20 Things People Over 20 Should Stop Doing

20 Things People Over 20 Should Stop Doing

20 Things People Over 20 Should Stop Doing

Here are 20 things people over 20 should stop doing. And believe me, I’ve been guilty of most of them.

1. Playing video games instead of looking for a job.

Video games can be extremely fun, but those games can sure take up a lot of valuable time that could be spent on more important areas of life. There is nothing wrong with playing them, as long as you balance the time needed for school, work, and other important aspects of life.

2. Spending money you don’t have.

Credit cards may seem like an easy way to pay for things you really want, but in the long run they could really hurt you if not properly used. Stick to cash, debit, or checks. This may seem old-school, but they will definitely help you manage your money.

3. Using the term “YOLO.”

Simple. Please stop using it.

4. Only going to church to find a relationship.

Not only will you hurt yourself in the long run, but you are also selfishly taking time away from a man or woman who is seeking after God’s wisdom and guidance. You can definitely find a great relationship at church, but don’t make that your only reason for attending.

5. Citing “-Google” on a college paper or work presentation. 

It’s not a valid citation, and it could get you in some  trouble.

6. Thinking you know it all.

Nobody want’s to spend time around a know-it-all. Walk in a posture of learning, and embrace every opportunity to gain new knowledge and wisdom.

7. Dating with no vision.

You’re confusing your heart, and you’re hurting the hearts of others.

8. Demanding respect before you’ve earned it.

Don’t get prideful. Learn to scrub the floors before you ask to manage the building. Don’t let self entitlement get the best of you.

9. Waiting until the last minute to do things.

Stop procrastinating! Teach yourself diligence in all circumstances. Not only will this help you in your day-to-day life, but it will always help you set yourself up for the future.

10. Getting in arguments over social media.

Nobody wants to see your drama on their news feed. Keep it to yourself and the people involved. Handle each situation in a mature and honorable manner.

11. Blaming others for your own mistakes

 Drop your pride. Accept your failures. Learn from your mistakes. You will learn a lot from the process.

12. Relying on your mother and father to constantly bail you out of trouble.

Learn to take care of yourself instead of always relying on your mother and father. They aren’t always going to be around to help you.

13. Calling off work for no reason.

 You aren’t doing anyone a favor by calling off. Learn to be responsible, and value that job someone else in the world wishes they had.

14. Ignoring wisdom from people who are older than you.

You don’t know everything. Take time to learn from people who having been living longer than you.

15. Thinking minimum wage is worse than no job at all.

Don’t believe the lie that money is everything. Any job is a good start. Give your full attention to any job, no matter the pay.

16. Pretending like you didn’t know any better.

Purposeful ignorance will only get you so far. Own up to your mistakes and take each failure as an opportunity to learn.

17. Using the excuse, “I’m too young.”

You’re never too young. There is always room for you to succeed when hope is on your side. Have faith in yourself and the gifts God has given you.

18. Living in the moment, and not planning for the future.

Be diligent, and plan for the future. Give yourself some goals, dreams, and future aspirations. Give yourself something to wake up for in the morning.

19. Giving up before you start. Stop making excuses!

Excuses won’t get you anywhere! Better to try and fail than to regret never trying at all. At least you will learn something.

20. Being Passive.

If you don’t stand for something, you’ll eventually fall for anything.

No one is perfect, and these points are all things I myself have once struggled with or been witness of.

—Jarrid Wilson


What else should people over 20 stop doing? Leave a comment below!


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  • Rogelio Jose September 5, 2015 at 9:36 AM

    Immaturity & dependency!

  • Emilio September 3, 2015 at 7:55 PM

    I got a job but sometimes I play video games over the weekend (Losing my motivation to hit the gym when it’s raining too hard).

  • Mimi (@mimideip) September 3, 2015 at 3:42 PM

    8. Demanding respect before you’ve earned it. <<<<this

  • The Writing Writer September 3, 2015 at 7:44 AM

    Hi! I noticed your intentions are good and all, and I agree with some of the points, but this certainly comes of as preachy. This is titled as “Things 20 year olds should stop doing” but comes off as “Things that annoy me that you should stop doing.”

    It sounds preachy, heavily biased and kind of pretentious. The message is good, but the delivery isn’t quite refined yet. I hope this helps with your future messages as guiding the youth is a great responsibility.

  • LB April 29, 2015 at 3:06 PM

    This is good. But, I think people under 20 should stop doing the majority of these things as well. Especially #3. No one should say that. Period. Ha.

  • wendy March 25, 2015 at 2:43 AM

    thank u, iwas blessed by this!!!

  • Nynphadorame June 22, 2014 at 8:54 AM

    I don’t go to church, but I didn’t know people went to church for relationships. That’s the last place I’d look for it.

  • Anthony June 21, 2014 at 12:47 PM

    Stop thinking blogging is a real way to change the world.

    • Rachel June 27, 2014 at 7:56 PM


    • nameless0921 September 9, 2014 at 10:24 AM

      Mass media helps reach out people around the world. A lot. So stop being so selfish of whatever blessings you have. You can’t bring it when you’re dead. :)

  • michelle June 21, 2014 at 8:04 AM

    I agree with most of this. The thing about not having credit cars i dont. I think you can get them but us them for gas and then pay it off. I had to actually get a store card to build my credit. You will not be able to get a house with out lines of credit. And if you are lucky to get one other than a store one then the credit limit shouldnt be higher than 300 dollars. I brought my house when i was 25. I do have other credit cards now to.

  • Rachel June 19, 2014 at 8:16 AM

    Hmmm, 31 year old stay at home mom of four here. Call me green, but what the heck is YOLO??

  • JG April 12, 2014 at 8:59 PM

    My younger staff members tend to be okay with leaving a task half way done and walking away – either because it’s the end of their 8 hour day, or because they are distracted and forget to return. I’d like to help 20 somethings realize that we all need to be responsible for the things that others depend on us for, and you are making someone else’s job difficult if you stop in the middle. I’m not saying all 20 somethings fall in this category, but the longer you’re on the planet, the more obvious it becomes that you are part of a mechanism that can become a well oiled machine if you pull all of your weight and care about the bigger picture.

  • darkpenguin350 March 27, 2014 at 12:56 PM

    Where is wearing horned rimmed glasses/ray bans???

    • Ricky Ponulak April 2, 2014 at 11:44 AM

      you’re not allowed to wear Ray Bans if you’re over 20 years old?

    • Jason November 22, 2014 at 2:04 PM

      How about if you weren’t alive when they came out, you’re too young to have any claim to them?

  • joe March 19, 2014 at 9:26 AM

    I like the messages in the article, but too many people THINK others are guilty of these “classic mistakes” and it often detracts from real issues at hand.

  • tilinhlan March 16, 2014 at 9:17 AM

    I like it. :) Especially the YOLO part. I think people just don’t think much about that term and use it indiscriminately.

  • Mary Fe Montalban March 14, 2014 at 8:26 AM

    ouch this is such a wake up call

  • Bree February 27, 2014 at 7:30 PM

    I’m 28 and I loved this article! My job requires me to work with people of all ages as they are trained for a career in healthcare and I am just baffled day-to-day by some of the behavior I see from people older than me!! Sadly a large majority of the ones younger than me don’t see anything wrong with many actions included on this list. In speaking with employers daily-they will not tolerate any of the above. I am not saying I’m not guilty of some of these but I loved reading it to see what I should be more conscientious of! Thanks Mr. Author Sir!

  • Tyler February 26, 2014 at 8:06 AM

    In reference to the comments on this article and our everyday world- Everyone, not just the target audience of this article, should stop being offended by everything. I’m 23, just started my second business, and in college, but I fully agree with the professor who commented- the fact that you were offended by the article is the very reason you are the intended audience. If this sort of constructive criticism offends you, I’d hate to see how you react in the real world.

  • Peggy February 25, 2014 at 7:19 AM

    Learn to speak properly and set the phone aside when you are with other people. There is a lot to be said for eye contact.

    • cpolk March 4, 2014 at 6:56 PM

      That is an awesome comment for all ages!

  • Mandy February 24, 2014 at 6:37 PM

    There is a huge span of 20+ and huge life differences. I can see many of these pertaining to early 20-somethings/college 20’s. After that, I feel it really tapers off. I’m 28 and I have a 20 and 21 year old sister. I see many of these in them, but not as much closer to my age and beyond. So, I really think the article is more for under 22-ish. I think that is really where things start to change for a person. And honestly, much of this list could apply to 20 things PEOPLE should not be doing.
    But I did agree whole-heartedly with the one about video games, as that one does seem timeless.
    One to add…dress your age. That doesn’t mean you can’t wear flattering clothes, but wear things that are more appropriate. The same goes with dress for your size. I’m sorry if either sound rude, but it’s one of those things. Wearing things not right for you only show you lack the confidence in who you are and are trying to be someone you are not.

  • Bonnie February 24, 2014 at 11:08 AM

    Stop posting half naked pictures of yourself on social media!

    • Shelly June 19, 2014 at 11:16 AM

      How about just stop posting selfies in general? Unless there is a reason like you are standing in front of a monument or exotic place, we do not need a picture of you posing in front of the mirror every day.

  • Angela February 24, 2014 at 6:05 AM

    I like that it says “over 20” because that really encompasses all of us. I was guilty of many things on this list and I wish I could go back and do them over again with what I know now. It is true, wisdom comes with age.

  • Franchesca Hebert-Spence February 23, 2014 at 7:59 PM

    I feel like this is a very biased and narrow perspective of how 20 somethings behave. Thankfully, I can honestly say these “suggestions” don’t pertain to me or my circle of friends. Wouldn’t it be more productive to celebrate the qualities you would like to see in this particular age group? Because personally, this made me feel incredibly irritated and defensive right off the hop. I believe number 6 is applicable this column…

    • johnny February 24, 2014 at 4:26 AM

      The fact that you are offended by this post demonstrates that you are the very person it was written for. Not every line applies to everyone. Perhaps you should read them again because I think they more than pertain to you just by reading the tone of your response. (From a college professor.)

    • Mickey B. February 24, 2014 at 12:44 PM

      Don’t pay any attention to the incredibly rude reply you received “from a college professor,” who is clearly reading this article for their own benefit because they themselves I’m sure are over twenty, yet haven’t stopped arguing over social media (number ten, ‘johnny’; take notes.) I, too, as a person over twenty, was offended by this article.

    • Nicole May 8, 2014 at 5:38 AM

      Jared’s not just talking about 20-somethings. If you re-read the title of the post, it is addressing everyone OVER 20. That includes all the rest of us too; he’s not just accusing 20-somethings of these actions. I know 50-somethings who are just as guilty of some of these actions every day. I think perhaps the point of the post is, when you’re considered a “kid” (under 20, when your frontal lobe still has not fully developed), you might be able to get away with immaturity and selfishness. But when you become an adult, we all need to start acting with respect, maturity, and humility. Or try to, at the very least.

    • Avery Davis May 9, 2014 at 2:49 PM

      I agree with Franchesca, and I don’t know about “The Professor” or Pastor Wilson, but I’m 48.

      Also, I would like to point out to anyone who doesn’t already know this: being a professor (or claiming to be a professor) says absolutely nothing about any expertise regarding this subject, nor does it convey any special ability to determine that someone’s tone in a brief comment about the article reveals as much about that person as Dr. Johnny implies that it does.

  • jenntenh February 22, 2014 at 2:35 PM

    Crayola colored hair.

  • Milissa February 22, 2014 at 2:01 PM

    Stop feeling entitled. Your parents aren’t obligated to take care of you forever and the world doesn’t owe you anything. You can have anything you want as long as you are willing to work your ass off to get it!

