There is a lot of speculation flying through the blogspheres about “50 Shades of Grey,” the new book series that is flying off the charts in sales. The book itself is disgusting, degrading, and down right wrong. It portrays the image of a man who is sexually assaultive, yet praises his actions as “cool,” and “melodic.” The sad thing is, readers alike are embracing the content, and raving about how much they are enjoying it.
Now, before you get mad at me for judging your new favorite book, I want to say a few things.
1. I’m not judging the author.
2. I’m not judging the book’s readers.
The only thing I am doing is giving clarity to a topic that has been widely discussed across Christian and non-Christian blogs alike. And to be honest, I’m pretty disappointed in the most recent posts that have come from a few Christian bloggers that I like. Using twisted scripture to state, “women are to sexually submit to their husbands regardless,” there are many Christian women who are down right outraged with this response. And to be completely honest, so am I.
All I have to say is, “Really bro?”
As Christ followers, we are called to be different than the world, not join it. Yet when it comes to a topic like “sex,” I believe the pig-headedness of a man will try to control the spiritual purity of God, therefore overtaking viewpoints and understanding. The flesh wants to win the battle.
My point is this:
50 Shades of Grey isn’t something anyone calling themselves a Christian should be reading. And not to mention be supporting…
Where I Stand:
1. Making a woman submit to any sexual deed a man desires is no different than sexual assault. It’s wrong. It’s selfish. It’s immature. Grow up.
2. Don’t let any man twist scripture to get you to do something you don’t want to.
3. If a woman says “no,” then it’s a NO. Man up.
Gentlemen, 50 Shades of Grey portrays the exact opposite image of who God has called you to be as a man.
- Jarrid Wilson
Amen!!
I love this post! Thanks for standing your ground on this issue and pointing out the flaws of those Christian bloggers!
We gotta Man-up in the name of Jesus and represent him well!
AMEN! I recently started a facebook debate about this very book! I think what makes me most upset is that some christians reading this book dont recognize this as sinful…
Totally agree. Not to mention that Christians should not be reading erotica and S&M books. It does not glorify God in any way, shape or form. I love this, “Man up.” AMEN!
Amen Jarrid! “Gentlemen, 50 Shades of Gray portrays the exact opposite image of who God has called you to be as a man.” You NAILED it with that quote. Thank you for constantly challenging Christian men to MAN up and be MEN and not “neat Christian boys” as I heard it put once. Thank you!!!
Great post. You know it’s not difficult to submit to a man filled with the Holy Spirit and knows how to love me like Jesus loves me. In fact, it’s hard to resist that kind of love. 50 Shades ain’t got nothing on my Godly man!!!
Amen Jarrid! More Christians need to be challenged to take a bold stand. Philippians 2:15-16
“that you may become blameless and harmless, children of God without fault in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world, holding fast the word of life, so that I may rejoice in the day of Christ that I have not run in vain or labored in vain.”
Thank you so much for this, I am dead set against this book. I have read Mills & Boon before and I know that 50 Shades won’t do me any justice.
When people read it on the train casually I just think WTH? Most books to do with sex are always badly written.
It does not glorrify God and I am trying to walk in purity. Also the double standards, it’s like porn instead of watching, you’re reading it.
YES! FINALLY! There are sensible people out there!
I insulted the book bluntly to my hairdresser and she flipped big time.
I completely agree! That book is absolutely disgusting (haven’t read it…but heard things i could never unhear).
thank you for this! :D
I would just like it say that if you dont like or want the read the book then dont!!! it has nothing to do with being a christian or anything of that sort. i actually know a really good CHRISTIAN woman that is into this kind of stuff it is all in what you want your relationship to be like!!! if it aint for you then ok but dont tell me i dont need to read it cause i am a CHRISTIAN!!! really guys/girls if you ppl dont have something to down your life would suck!!! so i say “man up” and stop downing people for reading the book CHRISTIAN OR NOT!!!
