to be seen of God? Then by all means, “do good to all men” (Galatians 6:10)! What if our prayers are led from a pure heart and with righteous intentions? Should we pray? Most certainly (cf. 1 Thessalonians 5:17).

      Can we fast today, if the purpose of our fasting is to be seen of God and not men? Yes. But what about passing judgment? In Matthew 7:1-5, did Jesus condemn all judging, or, similar to the above examples, did He condemn only a certain kind of judging? Matthew 7:5 provides the answer. After condemning unrighteous judgments (7:1-4), Jesus instructed a person to “first remove the plank from your own eye, and then you will see clearly to remove the speck from your brother’s eye.” He was saying, in essence, “Get your life right first. Then, in love, address your brother’s problem.”

      This is consistent with what Paul wrote to the church at Philippi: “Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others” (2:4). God never intended for Christians to be recluses who never interacted with those around them. Rather, He gave us the responsibility of helping others by lovingly correcting them when they sin.

      In Matthew 7, Jesus was not suggesting that A PERSON CAN NEVER JUDGE. He was saying, when you judge, judge righteously (as when we pray, fast, and do good deeds—do it without hypocrisy—John 7:24). Incidentally, Jesus already had judged the Pharisees. Thus, He obviously was not teaching that we should never judge anyone.

    • Moses October 9, 2013 at 10:49 AM

      Gina Read John 7:24: Do not Judge by appearances by judge with right judgement. Every verse in the Bible about judging (such as Mathew 7:1) is always about hypcritical judgement and reason for that is that when we suffer with the same sin such as stealing, it would be impossible to help someone with the same problem (like a thief). First we allow Jesus to crush the sin in our life, then we can see clearly to help our brothers and sisters. If what Jared said was judgement then I don’t know how you can ever spread the gospel because the gospel always starts with this….that you are a sinner and going on a path straight to eternal destruction, none of your works can save you because you have fallen short of the glory of God, however Jesus in his mercy came down to wipe your sins away, he can make you clean and free of sin and all you have to do is believe what he accomplished on the cross and his ressurection. YOu see you can never preach the gospel without judging the person (you’re a sinner..therefore you need a savior). However Jesus says we cannot condemn people, that is God’s right alone (neither the pope, priests, or pastors can condemn anyone to hell, only Jesus can when you die).

    • Nancy October 9, 2013 at 11:33 AM

      Amen Robbie and Moses! You explained it very well. A person has to believe the bad news (that they are a sinner on their way to hell) before they can understand the GOOD NEWS that Jesus died to pay for our sins so we can spend eternity in heaven with him!

    • Anonymous October 9, 2013 at 12:31 PM

      Nicely stated, Gina. Start a blog. ;-)

  • Hans October 9, 2013 at 3:39 AM

    Miley Cyrus thanks you very much for the promo.

  • Anonymous October 9, 2013 at 12:43 AM

    Wow ! Couldn’t have said it better, myself…. God Bless You, Jarrid ! :)

  • Tuesday Mourning October 8, 2013 at 11:45 PM

    I’m dying laughing reading these comments. No one is “dominated by Satan” lol. Get real; she’s sick of being Hannah Montana and is going about establishing her identity all wrong. Is this the first Disney star that you people have seen past their prime?

  • Young Celebrity News October 8, 2013 at 6:48 PM

    Many of us are so proud of how to approached Miley! Continue to let God use you and speak through you Brother!!!!

  • Anonymous October 8, 2013 at 5:52 PM

    Wow this has to be the best open letter to Miley that I’ve ever read! Keep up the good work and thank you for writing it

  • Patty Denney October 8, 2013 at 5:14 PM

    I feel the same way Miley, I took my granddaughter to see you in Seattle, it was your 1st concert.. We still love you and pray for you.. God Bless you Miley.. Love Ashleigh and Gramma Patty

  • CoolGuy September 27, 2013 at 10:52 AM

    got my eyes teary with this post and all the comments, choosing God is choosing eternal life, amen

    • Jarrid Wilson Author October 1, 2013 at 12:14 PM

      Thank you! Appreciate your response.

  • J.YORK September 6, 2013 at 10:13 PM

    Praise God for your service to Christ.

  • Mark September 4, 2013 at 10:00 PM

    I haven’t said anything about her recent actions, though I have been disgusted with her actions and things she stands for for a long time, since she claims to be a Christian. Your letter is nice, but she made her own choices. We all do. Some of us have tougher things to deal with than popularity…… I for one. So it isn’t necessarily hypocritical to speak out against what she did. But the fact remains, she is making her choices. No one is forcing her to act the way she is

    • Anonymous October 8, 2013 at 5:24 PM

      Are you an expert in psychology? More importantly are you an expert in Miley’s personal life? Society shapes a person more than one is consciously aware of. You may not know it, but the decisions you make on a daily basis are based on what you know from society. Your actions you take are in response to what you were taught as a child. You have no right to judge a person by their appearance nor can you accuse a person of being a certain way by their actions. THAT is hypocritical. Because you yourself act based on what society has taught you from birth. Yes we all make our “own” choices, but in reality no choices we really make are 100% our own because we do things for the sake of what others expect of us. It is completely rare for you to make a decision solely for yourself. Other factors are involved in any of your decisions. You have no idea who Miley really is or what she is going through. You think it might be all the fame and popularity, but you have no idea what she is dealing with in her personal life. Everyone is different. Everyone has different things going on in their lives. But also, everyone deals with these problems differently. Some people are able to handle anything that comes their way better than most. That is the problem with society. We want to look at a person’s life and base their quality of life on quantity. We want to say that they do not know what it is like to deal with x y and z. Yet here’s the deal. Quality of life is strictly quality. So you shouldn’t sit there and say she has it all so she has not right to be acting this way or that way. She could only be dealing with the pressures of fame and that is it. There could be no other problems in her life. However, her way of dealing with that one thing is completely different from the celebrity next to her. It may seem nothing in comparison to what other people are going through. Trust me I got a lot on my plate as well. But I also remind myself that not everyone is the same. I cannot expect the person next to me, if they were dealing with the exact same problems as me, to be able to handle it the all the way I do. God made us all different. So why should we treat each other as if we have to be like one another? That is called being hypocritical.

  • Tiffany September 1, 2013 at 7:04 AM

    No one can change her but herself.

    • Unknown September 14, 2013 at 7:45 AM

      No one can changer her but JESUS.

      • Anonymous September 14, 2013 at 9:11 PM

        Amen !!

      • Anonymous October 8, 2013 at 4:54 PM

        then why doesnt he do it?