  • Bev February 16, 2014 at 1:34 PM

    Dress in a tidy way for your job. Your appearance does count in your job no matter what your job is – someone is always watching you.
    Also, please learn to spell. Short cut spelling that is done in texts and on other forms of social media should not be done on anything else you write. It makes you look mature and frankly somewhat lazy and idiotic.
    I think both of these apply to any and all age groups.

    • lori February 19, 2014 at 3:12 AM


  • La Tise February 14, 2014 at 4:30 PM

    Stop being lazy is another thing I really like this article though. A lot of people near my age struggle with some of them even me and I am 26.

  • Danial Jacobsen February 14, 2014 at 2:29 PM

    Do not judge anyone unless you truly get to know them, then give constructive criticism if need be and if you do judge someone, keep your opinion to yourself, so other people come at that person with an open mind. Not everyone perceives a person the same way.

  • Purohielo February 13, 2014 at 11:36 AM

    *Stop pretending you are God: Prioritizing your own wisdom, selfishness, and legalism (Grammar Nazis).

    Thanks to those who read this for their own betterment and to the Glory of God not themselves.

    Lover of Jesus, history, science, logic and reason (Yes, yes…It is possible! :)…) I still have a lot of growing to do in loving others selflessly and learning from those who have MUCH more life experience than my self.

    Thank God, we have a humble example in history of someone who loved those who hated him the most to the point of a humiliating death. Only to be betrayed over and over for thousands of years to come. Nice knowing no matter how much we suck and have screwed over his name… His humble love and forgiveness is still extended to us. Nice.

  • Sarah Krueger February 12, 2014 at 10:54 PM

    #2 …what’s someone under 20 doing with a credit card unless it was for mommy and daddy?

    • Jen February 14, 2014 at 4:40 AM

      I got my first credit card at 18 as did my husband and most of my siblings. My parents never paid a bill for me because they had warned against it! Unfortunately, anyone will lend to military and most of us are young and dumb enough to accept it!

  • Brennan February 12, 2014 at 2:15 PM


  • Rob February 12, 2014 at 1:22 PM

    i’m constantly guilty of 3 of these (2, 9, & 18) and i’m 30.

  • Sybil February 12, 2014 at 10:28 AM

    To the people debating about demanding and commanding respect. Respect should be given to anything that is put in your path, animate or not. The universe/God has put everything that is hear for some purpose whether it is serving to you or not, and therefor, be respected to some certain degree. Choosing not to have a person with certain disliked personality trait is another story. This doesnt mean they dont have their own issues they are working through. People at times can be unintentionally disrespectful because of reasons unseen to you.
    Respect is given selflessly. The rest falls into other catagories like friendship, self love, understanding, and communication.
    If you live a respectable and respectful life you will in turn have that respect from those who matter without having to command or demand it from anyone.

  • Emily February 12, 2014 at 5:27 AM

    May I add one by suggesting that people should always be exploring new music? Have a respect for both classic and up-and-coming artists who strive to spread their passion to this world.

    I’m not religious (anymore) but could tell it was written by a pastor, and I’m 25 and appreciated reading this.

  • donna February 12, 2014 at 4:27 AM

    #23 mind your own business

  • Clyde Price February 12, 2014 at 2:32 AM

    Stop ignoring Jesus. He is the only Way you are going to find peace and happiness and is the foundation for any relationship.

    • Douglas February 13, 2014 at 6:12 AM

      Or completely ignore Jesus, who needs an imaginary friend as a third wheel in relationships

    • Chris w February 14, 2014 at 7:26 AM

      I appreciate your pashion for something faithful, but what works for you doesnt work for everyone. There are other methods of having faith…… Hapiness for me is fullfilling my passions, keeping an open mind, and loving those around me.

  • Catching Captain Obvious February 12, 2014 at 1:17 AM

    thanks captain obvious.
    looks like i broke rule number 10.

    i’m pretty sure you can use this for any age.

  • odessa February 11, 2014 at 5:14 PM

    i think #7 could really go either way. I am 20 and not finished with college and have no idea where my life will take me in the next few years. I know that I can’t make plans but still intend to date. I think as long as you’re honest with your partners you dont have to have long term plans. Dating with a vision something for people who are ready for the serious commitment and not something that is determined by age.

  • Branden February 11, 2014 at 2:59 PM

    Whatever he was saying lost all credibility the second he misused an apostrophe.

    • Painstream February 13, 2014 at 7:43 AM

      Which makes me realize, yon pastor missed something:

      21. Using improper grammar/syntax.

      You spent (hopefully) 12 years of school learning to read and write (or at least type) in your native language. Don’t insult others with ignorance or laziness.

  • JC February 11, 2014 at 1:41 PM

    There’s another reason to go to church other than to find a date? I mean besides the free wine.

  • Steve February 11, 2014 at 12:06 PM

    From a 60 year old, former teacher, former High School Principal, current senior pastor: great blog – great ideas – great heart Jarrod . . . keep it up!

  • Iris February 11, 2014 at 11:30 AM

    Simple saying: get over yourself and stop telling people how to act in the real world, ass.

  • Sam Snead February 11, 2014 at 6:27 AM

    Stop going to church looking for a relationship? How about stop buying into a 4000 year old fairy tale that’s caused more death and harm than it has good.

    • jazR February 12, 2014 at 11:26 PM

      HAHAHA yessss

    • Painstream February 13, 2014 at 7:46 AM

      I propose a precursory item to this list:

      0. Learn Science. :)

      The scientific process, when observed properly, keeps us honest by imposing that we prove to ourselves and others what we claim to observe. Which also means a lot of that egoistic crap flies right out the window.

    • Chrisw February 14, 2014 at 7:29 AM


  • OpionatedMonkey February 11, 2014 at 5:51 AM

    The #1 thing people over 20 should quit doing is telling other people what they should quit doing/start doing. Who the F are any of you to declare how someone you’ve never met should live? I don’t see you winning any Nobel peace prizes, after all…

    These articles are cheap, pointless, hostile writing that encourages people to hate their fellow man over something entirely shallow.

  • Roswell T. Bonovitz February 11, 2014 at 4:40 AM

    Voting Democrat The Democrats are taxing you and leaving you enormous debts so they can buy the votes of other interest groups. They also count on the fact that you are young, inexperienced and unwise, and believe in lies and demagoguery instead of looking for the facts.

  • Penny B February 10, 2014 at 9:13 PM

    Stop trashing every place you live in!!!!

    • Dickquad February 24, 2014 at 9:05 PM

      Who are you to tell me what i can and cant do in an apartment I pay for? if i wanna fuck up the floors, and put holes in the walls I’m gonna do it. I’m not getting my security deposit back but the slum lords that rent to college kids are gonna find enough wrong with the apartment either way to keep it.

  • Moga February 10, 2014 at 7:40 PM

    Stopped reading after the phrase “God’s wisdom and guidance” came up.

    • Sat Nav February 15, 2014 at 1:42 PM

      How I wish there was a like button.

  • Michelle February 10, 2014 at 7:09 PM

    One more thing people over 20 shouldn’t do: write childish articles such as this. The title should have read, “20 Things I Think People over 20 shouldn’t Do”. Please write something with more substance.

  • apassingfascination February 10, 2014 at 3:21 PM

    Rather than being helpful this is pretty much just an attack on young people, fueled by wild generalizations. Replace the term “people over 20” with a race or nationality and you would be called a bigot.

  • Kevin February 10, 2014 at 1:24 PM

    I feel like this is a bit jaded. Saying that only people under 20 do these things proves this. This is /mostly/ good advice for anyone who wants to be a productive member of society.

    • Alex February 10, 2014 at 2:42 PM

      The title is 20 Things People OVER 20 Should Stop Doing…

    • Scott February 10, 2014 at 9:43 PM

      He didnt say only people under 20 do these things…in fact to the contrary he said that all the people over 20 that are doing these things should stop since your old enough to know better basically

    • mskirs February 11, 2014 at 6:42 AM

      The article is actually titled 20 Things People OVER 20 Should Stop Doing, meaning if you’re over 20, no matter the age, stop doing these things. It does not in any way state that only people under 20 do these things.

    • Charlie February 11, 2014 at 5:24 PM

      Kevin don’t be an ass! Nothing states people under 20 do these things. It does however read: if you’re over 20 and still partaking in one or more of these habits, stop!. Thanks Kevin for inderstanding. P.s. Look up the definition of jaded.

  • timothy February 10, 2014 at 9:30 AM

    I think that by reading these comments I found one and that being don’t be quick to criticize and tear down another’s ideas just because you want to look cool or sound funny I was always taught if you didn’t have anything nice to say then don’t say it at all.

  • jonathandolotallas February 9, 2014 at 8:40 PM

    Helpful thoughts!

  • wolfspine February 9, 2014 at 5:31 PM

    The Playstation4 is keeping me from getting past #1. I lose I guess.

  • Jose Hesay February 9, 2014 at 4:51 PM

    Stop recycling old platitudes and pretending you have some new insight. Good advise for you younguns and us oldsters

  • Beth February 9, 2014 at 12:30 PM

    These are good points for all of us. I’m 60 and they’re just as true for my age as for the 20s!

  • Pamela February 9, 2014 at 9:46 AM

    #22 stop smoking meth!

  • codie February 9, 2014 at 7:15 AM

    Disagree with four, seven, and nine. There aren’t limited number of seats at church and if your there to hear the message at least you have the chance for God to change the reason you go. Better than not going at all. I don’t even know what seven means, but it sounds like you don’t just stop doing it. procrastination stems deeper than immaturity; it often comes from low self esteem. I am 26 and find it very difficult not to do it.

    • Megan February 9, 2014 at 10:13 PM

      A thought to help make #7 make sense is to date someone who you can see marrying, being the other person to raise your kids, and someone you will grow old with and spoil grandchildren with. Just dating someone that is good enough for that one night is childish and immature. Dating with vision is dating someone for long-term and being able to picture the future. Date someone who meets your criteria as a future spouse, instead of taking home the person with the best pick-up line. It is that simple. Hope this helps clarify #7 for you :)

    • alyssa amanda February 11, 2014 at 2:21 AM

      Maybe this video will kind of help you understand the perspective of dating with a reason. I like the way they explain it.

  • Sheila February 9, 2014 at 7:09 AM

    I am 53 and I needed to see this list

  • jordan February 9, 2014 at 7:02 AM

    Really good article. Thanks for making it.

  • Kacy Green February 9, 2014 at 4:50 AM

    Love it!

  • Naomi February 9, 2014 at 12:52 AM

    Brilliant! I agree with every single point on here. The only thing I would say is that sadly I know plenty of much older people who would benefit from doing this list much more than some teenagers I know. Sadly adults aren’t generally adults anymore, and children are having to grow up much quicker than they should.

    I listen to my elders who love God and I trust. There are some people who are my elders and I trust but I don’t trust their advice or wisdom. Discernment is a key aspect of wisdom. Age is not necessarily the deciding factor anymore. Back in an age when parents were respectful and loved their children it was much easier to define. But nowadays it’s not so easy. Especially with adults who love to cause drama and need to be the centre of attention.

  • Samantha February 8, 2014 at 5:34 PM


  • Esther February 8, 2014 at 1:53 PM

    I’m bummed that you chose not to publish my previous comment. Perhaps it sounded too antagonistic? That was not my intent–forgive me for misrepresenting my thoughts.

