10 Reasons You Still Feel Lonely

10 Reasons You Still Feel Lonely

10 Reasons You Still Feel Lonely

Going through a rough patch? Here are 10 reasons you still feel lonely.

1. You’re basing your worth off the opinions of others.

2. You’re waiting for other people to make you feel better.

3. You’re hoping a relationship will fix your problems.

4. You haven’t learned how to love and value yourself.

5. You have yet to forgive yourself of your past mistakes.

6. You have never learned to share how you’re truly feeling.

7. You’re spending too much time thinking about your failures.

8. You’re convinced that your life has no purpose.

9. You haven’t learned to let go of the past and embrace God’s grace.

10. You are allowing your emotions to control major life decisions.

Between the ages of 13-18, I dealt with severe depression and anxiety. Although those were some of the darkest years of my life, I learned that these 10 reasons were honest attributes to why I continued to feel lonely in my time of need. I hope these help you or someone you know.

– Jarrid Wilson


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  • Billy August 9, 2015 at 8:56 PM

    How can u help ur self. I am going through theses things. Reasons given apply to me. I try hard forget past concentrate today live . Sometimes work but I am struggling. I feel I can do better

  • Kiev January 29, 2015 at 12:29 AM

    So I guess 9 is the caveat where, even if we’ve done everything else, we’re still going to suffer until we become Christians, right? I doubt that the trinity has that much to do with my brain chemistry.

  • Francesca January 2, 2015 at 5:16 PM

    I feel lonely when, looking around me, I see people make things without sense…ok, we should have to do that’s right, but how to know it? Sometimes make the right thing seems a fight…

  • Jeanette Berry December 18, 2013 at 6:40 PM

    5. You have yet to forgive yourself of your past mistakes.
    This is one I struggle with daily. I sometimes have a hard time getting over something I’ve done. And then I think that the other person, who may have been affected by my mistake is still holding on because I am. I’ve gotten better. I’ve been able to just let go and give it to God. Not perfect yet, but in a much better place. Thank you for this blog. I’m the type of person who is grateful for everything, and cries because of just how much God has done for me. Letting go of what others expect of you was the most important thing I’ve done for the betterment of my mind in my late twenties.

  • Mary December 15, 2013 at 11:27 AM

    Thank you so much

  • dayenne December 10, 2013 at 6:55 PM

    One question! How do you overcome loneliness then. It’s not enough to just know what the reasons are.. How can I overcome these 10 reasons?

  • tirsit December 3, 2013 at 6:10 AM

    Jared, that was nice post , currently i am feeling so lonely for the reasons u mentioned from 1- 6 , i would be happy if u could suggesting me to read something that can help me with . Thanks for sharing .

  • rachel nambii November 28, 2013 at 11:19 AM

    True..its hard to forgive and to forget, but i can let it go.

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  • mynameisdo November 25, 2013 at 3:07 PM

    Thank you, thank you, thank you, thank you. This really helped.

    • Linda Frost November 27, 2013 at 11:36 PM

      Yes, Yes, Yes! Thanks for posting these.

  • Benjamin November 25, 2013 at 9:39 AM

    I feel depressed a lot. Although I really don’t like the idea of having depression as a diagnosable illness. I think it has a lot to do with these false perceptions I have of myself, which resonate with the 10 points you made. I want those to change, and for my self-esteem to increase. I really do. I think it’s happening, or starting to. I just want the strength to continue, and not give in to those lies again

    • Jared November 26, 2013 at 11:52 AM

      I hope this isn’t weird that I’m p[raying online. But here goes nothing.
      Lord please strengthen my brother right now, he needs you hand in his life. Please imbue him with a spirit of Joy, a deep abiding trust and love for you. That he can identify his self worth in You Lord. We love because you first loved us, give him discerning eyes to see the love you have for him, and how everyday you keep him safe and sound. That he wakes up each and every morning alive and well. In the book of James it says count it all as joy, please Lord be with him to help him do that. In all these things we ask in your Son Jesus’ name. Amen.

      • Jarrid Wilson Author November 27, 2013 at 8:51 AM

        Not weird at all. Thank you Jard.