  • Natalia August 31, 2013 at 3:41 PM

    My heart has been aching for her too: I kinda think what she’s feeling and I’d love to see her to display God’s prupose in her life. Hope that she can feel in her soul what christians and pastor have teached since she was a child. Niot only in her mind but in her very heart

  • Kelly August 31, 2013 at 3:31 PM

    I’m glad your letter is being talked about. After I saw all the internet buzz, I had to post my own thoughts on Facebook, because I thought it was ridiculous how people were acting. As if we’er so shocked. What is so shocking about this? Our society has been rewarding this type of things for years, especially in entertainment. She’s 20. Most of us at age 20 are trying to figure out who we are, but most of us aren’t doing so in the limelight. Sometimes people just like to make a hubbub about other people’s behavior.

  • Anonymous August 31, 2013 at 12:20 AM

    This is sweet, but know that this was ALL a publicity stunt. Trust me.

  • Anonymous August 30, 2013 at 3:06 PM

    Way to post something non-offensive and non-controversial so that everyone gives you compliments…again.

  • Lauren C August 30, 2013 at 7:42 AM

    Same with Justin Bieber – Christians would rather condemn and criticise than pray

  • Laura Van Der Werff August 30, 2013 at 6:12 AM

    thankyou so much for your letter and going out for her and other really changed my heart on her performe i watch yesterday i going to have her on in my prayers very amazing read the grace and kind words is not something i see Christians do a lot so thank you to again

  • Minx August 29, 2013 at 11:56 PM

    thanks for this letter. It made me realize again that one must not judge the person when you dont like the actions. I pray that I can practice this in future with the grace of God

  • Scott August 29, 2013 at 10:53 PM

    The “industry” has exploited her and raped her dignity. She was thrown to the wolves by the industry, all for the almighty dollar that so many are deceived by. She has roots in God, from a young age, and I fully believe she will return to those roots. God looks upon her, not as she is now. He looks at her through eyes very different than what the world looks through.

  • Jean Laureles August 29, 2013 at 6:14 PM

    Wow, God bless your heart Jarrid.
    Let us all tweet this to Miley Cyrus :)

  • ginaW August 29, 2013 at 5:26 PM

    Thank you for this Jarrid….such an eye opener God Bless you and your wife :)

  • Drew August 29, 2013 at 3:56 PM

    You write that you “care” about Miley and you go on to JUDGE her in all the same ways that everyone else is. Just because you START OFF with saying that you don’t know her doesn’t open the door for you to tell her that her LIFESTYLE is heading in the wrong direction. That’s just as bad as everyone else tweeting about her. If you really don’t know her then don’t say anything. Trust me, I was just as appalled by her performance as anyone, but I’m not going to turn around and tell her that she won’t find a man who treats her correctly because of her lifestyle. And besides how could you possibly know a person’s whole lifestyle from one performance? Christ calls us to love everyone, and this REALLY isn’t a loving letter, it may sound like you’re trying to be nice, but it’s definitely not loving. The only non-judging part of this letter is the first sentence, you should have stopped it there

    • Ryan August 31, 2013 at 2:29 AM

      You hit the nail on the head here buddy!

    • I, Jim. September 1, 2013 at 4:15 PM

      Are you therefore saying that it would have been better if this letter hadn’t been written?

      I think you need to re-read the letter. There’s judgement, and then there’s advice. What Jarrid is giving here, largely, is advice. I’m not saying that I’m agreeing with him where he says “you won’t find a man in this way”, but this is one of the single letters that looks at things from a different angle. Where most of the world has been laughing or saying some really quite nasty things, or placing her below themselves, this goes against that and I personally think it challenges/offers advice rather than judges.

      If I were in that boat, with my life heading closer and closer to a world that’s full of dodgy stuff (i.e the entertainment industry), I would really appreciate advice, even if it would take a while to accept it, or even take notice of it.

    • Just a frind October 8, 2013 at 4:58 PM

      Drew- As Christians we are suppose to love but at the same time hold accountable our brothers and sisters on their actions in a loving way. If you have kids, what do you do when your child does something wrong? In a loving way you pointe out the wrong and deliver a solution, right ?If we as parents do that, then why is Jarrid wrong in what he did? Just because you dont like the response it doesnt make it wrong.

      Jarrid- may God bless you for your kind heart!!

    • Anonymous October 8, 2013 at 5:15 PM

      U r quick to condemn others’ acts of kindness toward her and yet I do not see ur own act of kindness..

    • Gina Kocisko October 9, 2013 at 3:28 AM

      Drew, I couldn’t have said it better myself.

  • cbb225 August 29, 2013 at 12:26 PM

    So dancing is a sin now? Dont know why all you “Christians” are bashing her and judging her so much over her performance… shes and entertainer..if she would of got up there and sung “Jesus loves you” no one would have been entertained!! Using scripture to judge someone is the BIGGEST/BEST way to push them away!!!

    Who are you to know shes not more of a devoted Christian than you???

    • David August 29, 2013 at 12:49 PM

      If that is what you call entertainment, I am truly alarmed about the condition of your heart. What she did up on that stage was wicked. And if she truly loved God at that point in time, she would never have done that. I’m not passing judgement, I’m basing my opinion off the word of God. Do you think if she was doing that when The Lord Jesus Christ was on this earth, that he would have viewed it as acting pure and ladylike? Or that he would of viewed what Robin did as acting like a gentleman? I don’t think so. What they did was horrible fornication, and I pray that God would touch their hearts and show them the right path. I’m not saying this as if I’m better than them or better than you, because I am not. The bible says “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God” Romans 3:23. We all need Christ to save us, none of us can do it alone. Hopefully they will be saved, and will be repentant for what they did, and they will start conducting their behavior in a Christian way that glorifies God.

    • jim August 31, 2013 at 3:10 PM

      Actually there is no fault in judging what someone does. None! So that’s cbb25 inaccurate.
      Now with that, I can’t judge what is in her head, just like I can’t judge yours. We can and DO judge what people DO every single day. The oft quoted judge not verse refers to trying to read someones heart.. Whether it is a Christian or not writing, he was commenting on behavior not intent. (and throwing in the Jesus Loves you” crack just makes you look a bit silly since it certainly appears like you are attempting to be insulting) Now on that, I can’t be sure since I can only judge your “comment” not your intent.

    • Caprice December 16, 2013 at 8:05 PM

      Cbb225 I think its ironic that in your comments you criticize him for supposed JUDGMENT while u do it to him and Christians. And a lot of us are entertained by songs that praise the Lord. Something that u apparently don’t understand. So before u criticize and judge someone because their christian and have an oppinion and mean good. You should take a look at urself.