    Maybe this is too simple, but I stopped “shoulding” on myself and others when I realized that God never “shoulds” on me. Can you imagine our God saying “you should be better than this by now” or “you shouldn’t be so lazy”? He gets at our hearts and doesn’t ever shame us for being broken or weak–conviction is not the same as shame, and should always implies shame. If we are lazy or immature, he treats the root, not the symptom. And thank God for that.

    Instead, our God says, “there’s life and you can have it–follow me!” I get the sense from your other writings that you’re on board with this.

    Writing lists of “shoulds” is a hot thing right now–they make for enjoyable reads because inherently it gives the reader some light fodder for judging those who don’t live up to it. I get the heart behind this list, but I think it does more harm than good. I know you don’t know me, so you may have no reason to hear me out, but I’m writing again because I hope you consider a follow up post on the heart issues behind these 20 points. Use your powers for good! :)

    • Kacy Green February 9, 2014 at 4:48 AM


    • Brandon February 11, 2014 at 1:05 PM

      That was really good, ide like to hear more about what you have to say. Im 22 and have alot to learn.

  • Ray February 8, 2014 at 12:58 PM

    It seems like the things people disagree with are the same things they’re not willing to consider giving up. I’m not telling you what I’m not giving up. ;-)

  • talkingincirclesblogChris February 8, 2014 at 10:44 AM

    As an almost 30 year-old, I agree with all but the respect one. Acting self-entitled and demanding respect are two very different concepts. I demand to be respected and will always give respect when it’s given, but if you don’t respect me, don’t respect it in return. I think this is a powerful difference from entitlement. I don’t feel entitled to anything, it has to be earned, but respect should be the first thing you give to and get from anybody.

    • Rachael February 8, 2014 at 1:10 PM

      That sounds like what Jesus would say… Right? When did you ever earn respect? Not sure you get the idea.

    • Naomi February 9, 2014 at 12:30 AM

      You’re almost 30?! I’m only 22 and even I know that to have respect you have to earn it. My father has always demanded respect and in turn lost my respect for me. Respect should always be given to your elders, even when they abuse it you can still respectfully disobey. Your attitude sounds like that of a teenager. If you don’t respect me, then I won’t respect you. If the whole world had this attitude towards respect then all respect would be gone.

    • Beth February 9, 2014 at 11:49 AM

      Certainly, we are responsible for our own actions and should respect others. But it is not our place to demand it. Jesus respected everyone but demanded respect from no one. Why should we think it is our job to demand it from other people?

    • Nick February 9, 2014 at 2:27 PM

      Everyone should get a basic, yet small level of respect. The rest is earned. Automatically thinking you deserve so much respect is along the same lines as entitlement. Remember, no one really owes you anything!

    • Jennifer Chisenhall Rolls February 10, 2014 at 5:19 AM

      I think Beth and Nick get the intent of this one.

  • Ben February 8, 2014 at 10:15 AM

    Yea! Forget skateboards! Cars are so much faster!

  • JLV February 8, 2014 at 9:35 AM

    Fairly well point for most. I’d like to just add/talk about a couple points though.

    2. “Spending money you don’t have”. I work on a software company that is involved with the financial industry. This sticking to cash/debit/checks is a good idea but at the same time, using credit cards has its positives. Mainly, building up your credit score. Credit score’s import to show credibility to banks and allow you to loan things a lot easier. Houses/Mortgage and Cars are what comes to mind that require someone’s credit score.
    That said of course, you can just simply combine the two. Budget well and know how much money you have before using credit cards for purchases. You’ll be paying just normally and it’ll also build up your credit score. Not to mention, there are credit cards that give moneyback for using them.

    3. “Using the term ‘YOLO'”. While I agree in a sense that it does get fairly annoying used on a normal conversation or fairly serious tone, I disagree to stop using it altogether just for someone’s sake. It’s about the audience you’re saying it to. When my friends and I play online games together and we’re just having fun, we say it when we’re about to do some crazy things in the game. Yeah, I won’t use it in front of you don’t worry.

    14. “Ignoring wisdom from people who are older than you.” I think this needs to be changed into “more knowledgeable” or “have more experience” or other term similar. I believe we all know that there are some older people that are more ignorant than what you think they are and also some people who are younger but may have faced much more things in life. This point contradicts with your 17 “Using the excuse, ‘I’m too young'”, which essentially is trying to disregard the “age” as a factor for things/reasons. This being said, we shouldn’t factor the wisdom of people because they are older, but instead, because they are wiser. And you know what? The title also quite contradicts(? sorry for lack of better word) this as well. You don’t need to be 20 to be required/suggested to do these things.

    • Naomi February 9, 2014 at 12:36 AM

      There are other ways to build up your credit score than having a card that gathers interest and is a huge temptation. Your credit score is also made up from the bills you pay, whether or not you’re on the electoral roll, how often you move, and how many new payment contracts you take out. A much wiser way to build your credit score is to be on the electoral roll, and take out a phone contract and pay it on time every month. Credit cards are very dangerous hot beds of temptation, especially if you get stuck in a financial rut. The only loan that you should ever really take out is a mortgage. Why? Because it would take a lifetime to save that much money, cars can be saved for.

    • Sher February 9, 2014 at 7:44 AM

      I agree with you.

    • Lisa Stewart-Constant February 9, 2014 at 8:57 AM

      I like your point about the spending money you don’t have rule. My 25 year old has a nice credit card with a decent spending limit. She uses that card throughout the year to go to conventions. While to the outside world it looks like she is “spending money she doesn’t have” in reality she has the money set aside in a special account.

      She learned at a very early age how to budget her money. Every payday her check is divided into 3 separate accounts. House bills(rent, electric) long term savings and “fun” money. She knows it is going to cost X $$$$ to go away she makes sure that X$$$$ is in that account. Charges everything on the credit card (airline, hotel, rental car) then pays it off out of that account when the bill comes in.

      The credit card is attached to reward miles and hotel rewards so she also earns free travel in the process. They also offer reward $$$ she can spend online, so she saves those points to make purchases on stuff she otherwise might not purchase because she doesn’t have cash on hand. Point also come in handy for xmas shopping. Her credit rating because of this spending habit allowed her to purchase a brand new car with zero percent financing.

    • Leng February 9, 2014 at 3:46 PM

      I have to reply to this: “Houses/Mortgage and Cars are what comes to mind that require someone’s credit score.” This is false information, and it is propagated around the country – it was even taught to me in high school.

      You can have the highest credit score possible from using credit cards wisely over the course of a decade (which is exactly what I did) and be s**t out of luck trying to get a house loan or a car loan. This is because revolving credit (from credit cards) has absolutely zilch to do with loan credit. Nothing whatsoever. Revolving credit is worthless, and your credit history remains at 0 for as long as you use credit cards. Taking out loans is the only way to build actual credit that can be used in the future for mortgages and larger loans.

  • karen February 8, 2014 at 9:10 AM

    always in some way people think their better than anyone else. Never admit to their own faults but can count for everyone else who have done wrong.

  • Kaemon February 8, 2014 at 6:06 AM

    Sure, since the way people dress is always 100% indicative of their intelligence. Why even talk to sometime when everything you need to know about them can be gathered through their superficial appearance?

  • K February 8, 2014 at 5:25 AM

    Great points……..now the next article that should follow it….”20 Ways to Motivate An individual Over 16″

  • Keene February 7, 2014 at 11:31 PM

    But I have a job and I play videogames… Does that mean I’m wrong or I’m awesome?

  • Frank C February 7, 2014 at 10:45 PM

    I think no skateboarding refers to using it as a means of transportation. Recreational use, like with skiing and snowboarding, seems fine but using the kick push method as a daily driver seems a bit lame for anyone who refers to themself as an adult anyway.

  • jon February 7, 2014 at 6:50 PM

    Theres is not anything wrong with playing video games or taking a personal day from work. Stop rushing me ill do it at the last minute if I want! Who goes to church for a date? Ppl over 20 shouldn’t be going to church at all grow up lol Santa’s not real

  • Seankay88 February 7, 2014 at 5:36 PM

    Um I’m 25 I skateboard all the time I have a profession and make dame good money I don’t live with my parents and have a nice car so what’s the problem here what am I hurting its better than being fat and lazy

  • jesse February 7, 2014 at 4:37 PM

    Great article. But there could still be more.

  • Lillie February 7, 2014 at 4:29 PM

    Ignoring God.

    • Shamalamadingdong February 7, 2014 at 5:00 PM

      Lmfao you can’t ignore something that doesn’t exist

  • Cameron February 7, 2014 at 3:58 PM

    I really enjoyed this article.

  • lowkichick February 7, 2014 at 2:54 PM

    I don’t think skateboarding is bad- at least it’s physical and you are getting a work out…that’s like saying you shouldn’t ski…

  • protoguy February 7, 2014 at 12:52 PM

    6. Thinking you know it all.


  • motofabio February 7, 2014 at 12:25 PM


  • Vi Parker February 7, 2014 at 11:31 AM

    Attire: Anyone over 18 wearing pants below their butt might as well write “I’m not that bright.” on their undies!

    • james February 7, 2014 at 12:51 PM

      true that!

    • larry February 8, 2014 at 5:50 AM

      anyone wearing them like that besides toddlers and babies cause they slide down they don’t know anybetter but anyone else should write thata

    • Kaemon February 8, 2014 at 6:08 AM

      Sure, since the way people dress is always 100% indicative of their intelligence. Why even talk to sometime when everything you need to know about them can be gathered through their superficial appearance?

    • Becky February 8, 2014 at 8:06 AM


    • Raja February 8, 2014 at 8:44 AM

      Lol very true

    • Car Mul February 8, 2014 at 9:22 AM

      Right on. Besides it looks disgusting.

  • Marci February 7, 2014 at 11:22 AM

    Bragging! In general! No needs to know things you’ve done, how many times of anything, or how much money you make or what ever crap you purchase! No one cares!

  • Heather February 7, 2014 at 8:45 AM

    Hashtags, they need to die.

  • Emily February 7, 2014 at 6:56 AM

    I love all of these points. However, the BIGGEST problem I have with people my age (as I’m 21) and older, is this need they always have to tear down anything that they don’t 100% agree with. And it’s not just disagreeing, it’s tearing people apart on a fundamental level. It hurts me to read comments like that. What happened to the days of “if you cant say anything nice, don’t say anything at all?”

    • Melissa February 7, 2014 at 12:39 PM

      You make a good point, but I have always thought that the saying should go, “If you can’t say anything in a nice way, then don’t say anything at all.” There are often things that need to be said. But we don’t have to say them in a mean or degrading way.

    • Naomi February 9, 2014 at 12:44 AM

      Emily I’m 21 too (22 next week though). I have the same issues but off Facebook and they’re not in their 20’s, they’re in their 40’s and 50’s. I’ve found the best way to deal with people like that is to say your piece calmly and with a smile then just walk away and leave them to do it. The comments upset me a bit too, but these people feel convicted about the things on this list. It’s a classic sign of knowing they’re wrong but not wanting to show that. It’s pride. Don’t let it get to you, I always tell myself if they’re going to behave like that then they’re the one with the problem not me.

  • Wise Old Man February 7, 2014 at 6:05 AM

    take responsibility for yourself. there is no one to blame for your action or lack of but yourself.

  • Andi February 7, 2014 at 3:14 AM

    Needs to be for over 16 not just 20 and over !!

    • Christine February 8, 2014 at 11:58 AM

      Agree! Although it’s never too late to make a change for the better, if they haven’t started doing these things in their pre-teen years, 20 is already a bit late.

  • David H. February 7, 2014 at 1:18 AM

    Unless you are a paid professional, no one over 20 should be skateboarding.