  • Aina November 25, 2013 at 8:54 AM

    True! For months now, i am so lonely and drepressed, there are times i would break down and cry, i jus came from a very painful breakup and had a friend who betrayed me. I want to forgive and forget but its so hard for me to do it, i just cant let go. I have so many negative emotions inside of me, its pulling me down into a deep depression. I know i have to let go all of this but i cant do it. I am holding on to God to help me get through this bc i just cant get over the pain and betrayal.

  • Christine Putis November 25, 2013 at 7:04 AM

    I have just recently been feeling this way. Depressions come in any time. I’ve been suffering from depression since last year.

  • Ruth Etureta Loo November 24, 2013 at 3:29 AM

    Im 18 now and life has not been good for me ever since 2009. everything you post has helped Jarrid. you’ve got such a beautiful soul, im Fijian anyways been inviting all my friends round Fiji to like your page on facebook. Your messages are really helping the youths in Fiji . Thanks bro

  • Estée November 23, 2013 at 4:59 PM

    Thanks for your help. Currently In identity crisis

  • marilou November 22, 2013 at 10:49 PM

    for me these is true no7 since i was married many things happened to me and getting a job , and financial problems , no 10 too much emotional . yes i believe in God. i know He had purposes.thanks for the post.

  • Dianne November 22, 2013 at 9:05 PM

    Hi. I’m from the Philippines. I’ve been a Christian since I was 15yo. I’m already 20yo but I’m still going through depression right now. I was okay before, back to the time when my parents were still okay. I’ve had problems with my family and friends and though things are getting better now, my heart’s been too broken and I just can’t put it back together. The way I see things and treat myself and other people has also changed. I’ve kept grudges against my parents and spiritual leaders though I know that unforgiveness is bad. I’m always crying even if there’s no reason at all. I feel so broken. I’ve prayed about this and asked God for healing but I just can’t find the answers. I feel so broken. I feel hurt, unloved, abandoned, etc. I’m so insecure because I feel like God doesn’t like me. He loves to bless other people except me. I know that I have issues and these things are just all in my mind. I want to break free but I don’t know where to start. </3

    • San November 24, 2013 at 1:01 AM

      Hi Dianne,
      I may not be able to relate to what you’re going through but I can understand to some extent. I just wanted to firstly tell you that you’re not alone seriously! Secondly the only way the enemy tries to hurt you is through the mind, from my experience anyway. So you have to constantly fill your mind,body, spirit and soul with the word of God, LITERALLY! there are so many means whether it’s by reading your bible, listening to audio msgs and reading motivational and inspirational books,articles, blogs etc. You need to immerse yourself in all these things EVERY SINGLE DAY and keep praying…talk to God as you would talk to a friend and fill yourself with uplifting, positive words, even if you have to speak them out LOUD, do so! And one more thing…GOD LOVES YOU regardless of everything you’ve been through! His grace is sufficient to help you through EACH day! despite it being a good or bad day thank God for the day and the fact that you’ve made it through and just keep trusting that he will restore your happiness and relationships with your family and friends! Ask God to lead you to people who will genuinely love you and be patient with you after all we’re not perfect at all. We all have skeletons in our closets in one form or the other! I do hope this helps a little, even though I do not know you, but I felt I should just reply!

    • Dianne November 24, 2013 at 8:44 PM

      This is in reply to San. Thank you so much for your response. You don’t know how much it means to me. Knowing that someone took the time to read my post and understand what I’m going through is priceless. Wherever you are right now (and even if I’m hesitant to pray), I’m praying to God to bless you. I will copy and save your reply in my phone. All I need right now is healing and renewal. It might take a long time but I know that things will get better someday. Again, thank you so much.

  • crystal November 22, 2013 at 3:10 PM

    I feel like all of these….my ex taught me that im not worth much and belitted me infront of people and laughed about it. I wasnt good enough and blamed me for everything…he would let his friend sexually harrass me all the time and laugh about and sometimes he would get in on it. I hated my life with him and finally left him last spring. When I meet new guys and they compliment me and I back away not knowing how to react to it. Ugh! I feel if I do get with someone they will treat me the same way. :-(

  • Ladean Avila. November 22, 2013 at 1:18 PM

    Is there really hope out there?? Is there really someone out there that wont hurt you and love you no matter what? Does this pain and loneliness ever leave? Is it really wrong to remarry again? Who must I go to too talk about what I am going through? Who is there to trust? I have so meny questions..

