10 Truths About A Woman’s Worth

10 Truths About A Woman’s Worth

10 Truths About A Woman’s Worth

In response to the Victoria’s Secret Fashion Show (which my wife and I did not watch), here are 10 things you need to know about a woman’s worth. Your worth is not found in the shape of your body.

“It is important for our daughters and sons to see women and men as different, but equally valued members of society. The measure of a person’s worth has nothing to do with gender and everything to do with character.” -Terry Rosenberg

I will be completely honest when I say I am not jealous of women who are living in today’s society. I cannot begin to understand the pressures of being a woman, working as a woman, living as a woman, and trying to keep up to date with what the newest trend of “being a woman” enforces. You ladies have it tough, and I want to apologize for the way culture and society has treated you over the years.

As a husband, I need to be honest with myself when I say there are many things about my wife I will never be able to truly understand. Why you ask? Because I’m not a woman. I’ve come to understand that I can’t fix everything, and that there is only so much I can do until my wife ultimately needs the care of Jesus. Although I constantly remind my wife how beautiful she really is, it can’t help but think the society and culture around her might make her insecurities believe otherwise. The reality is that we all have insecurities, and we all have our own way of dealing with them.

My purpose in writing this is to encourage women not to seek their worth through the game of comparison. Why? Because you will always judge yourself unfairly. I urge you to seek your worth in the cross of Jesus, His hope, and his everlasting love.

A woman’s worth isn’t measured by her outer appearance, but whether or not her heart is focused on The One who created her. 

While the world tells your to “wear this” or “buy that”, I want to tell you ignore the lies and focus your attention on the love of Jesus.

  1. A woman is worth more than her outer appearance.
  2. A woman is worth more than her title at work.
  3. A woman is worth more than whether or not she can have kids.
  4. A woman is worth more than how much money she makes.
  5. A woman is worth more than her waist size.
  6. A woman is worth more than the color of her skin.
  7. A woman is worth more than than what the media portrays her to be.
  8. A woman is worth more than the jewelry she wears.
  9. A woman is worth more than the name brands she does or doesn’t wear.
  10. A woman is worth more than the skin the world pressures her to show. 

“The greatest trick satan ever pulled was convincing women that they look better in their makeup.”-Macklemore 

– Jarrid Wilson


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  • Anita Stamps July 24, 2015 at 10:34 AM

    Our church is having a woman’s breakfast tomorrow & Each woman was asked to give a testimony or say what your favorite scripture is & comment on why its your favorite. God has put in my spirit something about a woman’s worth. Thank you for your take on a woman’s worth.

  • truehart July 3, 2015 at 2:31 PM

    even when her heart is not focused on Christ…her worth does not change. Her worth is based on the ONE who created her. He determines her worth.

  • Zanzolo January 4, 2015 at 9:00 AM

    A woman’s worth are “her feelings”. It is all in what she feels is important to herself at this present moment which might change in the next. That’s where her worth she defines it.

  • Stace September 18, 2014 at 11:09 PM

    I needed this thank u, society has stomped me down since I was a young girl so what I’m worth I’m still

  • Rachel August 30, 2014 at 2:08 PM

    This really resonated with me as a young woman growing up in today’s society. I want to thank you and show my appreciation for the way you believe that women are way more special than they are often given credit for. Kudos and God bless you!

  • Grenaldine Bautista July 31, 2014 at 12:16 PM

    I feel so blessed after reading this. Every women should know that they are worthy of everything and that they will be loved by the way they really are.

  • Brian February 15, 2014 at 12:54 PM

    This is the way I look at my woman I focus on what’s in her heart, personality she is beautiful in my eyes regardless of the clothes wears, the latest fashion, makeup whatever. And I know God loves her too.

  • AjB1303 February 11, 2014 at 8:14 AM

    Love it! I would also add that a woman is worth more than her social status: married, single, divorced. It’s a given, but a very important truth we must acknowledge and accept.

  • focusedonone February 2, 2014 at 4:01 PM

    I am very grateful God knows my heart and my mind. Everyone else can take a number!