    • Governor February 7, 2014 at 11:36 AM

      I don’t skateboard but who are you to dictate this?

    • Rafael A. Rodriguez (@thecatalyst1) February 7, 2014 at 11:53 AM

      That’s a relative opinion. Some people like to jog, some like to play video games, some like to visit new restaurants, and some like to skateboard. I think as long as it is not a distraction from your responsibilities then why is it wrong to skateboard just because you are a lil older?

    • Cody February 7, 2014 at 12:20 PM

      Definitely disagree with this and I couldn’t stay on a skateboard to the end of my driveway. You might as well say skiing and snowboarding as well. Throw in biking too. It’s great exercise, fun for those who know how. Along the lines of this article, if it is not taking away from responsibility, why not?

    • jackson February 7, 2014 at 12:31 PM

      Why no skateboarding? It can be a great hobby and I would think good excercise. I would be thrilled to see people teaching skateboarding to their kids vs video games.

    • Naomi February 9, 2014 at 12:47 AM

      Maybe you should check the ages of the world class competing skaters. They’re at least 20+. Your comment is like saying no one over 10 should eat ice cream. It’s silly and unnecessary and a singular personal opinion.

  • jrd February 6, 2014 at 10:33 PM

    This is great. I really enjoyed your post, its filled with such wisdom.

  • Michael Conrad February 6, 2014 at 8:23 PM

    Why would anyone go to church to find a relationship?! I can’t imagine a worse place to find a partner of any sort…

  • trish February 6, 2014 at 4:04 PM

    Please stop using the term Cray Cray…..you sound stupid

  • Mark Anthony February 6, 2014 at 12:23 PM

    #9 – procrastination. I’m almost 60 years old and that’s still one of my biggest weaknesses. I’m a big fan of “Do it now”, ‘cuz if I don’t it probably won’t get done.

    • fame7 February 6, 2014 at 7:48 PM

      hehehee :)))

  • Tucker February 6, 2014 at 11:56 AM

    I have been over twenty for going on 6 years now and I have literally never heard of or seen anyone who goes to church just to pick up people. Who do you hang out with that does this?

    • Dan Maher February 6, 2014 at 2:04 PM

      Trust in the fact they do.. And some of the worst con jobs are the offenders!!

    • Jack February 6, 2014 at 2:45 PM

      Are you kidding? What sheltered locale do you live in. Once the “On Line” and “Bar Scene” are exhausted the thought, many times, shifts to a “a more grounded, sensible” person, like you would find in a young adult group. However, unless the mind set changes, this will not succeed either.

    • vince February 6, 2014 at 4:19 PM

      here in our country most people do these things in the church..

    • pam williams February 7, 2014 at 12:11 AM

      I headed up the singles group at our church for a few years. Of those people who ended up finding a relationship, I’d say it’s about half who quit coming to church after they got their significant other.

    • Xchoinquel Hunt February 7, 2014 at 6:54 AM

      Bless you if you’ve never seen it and bless the church you attend. I’m almost double your age and I’ve seen it happen quite a few times and the inevitable the divorce that’s comes with showing up at church for the wrong reason. People to go to church believing they can find someone nice at church but often they aren’t nice people themselves. The only relationship that one should actively seek at church is a relationship with God. When this relationship is not a priority every other one doesn’t have a chance.

    • CiCi February 7, 2014 at 7:20 AM

      Lots of people engage in this foolishness!! Then wouldn’t you know that they are genuinely surprised when it DOESN’T WORK OUT???

    • Crystal February 7, 2014 at 8:55 AM

      Ummm,,,he says he’s a pastor so probably sees it often…

  • Red Sam Rackham February 6, 2014 at 10:08 AM

    Actually the person working at minimum wage has a chance to earn raises, promotions or at the very least beveloping a good work reference to use when applying for a better paying job. On the other hand “I was on welfare” is never a good reference!

    • Naomi February 9, 2014 at 12:57 AM

      Volunteering. If you can’t get a job and are stuck on welfare then volunteer in a thrift store or something. This will keep up a good reference and shows companies that you do want to work but you haven’t been able to find paid work. And mate, some people don’t have a choice. A lot of single mothers never had a choice when their man let then down.

  • Marcella February 5, 2014 at 7:20 PM

    This list is incredible. Thank you for your wisdom. :)

  • Burke February 5, 2014 at 5:50 PM

    All these “Stop Doings” are basically good; except #18. I am older and stepped on myself for a lot of years! Life is a great journey! I had a lot of dreams and goals, and reached some as they were adjusted as the journey changed. I had a really hard time living in the NOW; as I see many younger people today. I have 4 children and 11 grandchildren and observed them in each of their journeys. All people should stop from time and ask themself “what are my beliefs and values”? If we have none, I submit we are dust in the wind. Blowing around with ever wind that blows from any direction! We must set goals, plan the steps required to reach the goals. Lower all expectations and accept things as they come…adjusting the steps as needed. We must also hang tight to our beliefs and values; respecting them with our thought and action every minute of everyday. That starts when we rise each day and continues throughout every minute of every day. Great jobs, great material stuff, and fun relationships are good, but not as a goal. As we get older, we realize nothing, not anything, means more than peace of mind when a well lived day comes to an end. Take care of all the little responsibilities and the big things will come with serenity and peace!!

    • Naomi February 9, 2014 at 1:00 AM

      This right here is wisdom from an elder. Thank you sir for your wisdom. This is something every person of my generation (20 somethings) need to hear.

  • Sharon February 5, 2014 at 5:17 PM

    I think it was very nice.you can add the older people in family. They are easy to push aside when you are young,but they still love you.some times that seeing them is the best part of the the day. Any way it was very nice.

    • Whitney February 9, 2014 at 2:07 PM

      Thank you Sharon! I have been lucky to spend time with family that spread through several generations. Wisdom and unconditional love is something that is difficult to find in friends of my own age; thankfully I’ve realized this fact at a young age. My family always welcomes me with open arms, and you’re right, it does make their day when I stop by to visit! However, they brighten my day just as much :-).
      I’m not perfect but I have dodged a lot of bad mistakes by listening to advice from those who have found success in trying times. I appreciate your input!

  • Whitney February 5, 2014 at 5:15 PM

    Number six should be revisited by readers (especially the twenty-something readers) who believe the author’s points do not apply to them or their generation.
    I am twenty-five (I’m including myself as a targeted reader) and acknowledge the fact that I do not have all of the answers…on a daily basis. I consider myself a successful person, but I can only attribute my growth to the older generations that have offered priceless wisdom .
    Not knowing the answer does not mean that I am dumb, it really means that I am smart enough to ask the question.
    Not being able to see one’s own flaws when reading this article does not make the reader perfect, it does however, support truth behind the author’s statements.
    In other words, being unable to see the validity of this article merely proves how much growth is needed in our generation.

  • Tabitha Maloley February 5, 2014 at 1:08 PM

    You know, I’d love to agree with this, but I think people need to stop slapping an age limit on things such as life choices and activities. This post generalizes a very larger group of people without considering the wide variety of lives in which people live. Some 20+ year-olds play video games for a living; point #1 = best of both worlds. Some 20 year-olds do use “yolo” and get into fights over social media; all that means is that they’re in the majority of other technology junkies who argue over social media, teens and 30-40-50+ year-olds. I get the very broad point of the post, but when it’s boiled down all it sounds like is complaining without taking outside factors into account.

    • James Gates February 5, 2014 at 6:33 PM

      There is no way to make a statement of general principle, and simultaneously address the endless variety of individual circumstance. What people need to do is take the principle, and adapt it for their personal circumstances. This goes into the taking responsibility for yourself thing into account. It’s unfair to require the author to incorporate every possibility in someone’s life, we all have those things, but the point is not that it should give us an excuse, but that it shouldn’t stop us from putting in the effort.

    • Marz T Hamilton February 5, 2014 at 9:11 PM

      I agree with this comment. I am 22 years old, play video games(not for a living), write music and DJ(for somewhat of a living(so far)), and I am also a tattoo artist. I do these things not because i am planning for my future, but because I am living my life and leading an example of a non-pressured society. I think as humans, a fault of ours is feeling the need to live up to each others expectations and not give ourselves enough time to appreciate the moment we are currently in. But i am not going to say “Yolo” because I think my karma is good enough to reincarnate me! haha!

      I appreciated your post Tabitha! <–awesome name by the way

    • Athrun February 6, 2014 at 6:18 AM

      I agree seems too self serving. Like they get to dictate how another person goes about their business. I get the reasoning behind most of it but again just feels too much like someone standing over you looking down on you telling you what’s wrong with your life.

    • Emily Steger February 6, 2014 at 6:18 AM

      Look at it this way…an article entitled “A list of some things I think young adults should stop doing” is not attention-grabbing. And the “20” is more like a marker of young adulthood. It’s silly to call this “slapping an age on things”…this attitude is the very reason we have low life adults wasting away in front of a TV screen with video game controller in hand, with no ambition to work or marry. Although marriage isn’t everyone’s goal, in our world, a job needs to be…and unfortunately, no enough people see it that way. Also, it obviously isn’t video games for work (“Playing video games instead of looking for a job”) because the author used the term “instead of”.

    • Naomi February 9, 2014 at 1:06 AM

      Emily Steger. Low life adults? Check their backgrounds, did anyone ever believe in them or did people put them down like you just have. Not everyone can self motivate, some need encouragement and support. Also buy a dictionary, a low life by definition is a criminal not someone with no motivation.

  • Lake Hollowell February 5, 2014 at 12:18 PM

    -It seems like everything on this list is about the future.
    -Not saying you don’t need to plan ahead, but this is why our society is always so stressed and busy.
    -We never live in the moment anymore. Before you know it, you will be 30, 40, 50, and so on.
    -Life is about the journey and all the things you do to accomplish your goals, not just getting that goal.
    -I completely agree with being open-minded and accepting your mistakes as your own. One need to constantly grow in our very adaptive world we live in.
    -The term YOLO should be applied to our lives. As silly as this sounds, try things out and figure it out. Go out and experience life. Years down the road, one will regret missing out on the things that makes us who we are! My grandpa always told me about I should be able to tell awesome stories to my grandkids, like he was able too.

  • Patrick Day February 5, 2014 at 12:17 PM

    The only thing I have a problem with is stop living in the moment. It is a great thing to do. but be mindful of the future. Do both. Live in the moment and be aware of the future. But that is a great list otherwise!

  • Maggie February 5, 2014 at 7:40 AM

    Love this list, except #1 seems less like the others… it doesn’t fit and is, in fact, a bit inaccurate. I didn’t think it necessary to call video games out… you could say stop doing [fill in the blank] instead of looking for a job. Why the *seemingly* super negative connotation to video games?

    Anything can be a time or energy vampire if you let it… not just video games. If you don’t have a job, you need to stop doing pretty much anything that’s non-essential to living and breathing until you get one, in my opinion. #1 would have been best as “Learn to Embrace Moderation”… whatever it is that’s taking up too much of your time, do less of it and find balance early on in life.

    • Michael February 6, 2014 at 3:34 PM

      Honestly guys it makes no sense to nitpick over titles. If you believe something else drains your time, fill in the blank yourself. The author doesn’t mean that video games are the only things that need to be moderated; it can be implied that we should limit ourselves in any distraction.

    • Troy Fields February 7, 2014 at 8:57 AM

      Before the XBox craze, it was “stop watching television all day and look for a job”

    • Naomi February 9, 2014 at 1:09 AM

      …in your personal opinion. However video games have done a lot more damage to society than a lot of other things. Music can be shared, being outdoors is good for your health. I miss having a world without video games, when people actually interacted on a human level and spent time together. If you wanna be a dork play D & D. Those who develop video games are just in it for the money.