  • Elizabeth August 29, 2013 at 12:18 PM

    Dear Pator,

    I do not disagree with what you stated but I do have to wonder where is your staement to Robin Thicke? He was on that stage too. He was involved with this process as well. And those “performances” are not chance things. They are put together over a period of time with a lot of practice. He knew what was going on the same as she did.

    • Melinda December 17, 2013 at 10:54 AM

      Very Good Elizabeth! Why are the female the only one called out on their actions? Interesting, to say the least

  • Jenny August 29, 2013 at 12:14 PM

    I’m so incredibly blessed by your live and compassion for her. I also completely agree with you! We as Christians are called to live her and LIVE in such a way that it shows Christ love. I go to a Christian college and a professor has trashed her and I’m printing your letter to show her. In honesty I’m not a Miley fan but I do know that she is still lived and cherished by God and Jesus and deserves to be shown that. So again I thank you soooo much for the letter and the heart of love and mercy that God has given you.

  • Anonymous August 29, 2013 at 12:00 PM

    Jarrid your such a genius NOT! Gee I wish I would have thought of that lol

  • Trisha August 29, 2013 at 11:37 AM


    My husband Justin sent this link to me. Thank you for writing this post. I don’t know if its because I know what its like to experience public failure or my awareness of the grace Christ has given to me. But the response from the Christian community has really shaken me to the core.

    I can’t help but think when Justin’s affair came out, if social media existed then, how many people would have blasted him much like Miley.

    How different would my kids be if they were faced to read it all.

    So many other thoughts I could share but I’ll stop here. I just wanted to thank you for helping me know that I’m not crazy. That while we were ALL still sinners Christ died for me, you, my adulterous husband, and yes even Miley.


  • Anonymous August 29, 2013 at 8:15 AM

    God bless you Jarid. This is a beautiful letter. Well done. Well said.

  • linda August 29, 2013 at 7:37 AM

    I work with teens young and older teens. The trails that these teen face are nothing what we had to face growing up. Peer pressure to be someone your not. I have open my home to guve these kids a safe place to come and if they are going through any situation and they ask for help. We pray, we worship and take there situation and use stories out of the Bible. Basically let them know that God is there anytime, anyplace, anywhere.

  • Connor August 29, 2013 at 6:46 AM

    Yes. But I would like to say it is not The Church that is judging. If you spend any time outside of the building you will find that the world is plenty judgmental, it is just that churches are often more worldly than they know. No need to trash The Church, it is good to apologize for such things though.

  • Marie Isabella August 29, 2013 at 6:31 AM

    I am a big fan of Miley since her Hannah Montana days. I’m so happy that someone opened a part of the public’s eye for what she might be going through. I love Miley but I do not like what she’s doing. So, Thank you <3

  • Sandra (at) Coasahmom (dot) com August 29, 2013 at 5:13 AM

    Very well written :)

  • Nittie August 29, 2013 at 4:50 AM

    You don’t know a person’s path unless you go on the same path. I think the letter by Jarrid is just phenomenal. Indeed we should not judge so that we don’t get judgement upon ourselves. Only God should judge anybody. I sincerely hope Miley reads the letter, it is simply beautiful…We still love you Miley!!! We are not in your shoes right now, we don’t know if there are issues in the 1st place….you are also human and so are we all….Jarrid and your wife….well done! Miley, WE STILL BELIEVE IN YOU SWEETHEART!!!!

    • Marie Isabella August 29, 2013 at 6:32 AM


  • Eshwari August 29, 2013 at 4:35 AM

    Jarrid, Thank you so much for this inspirational letter. I did not watch Miley’s performance nor am I a fan but I am truly inspired by your ability to empathise and sympathise with someone you’ve never even met. This is truly what it means to ‘love thy neighbour’. It is exemplary.

  • Meita Jahja August 29, 2013 at 3:33 AM

    Love you, Jarrid & wife! This is inspiring letter I’ve ever read and have blessed me to be a wiser person/leader. I pray that Jesus touches Miley’s heart. *amen*

  • Anonymous August 29, 2013 at 1:58 AM

    Read your letter on a link from a friend. As I have watched the video clips and then the backlash my heart has broken for her too. The most amazing thing I’ve seen is a FB post from a friend that is not a believer – “…has said anything about Robin Thicke standing right next to her being a sleazy, degrading womanizer – Double standard, much?” What we continue to allow in the media and lift up as entertainment continues to follow the god of this world. May believers reflect the Light and show love and grace to those that so desperately need Hope.

    • Timothy Keran August 31, 2013 at 7:28 PM

      I would like to ask that we should also pray for Robin Thicke.

  • Sue August 29, 2013 at 12:25 AM

    Great letter Jarrid! I do hope Miley sees this.

    You are blessed with so much talent and inspiration. You touch all our hearts. I am praying for you. God bless.

  • Anonymous August 28, 2013 at 11:18 PM

    Why are the Christians being singled out? We are not the only ones who have commented on Miley’s performance. I’m am not her judge Christ will be. With that being said stop hating on Christians because the true ones who strive to be like Christ each and everyday we pray for Miley and the rest of Hollywood and entertainment that they will seek a personal relationship with Him

    • Anonymous August 28, 2013 at 11:21 PM

      I am*

  • Jade August 28, 2013 at 10:24 PM

    I hate how these comments go off into other tangents.
    Here is the thing, I identify with Miley (on a much smaller scale of course). She was raised a “Christian” but maybe never really felt that was her choice, maybe she felt it was forced on her. Maybe she felt a lot of things were “forced” on her as a child and now, that she is an “adult” (though maybe not acting like one)….she feels the need to radically make her own choices. She feels the need to experience the world in a completely different way- and since she lives in the spotlight 24/7- that looks different for her than it would for us. I am ALL ABOUT GRACE and I believe God is too. I, too, pray that Miley finds her way…….and through this journey she makes a decision for Christ, not one that was forced upon her, but one she makes all on her own.

  • David August 28, 2013 at 10:07 PM

    I commented earlier and shared some thoughts about this letter, and on how I see the good in it,. But I wanted to add more of a response to the things I saw that I didn’t agree with.

    Those things being, you didn’t share any scripture in your message, you didn’t inform her of what she was doing incorrectly and how it goes against the scriptures, and you weren’t willing to tell her that she needs Jesus Christ or she’ll suffer and eternity in hell, and I don’t say that to scare her or to scare people, but that is the truth and the truth should scare you. But truth will also set you free if you trust The Lord.