    • crystal November 22, 2013 at 3:02 PM

      Its never wrong to remarry……you do deserve happiness just as much as the next person. I feel the same….had a bad relationship with my ex and been single for 7months now and wish I could find somone understanding and caring.

    • Grace Gellatly November 22, 2013 at 6:23 PM

      There is Jesus.
      I know that seems cliche but He is the only way to any sort of lasting love, joy or trust outside of Him. Every human on this earth is going to fail you, break their promises, and hurt you. We live in a brien world full of sinful people who, whether they want or plan to or not are going up hurt you.
      But Jesus knows you fully, and He stop loves you fully and perfectly.
      The loneliness and pain sucks, trust me I know that too well. But nothing will change for us until we trust Jesus. And Jesus is trustworthy. He created us for Himself and until we are with Him we will never be home out full. But if you follow Him you have a promise of eternity with Him with no more tears, pain, or loneliness. Forever.
      I would encourage you to find a church, if you have now you can go to them if not, find one close to where you live. Go and talk to the people there, open up to them and ask them questions. Trust them, knowing that they will hurt you and knowing that they do want to help you and they do love you they just aren’t perfect either. And know that God is powerful, He is good, and He loves you absolutely no matter what your feelings are telling you.

      Also, I am not an expert, but am always here if you need someone. <3

    • morkindie November 28, 2013 at 7:28 AM

      There is hope. There are good people.
      Time heals all wounds, though yo might want therapy.
      Of course it is not wrong to marry again, as long as it is with the right person and for the right reasons.

      Go to a therapist. They are trained certified professionals who specialize in your problems.

      Don’t go to a holy man. They might have good advice, or they might just tell you to pray.

  • Ladean Avila. November 22, 2013 at 12:33 PM

    All of these are me. I went through something so bad in my life. I prayed about it gave it to God and still cry sometimes. I don’t know why, but I do… I don’t understand what’s going on I don’t really tell people what’s going on with me cause people talk and next thing everyone is putting or talking about you. So I just give everything to my Heavenly father and go about my day.. But all these are what I went through and still seem to be there.. its crazy who people put things down and “WOW” there you go..

  • Juana mateo November 22, 2013 at 5:38 AM

    so true. one I struggled with was- I didn’t value myself as a girl which led to me feeling I wasn’t useful in this world… great article!

  • MPHO ALL THE WAY FROM SOUTH AFRICA November 22, 2013 at 2:45 AM


  • Jay November 22, 2013 at 1:08 AM

    I would add one more reason:
    “You concentrate to yourself, but not God and God’s grace.”

  • miamajames November 21, 2013 at 10:59 PM

    so true and sometime u done even no it .thanks that was nice! love it. god bless u for your gift and blessing he hive giving u and keep blessing u..

  • Mariah November 21, 2013 at 6:54 PM

    Thanks I needed to read this. I’ve felt like this A LOT over the last two years without having someone to talk to. It’s rough but I know God is good and I’ll make it through this rough time in my life. Thanks for sharing.

  • Irene Gamboa Toledo November 21, 2013 at 6:34 PM

    This is what I really right at this moment, ‘honestly I myself couldn’t understand what I am going through until I read this. thank you. you and your gifts are blessings to me.

  • sarah mifflin November 21, 2013 at 4:44 PM

    yes most are exactly what im feeling now

  • kcsonshine November 21, 2013 at 3:19 PM

    yes, but where do you go from here?

  • Brittney November 21, 2013 at 1:20 PM

    Every single one of these describes exactly how Im feeling right now. Especially numbers 4 and 8. It’s been a trying season for me. Even though it feels like it sometimes I have to remember I’m not alone. Thanks for the post!

  • Beckie November 21, 2013 at 1:05 PM

    I’ve suffered with anxiety and depression from age of 7, starting primary school I was bullied and left out from other peers I had like no friends, high school was the same which left me in a state of paranoia, anxiety and depression, loneliness became part of me. I just started college and if someone acts in a bad way towards me my mind tells me I am not good enough that I have no-one, that people hate me etc. I am always like putting my hope in people, but i’m learning to break away from that. I became a Christian about 6 months ago and through prayer I am getting better but not complete, I know the tools for healing are in my God I just have to seek it. I am seeking CBT therapy too, and hoping for the best, But I can totally relate to these points,

    Jarrid, do you have any tips to break free from anxiety and loneliness?