  • Daniel January 29, 2014 at 10:26 PM

    True. I think that real men no longer just aim to protect women from other factors that pose possible harm but most of all, real men ought to protect women from themselves. And yeah, when comparison begins, JOY fades…

  • -thoughtful-boy- January 13, 2014 at 8:21 PM

    -A woman is worth more than her outer appearance.

    this is true. but we need to remember to respect those who try to look different and those who’s outer appearance may not resemble a man or woman. any human is different than what YOU think of their outer appearance.

    -A woman is worth more than her title at work.

    true, but we need to remember that those who chose not to enter the work force to do charitable acts are just as valuable. and that often women are denied the right to higher titles at work because of their gender. we need to realize that the work force is and has been dominated by men.

    -A woman is worth more than whether or not she can have kids

    also true but we need to remember that ability is different than choice. women who choice it is to not give birth are just as valuable as those who do.
    -A woman is worth more than how much money she makes.

    once again, let’s remember that our contemporary society has consistently underpaid women. women at a job will work just as hard if not more than men and still not be as paid as well as a man.

    -A woman is worth more than her waist size.

    definitely spot on. we need to get over our idea of body image in our society.

    -A woman is worth more than the color of her skin.

    definitely…no questions asked. but let’s remember that often women of power are in a lower place of privilege than white women. it’s statistically proven

    -A woman is worth more than than what the media portrays her to be.

    the media is usually wrong!!! time after time it is proven.

    -A woman is worth more than the jewelry she wears.

    fr sure! why should we even expect women to wear jewelry. this is a thought to me that seems pretty superficial…like why should we even think women with expensive jewelry have more worth in the first place. it should never be a discussion, your jewelry does not deem your worth…(also many people are allergic to certain metals…ie. silver)

    -A woman is worth more than the name brands she does or doesn’t wear.

    i feel like you could of included this with the jewelry talk and talked about some other ways women are oppressed by society!

    A woman is worth more than the skin the world pressures her to show.

    true but let’s not shame those who comfortably show skin on their own accord. different things empower different people…

    just thinking of more ways we can respect women and other nonmale-identifying people…only respect for you jarrid!!!

    • Lateruo February 5, 2014 at 8:38 PM

      I think you are looking into this way to much, I get that your trying to give insight but I feel like you were just digging for holes. Read it for its face value.

      As a girl I (personally) appreciated this list, I dont think some of those areas are something you could relate to an empathize with us on this.

    • honey February 9, 2014 at 11:07 AM

      Just make your own blog page if you believe all you said is missing from it. Each writer writes his or her thoughts. I also agree with this list I’m glad to read it coming from a man, since I made a video blog talking about this very thing last year. Couldn’t agree more.

  • itisallaboutfaithblog January 11, 2014 at 12:46 PM

    Praise God for your words and courage. Thank you!!

  • Jesus Saves January 9, 2014 at 2:25 AM

    Replace ‘her’ with ‘him’ and this would work equally as well for an out of shape man in a warm coastal area. Media drives a body image that is unrealistic for an average HUMAN.

  • Candice January 6, 2014 at 9:13 PM

    Love it! Made me think of a book I just read by an ex victoria secret model Kylie Bisutti I Am No Angel.

  • Tony December 27, 2013 at 1:36 AM

    A good measuring stick is proverbs 31. Though it is referring to wives, it mentions qualities like wisdom, generous, hard-working, (supportive of husband for wives) as important and lists beauty as fleeting. Our society has it backwards.

  • todd December 26, 2013 at 5:55 PM

    there are too many times that women get caught up in the allure to be like the models in the magazines. especially, younger girls. a great woman is worth her weight in gold, silver and precious gems all put together, if she is proud of herself. My wife doesn’t think she lives up to those standards but to me she is worth more to me than life itself. i would not change or want her to change for anything. She is worth everything to me!

  • Wayne December 26, 2013 at 6:40 AM

    In short ignore all the lies and focus on the greatest lie of all, Jesus Christ.

    • Olivia Lakis December 26, 2013 at 10:24 AM

      I’m truly sorry you feel that way Wayne. I hope you get the chance to express that thought to your Maker one day as you stand before Him.