  • Joseph Lee February 5, 2014 at 7:31 AM

    I do not recommend anyone getting a minimum wage job. If you put that on your resume instead of spending time on a school project, most companies will not hire you. You may lose getting Medi-Cal. Also, you do not get any health insurance at a low premium. I do not think it is a good idea to get a minimum wage when you are basically working for free or more like you are paying money to work, which is ridiculous.

    • Chad February 6, 2014 at 6:54 AM

      You’re a lazy moron, and are exactly what’s wrong with our younger “working class”. Think it’s ok to just collect unemployment, because you make more doing that than you do WORKING FOR A LIVING. I get not working for a minimum wage job for years on end. Get your foot in the door, excel at what you’re doing, and make more money. Many many millionaires out there have started with a minimum wage job.

    • Reba February 6, 2014 at 8:40 AM

      It’s not like that in Canada. I suppose we have a different economy that allows us to start at minimum wage and work up, and it tells employers looking at resumes that the person is capable of being humble and is not afraid to work to get somewhere. If you work a minimum wage job, you are considered low income, and the government pays for your health care until you start earning enough to pay the lowest rate. The more you make, the more you pay into your health care, but even that has a generously low roof. It is not like we will ever have to pay 15,000 for an MRI or some other necessary medical treatment.
      I wish with all my heart that Americans could know the awesomeness of Canadian healthcare..not this Obama care thing that bares no resemblance. You are an awesomely proud country and your people deserve better.

    • Michael February 6, 2014 at 3:39 PM

      A moron? Does that seem appropriate? Don’t be so quick to pull the trigger, and don’t think you’re anyone’s appointed judge.

    • Jeff Schlagel February 7, 2014 at 10:14 AM

      Spoken like a true lazy person. And where are you betting this low priemum health insurance?

  • Hannah Waslund February 4, 2014 at 5:10 PM

    I absolutely love your blog, Jarrid! It’s inspired me to create my own blog…it’s http://positivelypretty.weebly.com :) I just started it but I’m really excited. But anyways, thank you for inspiring me yet challenging me with your post! I appreciate it.

  • livetosing08 February 4, 2014 at 3:05 PM

    The “list” format is trendy, a great way to reach out to a young audience (his apparent goal) that is currently into the fad. The format does not render the advice invalid.

    Promoting depth and maturity does not make the author a bad person. There are several great points in the post, but you ought to take it for what it is; observations and opinions. You’re not required to agree, but come at each aspect with an open mind, not an open mouth. Consider the concept and if in the end you still disagree, that’s ok. But don’t knock down the author for it.

    • lynnette February 6, 2014 at 12:13 AM

      Thank you. A reasonable logical mind. I feel exactly the same way.

  • Soy Boris February 4, 2014 at 2:02 PM

    add #21. Stop making lists to use as click-bait on Facebook for your blog completely devoid of substantive content.

    • Josanne February 5, 2014 at 6:24 AM

      Wow-surprised at this comment. I’m in my 40’s, have seen most of these scenarios all around me, along with having been guilty of some of them myself, and thought this was an excellent post! Maybe you are young, or maybe you don’t live in America.

    • HEATHER February 5, 2014 at 9:26 AM


    • Naomi February 9, 2014 at 1:14 AM

      Josanne, with all due respect America is completely irrelevant to this blog. This issues are international. I hate the way Americans do that! The way you think you’re the centre of the world and nothing intelligent exists beyond your shores. That was a thoughtless remark. I agree with the age remark but the nationality aspect was irrelevant.

  • mollie February 4, 2014 at 12:51 PM

    Maybe people over twenty should stop reading lists about how to live, and instead experience their maturation without insecurity.

  • Monte Guerdis February 4, 2014 at 11:13 AM

    Conveniently, if it sounds preachy, it applies to you!

    Baby Boomers are in their mid to late 60s these days. But, that’s over 20, so I suppose this post applies to them, too.

    I’m 42, and it applies to me.

    If I were to listen to “the younger generation” (you) – would I be learning that I was immune to criticism? Seems to me, I once thought that, and it never worked out all that well for me. When was that? Oh, it was when I was in my late teens, early twenties.

    Just because a few companies (in the same sector of the economy, keep in mind) were founded by 20-somethings, you figure all 20-somethings are people to be regarded as spectacular? Sorry, but no. Forget ye not that all three of those companies are mentally warped violators of privacy and stooges of totalitarian leftist government… Not the best examples you could provide, over all.

  • Jenna February 3, 2014 at 9:44 PM

    I don’t think citing “google” is really a mass problem amongst 20-somethings to be addressed. You won’t last 10 minutes in post-secondary if you are the kind of person who thinks that’s acceptable.

  • Jenna February 3, 2014 at 9:41 PM

    oh wow, so original and wise

  • John February 3, 2014 at 7:55 PM

    Sorry Baby Boomers. This post comes across quite preachy, some truth. But I think baby boomers need to look in the mirror at times and listen to the younger generation more. I mean the biggest companies in the world were founded by people age 25 and younger, apple, Google and Facebook. The video attached will outline our aplogy to the baby boomers.

    • Suze February 5, 2014 at 12:28 PM

      Hilarious, wrong on almost all levels, but hilarious. Thanks for the apology, now go do something real.

  • sarah February 3, 2014 at 6:32 PM

    Wow the comments on here mAke so many people sound ignorant ! Wake-up and realize the world has changed and will continue to change since you’ve been a kid and young . Technology is a part of our Daily lives esp the kids like myself I am now 21 who grew up with technology In schools almost everything is based on technology jobs schools college libraries news an social media is something that will not stop ! our biggest advertising companies use social media on a daily basis it’s become normal people not from the technology era should get over themselves as a student at a university in business courses social media and technology aren’t going anywhere !

    • Samuel Matyas February 4, 2014 at 12:06 PM

      Your punctuation leads me to believe that you could learn from good old-fashioned grammar lessons. I admit that perhaps your LOL and OMG ridden childhood has deprived you of the necessary skills to make it in the world, but must submit that even technophiles cannot keep a job without this basic function.

  • nicole February 3, 2014 at 11:37 AM

    I would add on the necessity of being knowledgeable of current events to be able to hold an intelligent conversation.

    Sports: talking about them with your friends who share your interest but be mindful of those who aren’t obsessed

    Listen more, talk less. Interjecting is the number one problem I come across.

    Respect others opinions if when you disagree.

  • Rachel February 3, 2014 at 8:45 AM

    There should be no cut and dry rules for anything. If you take this advise without feeling it then you might be an idiot that believes everything you read..

    • JC February 3, 2014 at 3:17 PM

      This is a moronic universal statement. No cut and dry rules for anything leads to everyone doing their own thing which leads to chaos. No matter how many people tell you that everyone has a valid and valuable opinion doesn’t make it true. People have stupid ideas. This is why people have cut and dry rules. So, there is no wiggle room. People make the statement “don’t listen to your haters.” The people who say that are simply looking for a justification for their actions. If someone in the spotlight does it, I can do it too mentality. The so called haters are often people who expected people to actually do something productive, especially if others look to them to set an example. Blindly following rules can be a problem. Doesn’t mean following well placed rules is stupid.

  • ann kortess February 3, 2014 at 4:58 AM

    saying ” i’m already moved” when it’s really not.

  • Katherine February 2, 2014 at 11:09 AM

    Some 20-somethings are actually changing the world. Not all 20 year olds are disrespectful, ignorant, arrogant, and lazy. If people keep trying to put us into their cookie cutter christian box, we will keep turning away faster. Things like saying YOLO are minuscule. I am so sick of older/middle aged adults thinking that my generation is hopeless & godless.

    • Laci February 4, 2014 at 6:08 AM

      I don’t believe this is directed at ALL 20-somethings. I am a 20-something and, while a lot of this doesn’t apply specifically to me (though at times, it has), I see this as an ever-growing trend in this America. From fellow students at the college I attended to public figures to coworkers to family members to my ex-husband (who is no longer in his 20s, mind you). I don’t believe this is a blanket statement for everyone, just to those to whom it applies. And I don’t believe the author is trying to shove you into a cookie cutter of Christianity. This can apply to people of all faiths. Glean what you can from it. It is wisdom from an “older/middle-aged adult”. Take it from a barely-hanging-onto-20-something. :)

      P.S. I agree with you, that talking about YOLO is unimportant and silly. But I can say that I share the author’s disdain for it.

  • Tami Doll February 2, 2014 at 9:54 AM

    first of all, i couldn’t agree more with #13. i have wayy too many friends that do this, and job hopping because they didn’t get along with a coworker. no one wants someone that can’t hold a job!

    in addition–

    x. posting stupid things on facebook, usually about drugs.

    x. and why are there so many twenty-somethings without a license? the thought that it’s “responsible” to only be able to go out when you have a DD isn’t too responsible when you’re waiting on people to drive you to work.

    x. gossiping. it’s time to grow uppp.

  • Dalton Pence February 2, 2014 at 6:48 AM

    stop taking selfies….at least do it less than twice a week, believe it or not most people don’t care that you just worked out, got new jeans, etc.

  • Brianne February 1, 2014 at 5:35 PM

    Too bad if I start paying off my loans now while I’m still in school I won’t be eligible to receive them next year. The only thing I could make payments on is the interest on my unsub.

  • nlbohr February 1, 2014 at 3:55 PM

    Jeez you guys are pretty negative! Sounds like you want every one to be the same person. Do what makes you happy! Pay your own way but do what makes you satisfied :-)

  • bob saget February 1, 2014 at 3:33 PM

    god you’re so original and insightful

  • matt February 1, 2014 at 3:25 PM

    im not saying any of this is false or i dont agree with it, but it comes off a little preachy.

    • matt February 1, 2014 at 3:26 PM

      oh wait its because it was written by a pastor! i just read that lol

  • Dustin Pageloff February 1, 2014 at 3:20 PM

    Thats why its good to work in the video game field. This way you can play and work at eh same time!!

    • Jarrid Wilson Author February 3, 2014 at 9:26 AM

      Ha, perfect!

    • Lisa February 4, 2014 at 11:26 AM

      I think this comment was meant to be towards those who play video games incessantly INSTEAD of looking for work… As a job would cut into that video game time…. I know someone who is like this, and has a young family that needs the income….That person should QUITE playing games, until he can pay for them….

  • ML February 1, 2014 at 1:33 PM

    YOLO!!! – Love a 24 y/o

  • cory February 1, 2014 at 8:20 AM

    21) Stop wearing hipster haircuts, glasses and clothes to fit in with the under 20 group. Looking like an adult can earns you respect.

    • Jack Wilson February 2, 2014 at 11:34 AM

      I agree with this

    • Paul February 2, 2014 at 8:22 PM

      Haha, I was thinking the same thing.

    • Ant February 3, 2014 at 10:13 AM

      Using proper grammar and presenting yourself as an individual with an understanding of responsibilities will earn you respect. A person’s style says nothing about his/her ability to function in an adult world.

  • james January 31, 2014 at 9:11 AM

    what does Yolo mean?

    • Owen Vinson January 31, 2014 at 5:53 PM

      You only live once. Idk what it mean too until I google it. Lol

    • Billy Iams January 31, 2014 at 6:24 PM

      You Only Live Once

    • Linda Chamberlain January 31, 2014 at 6:50 PM

      Pretty sure, you only live once

  • Britt January 30, 2014 at 5:57 PM

    ooor you could let people live their own lives with a little bit of free spirit. Its not the end of the world if you say yolo, spend a little extra on a great opportunity, or live in the moment. Y’all are fun suckers. All you needed to say was stop being a slacker if you’re slacking, but still see the joy in life! Be spontaneous. Don’t get tied down by your bills and your career swamped peers. The thought of being so mundane makes me sad.