    Thanks bro,

  • J November 21, 2013 at 1:01 PM

    I’m 38 years old, and had been with my wife since I was 19. In July of this year, she had some kind of mid-life crisis and decided the grass looked greener somewhere else, left me, moved in with another guy, and took our 6 year old daughter with her. Through this process, God has done amazing things for me and has been my rock through this, along with my awesome family. The last thing I’m struggling with is being alone because I had been with someone else my entire adult life. I’ve been praying about it every day, but it’s very hard for me to feel complete without a partner in life. I feel like God will pair me up with someone, but I have absolutely no idea how long that’s going to take, and yeah, it’s kind of depressing.

    • Becky Caldwell November 21, 2013 at 11:01 PM

      God bless you, For he is with you & some time’s even though you having nothing to do with her leaving she will soon one day figure out what kind of stupid she is made of …No, I’m not going to promise you that you will ever have any woman that will never want to cheat on you or any other man….But there is a woman that would love to have someone like you an God knows this ….It is all in God’s time.

    • carmen November 27, 2013 at 10:24 PM

      Hi j, wow as I was reading your post, I saw me, my husband of 32years decidedto ask me for a devorce, he too I believe I going through a mid life crises and I thank God he didn’t leave me while our children were young, he met someone younger on the internet, but GOD is good, we have to trust HIS plan, it will always to for our good.

  • Tanya November 21, 2013 at 12:09 PM

    Im a new christian over a Year and a half now.I have really been struggling with Lonliness even though i know that the Lord is with me.but its the physical part i miss, i stopped dating or seeing anyone about a year now,its so.hard being alone and im waiting on God to send me a husband. Ive been hurt by men all my life,sometimes i wonder if God is putting me through this for something? And now im very picky who i want to call my own.thanks for posting this.

  • Vehemently Veracious November 21, 2013 at 12:08 PM

    I’ve gone through a few of these … but because I’ve been touched by the Father above and felt His unfailing love and beautiful patience, I know that I am not alone … and that I am loved and that I am worth something and that I have someone to love with all my heart, with all my soul, and with all my mind! He deserves it the most of all.

    • Jarrid Wilson Author November 21, 2013 at 12:40 PM

      You’re not along. You have my wife and I praying for you! Matthew 11:28 is a great verse to find comfort in.

  • Gibran November 21, 2013 at 11:49 AM

    And what if I have all? Wow, I’m 17 & I Just feel I’m unhappy. I didn’t know why I felt in that way, but this text told it to me. Very much thanks. (sorry if my English is low, I’m mexican). God bless you.

  • Ana November 21, 2013 at 11:09 AM

    I’m in this situation since 14 an now I’m almost 18

  • Jonah November 21, 2013 at 11:03 AM

    Exactly what i needed! :D thank you!

  • Kori Ferguson November 21, 2013 at 10:31 AM

    Jarrid thank you so much for this! I have lately been struggling with my faith and not so sure what I believe anymore and have been feeling extra lonely the past couple of months and this describes me perfectly! I haven’t been praying and seeking advice from other people and this is an encouragement to me! I have always been raised in a Christian home and never faced any real life struggles and people always tell me that it is normal to feel how I am feeling and this opened my eyes to know that I am not the only one and other people struggle to!

    • Jarrid Wilson Author November 21, 2013 at 12:39 PM

      I am praying for you Kori. Thanks for your honesty.

  • kirstennray November 21, 2013 at 10:24 AM

    Right on with this post, Jarrid. I recently have learned not to put my worth in other peopl and have also finally fully embraced God’s (amazing) grace. I read Let Hope In by Pete Wilson, and it really helped open my eyes to His love and restoration. Pete says nothing, NOTHING can bring us true happiness unless we first find happiness in God. Truth!

    • Jarrid Wilson Author November 21, 2013 at 12:39 PM

      Thanks Kristen, I appreciate it. Let Hope In is an incredible book. I absolutely love his stuff.

  • jamaencole November 21, 2013 at 10:21 AM

    Hit the nail on the head!

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