    • T January 3, 2014 at 12:47 AM

      “But whosoever shall deny me before men, him will I also deny before my Father which is in heaven.” God bless you Wayne

    • gracie January 13, 2014 at 10:16 AM

      I am always curious why someone with your feelings would even read a blog like this. I don’t understand how being bitter and unkind might support your being who you are in the world if there is any part of you that is wanting to contribute the best of what you have during your life time. If life has caused you to be so bitter, maybe reading how positive this whole site is and how believing in something positive might give you a lift that would make you happier. Why be unkind when there can be so much joy to be had in your life?

  • Terrance B. Robertson December 19, 2013 at 6:01 AM

    When a man goes out with a woman, he’s not as concerned with whether she’s articulate and on track to make partner at the law firm. That’s what women want in men and they assume it’s of equal importance to them. It’s generally not. Men DO value intelligence, but they also want from their girlfriend what they CAN’T get from their business associates. Warmth, affection, nurturing, thoughtfulness. If he finds himself constantly hearing all the things he needs to change, he may just determine that he wants a bright woman who is less challenging. Not a Stepford Wife. Not a bimbo. Not a maid. Just someone who makes his life EASIER and more pleasant.

  • Skie December 18, 2013 at 1:52 PM

    Thank you Jarrid. You and your wife are an inspiration. Even though I fall into the less than natural beauty category of life, and would never be caught without makeup on, I appreciate the fact that there are people out there like you who realize the importance of a relationship with Christ is more important than the worlds view of you. I am thankful that even though physical beauty is not something I’m overly blessed with, spiritual beauty is something that will never let me down. My Jesus doesn’t care if I’m a size 2 or 10, if I look like Angelina Jolie or Bigfoot. Thank you for your post.

  • Brad December 17, 2013 at 3:01 PM

    I am new to believe.com. Being so busy I don’t have a lot of time. Took a break and saw this. whoever you are thank you so much for bringing Gods word concerning the character and worth of men and women alike to the table and that we as opposite gender can truly come together in his Holy Spirit, consider, recognize and effort common ground . I have dreams and visions of God bringing me a truly Godly , Holy Spirit , Grace and Love filled spouse but not until he performs the same in me . Whats on the inside is going to live forever. The way we treat and Love in Christ like Love here and now will demonstrate whats inside . Brad

  • alca December 17, 2013 at 5:14 AM

    This makes me feel my worth. I thank GOD for my boyfriend. He keeps me reminding about how beautiful I am. Because of his appreciation I don’t have to cover my face with make-up. A woman of GOD, worthy to be praise.

  • eunice larbi December 17, 2013 at 4:33 AM

    am a woman, but i hate makeups

  • Alyne A. December 16, 2013 at 6:01 PM

    Honestly need to read this right now to make realize that the lies of culture and of the enemy settled into my life. Can you pray for Truth to shine even greater than the lies for me? Thank you so much for your insight and encouragement. God bless you and your family!

    • Lauren February 6, 2014 at 1:57 PM

      Prayed for sister. I don’t know you but you are beautiful!

  • Isaiah December 16, 2013 at 7:32 AM

    Your awesome just for posting this. Thank you

  • spencertraver December 15, 2013 at 7:39 PM

    Love this.

    Jarrid – Can you take a look at my blog on “Why I Remain Sober?” I am a college student and would love to get your feedback or to be able to discuss this with you in some way or form. Thank you, and God bless!


  • Zaty Han December 15, 2013 at 6:51 PM

    seriously, like dis posting :)

  • J December 15, 2013 at 3:01 PM

    I needed this. We, girls seriously need to discern and reflect if the guy we’re with (if any) has the right intentions and reasons for being with us. Do they really wanna be with us specifically or do they just wanna be with someone who can satisfy their lust? On top of that, we shouldn’t focus on these stuff in the first place. We should focus our eyes on Christ and what His will is for us, and our relationships (all of them) will just fall into place.