    Anyways. As for not sharing the scriptures I believe that is a horrible way to go about it. As Christians our foundation has got to be on The Lord and om his word alone. We have to trust him and we have to trust his word. Romans 10:17 states this very clearly when it says “So then faith cometh by hearing, and hearing by the word of God.” It doesn’t get much simple than that. For people’s eyes to be opened they have to know the truth, the whole truth.

    That brings me to my second point, which is why I believe it isn’t right not to tell her how she has sinned. How can she be expected to see what she has done wrong and to be repentant if she doesn’t even know it’s wrong? Obviously her conscience would tell her it is. But she still needs to hear God’s word, and she needs to hear what he has to say about it, because if God said it, that settles it.

    And lastly, I wanted to ask, why would pn’t you tell her she needs Christ? Maybe she does know this. But she stills needs to be told that, Christ died on the cross for our sins and rose again tree days later. That means God who is Christ as well, is willing to forgive anything we’ve done if he opens our eyes and we accept him into our hearts. Everyone needs Jesus Christ. He paid for us all. John 3:16 clearly shows this when it says “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son, that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.” That’s the gift he has given to all who have accepted him, salvation. And this gift can be givin to Miley too, Lord-willing. But you can’t try to hold back the fact that she does need Christ, like I said before, we all do. Romans 3:23 shows us that when it says, “For all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God;”

    Anyways that’s mainly all I have to say. The world doesn’t need pastors who only preach the sugar-coated messages we have far to many of those. We need pastors who will tell you the absolute truth. Because that is what is necessary.

    • Anonymous August 28, 2013 at 11:22 PM

      Thank You well said

    • Keith August 29, 2013 at 8:46 PM

      While I agree that scripture is the foundation of BELIEVERS, in this particular case I think this letter is complete without it, without the pointing out of sin, and without the call to obedience. As he stated, she already knows these things. She already has thousands of people telling her what she’s done wrong, she already has thousands of Christian telling her she needs Jesus, and repentance, and millions of people giving her scripture. What she needs is that graceful love, that acceptance despite herself.

      Let’s look at what Jesus did in situations like this in John chapter 8 when the Pharisee’s brought forth the woman caught in adultery, when everyone had left, Jesus didn’t quote scripture to her, Jesus didn’t tell her that she needed to repent and believe in Him, Jesus simply told her that he did not condem her. He simply shows graceful love, and told her to go and sin no longer. He didn’t point out where she was wrong, he simply told her to leave her life of sin. Jesus isn’t about condemnation, he isn’t about guilt, he isn’t about pointing out what people have done wrong. Jesus is about grace. Jesus is about love. Jesus is about acceptance.

      The correction comes when a brother or sister already in Christ is falling. Those outside of Christ. or fallen away from Christ, simply need love and grace.

      • Anonymous September 20, 2013 at 6:59 PM

        Keith, how do you know Miley is receiving messages about her sin? If Miley is in an insulated world where even her dad is saying that he is accepting her even with what she has done, when would she hear the truth? Miley must hear Scripture to understand that she needs to repent.

      • concernedbeliever September 20, 2013 at 7:02 PM

        The Lord Jesus Christ is not about acceptance. He wants us to repent, to trust in Him alone, to surrender, to follow Him and deny ourselves, and to obey His commands. The gate is narrow, and the way is narrow, and Miley, and everyone else in this world, must hear that to receive salvation we must persevere, walk in the light, confess our sins, show our faith through works (that don’t save us), love the Lord Jesus Christ first, and obey His commands.

      • believer1 September 20, 2013 at 7:03 PM

        Those outside of the Lord Jesus Christ must hear the Gospel so that they understand they must repent. How will they understand their sin if all they hear is love and grace?

    • Stacey September 10, 2013 at 8:13 PM

      David……AMEN! Sugar coating is not what our children need. I pray she finds her way.

      • Jen September 14, 2013 at 7:55 AM

        I think not quoting the Bible is ok. Because it isn’t talking real to a person. Haven’t any of you became friends with someone who is lost and hurting???? What helped them was kind words and LOVE and respect and trust. When the Bible says, as you go, God meant as we LIVE our lives! He didn’t mean hold my word in your hands and READ IT TO PEOPLE!
        It’s our job as believers to read God’s word and apply it to our lives and then from there, WE CAN LIVE TO MAKE CHRIST KNOWN! Spouting scripture to people who don’t read the Bible is idiotic. It can be confusing to people and it turns them off to God becaus ether are jaded and have most likely been burned and hurt by a CHRISTIAN! A hypocritical person because they are everywhere we look!
        Instead of being self righteous and pretentious, Pastor Jarrid decided to be HUMAN and write from HIS heart! He studies God’s word and knows it’s truth!!!

    • Nancy September 12, 2013 at 12:44 PM

      David, I agree. There are far too many pastors who are afraid to say what people don’t want to hear. But what people really need is to hear the truth. “The truth will set you free.” John 8:32

  • Anonymous August 28, 2013 at 9:47 PM

    That’s Absolutely Right one sweet girl and it would be sad not to see her where God want’s her to be! I agree with Jarrid Wilson his Absoluely right!! and i still believe and love you Miley! :)

  • Meghan August 28, 2013 at 9:37 PM

    This opened up my eyes and my heart!! I do admit I did think a lot of those thing (i.e.. What happened to miley or woah she took a wrong path) I’m actually so sorry I treated her that way and even judged her. Im really glad I got to read this because it was a great reminder that
    1. I need to remember to respect her
    2.Not judge her
    This has put a brand new spin on how I see her and others!!!
    Praying for you Miley
    Gods got this and you are a very smart girl!!!

  • Bob B August 28, 2013 at 9:20 PM

    This is exactly what Miley needs. It’s mostly not what she’s getting, though. She’s getting accolades for wgat she did on one side of the spectrum and complete disgust and condemnation on the other. It reminds me of the woman caught in adultery in the bible. The leaders tried to trap Jesus in the law with that event. Jesus simultaneously had the leaders walking away quietly as he also told the woman to go and sin no more.

    To have a modern day example of this is awesome! Oh, and I hope we haven’t missed that this example was for each one of us. :-)

  • Tracy August 28, 2013 at 8:25 PM

    Lets all pick ONE day and #PrayForMiley
    she needs us to pray for her.

  • Havis Gabbard August 28, 2013 at 5:20 PM

    Only one issue here and that is not you, I, Jarrid, Bob or anyone else thinks. I was Jesus Christ who died for Miley and all sinners including myself. The only thing that matters is what he thinks and the way we know how he thinks is what is revealed in scripture. I pray for Miley and all who need a touch from the Hand of Jesus Christ.