  • Bonnie Weaver January 30, 2014 at 2:13 PM

    Stop texting and reading your phone when you are in a restaurant with a DATE or even with a group of friends. It sends the message , ” Whomever is on this phone is more important to me than YOU are, because obviously you are boring and not worth my time.” RUDE! ( people over 20 need to stop this also…but I do notice young people are more likely to be on their phones all the time.) You are missing your real life while reading social messaging and watching YouTube.

    • Rachel February 2, 2014 at 6:52 PM


  • Richard January 30, 2014 at 9:54 AM

    These are great. I am guilty of quite a few of these. I think a couple of the biggest problems with the rising generation (which I am a part of) is self-entitlement and no work ethics. People think they deserve to have a nice car, the latest smart phone, a high paying job, instant ownership of a business or to be some executive somewhere. But they aren’t willing to work for it (like was said in the article). They don’t know how to work with other people, how to accomplish tasks alone or as a group, and they don’t want to work because “it’s hard” or “boring”. When it’s really their own problem for not MAKING it fun, or looking forward to a challenge or hard work.

    Also, I think they should create some sort of job-hunting video game. That would kill 2 birds with one stone, right?! :)

  • david January 30, 2014 at 9:39 AM

    Don’t live in the moment? I would miss out on a lot of living if I took that advice.

  • Garrett January 30, 2014 at 8:48 AM

    You forgot voting and going to church, I mean grow up already

  • Katherine January 30, 2014 at 8:24 AM

    here, here

  • Mary January 30, 2014 at 6:36 AM

    Stop blaming their parents for their problems.

  • sam January 30, 2014 at 3:51 AM

    If I would have paid attention to that advice I wouldnt be in the sorry shape I am in now

  • alienwithjesus January 29, 2014 at 10:40 PM

    Jarrid, I just become one of your followers:)
    Thank you! Alex

  • Taylor Perkins January 29, 2014 at 5:58 PM

    People over 20, or even 18, should stop talking like they never learned proper English. Also, stop writing like that too. For instance: u, r, wat, omg, sup, anit, yolo, fur realz….. I could go on….

    • Ella Kate January 31, 2014 at 8:57 AM

      *Individuals who are over 18 should cease to speak as if they are uneducated in the English language.

      -How do you expect to correct grammatical errors if you cannot speak well yourself? You have done no justice to your credibility.

    • steffon January 31, 2014 at 9:57 AM

      Okay please calm down with the last part its texting not a college essay, you get what they r saying its just a quicker way to text and be more sufficient. Any half minded individual knows when and when not to use abbvs and texting and informal online communication is always an exception. Don’t be so uptight

    • Sasha January 31, 2014 at 11:48 AM

      agreed :P speak proper english, or language, not “cellphone language”

  • Chelsea January 29, 2014 at 5:34 PM

    #9 — if I had the money to pay my loans, I wouldn’t be taking them out in the first place

    • jinksto January 30, 2014 at 2:39 PM

      See numbers 10, 14, 16, 17, 18 and 19.

  • Joshua January 29, 2014 at 4:30 PM

    I can agree with everything except 1, 3 and 18. 1. Video games are awesome. No one should tell you otherwise if you think so. 3. Freedom of speech, and some people just need to live a little. 18. Do both. It is possible.

  • Ara Petrossian January 29, 2014 at 3:53 PM

    My first job gave me $18 per hour. And, I got paid to drive the people I worked with home and for picking them up from their home. No complaints here.

  • imqcman January 29, 2014 at 1:12 PM

    All of the slackers stopped reading half way through the first point. The ones who made it through KUDOS! If you don’t see yourself in at least one point, you probably need to read it again and pay attention this time! Thank you for pointing these out, I thought I was the only one giving this advice.

  • KJG January 29, 2014 at 5:38 AM

    You forgot wearing your baseball hat on backwards.

  • Raymond January 29, 2014 at 4:09 AM

    #20 was my usual fault ever since. Due to peer-pressure, my actions led to #7, and it screwed up my supposed plan for my first 2 years of work… that’s how I learned how to stand up for my decisions.

  • NAZILIN January 29, 2014 at 1:22 AM


  • DElizabeth January 29, 2014 at 1:11 AM

    How about … Quick to respond… For the longest time i never had the courage to defend myslef. Now a follower of Christ, amd in a situation where a defense was needed, i took it ipon my own hands, my own words, my own heart, my own wisdom. I wanted for ONCE to be able to defend myslef. Wrong God does for His children

  • Jonathan January 28, 2014 at 10:55 PM

    Nothing wrong with video games, brother. Entertainment is fine in moderation.

  • Brandon January 28, 2014 at 8:08 PM

    video games is definitely a good down time.hobby, just not for overusing time on it. Job hunting is all you can do nowadays.

  • kyle January 28, 2014 at 6:43 PM

    This is such a vague typical article. yawn. I guess you need to write about something but next time be a little more creative because this applied to anyone at any age.

    • Heidi January 29, 2014 at 9:47 PM

      I was thinking the same thing.

  • Jeff January 28, 2014 at 5:57 PM

    I think people under 20 should stop doing a lot of these things too.

    • Kim Morrison January 31, 2014 at 9:39 AM

      Totally agree with this one….who under 20 has a Credit Card anyways? That’s just a way to teach them really bad financial decisions before they have even left home.

  • Stephen. January 28, 2014 at 4:31 PM

    #21 Don’t hang on every word a youth pastor post. Maybe figure out things in life for yourself.

  • Katrina January 28, 2014 at 2:25 PM

    I know two people who are almost 30 who still rely on my mom and dad. One is my brother and the other his fiance. They are always asking my parents for money for one thing or another like their bills or his medicine because they spend theirs on useless crap they don’t need. My mom and dad even make dinner for them everynight.

  • Josh January 28, 2014 at 2:16 PM

    I agree with Jenna above, everybody’s situation is different and you cannot judge them on that. You say not to have your parents bail you out of trouble. I am 30 and still live with my parents mainly because of 2 reasons: a divorce and uncontrolled epilepsy (which was the cause of the divorce). I did not ask for either one of these and my parents still choose to help me out financially. And to make matters even better, being a christian, because I moved back in with them it has renewed my faith in God even more that I would have otherwise just fallen farther from God if I hadn’t moved in with my parents. Maybe this was all part of God’s plan to strengthen His and my relationship that would have just not happened otherwise. I love what I am learning right now in church about who should throw the first stone.

    • Josh January 28, 2014 at 2:22 PM

      I have to say, though, I feel like you post things on your site so not just we can learn, but you can learn, too, even if it can be hard to learn. That is amazing

  • jenna January 28, 2014 at 12:17 AM

    You know what? Everyone’s situation is different and some people make mistakes. I work almost full time and still need help. I pay my taxes just like everyone else.you should not feel entitled to judge someone based on whether someone can afford groceries or not.

    • Cody January 28, 2014 at 12:07 PM

      I don’t think he was speaking directly to you. cmon nahh lol

    • jerrick January 28, 2014 at 5:27 PM

      No one is judging here, but the reality MOST (not all) people don’t live within their means. I was on my own at the age of 15, I worked a minimum wage job full time and got by. I went to college and was working 2-3 jobs at a time to pay my bills. MOST people make excuses rather than resolving issues. If you can’t save money at this current moment then I’d encourage you to keep looking for a better opportunity that will provide for you. Yes, this takes time and work. But opportunities are out there.

    • Amz January 29, 2014 at 5:40 AM

      If you feel some type of way thats ur problem this isnt towards you personally it is for the general public. Your rant ….pointless.

    • Brooke January 29, 2014 at 9:34 AM

      Not to sound rude or anything miss, but he is simply giving a opinion of what he thinks. And everything said is mostly true. No body is perfect, and there are a lot of people I know, including myself that have fallen to these things. But to me I feel like you have the right to sit there and say he is judging you. He is not judging anyone. You may wanna tatake into consideration what “Judge” means, because no one has the right to judge. So then you shouldn’t have the right to say it, when one is not. Thank you for your time miss.

  • Kaleigh January 25, 2014 at 11:19 PM

    My child is not out of wedlock. I am happily married and was when we conceived our daughter. However, although using protection, she came earlier than planned. No “tax payers” pay for our child. We use no government assistance. My husband makes enough that we get by just fine. We have discussed me going back to work to have some extra money coming in (I have been going to school but am taking a break for now) but we also realize that if I go back to work that means putting our child in daycare. And, if my paycheck is basically only going to cover daycare then what’s the point of spending that time at work when I could be spending quality time with my daughter.

    • David January 29, 2014 at 6:11 PM

      Very well said. It cost about 21,000. For two small children. Even if you made 40,000. After taxes your still better off raising your own child. That’s just my opion

  • Sarah Gill January 25, 2014 at 12:34 PM

    YES! I’m in my mid-20’s, and so many of these are typical of people around my age. #15 is one of my personal pet peeves with my friends thinking they’re entitled to start off their career landing a job paying double minimum at least. Really enjoyed this post – a few are definitely take-homes for me to watch in my own life!

  • Shanna Cummings January 25, 2014 at 7:30 AM

    Life is not always so black and white. Live graciously and be kind. Work hard and be generous. Generous with everything you have and everything you are. Life is about what we are called to be and do. What negative things that cease to be are a side effect. Gentle yourself before any other soul and ask, how can I love? This leads to wisdom. And that is a truth for all ages? From my 10 year old son to my 92 year old Papa.

    • Shanna Cummings January 25, 2014 at 7:32 AM

      Except for the YOLO rule. That one should stay. It’s just amazingly annoying! ;-)

    • Boo Kenjii (@Screamin_Lips_) January 28, 2014 at 3:05 PM

      Wow. That was beautiful. :)

  • LEARN toLive January 24, 2014 at 6:20 PM

    Thinking that you are the spotlight in very event, people are all looking at how elegant you are.

  • Magan January 24, 2014 at 7:32 AM

    People over 20 need to stop being content with a minimum wage job. If you had a minimum wage job while in High school, that’s fine. As an adult, not acceptable; especially if you’re a parent.

    • Boo Kenjii (@Screamin_Lips_) January 28, 2014 at 3:08 PM

      Sometimes though, in today’s society, that may be all someone can get. People are very picking about who they take these days, which makes it harder for us to get jobs sometimes. Not all of us are bale to get high paying jobs. :/

    • Amz January 29, 2014 at 5:43 AM

      A job is a job Megan. Maybe there isnt anything near or around them they can find… jobs are not easy to come by.

  • MellBa January 23, 2014 at 10:35 PM

    People in their Twenties should:
    Stop watching so much TV and pick up a book.
    Get out and travel. Experience the world while you can.
    Be less judgmental and be more open. See the world through other peoples mind.

    • ian January 25, 2014 at 12:19 PM

      1. No all tv is completely brainless.
      2. Some books can be a brainless waste of time too.
      3. Not everyone has the desire to go out and travel. Some of us are perfectly happy finding a career that we love in our own country. The fact that you think travelling should be a requirement to feel fulfilled shows how shallow you really are.

    • Amz January 29, 2014 at 5:44 AM

      Ian you just sound brainless.

  • Reb January 23, 2014 at 9:23 PM

    Having children out of wedlock and expecting taxpayers to pick up the tab for them. Wait to start a family until you have a stable relationship, a decent job, and the maturity to provide both financially and physically for your child.

