23 Qualities Of A Guy Worth Dating

Searching for “the one” can be a daunting task. And while there may be hundreds of qualities to look for in a man, I’ve come up with 23 that I believe every woman should seek after. Don’t tread lightly when it comes to the idea of a relationship. You can be as picky as you want, and I discourage you from ever just settling. I hope these 23 qualities will help you on your journey, keep you from dating the wrong people, and encourage you to not ever sell yourself short. God didn’t create you to settle.

1. He loves God.

2. He is driven.

3. He is goal oriented.

4. He is chivalrous.

5. He is supportive.

6. He is honest.

7. He respects his parents.

8. He respects your/his purity.

9. He shows patience.

10. He puts God first.

11. He is reliable.

12. He is trustworthy.

13. He is someone you are attracted to.

14. He is always willing to help those in need.

15. He will pray for you/with you.

16. He manages his finances well.

17. He has a good reputation.

18. He is willing to work hard to provide.

19. He doesn’t make hasty decisions.

20. He is an asset, not a liability. 

21. He has good manners.

22. He is willing to protect you.

23. He is always thinking on the bright side.

There is a high chance you will not be able to find a guy who reaches all these qualities perfectly, but I’m sure you get the point I am trying to make. I myself do not reflect a perfect image of this post, but my daily prayer is that God will continue to mold me into the man my wife deserves.

-Jarrid Wilson


What are your thoughts? Leave a comment below.

Published by Jarrid Wilson

Husband, Father, Pastor at Harvest Christian Fellowship & Author of a few books.

130 comments on “23 Qualities Of A Guy Worth Dating”

  1. Married to a guy for 28 years that only has 2 of those qualities :( wish I had read something like this years ago. Girls , a word of advice they don’t change, if you catch them in lies before you marry RUN the other way. His family (now deceased) treated me horribly. Made a BIG point of letting me know, after we were married that his first fiancee (long out of the picture) got an engagement ring (I didn’t), told people our kids weren’t his etc. He stood by and said nothing or told me to “ignore them”. Turns out he uses porn, no longer goes to church etc.

  2. This is a great article and I agree with everything written, but unfortunately, I just find it very hard to believe that any guys with majority of these qualities exist anymore. I’ve been struggling to wait patiently for my “Adam” to awake, (and it might just be out of pure ignorance or the Lord just setting me aside) but all I’ve seen and have attracted (unfortunately) are worldly men with worldly desires, which turns me off from the notion of ever one day finding a guy worth dating. I’ve also struggled with not trying to THINK about this situation too much, and rather “seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to [me]” (Matthew 6:33) but honestly, when it comes to relationships, dating, finding “the one,” using an analogy, it’s almost like God wants me to ignore the sun on a cloudless day and to avoid it at all costs, at a beach (with NO umbrellas!). Obviously that impossible, there’s no where to escape it.

    Finding our significant other has infiltrated almost every medium you can possibly think of (TV, music, movies, books–you name it, it’s there). It’s hard not to get discouraged from time to time and not feel out of the loop. I’ve seen about 6 engagements happen on Facebook within the past 2 weeks. I am happy for those who have found their ordained husbands/wives and it gives me hope. But for me, this topic seems to seep into almost every nook and cranny of my life and as a result, it makes it almost impossible for me to not think about it. I get neurotic.

    Might I also add that for ME, I would add just one quality to your list– 24. He doesn’t smoke/intentionally cause harm to his body (drugs). As you are well aware, we are called to glorify our bodies, for they are temples of the Lord our God (Paraphrasing 1 Corinthians 6:19) and regardless of how a person got sucked into the habit of smoking or doing drugs, I cannot see myself nor am I willing to be with someone who is unwilling to shake such a terrible habit. This is just my personal preference, and unfortunately because of this, it rules out a LOT of men. Life is so short as it is already. Why speed up the process to an early grave? I’ve always wondered what the world would be like if people craved God as much as they did their morning cigarette? How many marriages would be saved as opposed to ending in divorce if we just looked to Jesus for help and guidance? Sorry for all the random thoughts. Just felt the need to share what was on my heart. Thanks for the article.

    1. good insight and i have 2 daughters in your position, 1 is 28 and other 24 and unfortunately they settled…not that as their mom did i live a good example…both still unmarried but b/c they settled and the now consequences of that, i fell that they believe they will never find a guy who matches even 1/2 of this..good list as it is, even in the church i’ve seen too many men (young n old) look at outward way too much, even settling for a worldly women long before a godly 1 just to try n get their beauty queen…no matter how ugly she may be on the inside..i’ve prayed for them for yrs for a christian guy and absolutely no christian guy has ever showed intertest but looked down on my girls (even the 3rd daughter who is married, hubs ended up getting saved) but lord the ungodly ones come out the woodwork…they have been so shunned from very early age by guys in church that they dont even try to attract a christian guy anymore..w/so many of those guys shunning them till they see them w/ungodly friend n then those same guys fall all over themselves to get to their friends..i really dont think guys like this are really out their for the everyday christian gal

    2. Hi Tracey!

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts which I enjoyed reading. More than a few people wonder if a man or woman with the 23 + 1 (your nonsmoking point) traits do exist or if that is a pipe dream. They do exist this I know because I know of some men like that and also women. Maybe you are looking in the wrong places for a man with those 24 traits? Where do you find Godly men, especially ones that serve the Lord? They exist, but where does a woman stumble upon that type of a Godly man? They most likely will not be found in a bar, They will not be found in spiritually starved or dead churches because these men want to be growing closer to Christ, not be stagnant in a stagnant church or fellowship. They will not be found living at concerts that dishonor the name of Christ. Men who seek Jesus and his kingdom first will be in places that demonstrate that focus.

      Another point you mentioned I’d like to discuss is about the concept of “the one” or “the man God assigned”. There is no place in the bible that says God has set aside or ordained just one man for you or one woman for me or for any person. God gives us free will to choose Jesus as our Savior or not to accept him. God allows us to marry whoever we want as long as they belong to the Lord. He gives us guidelines in seeking out a martial life-long partner to enable us to have a Christ-centered marriage. If you would like some bible verses on that, let me know.

      One point that few ever mention about dating or getting ready to date is this. We will NEVER find our happiness in a person of the opposite sex. It does not matter how godly a man is in his life, he will at some point in a relationship NOT make you happy. He will at different times annoy you and give you less than optimal joy and happiness. Humans are like that! The only person who can make anyone happy is Jesus. Until a person is happy being single because of Jesus is the Lord of their life, that person will never find long lasting happiness in any dating or marriage relationship. They must be happy and content in seeking Christ first!

      I pray you will be blessed and a blessing as you continue to walk in and for him seeking your joy, happiness, and contentedness in him and him alone!

      In His Glorious Grace,


  3. I love the simplicity of this list. It’s a gift to write so much good advice in the least amount of words. It’s speaks to us for us or to be shared.

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