  • Anonymous August 28, 2013 at 5:16 PM

    This was a very empathetic letter you wrote to Miley Cyrus but at some pointin your life, you have to take responsibility for your own actions. Almighty God gave her a good mind, a good family and the opportunity to worship and learn. Unless there is something wrong with her mind, she has to be held accountable. We live in a world or “well, she didn’t REALLY mean to do that!!!!!!” Well, unless your brain is damaged and you are unable to make decisions ON YOUR OWN, then you and ONLY YOU are accountable. She knows that what she was doing was raunchy and tastless, but it made her all the buzz today which is what she was after. I hope that she IS able to reconnect with The Lord before it is too late. What a tragedy. She grew up being such a talented your lady and turned into a tastless loser. Maybe she does have brain damage???????

  • Breanna Garcia August 28, 2013 at 4:54 PM

    I love this Jarrid. Thank you so much for speaking out loud. This really hit home for tons of people and other celebrities. It is time for us believers to welcome people with love and let them fall in God’s grace.


  • Chelse August 28, 2013 at 4:25 PM

    Thank you so much for writing this. My heart is so broken for her. She has so much potential in Christ. I truly hope this reaches her and The Lord speaks to her through it. No one is too far gone, and I hope she realized that. Love you and pray for you to find your worth and value in Jesus, not this world.

  • Eugenia Edwin August 28, 2013 at 2:55 PM

    This is an amazing write, on something so opinionated right now. Thanks for the sincerity

  • Chloey August 28, 2013 at 2:19 PM

    Thanks for spreading the light and love of Jesus Christ. My only comment is, none of us know her personally, so to assume that a good work has already started in her no one can say for sure. I appreciate you reaching out to her, but you can’t fix the sin first, Christ must bring the dead to life.

  • Brandon August 28, 2013 at 2:06 PM

    This is the kind of thing Brittani Spears, Amy Winehouse, Lindsay Lohan, and any other celebrity suffering under the pressure of fame, fortune and the paparazzi need, or needed, to hear. This is the kind of stuff that other celebrities, or just any person whether famous or not need to hear and be warned about. The world has a lot of great things to offer, but also can drag you down on a path that is dark and scary if you let it. My hope and prayer is that Miley, Lindsay and anyone else pursuing fame or some kind of career that will put them in the spot light, will take heed the warnings and dangers of how crazy and dangerous all this can be. To Jarrid I say kudos for putting this out there. People need this kind of thing to bring them back to reality. I say, contrary to John Daily, God bless you for your efforts and your grace in the matter. This was not naïve or disgusting in any way. It was great.

  • John Daily August 28, 2013 at 1:34 PM

    This is a disgustingly naive letter. I will pray for your soul and your wife’s soul.

    • Ryan August 30, 2013 at 4:18 AM

      I agree with you mate.

      This is a real joke. Honestly.

  • Anonymous August 28, 2013 at 1:33 PM

    Hey, way to be judgmental yourself there Jarrid… Pot, meet Kettle or so the saying goes. That said, the rest of your letter is spot on.

  • Jenni August 28, 2013 at 12:58 PM

    Thank you, for this! It is beautifully written! Exactly, what was in my heart! EXACTLY! God bless!

  • Trent August 28, 2013 at 12:43 PM

    We are NOT all children of God.

    Galatians 3:26-27
    26 For ye are all the children of God by faith in Christ Jesus. 27 For as many of you as have been baptized into Christ have put on Christ.

    1John 3:10
    10 In this the children of God are manifest, and the children of the devil: whosoever doeth not righteousness is not of God, neither he that loveth not his brother.

    John 3:3-7
    3 Jesus answered and said unto him, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born again, he cannot see the kingdom of God. 4 Nicodemus saith unto him, How can a man be born when he is old? can he enter the second time into his mother’s womb, and be born? 5 Jesus answered, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born of water and of the Spirit, he cannot enter into the kingdom of God. 6 That which is born of the flesh is flesh; and that which is born of the Spirit is spirit. 7 Marvel not that I said unto thee, Ye must be born again.

    If you are NOT born again (saved), you are NOT a child of God.

    • Heather August 28, 2013 at 3:01 PM

      Thank you for this….it was bugging me.

    • jim August 31, 2013 at 3:05 PM

      Sigh, yes Trent that is accurate but not the point. He was stating that Christians piling on are not helpful. Lets not get caught in the quicksand of did Jarrid use 100% accurate terms on “child of God”. Honestly we don’t know if she’s saved or not. We can’t read her mind.

  • Stephanie August 28, 2013 at 12:37 PM

    I am in prayer for you Miley. If there is one thing i can say to you, know that “I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns”. God is with you. He will help you escape. And most importantly of all God LOVES you and i pray for you daily. You have a special place in my heart. I believe in you.

  • Elizabeth August 28, 2013 at 12:14 PM

    I think this is lovely and was proud to tweet it, really hope Miley gets it.

  • Anonymous August 28, 2013 at 11:57 AM

    Actually we are All CREATION of God, But are not All CHILDREN of God. When we make that Choice to accept Jesus as are only Christ & Savior, that is when we become children of God.

  • Crystal August 28, 2013 at 11:45 AM

    It is a beautiful letter. And, this comes from a christian. You may want to point out that all christians are not that way. There are some who confused and take things way too far. . .but there are others who are not that way. In the bible it tells us christians to love on one another and NOT just other christians! It says everyone! I feel bad that this happened and agree completely that it was not right but please could you add that there are some of us christians out there who are truely good people? As for your letter I truely hope she gets it. God asks us to encourage people not tear them down for their every mistake. He also says that no sin is greater than another so people who are doing this I really hope also get to read your heart felt letter and realize what they have done. People need people to pick them up when they are down not kick them. how can we ever expect a person to rise if we do such things to them? That is why God shows us so much grace and mercy because he knows that if he did what alot of people here do he could never reach a single one.

    Blessings to you and your wonderful family,

  • Jazzi August 28, 2013 at 11:18 AM

    Miley needs to follow her heart, I get it but the way she’s acting now isn’t the way she really is, she’s not being a good role model to her younger fans, I just she’s tryin to find herself but she’s taking the wrong path

    • Me August 28, 2013 at 12:01 PM

      I don’t know if that’s wise: Jeremiah 17:9 says

      The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?

      Sinners are going to do what sinners do this news is not a surprise. No more surprising than a Christian who goes to church. Salvation and the will of God is the true key here.