    • jenn January 25, 2014 at 10:39 AM

      hear hear.

    • Kaleigh January 25, 2014 at 11:16 PM

      If this was in response to me my child is not out of wedlock. I am happily married and was when we conceived our daughter. However, although using protection, she came earlier than planned. No “tax payers” pay for our child. We use no government assistance. My husband makes enough that we get by just fine. We have discussed me going back to work to have some extra money coming in (I have been going to school but am taking a break for now) but we also realize that if I go back to work that means putting our child in daycare. And, if my paycheck is basically only going to cover daycare then what’s the point of spending that time at work when I could be spending quality time with my daughter.

    • Mateus Fernandes February 2, 2014 at 8:46 PM

      “Wait to start a family until you have a stable relationship, a decent job, and the maturity to provide both financially and physically for your child.” I completely agree, and wish everyone could see this

  • Kaleigh January 23, 2014 at 9:03 PM

    I agree with almost all of this however minimum wage is often worse than no job at all if you have a child in daycare or especially if you have more than one child in daycare….just saying

    • MommaBod January 28, 2014 at 2:36 PM

      Then you should WAIT to have kids until you can afford to raise them YOURSELF!! Absolutely NO excuse to have kids when your not able to pay for all their needs. Since now everyone is paying for YOUR BIRTH CONTROL there is NO reason to have any unplanned pregnancy!! Sorry.. Only excuse is laziness .. Cant even claim ignorance any more.. Since they are teaching it in elementary school now.

    • Kaleigh February 1, 2014 at 10:43 AM

      MommaBod….. you might want to hold out before you judge and maybe even pay a little attention. Just above this post I went into a little more detail about my situation; and, as her parents we are completely able to take care of our child on our own. I was just pointing out that with cost of living there are still reasons to not take a job based on its pay. Also, I would like to add that no-one has ever paid for my birth control except insurance and then I’ve always paid what they don’t which is about 80%.

  • Good Job January 23, 2014 at 12:25 PM

    So very good. Reposted, and several of my friends did too. I personally know people that would benefit from following your counsel. Very wise. Thanks.

  • Paul Jolicoeur January 20, 2014 at 2:40 PM

    Nailed it!

  • Adelina January 20, 2014 at 7:29 AM

    Well said indeed!

  • Odin January 18, 2014 at 1:22 PM

    Hail Satan!

    • Satan January 19, 2014 at 1:25 PM

      Hey thanks man!

  • Jean January 18, 2014 at 11:08 AM

    “I forgot” is no longer an excuse. Use it too often, then it’ll become a habit.

  • JimmieRustler January 18, 2014 at 12:24 AM

    ” long rung “

    • Anne January 28, 2014 at 4:06 PM

      Long rung?

  • Roman Cruz January 17, 2014 at 10:29 PM

    #1 is disingenuous. Prioritizing any hobby over job hunting is the problem, not video games. You could be playing beer pong, or football, or playing catch; if you’re doing it instead of looking for a job/doing your job, then it’s a waste of time.

    • shitball January 19, 2014 at 6:49 PM

      Thank you

    • Jad January 20, 2014 at 11:20 AM

      not entirely, sometimes doing what you love is the key to success and happiness.

    • Kristin Mullinax January 27, 2014 at 11:51 AM

      Thank you. :D I am happily employed and spend the bulk of my free time gaming with my friends, family and b/f. It’s just what we do. :D

  • Yep January 17, 2014 at 9:44 PM


  • David January 17, 2014 at 9:24 PM

    21. Give up on religion because it’s a waste of time that could be spent on more important areas of your life.

  • Ready Sam January 17, 2014 at 7:02 PM

    A bunch of good advice for young and professional people. Living the life you wanted without listening to other’s advice is a suicide. Jarred did a great job on this although a lot of people are against I personally like it. Above all, these are guides and not boring at all the author intention is good. Keep it up Jarred!

    • Yep January 17, 2014 at 9:42 PM

      You are joking right?

  • Manchild January 17, 2014 at 3:49 PM

    No joke, I stopped reading and cringed at #4:

    “Only going to church to find a relationship”

    OP is a Christfag that prays to an invisible man. You’d think people would grow out of imaginary friends as they become an adult, but I guess not…

  • Sesur January 17, 2014 at 3:10 PM

    Don’t be a pretentious twat like the author of this page.

  • What January 17, 2014 at 10:26 AM

    Jared or Jarrod*** There you go. Tell Mom and Dad that those are two better ways to spell your name.

  • Bobert January 17, 2014 at 9:25 AM

    Remove this article immediately.

  • OP is a faggot January 17, 2014 at 8:19 AM

    Please stop being a retard.

    Yours, people over 20.

  • Vanessa January 17, 2014 at 7:41 AM

    Seriously people, get over yourselves. He spoke many truths, you don’t have to agree with everything spoken but don’t put the man down. Too many young people do this kind of stuff and dig themselves in a hole they sometimes never get out of. You can have fun but the idea is to do things in moderation and remember that you won’t be in your twenties for ever.

  • Ur Faget January 17, 2014 at 7:14 AM

    such “wisdom”
    so retarded

  • Harrison January 17, 2014 at 6:26 AM

    hes 26.

  • Maurice January 17, 2014 at 6:15 AM

    Who wrote this article again? The author should really paste his name in at least 30 more locations so people don’t forget.

  • yo mamma January 17, 2014 at 5:25 AM

    what are you like 21?

  • Hitler January 17, 2014 at 5:03 AM

    Sorry, but church is a thousand times more a waste of time than games.

  • Babby's first blog January 17, 2014 at 2:00 AM

    1. Playing video games instead of looking for a job.
    Nobody should ever do anything fun ever. The areas I self-improve are objectively better than yours.

    2. Spending money you don’t have.
    Check your privilege. Not all of us had the opportunity to be raised in a white Christian nuclear family on daddy’s bankroll.

    3. Using the term “YOLO.”
    People writing “I’m stupid” on their forehead so they can be avoided socially like the plague. Why is this a bad thing?

    4. Only going to church to find a relationship.
    ….What? Is this some type of obscene confession?

    5. Citing “-Google” on a college paper or work presentation.
    Nobody does this.

    6. Thinking you know it all.
    Simultaneously hypocritical, paradoxical, and self-referential advice.

    7. Dating with no vision.
    Why do you care how two consenting adults romance?

    8. Demanding respect before you’ve earned it.
    Again, hypocritical. You demand your 20 commandments be taken seriously with your condescending, authoritarian tone.

    9. Waiting until you’re done with school before you start paying off your loans.
    Paying off your loans after you establish yourself financially is the entire point of taking out a student loan.

    10. Getting into arguments over social-media.
    There is nothing wrong with healthy, tempered discourse and having your views challenged.

  • Kudi January 16, 2014 at 8:15 PM

    stop passing other peoples’ quotes as your own

  • Non-Stop January 16, 2014 at 7:08 PM

    21. don’t teach people how to live their lives. lol

  • bovian January 16, 2014 at 6:32 PM

    Change the main title into “How to become a BORING PERSON in your 20s”.

  • Erika January 16, 2014 at 6:31 PM

    #1. Playing video games instead of looking for a job.

    What the hell. I have a stable job and I still play video games. -___________-

  • Mehul K. Shah January 16, 2014 at 9:59 AM

    21. Stop taking selfies
    22. Stop twerking

  • Number 42 January 16, 2014 at 3:41 AM

    Stop reading stuff like this and just live.

  • P January 16, 2014 at 3:13 AM

    This is crap.

    • Egyptian dude January 16, 2014 at 8:40 AM

      No man that was perfectly said ! I’m sixteen but i know for sure that this is how we become World changers. It’s not bitter or anything it’s just a call to maturity

  • John January 15, 2014 at 4:48 PM

    Wasting time reading crap like this.

    • JAJA MIRANDA January 15, 2014 at 11:00 PM


  • Trey Hart January 15, 2014 at 4:42 PM

    I feel old now… I had to look up YOLO.. yeah… How did that catch on???

  • Cash Money January 15, 2014 at 3:11 PM

    That awkward moment when Christianity has failed you in every important area of your life so you say goodbye to it all and try to discover what you truly believe and then literally every thing in your life goes to shit and you think, “well this was a good idea.” Lol.

  • 420glazeit January 15, 2014 at 11:02 AM

    people should stop telling people to stop doing things

    • TheRemnantofNoise January 15, 2014 at 12:08 PM

      Whoa… are you okay there? You sound bitter there, buddy.

  • Audra Long January 15, 2014 at 10:05 AM

    #23 Thinking your grandparents and parents will live forever.

    – Once you learn how short life on earth is, you’ll wish you had called/ visited/ appreciated them more. Spend time. Share the Gospel. Hug a little longer and say I love you now. When someone is in the hospital, visit them immediately.

    I read advise along this line in my early twenties and put it to good use. Looking back now, I thank God that I did.

  • jhi January 15, 2014 at 7:31 AM

    Thank you for reminding all at your list :)

  • erlindawang January 14, 2014 at 11:08 PM

    I’m so glad I read this. Thanks.. God Bless You. :)

  • Lele January 14, 2014 at 7:41 PM

    Totally object to the first one. I do both and not only that, video games are my side job that pays really well.~

  • Tamilore January 13, 2014 at 11:52 PM

    im a Nigerian in my late 20s nd i cant but say im glad i read dis post. God bless u for the good work. i pray God restore me totally…tnx

  • Spencer Harrison Walker January 13, 2014 at 11:37 PM

    21. Stop Dressing like a “Hipster”

    – People are unable to tell who is actually gay because hipsters keep dressing like them. And what is with wearing glasses without prescriptions? Lets just start looking like an adult who wants to be taken seriously.

    22. Men Should not Wear Diamond Earrings

    – Just stop.

    • Sophia January 14, 2014 at 4:38 AM

      To say that you can tell who is gay or not by appearance itself is kind of a discriminatory statement…

    • Justin January 14, 2014 at 3:05 PM

      why so mad bro

    • mo January 14, 2014 at 4:40 PM

      U my sir are a hater…..str8 up peep the knowledge before the image….

    • jillie January 15, 2014 at 9:01 AM

      people are unable to tell who us actyally gay because hipsters keep dressing like them? since when can we tell who is guy by how they dress, and i thought gay was a sexual orientation, not a style of dress.

  • Em January 13, 2014 at 10:41 PM

    On my own opinion. Using the term “YOLO” depends on how you used it and on what situation it is pertaining. If its about doing Good and righteous thing I think there’s nothing wrong with it.

  • kupkate95 January 13, 2014 at 3:41 PM

    Great points, but a quick suggestion: Don’t call it ’20 Things People OVER 20 should stop doing.’ Call it ’20 things to STOP DOING by the TIME you’re 20.’ Because I don’t think it’s okay to be 20 and still be this way. I’m almost 19, and I think I’m pretty immature cuz I do that stuff.

  • Sam January 13, 2014 at 2:40 PM

    I’m all for everything except #7. I don’t see anything wrong with casual dating, especially in your 20’s. You have the rest of your life to settle down. Just don’t get too serious and hurt someone when you know you’re not interested in commitment.

    • Rowan January 14, 2014 at 11:09 PM

      If you aren’t interested/ready for commitment then don’t be in a relationship like that with someone. The entire point of that kind of a relationship is to get closer to the other person and grow to know them in a deeper way. If you just want to hang out and have fun with another person then why not just be friends? Saying you are “dating” someone creates an unspoken expectation of commitment – even in your own heart. If you don’t want that then don’t date. Guard and protect her heart for her sake, and for the sake of her future husband. Guard and protect your own heart for your future wife’s sake.

