23 Qualities Of A Guy Worth Dating

Searching for “the one” can be a daunting task. And while there may be hundreds of qualities to look for in a man, I’ve come up with 23 that I believe every woman should seek after. Don’t tread lightly when it comes to the idea of a relationship. You can be as picky as you want, and I discourage you from ever just settling. I hope these 23 qualities will help you on your journey, keep you from dating the wrong people, and encourage you to not ever sell yourself short. God didn’t create you to settle.

1. He loves God.

2. He is driven.

3. He is goal oriented.

4. He is chivalrous.

5. He is supportive.

6. He is honest.

7. He respects his parents.

8. He respects your/his purity.

9. He shows patience.

10. He puts God first.

11. He is reliable.

12. He is trustworthy.

13. He is someone you are attracted to.

14. He is always willing to help those in need.

15. He will pray for you/with you.

16. He manages his finances well.

17. He has a good reputation.

18. He is willing to work hard to provide.

19. He doesn’t make hasty decisions.

20. He is an asset, not a liability. 

21. He has good manners.

22. He is willing to protect you.

23. He is always thinking on the bright side.

There is a high chance you will not be able to find a guy who reaches all these qualities perfectly, but I’m sure you get the point I am trying to make. I myself do not reflect a perfect image of this post, but my daily prayer is that God will continue to mold me into the man my wife deserves.

-Jarrid Wilson


What are your thoughts? Leave a comment below.

Published by Jarrid Wilson

Husband, Father, Pastor at Harvest Christian Fellowship & Author of a few books.

131 comments on “23 Qualities Of A Guy Worth Dating”

  1. Where would one go to meet this man? Lol. Also I think like attracts like and in order to find a man that has these things the woman must have them too.

    1. I agree, Lisa. The thing is, God will send you the right one when you are ready. So don’t even go looking for him. Live the best life you can and the Lord will provide.

    1. Definitely a non negotiable. It shows he’s willing to fight for you. He doesn’t have to be like in the movies, but opening the door for a woman is nice every once in awhile. Chivalry isn’t dead. It’s romantic and it’s in the Bible. Read Song of Solomon

    2. I would say so. Chivalry says a few things. One, he cares about you to the point of action in the simple things. Two, he will be made fun of by others (whether le girl sees it or not), and if he is still willing to be chivalrous, that should speak volumes of him. And lastly, that he cherishes who he is with and is willing to protect her, once again, even in the small things. Chivalry is a rare thing, and I’m glad my father instilled it into me growing up.

    3. Totally think so. It might seem ridiculous, but it’s a public display of humility. He’s placing others before himself, which is essential in a relationship. If the man is to resemble Christ in a relationship, then he must show her that she’s able to rely on him.

      Now, this shouldn’t be confused with performance and legalism. A man should be doing these things because he loves her and wants to serve her, not because he feels the need to impress her.

    4. Yes, really. It’s like being in the ‘Titanic Society’. Men aren’t made like women. Chivalry keeps us on their ‘front burner’.

      Mama to eight boys, four girls, a step-son, a step-daughter, and two grandsons!

  2. Nice list. I have concerns with 14 when read without limitations. I’m thinking of two people, a pastor and a business man. Both are always willing to help those in need. And since needy people are everywhere , and needy people can spot these two easily, these two guys neglect their own family because they are “always” ready to help those in need.

    I’m sure this isn’t what was intended in the article, but the word “always” means always.

    1. There’s a book called Toxic Charity. Check it out. It’ll clarify what is healthy and what is not. The main thing my pastor does is he asks the people looking for help to volunteer at our church. (We’re a small church so we need as many volunteers as possible.) Look at charity as a way to build disciples. It isn’t just giving but interweaving your life in theirs.

    1. Preach! I think my ex loved the idea of me. He loved my beauty but alas it likely ended for the same reason it began.

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