I read 50 shades of Grey pretty much because my friends were reading it & i wanted to see what all the fuss was about (totally the wrong reason for reading a book) & i really had no idea what the content was until i started reading it… & i struggled reading all 3 of the books because i did not like how controlling & demeaning the christian grey character is…. i have issues with men who like to control women i guess it comes from my controlling husband who beat me until i kicked him out of my & my daughters life…. anyway coming from that i don’t really understand why women think its sexy to be treated that way because its just not a way anyone should be treated plain & simple… i totally agree with you 100% & as a new follower of yours i am loving reading all of these blogs & your instagram photo’s…. certainly what my heart & soul needs to hear… so thank you & continue doing gods work because you never know who’s life your changing by just writing a blog or uploading photos :)
Just really sad that we having this debate, just a reminder for me that we are in a spiritual war and we need to keep fighting to survive this…. keep the faith J
thanks for this post, i hear so many people raving about this book also…i’m not reading the book myself but wonder what’s all the hype, i’m reading my bible right now or actually i’m reading blood in the sand right now..it’s really interesting, more to talk about soon, take care…i found you from the jesus blog, is this you then? if it is nice to see you in person..take care…
Agree. Thank you for your kind words. And, no I am not. I appreciate you checking out my blog!
tnx. Two thums up. Our minds adapt to its surrounding s, hence expose it to good and healthy surroundings.
Not to say I disagree (I don’t), because a lady is a lady and should be treated as such, of course, and reading this book would evoke the lust factor which in itself is sinful. But, I want to take an opposing stand point if for no other reason than my own personal interest in your possible retort.
How can a person who has not read the book but merely read what others have posted about it say so much about how degrading and vile it is? I had heard on some interviews and blog sites that the interest women hold in the book is how well Christian Grey treats Ana Steele, how he pursues her and dotes on her. A women craves to be desired by the man she loves and that’s what they were seeing in the book. They saw his pursuit and passion for her over their interest in how raunchy, erotic or distasteful his sexual exploitations are with her, though, I’m sure that holds much interest as well.
And on that note, for women (Christian women as well) to feel they are not being pursued or adored like they desire and to be finding it in a book that is for all intents and purposes risque, morally questionable and controversial to say the least, that is a sad truth. Where are the men to step up and show these women what it really means to be adored, pursued and respected.
Having spoken with several people who had read it, my interest was peaked because I thought it was vile as well. Upon conversations with these people they explained that it wasn’t this sort of idea of chains, whips and a girl who can’t say no. This is a girl who can say she wants nothing to do with this behavior in the bedroom, and wants nothing to do with this man, and by the end of the book she does put a stop to it because she realizes it’s not for her.
So
“1. Making a woman submit to any sexual deed a man desires is no different than sexual assault. It’s wrong. It’s selfish. It’s immature. Grow up.
2. Don’t let any man twist scripture to get you to do something you don’t want to.
3. If a woman says “no,” then it’s a NO. Man up.”
1. From my understanding Ana Steele was forced into nothing, it was a choice, it was a contract that either person could break. But yes never allow a man to force you into something you are uncomfortable with.
2. Absolutely. The word of God is not to be messed with.
3. Yes. And in this book that was also a respected notion. She said “no” he said okay.
These book are not romantic. Is about a women who is being stalk, maniputale, control and hurt by her man. He plays mind games with her all the time. He tells her that she is in control but in reality he has all power. I have quotes from the book when she tells him to stop and he doesn’t. Also, she is always afraid that he is going to beat her up and sometimes she just take the abuse. She submits with all the abuse because she doesn’t want to lose him. She thinks that by staying with him and putting with all his crap she would change him into a loving man. These books are about domestic violence and it make me sad how many women think this is romantic. As a mother of girls I find these books HORRIBLE. What kind of message does it sending to young women? That love can “fix” everything even a psycho like “Christian”. As a single mother of girls I find these books disgusting!