  • Kathleen D'urso January 12, 2014 at 7:31 PM

    I definitely agree with all of these, considering I am a college student who sees this all the time! However, instead of putting your own witty/slightly-preachy responses under each headline, I would have appreciated a biblical perspective and verse references. While you are overall correct, the way you presented your points do not connect with 20-somethings and come off less loving than the intent of your post.

  • Okay.. January 12, 2014 at 5:51 PM

    Some points are okay but I think these are rather biased and one-sided opinions.

    • Terrax1 January 13, 2014 at 3:49 PM

      I agree

    • asher January 14, 2014 at 7:10 AM

      Agreed. However this is his area to put out his opinion.

  • jeff January 12, 2014 at 3:42 PM

    need to remove one of them and put stop believing in fairy tales (religion)..

  • 煒文 January 12, 2014 at 7:53 AM

    No.1 should be :
    “Do not spend your time for hobby too much”
    Among others, i think Time management is the most important :)
    thanks for sharing.

  • Wayne Lim January 11, 2014 at 2:04 AM

    Your 3rd point YOLO, that is enough to make people waste their at least half of their lives. YOLO can make a person party and drink all night, sleep around with different partners all day, do drugs and etc.. Just for example, someone predicts tmr is world end, and well u will see this world will be in a mess, trust me, it will happen.

  • miraculousjeff January 10, 2014 at 11:22 PM

    I think the first one should be “Dont laze around instead of looking for a job”. Telling people to stop playing video games is a bit shallow…Just because they’re video games doesnt mean you cant learn anything from it. :D And its not the video games to blame for taking up most of your time.. When you read a book, its your choice whether you wanna keep reading or not.

    • Wayne Lim January 11, 2014 at 1:57 AM

      Bro. I think he meant in general which is what most people are doing in his country. He phrased his words wrongly, He should have said Take up a job instead of wasting your time doing meaningless stuffs. I think he did not have the intention to offend the gamers especially in his sentence. Cheers bro.

  • shylo January 10, 2014 at 2:20 PM

    get stupid haircuts. i.e. shaving the side of your head and leaving the sides long

  • elizabeth January 10, 2014 at 8:13 AM

    #20 needs a citation. That is a quote from Malcolm X.

  • Rean January 9, 2014 at 11:38 PM

    What about watching TV as a side-by-side to #1?

  • Aravind January 9, 2014 at 2:29 AM

    As a non-believer, I agree with all except number 4 which doesn’t apply to me. Church, temples and other religious place of worship does instill a sense of community though.

  • Zander January 8, 2014 at 6:14 PM

    The long rung?

  • Jenatude January 8, 2014 at 5:56 PM

    21. Not tell other people how to live their lives.

  • xCKGx January 8, 2014 at 12:09 AM

    I’m in my 20’s and I think this is a really good post and does need saying, but I wish this had been included as I think it’s a good lesson for people of all ages to learn and I would’ve benefited from having someone teach it me early in life rather than having to learn it the hard way:
    Don’t be too proud to ask for help when you need it. No one will think less of you for asking, and the help you receive might really make a difference!

  • uzoma uja January 4, 2014 at 3:53 AM

    Thanks Pastor great Rhema!

  • Shona January 3, 2014 at 5:56 PM

    I’m 54. What does ‘YOLO’ mean?
    Thank you.

    • Wilmarie Ortiz January 3, 2014 at 7:46 PM

      You Only Live Once

    • Sam January 13, 2014 at 2:42 PM

      It is quite literally the battlecry of the modern idiot, usually used right before doing something incredibly stupid.

  • Renee January 3, 2014 at 2:03 AM

    This is so good, thanks for sharing! Sharing it to all my friends.

    I agree with Jimmy Carpenter’s comment above, I would also add in “think before you speak”. Proverbs 29:20 comes to mind.

  • Laney January 2, 2014 at 7:44 AM

    walking around with your cell phone like no one is important who is alive and speaking to you.

    Include daily exercise

    Learn how to eat properly

    • teeekilicious18 January 8, 2014 at 8:55 AM

      woah so true! I’m practicing that now since I’m about to be in my 20’s hehe ;D life is great!

  • Emily December 31, 2013 at 6:22 PM

    Well said…and remember … people don’t know that they don’t know…many are “sheeple” looking for a leader, a focus and something to give purpose to their life here on earth. We forget that these easy directions for some, don’t resonate with many. Many are lost, broken and looking – for something they don’t know they are missing.

  • ang December 31, 2013 at 5:52 PM

    All 20 are very good points. All stem from having the right mindset through a willingness to follow God’s word. Thanks for providing a list of things to work on! Just a suggestion: if you could add a verse that pertains to each point, that would definitely strengthen your points. Thanks again for writing this!!

    • Alex January 7, 2014 at 3:46 PM

      Considering the majority of people who are approx. 20 years of age are likely to be agnostic or atheist, adding verses to this would reduce its effectiveness, not strengthen it. God’s word? Right mindset? Those two seem like mutually exclusive ideas.

      Aside from nitpicking, I completely agree with this article.

  • Nancy December 31, 2013 at 11:11 AM

    Very true, all of them. Stop with the entitlement attitude!

  • Subash December 31, 2013 at 8:48 AM

    It’s fine and all to say all these things– most are valid points, but none are simple enough to be addressed in one sentence. It’s like telling an anxious person “don’t be anxious.” Or saying, “If you just ask God, he’ll make you less anxious.” Real world problems are more complicated than that and require that we treat the cause, not the symptoms of the problems pointed out in this “article.”

    Let’s be real, these kind of fluff pieces are designed to drive clicks through social media to generate revenue. My comment will probably be deleted or never even approved because I point that out.

    • Jarrid Wilson December 31, 2013 at 10:07 AM

      No, not at all. I actually value everyone’s opinion! :)

      I actually wrote this because it needs to be said. We have way too many people who aren’t willing to grow up and mature in certain aspects of life. I myself was one of those people.

  • miamgelito311@gmail.com December 30, 2013 at 6:51 PM

    Great post. Convicted me of a few things. Thank you Pastor Wilson!

  • Thia December 30, 2013 at 6:48 PM

    Yeah…. Ads definitely go off of what you are most interested in and what you are on most often on your computer. Because mine include “Girl after God”, a book on the story of Adam and Eve, Agape Apparel, Preventing Human Trafficking, “Gospel Books”, and “40% off Gibson Guitars!” haha.

  • cdgvvxx666 December 30, 2013 at 5:59 PM

    Ads are based off your personal interests… creep.

  • Heather December 30, 2013 at 5:22 PM

    But then you’re wasting your time with someone who won’t be your spouse and setting yourself up for unnessessary heartache.

  • Julia December 30, 2013 at 5:11 PM

    Lose the “entitlement” attitude

  • name here December 30, 2013 at 4:46 PM

    Macklemore is that you?

    • Ana December 30, 2013 at 5:19 PM

      nice one :))

    • Jarrid Wilson Author December 30, 2013 at 5:24 PM

      Ha. Thanks! I’ll take it as a compliment.

    • Spencer Harrison Walker January 13, 2014 at 11:30 PM

      Looks more like Jimmy Darmody from Boardwalk Empire.

  • Rebekah December 30, 2013 at 3:49 PM

    Jarrid, I think a lot of these are great but I have a problem with a couple of them. #12-when you use the word “mommy and daddy” instead of mother and father, or parents it comes off as a demeaning. And #15, although I agree to some extent, some jobs are extremely demanding and time consuming and minimum wage, which is not a living wage just doesn’t cut it. Jesus talked a lot about the poor and was for the poor, we as Christians don’t need to bring them down. It is not easy.

    • Lil January 7, 2014 at 4:32 AM

      At lot of these come off as demeaning and as if the blogger is providing a lecture, a lot of twenty something year olds switch off as soon as your start lecturing.

      I think the best way to get these points across is to lead by example. Sadly these points perhaps need to be applied to a lot of older people too who aren’t exactly setting the best example. Its easy to sound like you do these things and thus give advice, less easier to actually do these things.

  • adonai December 30, 2013 at 3:35 PM

    on point

  • Kevin December 30, 2013 at 3:16 PM

    “Staying in s0cia| media and getting depressed after seeing that everything ar0und him is changing” i sh0u|d get my behind m0ving and make my future

  • Mike December 30, 2013 at 3:15 PM

    Eatting a communal meal with one hand on our smartphone.

  • Aaron B. King December 30, 2013 at 2:14 PM

    Whoa!!! Is this some articles to help people have many new year’s resolutions??? Either way, though it is harsh and hurts, it heals. Thanks Pastor!!!

  • kmariej December 30, 2013 at 2:04 PM

    Complaining too much about how school sucks. I used to do that… my dad told me to quit. 6 years later…. I’m ever so happy he did that.

  • Mearrha Manoly December 30, 2013 at 1:29 PM

    Great Article!

  • Suzy T December 30, 2013 at 11:45 AM

    21 – Expect to pay your dues before you get the perks.
    22 – Stop with the “reveal” events /parties / ceremonies – we’re glad you’re engaged, pregnant, found out the baby’s gender – but not everything in life requires a cute, clever, staged event. Actually almost nothing does.

    • Robbie December 30, 2013 at 3:02 PM

      Oh my goodness!
      There’s a freaking photo shoot for everything. I’m a single 26 year old. If I ever get married and have children I hope I don’t feel pressure to compete. Keeping things simple is for sure the way to go.

    • Artice December 30, 2013 at 8:09 PM

      I more than agree with this! haha just live you’re life, everyday is a sweet celebration in Jesus, we really don’t need a party for everything, it’s not cute after awhile

    • Nancy December 31, 2013 at 11:09 AM

      Very true. Love it!

  • Daniel Opuene December 30, 2013 at 11:38 AM

    You’ve said it all.

  • Monica December 30, 2013 at 11:29 AM

    Thank you Jarrid! Your posts are always a HUGE blessing

  • ACait December 30, 2013 at 11:29 AM

    One word: Selfies.

  • Wes McAshan December 30, 2013 at 11:13 AM

    Judge people.

  • Jake December 30, 2013 at 11:11 AM

    Why not YOLO?.. My Sis always says that & I reply saying “Nah, we live for Eternity”….

  • TiAera December 30, 2013 at 10:35 AM

    Sometimes your posts call me out on stuff haha. I like it though. Keeps me in check. :)

  • Noah December 30, 2013 at 10:34 AM

    This was provoking, but in a good way. I’ve made way too many excuses to cover up my wasteful lifestyle, my hope is only in Jesus’ grace to make a change, I ask for prayer on all these things if it’s okay with you Mr. Wilson. Thank God that it’s never too late to turn things around and live for Jesus.

    • Amber December 30, 2013 at 5:37 PM

      It is never too late, Noah!! Our God is a gracious God, and as long as you live, there is always a second chance!!!

  • Jessica December 30, 2013 at 10:20 AM

    Jarrid, I can’t thank you enough for your encouraging posts! So many of these have gotten not only myself but my friends through a lot of life troubles. God bless!

  • Jimmy Carpenter December 30, 2013 at 10:19 AM

    Stop blurting out the first thing they think of… listen and respond mor wisely…

  • Anna Bachinsky December 30, 2013 at 10:18 AM

    Amen!! Wisdom right here. Everyone in their 20’s needs to read this!!

  • Willy December 30, 2013 at 10:15 AM

    i dont want to sound egoistic but, 18 of that 20 things i dont do. halleluja praise the Lord. :D

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