  • Victoria / Justice Pirate August 28, 2013 at 8:01 AM

    I haven’t seen anything regarding her performance at the VMAs, but I have heard of it and someone that works with my husband was telling him about it in detail. When we talked about it together we decided to pray for her because there are so many things we don’t know about her as it is and I am sure she is going through a rough time right now. Reading this was beautiful! I loved it and tweeted it in hopes others will pray for her too.

  • Thomas August 28, 2013 at 5:07 AM

    Great letter Jarrid, hope it reaches Miley.

    @Sharon-we are all children of God, whether we have accepted it or not. The amazing thing about Christ is that He loves everyone equally whether they realize it or not.

  • Charina August 28, 2013 at 2:08 AM

    I really hope this reaches Miley. This is what she needs right now. God bless you Jarrid!

  • Lisa Manyon August 27, 2013 at 10:43 PM

    Straight up beautiful. Time to heal the broken threads of humanity.

  • Bob August 27, 2013 at 10:30 PM


    Jesus Christ is not my lord, savior? I guess it depends how you view the word savior. If you view it as having to accept him to get to heaven, than no. If you look at it from the view that his way of living opened my eyes to life, and how to live a life of unconditional love than yes.

    As i stated i hold my own beliefs on the bible and viewpoint of Jesus Christ, and before anyone hits me with the “So your calling him a liar” No i believe he WAS who he SAID he was, i just believe humans misinterpreted certain things about him & what he was exactly. Remember their was originally 600+ books in the bible before they were burned back in the day when the emperor was trying to get rid of Christianity. I do live a life of unconditional love, and forgiveness. Those two things are what Jesus was exactly, so i strive to live a life as he did. Do i live for him as my master and god? No i do not. If that means i am going to hell (As you believe) than so be it and i respect your opinions as mine should be respected. However i can say with honesty i am a light in my community, and a light that strives to teach people not so much about religion, but about living a life of Forgiveness and Love. Jesus spoke very clearly about those who focused on the details more than living a life of those two things. If we all took the step to living like him and not focusing on the details, i believe alot shall change. Whether you believe so or not is your opinion, but i think it is very evident that a simple change of how we love & forgive is a start.

    • Sharon August 27, 2013 at 11:07 PM


      I love you, and JESUS loves you soooooo much more, beyond what you can even imagine, and he truly, deeply wants your complete surrender and heart…maybe this is not the right place to talk about this stuff, so I will just tell you that I will pray for you and that like you said: you are either for JESUS as in His follower and believe what HE says in His Word The Bible, or you don’t and are not HIS…which HE says- you are against Him…there’s no if and buts or in betweens…HE is very clear in who HE is: He is Lord of Lords and King of Kings…there is no other God like Him, He is the TRUE living God and He is HOLY. I will pray for you tonight, God bless!!!

      • concernedbeliever1 September 20, 2013 at 7:10 PM

        Sharon, stand strong in the faith, and thank you for preaching the Gospel; we must preach the Gospel everywhere, and this blog is a good place.

    • austin a August 28, 2013 at 4:35 PM

      Bob, your thoughts are good. Sharon doesn’t like intellectual argument. She’s vertical.

    • Supporter August 28, 2013 at 8:39 PM

      You are correct Bob. EVERYBODY should show action instead of words (scripture). Friendship, love, and grace will be the guide.

      • believer1 September 20, 2013 at 7:07 PM

        Faith comes by hearing, and hearing by the Word of God, the Bible; words are essential, and we must preach the Gospel.

  • Bob August 27, 2013 at 10:01 PM

    Also, people commenting saying “He should have used scripture” have to realize that sometimes Jesus speaking through somebody does not always mean through scripture. I am not saying it is not important either, i am simply saying there are ways to really send a message to certain people. Some need scripture, some do not it pertains to the person and how Jesus intends to work in that person’s life. If you believe that God has a plan, than do not focus on him not using scripture, the job or at least the foundation has been laid down for change. I rest my case. Like i said before, thank you for this. Most people passing judgment are exactly the “LukeWarm” followers Jesus mentioned. Remember he rather you be TOTALLY against him than somewhat for him, it just is a bad representation. Have a good day

    • Sharon August 27, 2013 at 10:12 PM

      I just have a question for you Bob…is JESUS CHRIST, your Savior and Lord??? are you passionately living for HIM as you Master and as your GOD?

  • bdk August 27, 2013 at 9:58 PM

    Thanks for the post. Well stated. However, I would like say that the negative response is not limited to Christians alone. I have seen posts from all corners of my friendship circles bemoaning the content of the performance. There’s grace from this Christ-follower too. I believe in you and in the talent you have, Miley.

  • Bob August 27, 2013 at 9:47 PM

    Honestly I hold respect for you writing this simply because of the entire “What would Jesus Do” statement. The majority of people turned off by religion I believe are that way because of the people who claim they are followers of christ but do not live a life as such. I am not a christian myself, I holdnmy own viewpoints for reasons but I do believe jesus is a source of light people should live like more. Claiming to have a personal relationship is irrelevant..if only people lived more like him this world would be such a better place. I am glad you took the approach you did, regardless of people saying you should have used scripture…you did the right thing. someone living that lifestyle would be turned off more than turned on to your point. The most important message got across and as a person who holds a different spiritual viewpoint I can say with truth, I commend you. Thank you for actually following through on what you live.

  • Sharon August 27, 2013 at 9:44 PM


    I really hope Miley reads this. This is a very loving, kind, and graceful way of showing love, and care to her. Part of me thinks she probably does know that the way she is living is not the best way to live but she really doesn’t care, but then again God is so patient and willing to extend grace and a hand no matter how deep in the pit we may be. I will pray that this will reach her, and that her heart will be touched and softened and that the seed sown by this will be watered with the TRUTH of JESUS CHRIST. I can tell you have a great heart so filled with the love of JESUS Jarrid, and I hope God continues to bless you and use you and your lovely wife in amazing ways in this dark, and loveless world. LOVE!!!

    • you August 28, 2013 at 1:40 PM

      Sharon August 27, 2013 at 9:22 PM
      I agree with your comment except that I don’t know if she is saved, of course only God knows that, He knows her heart, but I wouldn’t go all out saying she is a child of God if you don’t really know…just sayin…but I agree with everything else!! :

      • believer1 September 20, 2013 at 7:08 PM

        I agree that Miley, and anyone else, is only a child of God if we have repented of their sins and trust in the Lord Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior.

    • Anonymous August 29, 2013 at 3:26 PM

      She probably will.