  • Rebekkah December 13, 2013 at 5:37 PM

    This is awesome!! The only thing I would add is that a woman is worth more than her sex appeal/ ability… I wrote a whole blog post about that recently :) http://bekksies.blogspot.com.au/2013/12/justin-bieber-all-that-matters-misogyny.html

  • V December 13, 2013 at 4:17 PM

    I think what Anon means is that its easy to say that looks don’t matter when both you and your wife are thin and gorgeous and that you both clearly put a lot of effort into your looks and how you dress. People are treated differently if they are ugly outside of christian communities – THAT is the real truth. Even though its something important to be reminded of, these posts aren’t actually advice and they aren’t uplifting or empathetic, in my opinion. Those are all empty statements that everyone has heard 100x before.How do we actually accept these things and show them in our lives? How does God want us to deal with others that treat us this way? That would be a real post.

    • lisa December 23, 2013 at 3:40 PM

      If you can see that God has many different faccets, like a diamond, then perhaps you can find appreciation for the post. Perhaps you can see and receive the care and concern that the person put forth to attempt to encourage woman from a man’s ‘clueless’ point of view. I also hear your hunger for Truth. Isaiah 53 states Jesus as one whom men turn their faces, and in verse 4, that we considered Him smitten, stricken and afflicted by God. In your view is Jesus good enough to carry your burdens and hurts in your identity? Can you let God heal your self image and see yourself as important enough to ask His Son die for you? Also, the bible tells us to pray for those who mistreat us and bless those who curse us. Also in Ephesians 6 He tells us that the battle is spiritual. Sorry I don’t have time at the moment to expound on this, but I bless you and ask my Heavenly Father to bless your heart with His sweet kindness towards you and may you receive it deeply. Lisa

  • ELREE December 13, 2013 at 2:41 PM


  • Rebekah Whitener December 13, 2013 at 1:45 PM

    Oh my gosh, I love this! Sometimes, high school makes it hard to remember this. Great post!

  • Anon December 13, 2013 at 7:37 AM

    I really like your post, but, Dude, what’s up with the updo and fur and the pose? You’re posing like the models you derided on your post. I just find it ironic.

    • Jarrid Wilson Author December 13, 2013 at 9:51 AM

      Ha, back-handed compliments are always the best! Thank you! I wasn’t aware my choice of hair or clothes would deter you from the truth of this post. God bless.

    • Mike Snowell December 13, 2013 at 9:53 AM

      Anon, you’re seriously an idiot. Jealous much? lol

  • Laura December 13, 2013 at 12:18 AM

    my worth is found in Jesus Christ, not man. I am beautiful because I am fearfully & wonderfully made. Not because man declares it. but He who made man is beauty & love itself. Great post Jarrid!!(:

  • rosalie December 12, 2013 at 9:54 PM

    This is one of the most beautiful articles i have read for a long time!!! Your wife has one incredible husband…and she is blessed with your understanding of this non-sense that is going on in society today!!! I am a 53 year old woman, and i have no desire to play the game, i cannot be caught up in that world at all! I like to dress nice, but i am not a ‘brand’ shopper at all! I personally don’t care what ‘brand’ someone is wearing…i care more about how i have a rapport with that person.. i would rather talk to someone in rags who doesn’t have attitude, then a over dressed snob!!!…. Yes, this world is expecting way to much of women, with all that is demanded of them, i don’t really know how alot of them can keep up or sane, i have not desire to have to fit into that group!!!! thank you again for the wonderful words.

  • Karen December 12, 2013 at 5:49 PM

    In this crazy world we live in, I want to teach my daughter that her worth is more than what she may see or be told by society. Thank you for taking the time to put this into written words!! God bless you!!

  • mitchell pierre December 12, 2013 at 5:16 PM

    Cool beans

  • Kaydi December 12, 2013 at 4:04 PM

    Cool – this is needed!!

  • June December 12, 2013 at 3:54 PM

    Wonderful! As a student of both our Lord, and in Gender Studies – I struggle sometimes in finding bloggers who so fully grasp God’s love and understanding and grant a guiding light to women struggling in today’s culture. I think not only your personal statement but you list statements and quotes are perfect for reaffirming that we as women shall find happiness and acceptance of our selves through the love of Christ. It must truly be a sign that I stumbled across your posting, and I am so thankful that I did. Blessings, and a Merry Christmas to your family. Your wife is blessed to have such an understanding partner! :D

  • Mearrha Manoly December 12, 2013 at 12:02 PM

    Great Post Jarrid! Only Jesus can truly show us how to embrace who we truly are! And having a man who has Jesus in Him will do the same!

