4 Dating Tips For Christian Singles

These tips might just get you an incredible spouse.

1. Don’t Date Just To Date

Although dating can be seen as harmless and fun, dating for the sake of dating can really screw with someone’s head. Not only is it unfair to the individuals you are seeing, but it’s also unfair to yourself. Don’t purposely put yourself into situations that will only mess with your emotions. There is a maturity and responsibility that comes along with the action of dating, and if your only reason for dating is “just because,” I would really encourage you to take a step back and not move forward in your pursuit. The motives of your heart play a big role in your dating life and will continue to play a role in any future relationship. Evaluate your motives.

2. You’re Allowed To Have High Standards

Your standards need to be somewhat obtainable, but don’t let anyone tell you that your standards are too high. The reality is that you’re looking for the person you are going to spend the rest of your life with, so inevitably you have every right to be as picky as you want to be. Don’t settle for something mediocre when God has something exceptional for you.

3. Purity Paves The Way To Intimacy 

I’m not gonna go ultra-conservative on you and claim sex before marriage leads to death, but I will say the wait is worth it. Not only does purity show a sense of respect and honor to one another, but it will also show the depth in which your relationship with God stands. God intended sex to be for marriage, and as a follower of Christ it’s our duty to protect this sacred gift. The world around us has turned sexual activity into a recreational sport, when in fact God intended it to be a spiritual joining of two people. Don’t let the world poison your view on sex. God intended it for more.

4. Prayer Is The Key

This tip speaks for itself. And although it might be a no-brainer to most of you, you’d be surprised to know how many people leave prayer and fasting out of their dating lives. When it comes to Christian dating, any relationship that hasn’t been prayerfully considered is a relationship I’d re-consider. I’m not saying you can’t find a wonderful person without praying, but why would you want to ignore the opportunity to seek wisdom and guidance from the creator of the universe? Don’t make sense to me. Spend time in conversation with God, and allow him to guide you towards someone he sees fit. There is no such thing as a prayer-less Godly relationship.

– Jarrid Wilson


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Published by Jarrid Wilson

Husband, Father, Pastor at Harvest Christian Fellowship & Author of a few books.

39 comments on “4 Dating Tips For Christian Singles”

  1. Love this post! This topic has been something on my mind a lot the past couple years. Like Kayleigh said in her comment, I am also 20 and have never had a girlfriend. I put my trust in God and I know he has a plan for my life! Thanks Jarrid for being such an awesome role model!

  2. Excellent, however sex before marriage is called fornication, even though it starts with a bad thought. Many Christian are trying to avoid this word to show a “light” christianize, but Jesus called us to be the light the salt of the earth, we must speak clear!

  3. Thanks so much for this message Jarrid. I’m 20 and have never had a boyfriend. I’ve had opportunities to date but decided not to take the relationship that far as I couldn’t see myself marrying the guy. I pray often that God will bring the right man into my life when I’m ready but have to admit that I have days where I feel anxious it’ll never happen. This clarified everything I feel and believe about dating.

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