  • AJ August 27, 2013 at 9:21 PM

    Sometimes we need to reevaluate ourselves and make judgments within ourselves before we start using mediums to talk about other people and how to live their lives. You’re right, you don’t Miley, only Miley knows Miley and whatever you think is best for her is the initial clause of an unwarranted claim. Sometimes people need to live and experience what’s in front of them, unless they’re crying for help you should leave them alone. People do change, but you have to let them and in their own time so meanwhile look at your house, look at your rules and see if you can’t stop :)

    • BA September 14, 2013 at 8:53 AM

      Hey AJ,
      I couldn’t help but notice – you gave a comment that no one asked for, and within that comment you criticized the blogger for doing the same.

      Do you smell that? Smells like the stench of hypocrisy in the room!

  • Shane August 27, 2013 at 9:09 PM

    “Deserve” is a strong word in light of Scripture… may God have grace on us all. Read Ephesians 2:1-10

    • Ashley August 27, 2013 at 10:46 PM

      Completely agree. I’m thankful for Jarrid’s response, but if we’re being honest about what we deserve…it’s hell.

  • David August 27, 2013 at 9:07 PM

    I won’t even lie as if I did not make a status about her performance…it was quite the stir. I can’t say I understand what is going on with her or have any relation to it but I just hope whatever is taking place is settled by The Lord.

  • David August 27, 2013 at 8:51 PM

    While I agree with most your letter. I do believe that you should share scripture with someone you’re trying to teach about Christ, I do believe you should tell them that they need him and why they do need him, and you do need to let them know that they are living a sinful lifestyle. I say this as a sinner saved by The Lord Jesus Christ. I’m not trying to hate or anything, but the main problem with churches in America these fuss is that they sugar coat things to seem friendly and appeal to people, but people need the hard truth, presented in a Christian manner. So while I see the good in your message, you should be more open to just telling people how it is, and not sugar-coating it to spare their feelings.

    • Victoria August 27, 2013 at 11:43 PM

      As a person who grew up in church, she’s probably tired of hearing it.

      Miley grew up Christian, from what I can tell. Her parents raised her as well as they could, and when you start spouting scripture, many people just tune out. It’s about meeting her where she is, not tailoring the gospel.

    • Shanice August 27, 2013 at 11:50 PM

      I agree with everything you said how are people going to help someone without quoting the bible to prove your point and show that this is written in the bible to know this is what God says. Christians shouldn’t sugar- coat everything for someone feelings.

    • Jamie McCormick August 28, 2013 at 11:57 AM

      David, praise God for the life-changing and compelling grace that we have experienced. Salvation is by grace alone, through faith. How are we to believe, if we have not heard? People must tell other people of Jesus and His redemptive work. Thanks be to God for our effectual calling, however, that is not a means to stop proclaiming. The Gospel, with the Holy Spirit, regenerates one’s heart. We cannot expect Miley to change without Christ invading her with His Spirit. Words of eloquent wisdom and morality do not save. Only Jesus through the proclamation of the Gospel can save. Let’s spend less time with our worldly responses, and more time with the Gospel.

    • Me August 28, 2013 at 12:04 PM

      I agree this is not the time to sugar coat the gospel. After all that is the great commisson to preach the gospel in word,deed and truth!

    • Nancy September 5, 2013 at 12:36 PM

      I agree with David. None of us can understand the good news of the gospel until we first understand the bad news that we are sinners.

    • Nomi September 12, 2013 at 9:59 AM

      Exactly. Some people here say the reason why Christians are not liked by the world is because we do not practice what we preach, but the truth is people do not like Christians because we stand for Christ and Truth. As Jesus said, the world would hate us because it hated Him first. If you hate the Master you will hate His servants.

  • Victor M. August 27, 2013 at 7:32 PM

    Don’t you all think that what goes on with her life and what she chooses to do is non of your business? Stop trying to conform everyone to your standards, she’s an independent human buing with her own rights and sense of self. STOP IT.

    • Laurie August 27, 2013 at 8:08 PM

      Victor….We ARE her business…hello

    • Tey M. August 27, 2013 at 8:17 PM

      Victor M.,
      If…and only if you are a Christian, you won’t even say that to us. We care about Miley just as we care about every Christian in this world even if we have never met before and even if we don’t ever meet on earth. We are brothers and sisters and nobody tells anybody to stop caring about his/her brothers and sisters cause that won’t make a point, right?. Now you ask Jesus and let Him teach you so you’d understand the things that’s going on.

    • Anonymous August 28, 2013 at 5:22 PM

      Victor M.
      I do not believe that Jarrid was trying to reform Miley or anyone else! He was just showing her love! We definitely need more love in this world! Love has never hurt anyone! Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Jesus loves all of us, even you!
      K. Jackson

    • Anonymous August 29, 2013 at 8:53 AM

      I don’t think he was trying to say that we need to sugar coat the Gospel. He clearly said that the way she is living her life isn’t the right way. But in order to be able to open her heart to what God is trying to do in her life, you have to look at the situation from her perspective. I would back away from the church, too, if everybody was coming at me saying I was a sinner. I’m sure she already knows that her life doesn’t match up with what God says in the Gospel. What she really needs to hear is the story of Jesus and the Samaritan woman at the well. That act of love that Jesus showed in that story is what she needs from us now.

    • Kerry August 29, 2013 at 12:08 PM

      Ummm…are you sure she has a “sense of self”? Did you see any of the performance?

    • Scott August 29, 2013 at 10:43 PM

      Exactly his point….she is an independent human being with her own rights and sense of self. The lifestyle she was thrust into took those rights away. The industry has made what goes on in her life, everyone’s business. It has exploited her and raped her dignity. She has roots in God, from a young age, and I fully believe she will return to those roots. She was thrown to the wolves by the industry. God looks upon her, not as she is, but as He sees her……and that is through eyes way different than what the world looks through.

    • Timothy Keran August 31, 2013 at 6:19 PM

      God already knows her business and is speaking to her. As Christ said he was about his fathers business so to is Jared.

    • Nikki B. September 1, 2013 at 3:36 PM

      Whether she ends up in Heaven or He’ll is our business. This letter was to her to show her there is a better way. You may not understand why Jarrid wrote this letter and if you have any questions you can ask me, but all Jarrid did was reach out to her and show her the love of Jesus. You may not understand that love, but if you would like to know more please ask me. I would live to talk to you about it.

  • Meagan August 27, 2013 at 7:00 PM

    These were my exact thoughts when I saw her video.

    Thanks for posting this.

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  • Rocky August 27, 2013 at 6:21 PM

    Just a lost beautiful soul who needs to find her way back to Jesus. I hope God will put better people in her life to move her in the right direction. She is so amazing.