    Keep it up!

    Mearrha Manoly

  • Dora December 12, 2013 at 11:29 AM

    Its encouraging to hear this from a male, and i’m thankful you made the time to write this. God Bless your family.

  • J December 12, 2013 at 11:17 AM

    Thanks so much for Ur inspiring teaching

  • Ylil Atsituab December 12, 2013 at 9:31 AM

    Thanks! The same holds true with men.

  • MJ December 12, 2013 at 9:03 AM

    Another fantastic bit of encouragement I’m compelled to share with the Future Marriage University community at https://www.facebook.com/FMUniversity.

    And no one in our household watched either. I don’t even look in the VS store. That may sound prude or legalistic, but it feels like freedom to me.

    Here’s a post that shares a little more of how I found that freedom by watching what I watch: http://f-m-u.com/Blog/watch-watch-sex-part-5/.

    Again, I love your stuff, Jarrid! I’m glad I found your blog.

  • Karen December 12, 2013 at 9:01 AM

    Beautiful! It’s just sad that today’s generation is more focused on the outside appearance. Women fight over everything. We use to help each other, care, nurture and build up each others confidence. Now, mothers are bullying their own daughters for not being pretty enough like her friends. Women fight over senseless things, not in general. I love it when another woman praises another woman. It makes you proud to be a woman.

  • Esther Bautista December 12, 2013 at 8:56 AM

    I agree. You made the No More Barbies blog list! This is a topic I am very passionate about.

  • Jools December 12, 2013 at 8:38 AM

    A woman is worth more than her marital status……

  • joan December 12, 2013 at 2:59 AM

    so very true the pressure in society today is so sad the devil has certainly done his job in confusing people of there worth v.s and all social pressure and mefia alike devalue woman we abdorbed in this society sex sex sex its probably one of the biggest lies satan uses and why not target woman and of course men because this sets them up for so much temptation and sin..i think we must also more importantly remind ourselves that this way of presenting ourselves is a sin to make any man stumble is wrong.

  • Molly Moore December 12, 2013 at 1:45 AM

    That quote wasn’t macklemore!

  • zothile mthembu December 11, 2013 at 8:48 PM

    Thank u so much much for this post. It helps me so much as a young woman of God to see myself as God does and to stay comfident & strong in my faith in God. Thank u again

  • Bri December 11, 2013 at 8:23 PM

    I needed to be reminded of this, thanks so much!

  • Phoebe Kates Chico (@pbkateschico) December 11, 2013 at 8:22 PM

    Praise God for this post!!

  • juana December 11, 2013 at 8:20 PM

    you are so right on point. Society make a guys view of a grl so crazy which makes it hard for us grls. As it does make us grls think crazy as well. We may be confident in our skin but Its so easy to get lost in “ugh why can’t I just be “skinny” or “have flawless skin like so and so” and have the material world telling us that “this” is how we should be. and the silly thing is, “beauty” is always changing for the world. But I like to remind myself- I’m fearfully and wonderfully made-psalm 39:14… Most importantly, in Gods eyes I’m beautiful and that’s just so awesome to knw. His beauty is miraculous once you realize…sunsets& sunrises come to mind.
    I always look forward to reading your blogs. Always inspiring and keeping me on track. Blessings.

  • Paige December 11, 2013 at 8:19 PM

    Hi Jarrid! I’m a young woman on a quest to re-discover her faith, and in searching for Christian blogs to help me in my journey, I came across yours. I’m so glad I did! Thank you so much for writing this timely post…It was truly a breath of fresh air amidst a sea of depressing responses to the VS fashion show on my various social media feeds. Looking forward to more great posts in the future!

  • Ashley December 11, 2013 at 8:09 PM

    Needed this. Thank you for posting!

  • Sherry December 11, 2013 at 8:00 PM

    Love it.

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