  • Donald Ramsey August 27, 2013 at 6:20 PM

    I am a Catholic Christian. I am so glad to see a response to Miley’s controversial performance, like this one. ALL of those kids who as kids were thrust into the limelight and are now in their 20s, they ALL need this kind of caring and understanding. Miley Cyrus, Demi Lovato, Nick, Joe and Kevin Jonas (Jonas Brothers). The pressure on these youngsters to mold to the modern crazy world, is overwhelming. These are all sweet young people, and they need, appreciate, and deserve our prayers. I will be offering a Chaplet of the Divine Mercy for them (this is a popular Catholic devotional, a catholic way of “pleading the blood” and pleading before the Father all the sorrow and pain that Christ endured in pouring out that blood our for all of us on the cross=== pleading it for THESE DEAR YOUNG PEOPLE, beginning with Miley. Thanks & God bless you, Jarrid. I will be praying it tonight. What you wrote, made me cry.

    • concerndblvr1 September 20, 2013 at 8:18 PM

      Please go to ex-Catholic websites to see that you need the Gospel, that only the Lord Jesus Christ saves you, and that you must not follow the catholic church which has called anathema on those of us who are true believers who follow and obey the Lord Jesus Christ.

  • Millie Betances-Noboa August 27, 2013 at 6:07 PM

    Very well said, and I’m glad you said it. I agree that the childhood stardom is hard to break out of. But there has to be a better way to do it. As uncomfortable as I was with her performance, I now feel even worse with my behavior for not feel a bit of sympathy or concern as well. Thank you for reminding me who we serve and how we should always serve him. I pray that this does get to her in some way or at least reaches a person that is just as close and concerned for her.
    God bless you and your family, and may our Savior continue to use you for his glory!

  • Joanah Acierto August 27, 2013 at 5:53 PM

    I adore this, like it made me change my views on Miley! This amazing

  • carla graves August 27, 2013 at 5:41 PM

    Wonderful words….I totally agree with all said by Jarrid. I am very saddened by what I see happening to a talented young woman. Pray she finds a healthier way of entertaining and that she finds true friends too that will help her find a better way.

  • Emma Guillory August 27, 2013 at 5:13 PM

    I agree with this Mr. Wilson. I agree with you and your wife.

  • Anna August 27, 2013 at 5:12 PM

    This is so refreshing to read after all of the criticism Miley is receiving. She’s just a young girl lost in this world trying to find her identity and worth in things that will leave her dry and empty in the end. I pray that she will find her way in Christ. Thank you for this.

  • robyn August 27, 2013 at 5:03 PM

    You are amazing human being. I hope your words of encouragement can help those just by reading what you have written. I am not a Christian or with any other religious affiliation. However I do live my life with strong morals of kindness and forgiveness. Though it may not be the same filter as yours I’m extremely glad you put words of kindness on a situation where so much hate infested. Thanks <3

  • Joyce Bencomo August 27, 2013 at 4:59 PM

    Thanks for this Jarrid…. This Is What Jesus Would Do …. : )

    • Bethany Remigio August 29, 2013 at 7:40 AM

      Amen. Jesus would really do that.. and in fact, HE ALREADY DID. :)

  • LaToya Gay August 27, 2013 at 4:55 PM

    I praise God for Jarrid and his wife for writing this open letter to Miley. I saw so much negativity on the newsfeed about this young woman and it breaks my heart because the majority were Christians condemning her and not praying nor interceding for her during this season of her life. I was her age once and I acted out in the same way she did. So it breaks my heart to see adults speaking down upon this child of God. We must understand and remember that we are sinners that have fallen short of God’s grace. Love you Miley. Hang in there!

    • Sharon August 27, 2013 at 9:22 PM

      I agree with your comment except that I don’t know if she is saved, of course only God knows that, He knows her heart, but I wouldn’t go all out saying she is a child of God if you don’t really know…just sayin…but I agree with everything else!! :)

      • Anonymous September 10, 2013 at 7:54 PM

        We are all children of God! Christ loved unconditionally-

    • Anonymous August 28, 2013 at 6:16 AM

      Aren’t we all childer of god, saved or not?
      Just sayin, that’s what I was raised to believe.
      Saved or not, we are all his children.

    • Glenn August 28, 2013 at 8:04 AM

      @ Sharon….HI glad to see people on here interacting with one another on a positive note. Sharon…..No matter if we are saved or not, EVERY ONE of us is a child of God. It’s the life we lead as a christian that people must see and hear. I have more, but I think I will stop there, LOL

    • Mark August 28, 2013 at 9:46 PM

      We are all His creation, but to think we are all His children is unbiblical.

      John 8:42-44

    • Anonymous August 28, 2013 at 11:07 PM

      1 John 1:12-13. We who have received and believe in Jesus we’re given the right to be children of God.

  • Rexshell Hoff August 27, 2013 at 4:47 PM

    This was amazing. So much grace. Way to be Christ-like. Thanks for this, it changed my outlook toward the performance and opened my heart. Thanks for allowing the Lord to use you to change my view.

  • Zavier Garcia August 27, 2013 at 4:46 PM

    Well spoken. Couldn’t agree more.

  • Lidia August 27, 2013 at 4:36 PM

    I agree with Jarrid and his wife,

  • Kris August 27, 2013 at 4:29 PM

    a wonderful letter. I pray it reaches Miley. I still love you Miley. I believe in you. :-)

  • Katt Wilkie August 27, 2013 at 4:26 PM

    Genuinely the most refreshing thing I’ve read on this subject. Especially the more unusual Christian response of not preaching scripture for once. Keep up the good work, the world needs more Christians demonstrating love like this.

  • Casey Hussong August 27, 2013 at 4:24 PM

    Wow! This is so true! Even though I don’t agree with her choices and miss the person she was when I looked up to her, this is still spot on!

  • Grace August 27, 2013 at 4:24 PM

    I’m so glad you posted this. I’m still really shocked from seeing clips of the VMA’s (I never watch it and this is one of the reasons why).
    Thanks for sharing a radical perspective on things. It’s always hard to think this way and honestly it slapped me in the face and reminded me how we need to treat people.

    • Norah August 27, 2013 at 8:16 PM

      Spot on Jarrid. We love you Miley, and we hope this reaches you. We still all have your back, no matter your decisions. (:

    • annoyed August 28, 2013 at 4:01 PM

      This is so much bigger than Miley..This is the music industry dominated by satan what do you expect. The fact that pastors cant or wont speak on that is betraying the gospel of Jesus Christ. Stop it with all the self help humanistic gospel.

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